It was cold and raining.
Me and my friend, we held each other for about an hour or two. It felt awesome, like I had been truly happy for the first time in months. Just being with her did that to me.
You know, its the subtle touches, the tighter holds, the caresses...
Well, sounds like I'm in a pretty romantic mood, eh?
yes, physical touch is so underrated. Hugs are as important as food and sleep.
Now stop making me experience discomfort. *scowl*
I sure can't.
That aside, I've never been much of a huggy or cuddly person. I only hug people when I see that they need it, never does anything for me...
...and what's up w/ all of the romance threads popping up around here lately?
Hobbes
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Think "suppress."
Ah, denial... I know you well...
You might notice around March and April people's toes thaw out and they decide that they can do without their current hugmate.
However, my case is just a little different. I don't think the "thawing out" in March and April thing will happen to me.
Someone's embrace is always so unique..especially when it's someone you like. When my bf puts his hand over my shoulder and then he has to go away..you just miss it..It's that special..
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Oups! How old were you again?
...but for now, I think I'll be content to feel good when girls hit on me, and continue to exit stage left before they can try to give me phone numbers.
I'm just not interested in the committment thing right now, and as such I've sworn women off until I can sort out just what it is I actually want.
A flaw on my part.
And a girl just gave me a fat lip.
I'm having a good day.
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So that's what all the guys are thinking when they stare.
Well, here's Homecoming part 2.
Things that I learned:
1) It doesn't matter how tight a girl is with your semi-girlfriend, she can still be all over you (snort)
1b) You are able to resist that girl
2) You can spend a lot of the dance bored, and have one good, last slowdance make it one of the best nights of your life
3) You can have jealousy melt away and everything other horrible emotion during that last slowdance
4) You can get STDs by dancing
5) You can dance to hip-hop and house music when you listen to punk and emo (heard A-ha's Take On Me remix...laughing while dancing)
6) And that school dances give you the amzing need to go to church the next day
All in all, it was a great night.
Ah, Guavaween. The joy of being surrounded by drunk, shirtless, muscular men and pretty goth boys. Mrowrl.
-pH
Anger was there, but I tried to subside it for the girls sake. Afterall, why should I be mad at her or around her. She didn't do anything.
Life is nice.
ae
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4) You can get STDs by dancing
Dude, whatever dance it is that yer doing, yer doing it right.
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You can dance to hip-hop and house music when you listen to punk and emo
Of course you can! I'll bust a move on the dance floor as easily as the next guy, especially if they're playing house... even though rock 'n roll is my bread and butter.
Good thing you learned this lesson in high school; I didn't learn it till I was going into third year university.
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That's why you find girls who are equally avoidant of commitment.
See, that opens up a whole other can of worms. I did the super-casual one-time thing once, and learned that that isn't really for me either, because the intimacy just isn't there. When I was cuddling/making out/whatevering with the last (and first) girl I fell head over heels for, every little touch and caress was... *shivers* mmmmm. Sensual.
Can't get that from casual things.
What I figure I'll do is become a 2-3 date cutoff kinda guy so as to avoid falling for anyone. That way I can still meet women and learn about them and what makes them tick without the bad mojo of the one-time casual thing and without shooting myself in the foot by falling for someone.
Foolproof, right?
*gets in line*
ditto on the intimacy thing. i don't like the casual makeout. i am an intense person, i need intense, and if it isn't intense chances are i will do everything in my power to make it so. unfortunately this means falling for someone i wouldn't have ever fallen for in my right mind, and also not really enjoying anything i'm doing if i haven't fallen.
my ex boyfriend (still good friend) and i were discussing group sex the other day (i am sooooooo sorry to derail this way, but i realy am going to make a point) and i was saying that i really just didn't think i could be into it because sex and other serious displays of physical affection are just so emotional for me. i have to be emotionally tied to really get into it, i WANT to be emotional, and it MAKES me emotional. and i am selfish in that area. i want to focus all on one person and have them focus on just me. i would rather have really really intense sex with one person than drunken wild sex with four other people.
so i guess i am kinda where twinky's at, sort of avoiding the serious, but things get dramatic no matter what i try. and i have had a hard time even feeling like dating because aforementioned ex boyfriend and i still have strings connecting us in the chest area; a little to the left.
and perhaps a litle lower, too. heh.
*sigh*
Agreed.
...as to the ties with the ex, I still have them as well, but I figure that I wouldn't be doing myself any favours by sitting around and pining or missing her. I may not be over her, but I do know that there are plenty of good matches out there for me whenever I'm ready to let someone else in.
Nothing gets you over the ex one like the next one
(...nothing gets you over someone like getting under someone else )
Or something. I dunno.
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Holding hands is nice all by itself.
Of course, that's if you have someone to hold hands with...::sigh::
Yeah, somehow holding your own hand just doesn't work. Too bad, we've got two of them.
I dunno, I've been able to find enough meaningful contact through casual making out and such. But they're usually more than one-time things with me. Like, a friend (or two..or three..) who lives far away that I can't see all the time...or someone else who wants closeness but is too squicked by relationships...usually due to experiences similar to mine...but who doesn't want to lose that sort of tactile connection that can be so reassuring.
It doesn't work for a lot of people..but I've found that for many people I've met, if you openly discuss things like that it can work pretty well.
Besides, it helps me forget how much I miss other people.
-pH
The trouble is that since I'm moving every four months, I can't really keep coming back to the same person unless I meet someone at school. For example, if I meet someone this term, I'll probably never see them again after Christmas because I don't plan to come back to this town.
...that's precisely why, when I met a bright, cute, witty girl who is down in the "radical left-wing anarchist" (at least according to Geoff's political test ) camp with me a couple of weeks ago, I made a graceful exit before she could give me her number.
Evil on your end. Why not just _tell_ them you don't want anything serious?
-pH
-pH
Of course, I just like to hold hands. So, you know, don't mind me.
Hobbes
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I mean, even moreso than they are now.
They aren't lining up by any stretch of the term, but they are out there. But I do have an evil friend (he's trying to reform, but he has definitely left a blazing trail of destruction in his wake), and they're lining up to date him while he's at school, and on his current work term in Finland they're lining up to have sex with him (this despite the fact that he has a girlfriend and as such tells them all "no").
What I can't figure out is where to find the ones I'd really be interested in committing to. Fortunately, I don't have to worry about it for another year or so...
Hobbes, of course they're lies. That's just what women say so they can feel good about themselves. Denial and all that.
I still say the casual stuff helps stave off the urge to jump right into a relationship.
So does Jay Gordon...and the desire to not settle for anything less than everything I want.
-pH
(I'm not telling which one it is )
-pH
Artful.
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I applaud this derailment.
Thank you.
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But non-serial casual is okay, too. And can also help.
See, I tried that. There was weirdness. I don't regret it, but I don't think it's for me.
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I like to just hold hands.
..yeah me too but then your hands get sweaty..lol..
I've been too observant, lately. I've a theory that the weirder a boy is the sweeter they are in romance. The more of a jock/prep they are the more they are dating for popularity and things 'after' that. Those 'inexperienced' are so much fun to date as compared to those that 'know the secrets'. By now, I'm used to being a 'first' to some..lol..
Twinky, I'd know alot of ppl who'd love to meet you.
I also know people who abuse the word 'relationships' and 'love'...Too many people actually..
I did a lot of playing, and I do mean a lot of playing, before I settled down. I did extra playing for those who went into relationships early.
I've no regrets about any of the playing, but it pales in time and I find myself wanting more. As I'm not one to settle, it gets a little tougher. No big deal, but she has to be something special if she wants me to kiss her or even desire to hold her hand.
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I've no regrets about any of the playing
WTH??..
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No big deal, but she has to be something special if she wants me to kiss her or even desire to hold her hand
..mhmmm..yea..so you have to be 'turned on' just to show her affection?
It took me a lot of soul-searching to sort out lust, infatuation, and love. But it was definitely worth it.
Thanks, Maeth. Unfortunately, I don't know any of them.
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Why should Cent have any regrets?
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Yeah, but the "weird" types also have more of a tendency to be the whiny, annoying puppy dogs always tagging along at your heels. Not to say I don't like 'em.... They're just more fragile.
-pH
*ssshhhhh don't tell him that though, he thinks he's the hot, lady killer, playa type*
edited to add that wierd & geeky can most definitely be cute and lovable...
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Of course, Mae. And she has to be special. If she's the right one, she'll turn me on just by entering the room.