We all have them - people who we hate but are forced to deal with. I've got my own, and sometimes it just kills me to even crack a smile around them. In my case, total avoidance isn't possible. What do you all do to deal with people you hate?
space opera
Umm, do I post too much on here? I'm worried that I'm secretly annoying people...but maybe that's just my paranoia
Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
You mean like Bruce Willis? I'm not forced to deal with him personally, just that he's sometimes in movies that I can't come up with an excuse to not see. My husband won't take "I hate Bruce Willis" as a good reason, generally. Though he knows I just will not see anything with Robin Williams in it.
P.S. I also hate Ben Affleck.
[ May 12, 2004, 04:18 PM: Message edited by: pooka ]
Posted by Alexa (Member # 6285) on :
Die Hard and Six Sense are among my favorite movies.
Posted by sndrake (Member # 4941) on :
quote:Umm, do I post too much on here? I'm worried that I'm secretly annoying people...but maybe that's just my paranoia
Sheesh. A bunch of us were secretly talking about that behind your back.
Really, take along at how much some of us post at times. Nice thing here is that there's a pretty good tolerance level for all kinds here - even self-righteous, opinionated jerks like me. (please note skillful use of self-deprecating humor)
I dunno if I can relate to "hating" too many people - especially people I come into regular contact with. There are people, for one reason or another, I cannot stand to be around. I have never been good at doing much more at practicing avoidance whenever possible with those individuals.
Posted by Stan the man (Member # 6249) on :
I have no choice, but to deal with them in terms of respect. Because most of the people I ....hate....(I prefer very much dislike over hate) outrank me I have to show at least respect. So I show a minimal amount of respect which is enough to keep from getting in major trouble and smoke a cigarette when things get real bad. I've had to do that a lot in the past 2 weeks.
otherwise....Duct tape works, ummm e-mail bombing (use anonymous e-mail if do this). Get a friend who is a hacker and have em get into their computers and trash them. My friend Brian has done this a few times for his dad.
Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :
Now I know that I'm truly paranoid. I read the first line from sndrake, and thought, "Well, crap, everyone hates me."
I blew up at the person I hate last night. Maybe hate is too strong of a word, but I'm embarassed at my own lack of control when dealing with this person.
space opera
Posted by Ryuko (Member # 5125) on :
quote: P.S. I also hate Ben Affleck.
(renewed respect for pooka)
[ May 12, 2004, 04:25 PM: Message edited by: Ryuko ]
Posted by Coccinelle (Member # 5832) on :
quote: P.S. I also hate Ben Affleck.
me too! He's the only person who truly annoys me.
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
quote: quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- P.S. I also hate Ben Affleck.
Ditto! I despise him.
Posted by Anti-Chris (Member # 4452) on :
Motivational Speakers at work. I really, really, REALLY, can't stand an overly peppy woman trying to motivate me by telling me a story about her puppy, and her parrot, and relating it to work.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
Insurance companies, German and American.
Posted by sndrake (Member # 4941) on :
quote:He's the only person who truly annoys me.
Oops. If we're going to change from "hate" to "annoy" the length of my list changes.
It's very hard to inspire my hatred.
OTOH, in all honesty, it probably takes less than it should to annoy me.
I've got such a looooonnnnggg list...
Posted by punwit (Member # 6388) on :
I'm sorry but I find it really hard to work up hate for someone I don't even know. I tend to reserve hate for those that I am forced to associate with and can't avoid. Movie stars and what not generally only rate mild dislike.
Posted by Jenny Gardener (Member # 903) on :
Is there something wrong with me? I honestly can't think of anyone to hate. Except myself, on occasion. But I have never hated anyone, and I'm not sure how to go about it. Posted by punwit (Member # 6388) on :
No Jenny you aren't alone. I really can't think of anyone I truly abhor now but when I was in middle school there were a few folks that made my hate list. They've since redeemed themselves. I guess there is always hope.
Posted by Teshi (Member # 5024) on :
quote: I also hate Ben Affleck
To get over this, you may feel better if you call up "Ben A Fleck" (insignificance) or "Ben Afflected" (speaks for itself)
I do not constantly hate anyone, mostly because the people who I might have cause to intensely dislike I avoid. If I am caught in a situation in which I discover I hate someone at a particular moment, which is usually for either extreme weak-mindedness, stupidity or ignorence. Sometimes, when dignity and/or position require me to stay quiet, I address the problem later or leave the situation.
If I do not or can not leave and the problem is solvable, I will intervene in whatever way I can. Whenever I stand by and do nothing I find I am the person I hate. If someone is being stupid and I know them, I tell them subtely and alone.
I try and make sure that I know I am right when I respond.
Posted by slacker (Member # 2559) on :
quote: Get a friend who is a hacker and have em get into their computers and trash them. My friend Brian has done this a few times for his dad.
I think that if I caught someone rummaging around in my pc, I'd prolly do the same thing as if I caught that person in my car or in my house. Not a threat, just a promise.
Posted by Toretha (Member # 2233) on :
The RAs.
Posted by Stan the man (Member # 6249) on :
The people who's computers were ransacked had stolen my friend's father's business report and used it as their own. Needless to say his father was highly peeved that all the work he did was stolen.
Posted by Kasie H (Member # 2120) on :
The guy who sat next to me on my flight home today looked like a taller, thinner version of Ben Affleck...he played basketball at a D1 university...
*drools*
[ May 13, 2004, 12:26 AM: Message edited by: Kasie H ]
Posted by sarcasticmuppet (Member # 5035) on :
quote: quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- P.S. I also hate Ben Affleck.
(renewed respect for pooka) --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Ditto! I despise him.
Me too! Ben Affleck is horrible! I hate him!
Posted by Beca (Member # 4340) on :
I don't know that I hate anyone, but there are definitely people in my life whose very presence, from time to time, fills me with a sort of blind rage. If I'm being good, I will pretend they're someone else, or I'm someone else. If I'm not doing so well, I'll leave. If I'm being bad, I end up in a confrontation with them - never pretty.
If being around them is unavoidable, I take time out beforehand to put myself in the right frame of mind for dealing with them. So far, this has worked fairly well.
But I'm not heading for any love-fests with my grandfather or aunt's husband anytime soon.
Edit to add: Ben Affleck gets no love from me, either. He's not even attractive. Then again, he looks a little like my brother.
[ May 13, 2004, 09:53 AM: Message edited by: Beca ]
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
I have major problems with my step-mother, but I feel "hate" would be too strong, and it would be disrespectful to my father's memory to say I hate her.
But some of what she has done that makes us no longer wish to ever spend time with her: She is my dad's second wife (I am from his first marriage). Life was great, we were all happy visiting daddy at least weekly if not more (he had us two girls by his first marriage, two more daughters with my step-mother).
Then one day when I was 13 (very formative year) and my sister was 17, daddy came to us crying and said " *Jane* (not her real name) has said I have to quit seeing you (kids from his first marriage) and spend more time with her and our kids or she is going to leave me." Talk about driving a stake through the heart! He really had no choice -- he was trying to save his marriage. But we didn't get to spend much time with him from that point until I was about 18. I graduated from high school (he was there - we had begun to be able to spend time with him again) and then he was killed shortly thereafter.
After his death, we tried to maintain close relationships with our younger half-sisters because that is what he wanted and pleaded with us to always do. But "she" always tried to throw wrenches in it. "She" would put our half-sisters on guilt trips if we did anything together that didn't include her. (we never include MY mom in anything - sheesh!)
We discovered a few years back that we have yet another half-sister (from a relationship Daddy had between the two marriages, prior to marrying *Jane*) We welcomed our new-found sister with open arms, and it has been a joy having her included in the family. But step-mother won't allow new sister to come to any event that she is at (remember -- this child was conceived before he had ever met/married Jane). We always have to have two family get-togethers -- one with new sister, and one that includes step-mother. IT is just insane.
Yeah, it is very close to hate.
Farmgirl
Posted by Xaposert (Member # 1612) on :
quote:What do you all do to deal with people you hate?
Just don't hate them. It's really the only effective thing to do.
Posted by Synesthesia (Member # 4774) on :
I dislike this #$#$@ who was rude to a friend of mine... I also dislike several actors and politicians as they are skeezy.
Posted by mr_porteiro_head (Member # 4644) on :
I seem to rarely agree with Tres, but this is one of those times. You cannot control what others do, and they may often do things you don't like. But you *can* decide to not hate them for for it.
I believe that our eotions are as much under our control as our thoughts and actions.
Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :
Ahh, yes, I'm thoroughly shamed. I know my actions/emotions are under my control. I just can't friggin' stand this person! I'm ok if it's a short conversation, but anything that involves sorting out a conflict with this person is terrible. Maybe I will just try meditating every time before I see them.
On the good side, I've never hated Ben Affleck, so at least I'm not a total hate-monger.
space opera
Posted by Eruve Nandiriel (Member # 5677) on :
Why do all these people hate Ben Afleck? I used to love him until he started dating J-Lo. And Bruce Willis is awesome! Posted by Synesthesia (Member # 4774) on :
Bruce Willis is ok... He's lunky though. Sheryl Crow can't sing so good... Hugh Grant annoys me. So do the Sheens.. And Britney And Bill Pulman And Sharon Stone can't act... Bush aggravates me and fills me with rage.
But then there is lovely Johnny Depp and beautiful Brad and so many other dishy people...
Posted by kaioshin00 (Member # 3740) on :
I hate the "Can you hear me now...good" guy.
And everyone in the McDonalds commercials!
Posted by Synesthesia (Member # 4774) on :
I hate the people in the burger king ads the people in that damn dodge suv ad the people in the mcdonalds ads the people who make these commercials and people in most sitcoms.
Posted by MyrddinFyre (Member # 2576) on :
(((SpaceOpera)))
Posted by Telperion the Silver (Member # 6074) on :
the Dutch! Posted by mr_porteiro_head (Member # 4644) on :
I don't hate Ben Afflek, but I can truly say that I have never enjoyed him in any movie.
Posted by Book (Member # 5500) on :
I hate the people who star in and write the Eclipse gum commercials, the Old Navy commercials, and probably a lot of other things and people but for less distinct and rational reasons.
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
I hate the people who bump a thread solely to put it next to their dobie.
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