Hatrack River Forum: Went to court today.

This is topic Went to court today. in forum Books, Films, Food and Culture at Hatrack River Forum.

To visit this topic, use this URL:
http://www.hatrack.com/ubb/main/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=2;t=030554

Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :

Please keep us in your thoughts tomorrow. Court is at 10am CST. Thanks.

Edit: changed title.

[ January 07, 2005, 04:01 PM: Message edited by: Boon ]

Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :

*good thoughts*

Posted by Trisha the Severe Hottie (Member # 6000) on :

I am out of the loop on this one. What's up?

Posted by Shigosei (Member # 3831) on :

Good luck!

Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :

Good Luck Boon! Any chance this could end the situation or is it just a prelim?

Posted by dread pirate romany (Member # 6869) on :

Best of luck, Boon.

Posted by Kayla (Member # 2403) on :

::fingers crossed::

(I just learned how to speel.)

[ January 06, 2005, 06:58 PM: Message edited by: Kayla ]

Posted by Lost Ashes (Member # 6745) on :

Prayers to you.

Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :

Good luck Boon.

Trisha, you've got me--I have no idea. All the same, I hope it goes well for her.

Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :

This could be the next-to-last court appearance ever, for this anyway. [Big Grin]

My ex has filed the papers to legally terminate his parental rights to my son, Daniel. Tomorrow's the hearing.

If everything goes well with that, my husband and I will be filing for a step-parent adoption in February.

Posted by Trisha the Severe Hottie (Member # 6000) on :

It came back to me just now, reading the context of other's comments.

Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :

[Smile]

Posted by Elizabeth (Member # 5218) on :

Good luck, Boon.

Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :

Best of luck, Boon!

Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :

Good luck Boon, this is really for the best for all concerned.

Kwea

Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :

I hope all goes well.

Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :

Done deal! [Big Grin]

Thanks for caring. That is all.

Posted by Narnia (Member # 1071) on :

w00t!!! That's great!!!

Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :

Yay!
Is Daniel already going by your present husband's last name, or does he have to change it, or just how does that work?

Farmgirl

Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :

Awesome. [Smile]

Posted by dread pirate romany (Member # 6869) on :

So is it all over? Great [Smile]

Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :

Daniel was given my maiden name at birth. When he learned his full name, we taught him to use my husband's last name also, so that in school we'd all have the last name.

We'll file the step-parent adoption in February so that my husband will be his one and only legal father. At that point, the only thing that will really change is that Dan's legal name will change from Daniel Homer Williams to Daniel Homer Williams Burton, which is what he's been using anyway.

Posted by Christy (Member # 4397) on :

Yaay!

Posted by Trisha the Severe Hottie (Member # 6000) on :

[Smile]

Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :

On a side note, he refused to even look at us the whole time. We had to wait outside the judge's chambers for a while, and the whole time he stared at the floor.

When we left, he was standing outside talking to his attorney. We walked past him, and he deliberately kept his back turned to us, even shifting around as we walked past.

We were almost to the truck when I stopped. I asked my husband to come with me. I walked right up behind him. His attorney jerked his head at me, alerting the ex that someone was behind him. He turned around.

I held out my hand and said, "Thank you for doing what's best for Daniel."

He shook my hand and said, "It wasn't an easy decision."

(I don't believe that for a second, but whatever.)

"I'm sure it wasn't. Good luck to you. Goodbye."

And we walked away.

I feel like the proverbial sword over my head is gone. Never again do I have to worry about him.

[Party]

Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :

That's just great, Boon. I'm so glad you got through this. Bravo.

Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :

[Party]

Posted by Lost Ashes (Member # 6745) on :

[The Wave]

Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :

[The Wave]

Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :

Great news Boon! Congratulations!

Posted by peterh (Member # 5208) on :

Hooray for Daniel!!!!

Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :

Boon, I admire the classy way you handled confronting your ex at the courthouse. Good on you.

space opera

Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :

[Blushing]

Mainly, I wanted him to understand that I was no longer afraid of him.

So, since I had an ulterior motive, I'm not entirely sure it was "classy".

I'd actually forgotten what his eyes looked like. I remembered the long pretty lashes that my son got from him, so I assumed that Dan got his eyes. Not so. He has my eyes with the ex's lashes. Lucky kid!

Posted by ctm (Member # 6525) on :

Don't sell yourself short, Boon! Ulterior motive or not, it was well done. You said what you needed and didn't get confrontational or bring up the past (like I would have done!) You are a great role model.

Posted by Vána (Member # 6593) on :

Boon, that is wonderful! I'm so happy for you and your family. [Smile]

Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :

Wow. Congratulations. [Smile]

Posted by Elizabeth (Member # 5218) on :

You must be so relieved, Boon. Be sure your children's school knows that he has no custody.

Posted by adam613 (Member # 5522) on :

[The Wave]

Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :

[Smile]

Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :

I agree about telling the school, even if you think it is unneccessary.

Congrats again!