My sister is on her way to the hospital with her boyfriend and our mother. She almost lost the baby two weeks ago, and this morning she started bleeding again. She's cramping bad enough that she's crying and doubled over in pain. This isn't good, folks. Not good at all... Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
I'm sorry, Boon.
Posted by Phanto (Member # 5897) on :
Damn.
Good luck.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Prayers and best wishes to your sister -- and to you.
Posted by J T Stryker (Member # 6300) on :
(((Boon))) You and your kin are in my prayers
Posted by Ryuko (Member # 5125) on :
Oh no... Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :
There just aren't any words for this situation.
space opera
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
Praying for her and you all. (Boon)
Posted by DocCoyote (Member # 5612) on :
Boon, you and your family are in our prayers.
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Posted by Book (Member # 5500) on :
I offer my feeble support in your time of need.
Posted by Shigosei (Member # 3831) on :
Sorry to hear that. Your family will be in my prayers.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
No word yet. Been doing research on the internet to occupy myself. Not encouraging. I want to go down there, to hug her...but I can't. Hubby's not home and kids are sleeping...and they have school tomorrow.
I hope I don't have to tell them they won't be getting a new cousin after all. Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
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Posted by tt&t (Member # 5600) on :
(((((Boon and family)))))
Posted by Goody Scrivener (Member # 6742) on :
{{{{{{{{{{{Boon and family}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could do to help.
Goody
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
ER doc did some kind of test to get a "pregnancy number" which will tell them if she's already lost the baby or not. I assume this is an hcg test. It has to be redone in 24-48 hours so the numbers can be compared.
Mom said she's losing blood, clots, and "fatty tissue" that looks like the curds in tapioca pudding.
Also, the doc said that if her cervix was closed, the baby would still be in there. If it was wide open, miscarriage would be imminent. Her cervix is open, but not very much. He's not sure what that means.
Posted by Synesthesia (Member # 4774) on :
*hoping for you*
Posted by digging_holes (Member # 6237) on :
((( Boon & Boon's sister )))
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
(((Boon & family)))
Posted by Eduardo_Sauron (Member # 5827) on :
Hoping for you and your sister.
Posted by Sopwith (Member # 4640) on :
((( Boon and family)))
Hopes and prayers to you and yours.
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
Does anyone know how far along she is?
This is terrible. Posted by Zotto! (Member # 4689) on :
:-(
Your family will be in my prayers, Boon.
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
I'm so sorry. Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
*hugs and thoughts and prayers*
Posted by MyrddinFyre (Member # 2576) on :
(((boon and family)))
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Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Two weeks ago, this "pregnancy number" was 10,000. Last night it was 18,000. Doc says that puts her at 6-8 weeks pregnant, and she IS still pregnant. The cramping has stopped, the bleeding is tapering off, and she has an appointment for another blood test and an ultrasound tomorrow to make sure the fetus is still viable. Pray for her. As inadvisable as it may seem, she really wants this baby.
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
Good thoughts, vibes, and best wishes for a healthy baby.
Posted by Mrs.M (Member # 2943) on :
Boon, I've been in her position - she has my sincere prayers and good wishes.
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
Boon, I'm sorry I didn't see this thread sooner. I'll add my thoughts and prayers to the others. I hope you have been able to go be with your sister.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
I just saw this. *hugs for Boon and sister* I hope everything is okay.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Hcg dropped to 2600. She's cramping and bleeding, and on her way to the hospital. Misscarriage #3 is imminent. I'm going down there now.
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
(((Boon and family))) Posted by Tammy (Member # 4119) on :
Posted by digging_holes (Member # 6237) on :
((((((Boon & Sister))))))
Still praying...
Posted by romanylass (Member # 6306) on :
(((boon))) Prayers for your sister. Miscarriages are hard You say this is #3? I am wondering about either -the health of her cervix -the length of her luteal phase.
maybe not something she wants to think about NOW, but if she wants to research in the future.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Not going down there after all. She doesn't want to see Thomas, who I would *have* to bring with me. I want to see her, to hug her...but I don't want to cause her any more pain than what she's already going through.
I didn't even know about the previous miscarriages until she almost lost this one. The first two were caused by abuse from her ex-husband. The doctor thinks she may have scar tissue that's causing problems now. At any rate, there will be no niece or nephew in the near future.
I feel rather guilty. Here I am, with three healthy, beautiful children, never any threat or worry about losing them...and my sister may never be able to carry her own baby. I am indescribably sad for her. I know what she's missing.
My advice to her, should she ask for it, would be to use contraceptives until she can get thorough testing to see exactly what's causing this and if anything can be done to fix it.
Poor kid. She's got to be absolutely devastated.
Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
(((Boon and Sister))) I can kind of relate, my sister hasn't been able to conceive. We used to joke a lot about her adopting one of my kids but that has kind of fallen off ever since she really started trying.
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
So sorry for you and your sister. Your advice sounds very reasonable...if there is scar tissue there is probably something that can be done that will improve her chances.
You have nothing to feel guilty about, you didn't cause this. Your children are a blessing, and I know you are sad your sister cannot experience the same blessings you have, don't let that translate into guilt.
(((Boon and sister)))
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
She had a D&C to remove "leftover tissue". She's back at home now, and resting. Mom says she's holding up well...of course, Mom and I are bawling, hysterical wrecks.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
((((((((((Boon&Sis&Mom))))))))))
Even when there is no reason to suspect scarring, using contraceptives for at least a month or two after a miscarriage is a good idea. Otherwise -- at least, this is what my OB-GYN told me -- it's very common to have one miscarriage after another, and end up with permanent scarring.
Posted by tt&t (Member # 5600) on :
(((((Boon & family))))) Posted by Tammy (Member # 4119) on :
Boon, I'm so sorry.
Posted by Toretha (Member # 2233) on :
!
Posted by Eduardo_Sauron (Member # 5827) on :
Mom had two miscarriages. She says it's tough.
((((((Boon and Sister)))))
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
I am so sorry.
Kwea
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Posted by Shigosei (Member # 3831) on :
Oh, Boon, I'm so sorry for your sister and her family. How tragic. Posted by Beren One Hand (Member # 3403) on :
I'm really sorry to hear that. Posted by Lupus (Member # 6516) on :
I'm very sorry
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Posted by fiazko (Member # 5812) on :
My sister-in-law suffered a miscarriage and a still birth at five months. She went on to have three beautiful, healthy children. This is a rough time for all of you. My condolences for now and my hope for the future.
[ September 10, 2004, 03:54 AM: Message edited by: fiazko ]
Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :
My thoughts are with your sis, you, and your family.
space opera
Posted by AmkaProblemka (Member # 6495) on :
They can be very, very hard. I hope her BF is being good backup for her. Take care of yourselves.
Posted by Jess N (Member # 6744) on :
Our prayers are with you, your family and your sister. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Posted by ghost of xnera (Member # 3920) on :
(((Boon, sister & family)))
My younger sister had a miscarriage two years ago. I was so upset that I had to leave work really early the next day, so I could go home and mourn. I am so sorry for your loss, and hope that your sister has the same happy ending mine did (my beautiful neice turns one this month).
Posted by Vána (Member # 6593) on :
I'm so sorry. Posted by Goody Scrivener (Member # 6742) on :
I'm sorry Boon. Warm fuzzy gentle hugs headed to you and your family.
Goody
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
I'm very, very concerned about her. I talked to her a little while ago, and she seemed fine. Then, about twenty minutes into our conversation (about something totally unrelated) she started sobbing. She said that was the first time she'd cried because she didn't feel like she could with our mom and her boyfriend.
I suggested that she call our doctor (yes, I referred her to my new awesome doctor when she first told me she was pregnant) and that I'd go with her. I think she needs to talk to a grief counsellor (sp?) or therapist or something. I help all I can, but I feel out of my depth on this one. I can't even imagine how she must be feeling right now.
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
I suspect she's still in shock and feels both a guilty for the grief she thinks she caused her mom and boyfriend as well as her own feelings of loss, culpability and responsibility. Never mind the idea she's less of a woman because she can't conceive.
I highly recommend she talk to someone because the emotional issues are so complex and convulted in a case like this, she's more likely to lose her way and not find her way to better peace of mind.
-Trevor
Posted by Telperion the Silver (Member # 6074) on :
*hugs*
Posted by signal (Member # 6828) on :
I'm so sorry to hear this. Your family will be in my prayers. Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
I'm so sorry! (((Boon and family)))
I remember when my sister lost her 18 week old baby--had to go to the hospital to give birth. Couldn't keep the body because it was a few weeks short of being considered a "stillbirth".
The pain, the emptiness.... I would never wish that on anyone.
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