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Elmer's Glue
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I would be appreciative of anyone willing to do a quick survey for me. I need to interview college students for an essay about "Differences in Men's and Women's talk."

I just need a few male and female college students to answers these questions:

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1. Do you think differences between the way men and women speak is caused more by biology or cultural training?
2. Do you think misunderstandings between men and women are more likely to be caused by misinterpreted messages ("reading things in") or by ignoring the importance of how things are said?
3. Would you agree with the statement that “women often feel hurt when their partners use ‘I’ or ‘me’ in a situation in which they would use ‘we’ or ‘us’?”
4. Do you believe men or women are better at remembering scientific explanations? Do you believe men or women are better at remembering stories about people and events?
5. Do you think either gender is more likely to explain tone of voice and exact wording rather than give a brief summary when discussing a previous conversation? If so, why?
6. From your experience, do girls tend to play in small groups and boys in larger groups? Why?


Tell me your gender and name too...

[ November 30, 2008, 12:22 AM: Message edited by: Elmer's Glue ]

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rivka
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Wow, talk about leading questions! Other than the first, each telegraphs the "right" answer. [Razz]
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Elmer's Glue
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The essay is about an article we read. It's the authors fault, honest.
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rivka
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Who chose the wording of the questions? For example, why isn't question #4 "Do you believe men or women are better at remembering scientific explanations? Do you believe men or women are better at remembering stories about people and events?"?
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Yeah, I could re-write all those questions to be more neutral-- and I think you should.
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Neutral enough yet?
The article was pretty biased. The questions are all relating to things said in the article so it is a bit hard to have neutral questions.

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I think 2. and 5. should be edited to read more like 6., but it should be "If so, why?"
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The implications of the questions are almost insulting, aren't they?

"5. When telling someone about a previous conversation, why do you think women are more likely to explain tone of voice and exact wording while men are likely to only give a brief summary?"

I disagree with the premise. Women in my experience are NOT more likely to explain tone of voice and exact wording.

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quote:
Originally posted by Tatiana:
The implications of the questions are almost insulting, aren't they?

I would not be insulted by the answers, would you?

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Originally posted by Tatiana:

"5. When telling someone about a previous conversation, why do you think women are more likely to explain tone of voice and exact wording while men are likely to only give a brief summary?"

I disagree with the premise. Women in my experience are NOT more likely to explain tone of voice and exact wording.

It looks to me that the questions are to broad for their own good, and have to many assumptions.

5 should read more like:
Do you think women are more likely to explain tone of voice and exact wording? Explain why
do you think men are likely to only give a brief summary? Explain why

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Elmer's Glue
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I don't see how it would insult anyone. It's not as if I said either way was better, and the article presented it like a fact.
But whatever, it's gone now.

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#5 is well-rephrased. 3 & 6 would be well-served by a similar rephrasing.
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Want us to answer on here? or elsewhere?
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Elmer's Glue
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On here or email. Whichever.
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quote:
Women & Men have crossed the ocean
They now begin to pour
Out from the boat and up the shore
Two by two they enter the jungle
And soon they number more
Three by three as well as four by four

Sorry. Had to do that.
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1. Do you think differences between the way men and women speak is caused more by biology or cultural training?

Cultural Training

2. Do you think misunderstandings between men and women are more likely to be caused by misinterpreted messages ("reading things in") or by ignoring the importance of how things are said?

Both. Neither more likely than the other.

3. Would you agree with the statement that “women often feel hurt when their partners use ‘I’ or ‘me’ in a situation in which they would use ‘we’ or ‘us’?”

No. I would say “women AND men sometimes feel hurt when their partners use ‘I’ or ‘me’ in a situation in which they would use ‘we’ or ‘us’?”.

4. Do you believe men or women are better at remembering scientific explanations? Do you believe men or women are better at remembering stories about people and events?

I think both are equal with remembering the things in both questions. Neither sex is better at remembering different things than the other.

5. Do you think either gender is more likely to explain tone of voice and exact wording rather than give a brief summary when discussing a previous conversation? If so, why?

No.

6. From your experience, do girls tend to play in small groups and boys in larger groups? Why?

No. From my experience what sex you are does not have any bearing on the size of the group you play in.

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1. Do you think differences between the way men and women speak is caused more by biology or cultural training?

Cultural Training. I'm sure if I dug I could find some linguistics articles to back that up.

2. Do you think misunderstandings between men and women are more likely to be caused by misinterpreted messages ("reading things in") or by ignoring the importance of how things are said?

Both. Neither more likely than the other.

3. Would you agree with the statement that “women often feel hurt when their partners use ‘I’ or ‘me’ in a situation in which they would use ‘we’ or ‘us’?”

No. I would say “women AND men sometimes feel hurt when their partners use ‘I’ or ‘me’ in a situation in which they would use ‘we’ or ‘us’?”. By now you've noticed I'm copying Stacey. I still agree with her. I don't think this is a gender-dependent situation.

4. Do you believe men or women are better at remembering scientific explanations? Do you believe men or women are better at remembering stories about people and events?

I think both are equal with remembering the things in both questions. Neither sex is better at remembering different things than the other.

5. Do you think either gender is more likely to explain tone of voice and exact wording rather than give a brief summary when discussing a previous conversation? If so, why?

No. Why? Because I find far more variation within the genders than I do between them.

6. From your experience, do girls tend to play in small groups and boys in larger groups? Why?

No. From my experience what sex you are does not have any bearing on the size of the group you play in. (My perspective on this may be influenced by the fact that when I was young, my class was too small to have a "large" group of any gender, but I haven't noticed it when in schools observing as an adult, either.)

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quote:
Do you believe men or women are better at remembering scientific explanations? Do you believe men or women are better at remembering stories about people and events?


I think it's more to do with where the individual's interest lies, rather than their actual mental capacity for remembering each. That is, they are equal, except a bias one way or the other might emerge simply because there is an interest. If you interviewed all engineers and scientists, you'd get a different result from interviewing secretaries and politicians, because there is a diversion of interests.

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6. From your experience, do girls tend to play in small groups and boys in larger groups? Why?


No. I volunteer at a school (gr. 4/5) and I see no evidence that the boys form smaller groups than the girls. Nor did I notice any particular difference growing up or in university.

This said, I do think that boys and girls see the world differently, I just think these questions (and I realise they are emanating from an article) are the wrong questions. You can't lump girls and boys in such broad sweeping ways. What girls and boys play in large and small groups might be more enlightening than what size group they play in, for example. But then you'd have to eliminate the biasing influence of the listener and secretly plant microphones on a couple hundred kids.

As for how girls and boys speak, if you've ever played a game where you guess what gender people are from how they write internet posts (assuming it's a reasonable projection of something how they speak) you will discover that it is a lot harder than you would think. People here are regularly confused for people of the other gender.

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1. Do you think differences between the way men and women speak is caused more by biology or cultural training?

Cultural Training

2. Do you think misunderstandings between men and women are more likely to be caused by misinterpreted messages ("reading things in") or by ignoring the importance of how things are said?

Misinterpreted Messages. People spend so much time trying to come up with their next sentence that they don't even pay attention beyond the first couple words of a response.

3. Would you agree with the statement that “women often feel hurt when their partners use ‘I’ or ‘me’ in a situation in which they would use ‘we’ or ‘us’?”

Women are the ones who will openly be upset about it, but in my opinion, guys can and usually are just as sensitive.

4. Do you believe men or women are better at remembering scientific explanations? Do you believe men or women are better at remembering stories about people and events?

I haven't experienced any correlation either way on this one.

5. Do you think either gender is more likely to explain tone of voice and exact wording rather than give a brief summary when discussing a previous conversation? If so, why?

Girls definitely will explain the tone and wording moreso than boys will. This isn't a hard and fast rule though.

6. From your experience, do girls tend to play in small groups and boys in larger groups? Why?

I've never really noticed this. I have noticed for the most part that guys don't really like being close to other guys. They will have their "best friend" but they don't really know them. Girls on the other hand, I think, spend more time getting in touch with their friends feelings.


Kellen - Male.

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Let me guess - you're taking discourse analysis and the professor has you reading Tannen? Or maybe Janet Holmes? Or Deborah Cameron?

It just has to be one of those three.

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1. Do you think differences between the way men and women speak is caused more by biology or cultural training?

Cultural Training

2. Do you think misunderstandings between men and women are more likely to be caused by misinterpreted messages ("reading things in") or by ignoring the importance of how things are said?

Misinterpreted

3. Would you agree with the statement that “women often feel hurt when their partners use ‘I’ or ‘me’ in a situation in which they would use ‘we’ or ‘us’?”

You never know...

4. Do you believe men or women are better at remembering scientific explanations? Do you believe men or women are better at remembering stories about people and events?

Women, but maybe this is because I have a horrible memory...

5. Do you think either gender is more likely to explain tone of voice and exact wording rather than give a brief summary when discussing a previous conversation? If so, why?

No

6. From your experience, do girls tend to play in small groups and boys in larger groups? Why?

Guys hang with their small group of friends and girls make huge elaborate groups...

The T

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I'm not in college but if you need any high-school point of views i can take the survey also. I already know i don't agree with whats been said.
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