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Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
I've often heard the truism that male authors can't write realistic female characters. Primarily, though, I've always heard it in academic periodicals. Most women I've known enjoy books by men as well as women, and although I've heard this comment in real life on occasion, I haven't heard it in real life as often as I've read it in literary criticism. I myself haven't tended to notice any difficulty on my part believing in male characters created by female writers, so I've had a hard time lending credence to the idea that men can't write women well.

I suppose it's possible that it only works in one direction...that women can write men but not vice-versa. This would fit in well with the "Men Are Scum" worldview. Women pay enough attention to men to be able to write male characters convincingly, but men are too chauvenistic self-centered to do the same. But this just doesn't seem logical to me, so I tend to conclude that the whole thing is hogwash--with specific exceptions, of course.

No female who has ever read my writing has ever commented that my female characters are unrealistic, even when I've specifically asked. The thing is—and I know this viewpoint is often discredited here and elsewhere—I don't truly believe men and women are all that different. The stereotypes about men and women are, but stereotypes don't fit me, and I try not to create characters who are stereotypes. I think if you make your characters real to you and understand their motivations, you will end up writing them realistically, be they female, male, or other. At least, their psychology and motivations will be realistic.

There is one area in which I don't feel capable of writing a female character realistically, though. If my POV character is female, I tend to keep the doors closed when she undresses. I don't attempt to describe what her period feels like, or what effect it's having on her, or if she gets aroused when something brushes up against her, or how sex feels to her. Write what you know, right? I don't see this as a significant problem; there is so much more to people than our sexual apparatuses. Frankly, I don't tend to go into detail of that sort with my male characters, unless it truly furthers the story (which it has, on occasion). One problem is, I believe, that even if I got it right, some women would be so indignant at my attempt to describe what I could not possibly have experienced, that I would be ripped into shreds for even making the attempt.

Which leads me to my reason for posting...

As I mentioned, I have rarely, if ever, been truly put off by something I read by a woman being an unrealistic depiction of masculinity. Until the other day. I was reading the short story "Jamie Says," by Louise Marley, from the August 2002 issue of Asimov's. (I tend to go out and buy a half-dozen sci-fi mags at once, and leave them sitting around our various bathrooms until I finally get around to reading them...in case you're wondering why I'm just reading a story published in July now.)

This story begins really well. It is set in a colony world in which all the women and girls have left, rather than put up with any more mistreatment by the men of the colony. The story centers around men (and boys, who were also left behind) trying to cope with the aftershocks of this. The main character is the last boy born before the women left. The story is engagingly written, with a likeable main character with a very real voice. The situation is enigmatic, but hints are thrown in that keep you piecing the puzzle together.

Everything is going smoothly, until this line:

quote:
The reverend let us go out and see the shuttle come in. The dads and the bigger boys, like Jamie, had the landing strip cleaned up and weeded and a new coat of tar spread on it. The shuttle is bigger than any plow or wagon, and it makes a noise that comes in through your ears and fills your head right to the brim. I wanted to cry from it, but my own dad was standing right beside me, not saying anything like always. I didn't want him to see me bawling, so I put my hands in my pockets and held on to my dingle, real tight. That always kept me from crying.

I was so distracted by that line that I put the magazine down and didn't finish the story for several more days. I did, however, make fun of that line out loud to Cor at various times over the next few days, whenever it seemed apropos.

[You hurt my feelings! I think I'll just...]

If that's not the sign of bad writing, I don't know what is.

Maybe I'm completely off here. I haven't gone around asking other guys, but to me that line was absurdly bad.

Now, who knows, maybe some guy told her that this was what he did. But the fact that something did happen once does not equal realism. Realism is believability, not factual basis. Every writer should know this. A perfect example is coincidence. Coincidences happen all the time, but, outside of comedy, they are usually considered a poor writing technique, a cop-out.

For the rest of the story, Marley makes it impossible to forget this distraction as she shoves the line in the reader's face over and over:

quote:
I snuck my doll out from under my bed and hugged it under the covers, then held my dingle real tight, but I still couldn't help crying.

and:

quote:
I didn't bawl any more. I went back to bed. I hid under the covers, holding my dingle real tight. I left my doll where it was. I didn't want to pretend with it anymore.

It's a shame, because it's very well-written and complex, otherwise.

Have you ever read something that jarred you to the point of shredding the illusion, as this did for me? Does it always jar you when men write women, or when women write men? Does it only raise your eyebrow when it crosses a certain line? Is that line the same as my "shut the door when she takes her clothes off" criterion, or is it somewhere else for you?
 


Posted by coil (Member # 4571) on :
 
*blink*
...
*blink blink*

Dude, that would HURT! Gah, kid got brain damage or something?

And who the foosball calls it a dingle, anyway? q:
 


Posted by Leto II (Member # 2659) on :
 
Anything by Kevin J Anderson.
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
Although I'm not male, and cannot attest to the tear-stoppage power of dingle pulling, that line would've garnered a double take from me

I've never honestly studied the phenomenon of men writing women, and vice versa -- although i was once told by a good girl friend of mine that "Memoirs of a Geisha," written by a man, but about a woman, was stunning in its accuracy. I read the book myself, and while i enjoyed it, the level of depth with which the author described female emotions et al did not strike me as being "amazing"...just normal.

I prefer it when authors treat all their characters, no matter what gender, equal (as our own OSC does)...Valentine and Petra seem as real to me as any woman, and Card doesn't go into unnecessary detail about *their* sexuality, etc.

A strange thing I've noticed about how I personally read a story is that I'm much more accepting of innacuracies and inconsistancies in writing than i am in theatre or film. Where I will sit and pick apart secondary characters on Buffy the Vampire Slayer , I will accept similar flaws in literary characters readily.

I don't know if i'm describing this well, or what exactly it means, but anyway, your question was "Have you ever read something that jarred you to the point of shredding the illusion, as this did for me?"
I may very well have. But i probably didn't note it at the time. Or figured I just wasn't understanding the author's motivations behind writing the jarring incident. Does that make any sense? I think i might just be talking nonsense...

[This message has been edited by Leonide (edited February 04, 2003).]
 


Posted by ladyday (Member # 1069) on :
 
Oh man, that line is going to pop into my head at really inappropriate moments.

::can't let that go without comment::

quote:
One problem is, I believe, that even if I got it right, some women would be so indignant at my attempt to describe what I could not possibly have experienced, that I would be ripped into shreds for even making the attempt.

I don't think you should let this intimidate you . I think a lot of writing situations are like this; for an example, OSC is working on a novel, Slow Leak, that takes place in an African American community. He's doing meticulous research and getting lots of advice, and I think he can pull it off.

Memoirs of a Geisha by Arthur S. Golden is a good example of a man writing very intimately about female sexuality. I don't think he nails it, but the story is good enough that I'm willing to overlook it. I believe he worked very hard on the details of the book and he wrote convincingly enough that I could believe that the details of sex were true enough for this character, even if things weren't at all like that for me personally.

How many women honestly think that sex feels the same for all women anyway?
 


Posted by ladyday (Member # 1069) on :
 
Ah...hello there Leo...

::curses her slow typing::
 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
ha! i'm just amused that we mentioned the same story!
 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
Leo, that makes sense.

Ladyday, while the intimidation factor is present, that's not what's stopping me. I've simply never needed to go there in any of my stories. I suppose the fact that I'm (slightly) more willing to explore sexual specifics with my male characters than with my female characters points to a necessarily less realistic development of my female characters, but since I don't believe people's personalities revolve exclusively around sex (at least, not those of people worth knowing ), I don't see this as a big problem. Am I making sense, or am I starting to ramble?


 


Posted by Khavanon (Member # 929) on :
 
I remember when I was young and inexperienced in the ways of females, I would write them in the way I wanted them to be, not the way I needed them to be. Now that I am barely slightly more empowered with knowledge, I can be more realistic.
 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
Leto, do Anderson's novels distract you in their portrayal of women, or is this just your general dislike for the hack?
 
Posted by Vampyr1818 (Member # 4592) on :
 
i cant really when I was younger, so I have to say now i agree, if i write about a girl liking someone or something, I write them how I wish they saw it. best I can do unless someone here wants to enlighten me...
 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
I'm more creeped out...

"dingle pulling"

*snort*
 


Posted by David Bowles (Member # 1021) on :
 
I think it's perfectly possible for a man to write from a woman's POV, but only if he's willing to go places inside of him that he probably hasn't before, or at least place where he hasn't dwelt for very long periods of time. It's a little unnerving, but authors who are dedicated to their craft are more accustomed to to going places within themselves that are scary or off-putting.
 
Posted by Leto II (Member # 2659) on :
 
Both, Icarus, but I really didn't like his protrayals of Leia and Mara Jade in the SW novels, and the "women" in the Dune books are horible caricatures.

But yes, he's a hack.
 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
I'm not sure how you mean that, David. I don't find it at all scary or off-putting to write from a female perspective, in general. Then again, I don't think of it as writing specifically from a female or male perspective, but writing from a human perspective. Do you specifically mean talking about sex from a female perspective?
 
Posted by ladyday (Member # 1069) on :
 
::raises eyebrow:: Are you implying that I'm rambling?

You make perfect sense, Icarus.
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
Then again, somebody on Hatrack recently showed me that I was actually a lesbian trapped in a male body, so who knows...

[This message has been edited by Icarus (edited February 04, 2003).]
 


Posted by David Bowles (Member # 1021) on :
 
No, Icarus. I agree mostly with your point that the natures of women and men overlap so much that for most purposes you can simply write about a human and put whatever sex you want on it. However, there are things about women, the way they feel about their bodies, their children, and the men (er, for the most part) that they love, that on the whole are significantly different from the way men feel. Getting to this more feminine perspective is not impossible, but it does require significant empathy, especially if your protagonist is a female.

Of course, maybe I'm doing it wrong and no woman has told me yet!!!! Yikes!!!!

Heh.
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
Not at all. I was only referring to Leo's concern that she might have been.
 
Posted by Pod (Member # 941) on :
 
I find that so incredibly surreal.

Lois McMasters Bujold actually doesn't sit right with me.

Her Vorkosigan series is cool, its interesting and fairly engaging, but i just really can't care about what happens in the series. The main character who's a guy just doesn't seem right... ::shrugs::
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
I don't exactly mean trivializing the gender. It's more like my significant characters are individuals, and really fleshed out, and how they feel about their bodies, their loves, their children, etc. comes from who they are as individuals, rather than some generalization about how women see things as opposed to how men do. It's not simply slapping a female body onto an androgynous soul, though.

And I don't quite agree with your point about gender differences, but we've hit this point before, and that's really a whole 'nother thread. It may be that I'm just not "typical" enough (or manly enough ) to see it that way.

[This message has been edited by Icarus (edited February 04, 2003).]
 


Posted by Cor (Member # 4295) on :
 
Leto, I love Mara Jade as a character....hmm....what does that say?
 
Posted by knightswhosayni! (Member # 4096) on :
 
::whacks david:: Don't be silly.

I actually have a hard time writing from a woman's perspective. That may be because I'm annoyed by a lot of the petty squabbling and cat fighting that a lot of women do, and haven't come up with a character who is above all that without being me. My inexperience as a writer I suppose.

Ni!
 


Posted by ladyday (Member # 1069) on :
 
::laughs:: Yeah, OSC has an uncanny knack for "catty."

I can't wait for Rachel and Leah just for the fights .

And the jury is still out on David's comments, though I have to say that his writing kind of speaks for itself in this regard. I found all of David's female characters well written and nicely fleshed out.
 


Posted by Cor (Member # 4295) on :
 
"fleshed out"

lol

 


Posted by Leto II (Member # 2659) on :
 
¿Dónde está usted, hermano? Usted no es encendido AIM.
 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
Fleshed out? Does he draw pictures?!
 
Posted by ladyday (Member # 1069) on :
 
I'm having a friggin wonderful day. First I misspell putty, now this!
 
Posted by Jon Boy (Member # 4284) on :
 
Icarus, those are the most bizarre and jarring excerpts I've ever read. I suppose there might be some little boy in the world somewhere who does that to keep from crying, but it sounds like very strange behavior to me. It might not be so absurdly bad if the author had set you up to expect that from the kid, or if she had somehow explained his weird behavior.

Hmm. On second thought, I think it would still be absurdly bad. I don't know how a concept like that could be salvaged and worked into a story without distracting the readers to the point of ruining the story.

Ugh. I'm still trying to figure out why the author felt it was necessary to put that in even once, let alone multiple times, especially with virtually identical wording that includes the word "dingle."

To answer the original questions, I have read things that jarred me to the point of shredding the illusion. Fortunately, I don't remember specifics. I almost never have problems with men writing women or women writing men. That line was way out there.
 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
quote:
Not at all. I was only referring to Leo's concern that she might have been.

i guess i'm a big goober, but...that i might have been what?


 


Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
A dingle?!
 
Posted by Human (Member # 2985) on :
 
*snickers*

Pulling your 'dingle' would CAUSE tears, IMHO, not prevent them.
 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
You're really hung up on the fact that it's called a dingle, aren't ya mack?


 


Posted by Cor (Member # 4295) on :
 
I think everyone is caught up on the word "dingle". It will soon be the new "catch" word on hatrack.
 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
ACK!

Leo, I was referring to this:

quote:
I may very well have. But i probably didn't note it at the time. Or figured I just wasn't understanding the author's motivations behind writing the jarring incident. Does that make any sense? I think i might just be talking nonsense...

You were making sense. Ladyday was making sense. I was concerned that perhaps I was not.

'kay?


 


Posted by Pod (Member # 941) on :
 
can we please stop talking about hanging dingles?
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
ahhh...gotcha.

*starts looking for ways to work "dingle" into the Hatrack AIM chat...*
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
Not HANGING dingles, HOLDING dingles.

Why...is it making you uncomfortable?
 


Posted by Cor (Member # 4295) on :
 
How about dangling hinges?

Shingles?


 


Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
dingle dingle dingle

I like the sound of it.
 


Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
Yes. The word dingle makes me giggle.
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
*is frightened, because she was just about to post:

dingle dingle dingle

oops, sorry Pod!*

*shivers*

Belle's in my head!
 


Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
Get out of her head! She could be all freaked out and doesn't have a dingle to pull to make her feel better!
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
*laments her dingle that never was*



 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 

 
Posted by Dead_Horse (Member # 3027) on :
 
Poor Papa Moose.....

(Don't look, Ethel!)

 


Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 

Agggghhh!!!!!


 


Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
*falls over laughing*
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
Oh my god, i so did not mean that I want to be a man. sheesh people -- you blow everything out of proportion!!

Or are you all just pulling my dingle? I mean...um...leg...


 


Posted by Dead_Horse (Member # 3027) on :
 
Dingle Belle, Dingle Belle, Dingle all the way...Oh, what fun it is to....

Ok. yes, I should shut up now
 


Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
Oh.My.Eru.


 


Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
Of course, once you try to stem the tears, it's "Dingle Belle, Dingle Belle, Dingle Belle Rock..."
 
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
Great. Thanks y'all.

Now, dingle will be a new word in the hatrack lexicon and you've made sure that it will always be linked to MY name.

Wonderful.
 


Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
What are friends for, right? *flees*
 
Posted by Fernando Martinez (Member # 4463) on :
 
First off, to answer the question at hand, after 4 years in college getting an english degree I have run into dozens of experiences where authors shattered their own reality. Second, if you're looking for, in my opinion, believable female characters written by a male Robert Jordan's Wheel of Time Series is a good place to go. Third, no one should ever, and I mean ever grab their dingle and hold on real tight...it can cause lots of damage ...and one last thing...no author should ever use a word like dingle..i don't care what the context it shatters the reality all on its own.

[This message has been edited by Fernando Martinez (edited February 04, 2003).]
 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
Oh, you love it!

It gives you that fresh, dingling feeling!
 


Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
 
Break for the regularly scheduled parental speech (ha ha)

Children.

All body parts have appropriate names and just as we would call an eye and eye and a tooth a tooth, so should we call a penis a penis.

Besides - it's more alliterative -

pulling penises, a profound proposition full of poppycock . . .
 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
*channels a grade-schooler, laughs at "poppycock" in a dingle thread*


 


Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
I still prefer dingle.
 
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
quote:
fresh, dingling feeling

There's a mind picture for you.
 


Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
My fiance, after I relayed this thread to him, informed me, "Hun, I love you, but if you ever use that word at an inappropriate moment I promise you it will damage my sexual psyche forever."
 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
Oh, I just told Belle...

To the tune of the Dradel song...

Dingle dingle dingle
I hold you every day
Dingle dingle dingle
You hold my tears away

 


Posted by Fernando Martinez (Member # 4463) on :
 
Mack, you are getting mildly disturbing here.....
 
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
heh. Try being on AIM with her right now
 
Posted by Fernando Martinez (Member # 4463) on :
 
I am, and believe me....it gets worse
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
*loves the Dingle song*


 


Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
well, so you are on AIM.

Sorry - took me a minute to connect the username. I think all the dingle-talk must have warped my brain.
 


Posted by Fernando Martinez (Member # 4463) on :
 
's ok belle...it's got me kind of warped as well
 
Posted by Toretha (Member # 2233) on :
 
ROFL!! Yall are all such sick people! I love Hatcrack!
 
Posted by Human (Member # 2985) on :
 
Oh dear...there are so many things I'm never going to be able to think about without laughing from now on!
 
Posted by Fernando Martinez (Member # 4463) on :
 
And as this thread just continues to get dirtier and dirtier the number of posts hits 69...kind of amusing...or at least ironic to some degree
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
Oh, Icarus, have you ever had a thread that went THIS much off-topic?

[This message has been edited by Leonide (edited February 04, 2003).]
 


Posted by Jaiden (Member # 2099) on :
 
Mack!!!
Now I have "What a bright time, it's the right time, to rock the night away, Dingle Belle time, is a swell time..."

 
Posted by Fernando Martinez (Member # 4463) on :
 
Ah...warping of the mind through song...nothing like it...Good Job Mack!

[This message has been edited by Fernando Martinez (edited February 05, 2003).]
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
quote:
First off, to answer the question at hand, after 4 years in college getting an english degree I have run into dozens of experiences where authors shattered their own reality.

Hmm...in four years of college getting a literature degree plus two years of grad school getting a masters in lit, I've never seen anything quite this bad.

I did see lots of famous writers who didn't seem able to write either gender convincingly, but that's a different story...

quote:
Oh, Icarus, have you ever had a thread that went THIS much off-topic?

Nope. But then, I've never had a thread reach 2 pages in 2½ hours either. Just goes to show the power of fluff.

ROFLMAO about the dingle song!

Dingles: Once you pop, you can't stop!

 


Posted by coil (Member # 4571) on :
 
quote:
*laments her dingle that never was*
-Leo

dingle envy?
 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
maybe some.

not yours.


 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
dinglehopper
 
Posted by coil (Member # 4571) on :
 
Oof. In the interests of propriety and good taste, I concede the point. Well played.
 
Posted by Frisco (Member # 3765) on :
 
Ha! I just took a nap and missed this entire thread.

I'm not having much trouble writing from a woman's perspective at the moment. I'm working on a project from the female POV (it's called 101 Ways to Find a Great Guy in NYC), and I've only been called out once for writing too manly.

And not once have I suggested "sliding a couple fingers into your winkie in case of nervousness".


 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
LOL!


 


Posted by Bakadame (Member # 4434) on :
 
I heard the best way to write women is to take a man and remove all sensibility and common sense.

I am not anti feminist
I just like making people think
 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 

quote:
sliding a couple fingers into your winkie in case of nervousness".

for some reason this disturbs me more than any dingle talk

Frisco!! *waves fist threateningly*
 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
quote:
I heard the best way to write women is to take a man and remove all sensibility and common sense.

According to Melvin Udall in As Good As It Gets...

Receptionist: How do you write women so well?

Melvin: I think of a man, and then I take away reason, and accountability.
 


Posted by Jaiden (Member # 2099) on :
 
Hmmm..... http://www.dingle-insight.com/
 
Posted by esl (Member # 3143) on :
 
This thread had me laughing. I don't laugh very easily. I love the songs, if only we could record them.
 
Posted by asQmh (Member # 4590) on :
 
" . . . in the dingle-dangle mornin' I'll come followin' you . . "
 
Posted by esl (Member # 3143) on :
 
Sorry, what song is that?
 
Posted by asQmh (Member # 4590) on :
 
"Hey, Mr. Tambourine Man"

It's a classic.

Q.
 


Posted by esl (Member # 3143) on :
 
thanks
 
Posted by asQmh (Member # 4590) on :
 
No problem. It's a great song.

I'm 23 and know more about "oldies" than I do about whatever my age group's supposed to be listening to these days. . .

Q., an old lady in deceptively young skin.
 


Posted by esl (Member # 3143) on :
 
I might have heard it before. I like 'classic rock', meaning music from the sixties and seventies I guess. I'm eighteen. I'm pretty sure I got it from my parents though; they usually listen to that type of music.
 
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
 
Icarus, unless that story was chronicling one man's journey into the S&M scene, I can't think of a single good reason for the dingle comment(s). Did the author use these boyhood experiences as an explanation for ANYTHING????


 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
Bob, the entire story centered around a boy; those passages were not flashbacks. And I also can't think of why they were necessary. She could just as well have said, "I bit my lower lip to keep from crying," and readers of both genders could have identified.

Fernando, I agree that Jordan's female characters are one of his strengths, but I guess only a female could say if they were "realistic" or not. I say they're a strength because they are dynamic and interesting, and not walking stereotypes. And, unlike some other famous works, the Wheel of Time series at least has some significant female characters.
 


Posted by Pod (Member # 941) on :
 
::scours eyes out with hot poker after reading this thread::
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
The only thing i could think of was that possibly crying was not an accepted thing in this boy's world? In the stereotypical (notice i said STEREOTYPICAL) "man" world, i would imagine crying to be a no-no. The other thing I was thinking which would probably explain -- or at least shed some light on the dingle pulling, is that often times when someone's in pain they can ease it by transferring their attentions to something else. The dingle, in this case. Misdirection, is it called? Try to equate the boy "losing an arm" to "wanting to cry" and i think you'll see where i'm going with this.



 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
I see where you're going, and in fact, crying is completely unacceptable in the society in this story, but pulling my dingle would only make me more inclined to cry!

The fact that the grown men are all lousy fathers and abusive jerks is another point worth discussing, but I could stomach that more easily, particularly since the women are also indicted, by their failure to save their sons along with their daughters. According to the story, children of both genders stayed home with their mothers while the men worked; the mothers took all the girls but left the boys behind.

So I just saw this as an issue with this particular culturally homogenous group of colonists, and attempted to not read it as an indictment of males in general. If I wanted to, though, I could probably work up some indignation over it...
 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
quote:
but pulling my dingle would only make me more inclined to cry!

well, maybe he wasn't pulling it in that way...
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 

 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
OK, I hadn't thought about that. But it doesn't explain the other two quotes, so I ain't a-buying.
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
well, Icarus, I think you're discounting the obvious...he never says that this alleged dingle pulling *hurts* him. He only says he does it to keep from crying. In PUBLIC even. Can we say Junior Exhibitionist?


*three Dingle-licious pages*

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Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
 
Okay, so basically, this is a culture where in exchange for not being able to cry, they let you masturbate in public? Hmm...

I think this author might have a few unresolved issues, you know?

 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
I think probably guys *would* masturbate in public, if it wasn't for all the women walking around.


 


Posted by David Bowles (Member # 1021) on :
 
Icarus, it's probably easy for us 'not-so-macho' guys to write women... Tom Clancy types seem to have more difficulty.
 
Posted by Godric (Member # 4587) on :
 
::Walks into thread and wants to cry::

::Runs away holding dingle::
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
Not pulling. Squeezing. Squeezing tightly even!
 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
::nods::

That makes sense.
 


Posted by Olivet (Member # 1104) on :
 
I think the author's big mistake was using the word "dingle". It's too funny, all by itself. It's supposed to be a fairly dramatic scene.

Put another way... What if you had a female character in a tense situation... Lemme try this:

quote:
THe train lurched, and I knew something was wrong. A bit more force than usual for a stop. Then the world turned sideways all at once, flinging me against the metal wall hard enough to bruise my jahoobies.

See? If you are gonna use slang, try to find something that isn't going to make a reader spew cola out their nose.

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Posted by Vána (Member # 3262) on :
 
I hopped on Hatrack this morning and saw this thread.

I thought, "A three page thread that I haven't seen at all? When was it started? It must be an old one that's been bumped."

I checked. It was started yesterday. Last night, even.

So, I knew I had to read it. Only something very funny or very controversial could possibly generate three pages since last night.


Now, I have "Dingle Belle Rock" stuck in my head, and probably will all day. Thanks, guys!

I really do love Hatrack.
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
::takes notes::

winkie, and ah, jahoobies

Right, then.


 


Posted by enjeeo (Member # 2336) on :
 
quote:
"Memoirs of a Geisha," written by a man, but about a woman, was stunning in its accuracy.
Firstly interested to know how your friend knew that, given that even Japanese people tend to know almost nothing for sure about the lives of geisha, especially in history.

And secondly, though a man wrote the book, he is supposed to have written it after extensive interviews with the woman the main character was based on, who actually said later that it wasn't such a perfect portrayal of her.

(I did love the book though! )
 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
enjeeo, not in its portrayal of geisha, but in its portrayal of women. They are a mysterious breed, those geisha.
I knew he'd interviewed an actual geisha, and that later she said the book was innaccurate -- there is a book out there, entitled "Life of a Geisha" or something like that, which is her *true* story.
 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
You know, Olivia, I was thinking along the same lines. I mean, what if the gender roles were reversed in the situation and it as a young lady instead of a young man.

quote:
so I put my hands in my shirt and held on to my bazoombas, real tight. That always kept me from crying.

Yep. That'd make me cry MORE.
 


Posted by littlemissattitude (Member # 4514) on :
 
quote:
...it's probably easy for us 'not-so-macho' guys to write women...Tom Clancy types seem to have more difficulty.

I think there probably is something to this. I also think - and this is my personal opinion, based on absolutely no research - that women have less trouble writing male characters than some men have writing female characters due to our cultural bias against men "being in touch with" (I hate that phrase, but couldn't think of anything more appropriate) female attitudes. This suspicion may well come from the men I know and their general reluctance to know anything about the female experience, and so may be completely off-base. However, my experience is that women know much more about the things men do and think than men know about the things women do and think. Or, at least, women are more willing to admit knowledge across gender lines.
 


Posted by Olivet (Member # 1104) on :
 
I agree. There may also be something else at play when women write men. I mean, most of our literary tradition has been male-centered, or had male main characters, etc. Gradually, as women began writing (which I think comes on the heels of women being, you know, taught to read *grumbles*), it stands to reason that they tended to write some male pov, just because of the literary tradition they had been brought up with.

Just a thought. Again, no research or anything. Also, it may not be as true today as it once was, since so many more women write. Still, I'd be willing to bet that many modern female writers are at least a bit influenced by the work of some male writers.

I should confess that I generally do not go for the gyno-centric, contemplation-of-the-vagina types of stories that seem to do so well in the feminist lit-crit circles. I have an English Degree, but I still expect to be entertained. That makes me low-brow, I guess.

*scratches self and belches delicately*
 


Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
*hums dingle song*
 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
Those are interesting points...the former being a much more polite restating of this point of mine:

quote:
I suppose it's possible that it only works in one direction...that women can write men but not vice-versa. This would fit in well with the "Men Are Scum" worldview. Women pay enough attention to men to be able to write male characters convincingly, but men are too chauvenistic self-centered to do the same.

But you're qualifying it to say some men. I don't agree, though, that women as a whole are more likely to be open to the male experience than men are to the female experience. Certainly, there are degrees of variation on both sides, but I know plenty of women who think, for instance, that all sports are stupid, and can't understand why they are important to many men, who have no idea how a car works, except that it somehow involves gas, and so forth. I suspect that stereotype women make up about the same percentage of women as a whole that stereotype men do for men.

In addition, authors, whether male or female, tend to be the artistic among us. That type of person often, though certainly not always, has a greater comfort zone exploring different sides of his or her own personality than other people. Besides, being able to put yourself in other people's shoes is practically a requirement of being a writer.

So, how often have you two had experiences of reading a female character written by a male and saying, absolutely not? Is it most of the time, or a minority of the time?
 


Posted by littlemissattitude (Member # 4514) on :
 
Early women not only wrote from the male pov, but in some cases had to take male pen names in order to be published.

Personally, I don't think all that much about labels such as "high-brow" versus "low-brow". What matters to me is that what I am reading is interesting. There has to be a good story; I am much more forgving of a writer who tells a good story but isn't always grammatically perfect than I am of one who can produce several hundred pages of perfect grammar but doesn't have anything interesting or important to say. Certainly, at a certain point, if the writing is just awful, I'll give up and put the book or story down.
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
I'm not sure I see your point...
 
Posted by ^Saudade^ (Member # 175) on :
 
Hehehehe... this thread is just funny
 
Posted by littlemissattitude (Member # 4514) on :
 
Icarus: I have to say that I have had the "absolutely not!" experience when reading male authors fairly rarely. Maybe I subconsciously steer away from male authors who I think might not be able to handle female characters very well. Or, if I do read them, I accept the limitation because I like the stories they tell. One author who comes to mind who has given me that experience is Clive Cussler, in his Dirk Pitt adventure novels. Another writer who always struck me as having a bit of difficulty writing believable female characters was John D. MacDonald. And I wonder whether the problem was that they were not capable of writing believable female charcaters, or if they were aiming at more of a male audience and didn't think female characterization was a top priority. The reason I say that is that the other place I have seen this happen, going the other way (male characters that don't ring true) is in romance novels written by women. I would lay this down to the same dynamic; the writers are aiming at a female audience and see male characterization as secondary.
 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
::nods::

That makes sense.

Of course, I'm not sure that the characters in those novels who are of the author's same gender are that realistic either. I've read all the Dirk Pitt books, because I got addicted to them as a kid and I'm obsessive about finishing anything I start reading. And I'd have to say that none of the male characters there quite rings true. Doesn't mean the books are not fun in their silly little Saturday Matinee way, but there it is.

So let me ask you a follow-up question. When you read a romance novel aimed at women, with admittedly poor characterization of men, are the women believable? I've never read in that genre, so I really don't know. Do they at least get women right? I don't mean the little details now. One would assume a female author would know what certain, *things* would feel like; but in terms of motivation and psychology, are they real?
 


Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
 
I recently wrote an article about mothers quitting their day jobs and starting home businesses. It turned out really well--all the women who read it loved it, including my wife, the three female writers I work with, the whole marketing department, and the president of the company and her favorite vice president. Yay!

Then the president of the company found out that a man wrote the article. I didn't know about this until I saw the final proofs for the magazine. Supposedly because of this, she had gone in and rewritten the whole thing, along with her hench-woman the vice president. And it was the most unreadable self-righteous pile of crap I've ever seen. I'd conducted interviews with actual woman who were working from home, and what they said was the backbone of my article. I loaded the article with their good quotes. Gone were the quotes, and in their place was slapped a bunch of super-pc nonsense.

And now we're working on marketing products specifically made for men, and this same president is slashing anything that sounds remotely like "guy" language. And yelling at us for missing the point of the product line. This is a traditionally female-oriented product company, and I guess they really don't want to talk to men. Grrr.
 


Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
See, I think that's what most authors struggle to convey--reality.

I know from experience that "realness" of writing gets better each time...either that or I'm getting older. With my first book, I wrote from a male's POV and couldn't figure out if I had it right. The guys who've read it say I got it okay. My second book was from a male child's POV, so that was much easier... I guess because sexuality isn't developed in a ten-year-old (at least the one I was writing about). The novel I'm working on now involves a large family and it's tougher and more exciting than the first two, I suppose because of the complexity of relationships, how people differ when relating to different people, and how the family I'm writing about is very different from the one I grew up in (yeah, I know, grammatically correct would be 'in which I grew up' but it sounds pretentious).

What I think I'm trying to say is that it's hard to write about what you haven't...lived? experienced? immersed in?
 


Posted by Kayla (Member # 2403) on :
 
advice for robots: Can you paste before and afters?

This thread made me laugh!! Y'all are a hoot. Mack, sweetie, I don't even know what to say about your song. I'm stunned. I'm amazed. It frightened me that you came up with it so quickly.

The only comment I have about the whole "please don't squeeze the charmin" thing is pressure over pain. Smack your finger, grab your finger. Pressure over pain works for a lot of things.

Though why missing mommy (heartache) would lead him to his penis is beyond me...

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Posted by Kayla (Member # 2403) on :
 
Going with what Mack just said, you know, The Hardy Boys, Nancy Drew and The Bobbsey Twins were all thought up by the same person (a man) and though he farmed out the actual writing (he roughed out the plots and handed them off to different writers.) The point being, back then, kids were kids. We've been reading the Hardy Boys here recently and I've never seen 17 and 18 year olds act the way those boys do (Not even on Leave it to Beaver!) But for the time they were written, the authors could get away with it. I don't think they could today. Ender is a much more believable character than the original Hardy Boys.

Okay, the real point, you can get away with writing kids and not know what you are talking about, but the age limit on that is becoming younger and younger.
 


Posted by littlemissattitude (Member # 4514) on :
 
Icarus: The answer to that, in my experience, is sometimes yes and sometimes no. Sometimes the women characters in romance novels are just as stereotypical as the men are. Other times, the women are quite on the mark, anyway as far as I can see in measuring them against myself and other women I know. Sometimes, the female characters in these novels start out to be fairly true-to-life, but then became more stereotype than real character as the story progresses. I have been known to refer to this as the "normal, intelligent woman meets moody, emotionally unavailable man and her mind turns to mush" plot. I think some of the more recent romance novels do better than the older ones did in this respect, but I can't really speak to that since I mostly read romance novels when I was a teenager - I rarely read them now.

I do know what you mean about the male characters in Cussler's novels, even though I always thought the male characters were a bit - sometimes just a bit - more believeable than the female characters. I've read most of the Dirk Pitt novels as well, BTW. Side note: Which was the one that ends up with a chase scene through Pirates of the Caribbean (sp?) at Disneyland? I think of that now every time I go on that ride.
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
That was Iceberg. I actually didn't read that one, though, because it was co-written, and thus falls outside of my obsessive-compulsive rules. It is a prequel, and doesn't include several of the main characters of the series.
 
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
 
OK, Kayla...money = mouth.

Here's the original article written by yours truly.

Here's the way the article appeared in print. (Not as nicely formatted!)

I'm more angry about the way it got handled: I didn't even know it was being revised until I saw the proof. I'm supposed to take care of revisions myself. I don't mind making them to what I write, but I hate it when somebody rewrites me and doesn't tell me. Maybe that biased me, I don't know. If you like the new one better, I won't hold it against you.


 


Posted by Olivet (Member # 1104) on :
 
My sister writes "Inspirational Romances". I have read a couple of them, but not in a great while. I really can't say that any romance novel I've ever seen has ever interested meto the point I would finish it. I found one on a plane once, and had no trouble leaving it behind. Same deal with visiting family (mom had one or two, and it was preferrable to books on religion-- God's Plan For Your Life sorts of things) if I forgot to bring reading material. That hasn't happened in years.

Anyway, one "romance novel" or series that worked for me in all-around characterization-- Outlander, by Diane Gabaldon.

I was coaxed into reading it by Hatrackers, who promised me it was more of a historical, timetravel fantasy than a "romance".


 


Posted by Lissande (Member # 350) on :
 
Unhand me, you ruffian!

*falls under desk laughing*
 


Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
Darn it, Liss - I wanted to say that line!

I have not read the last Outlander novel - because I know if I do it will be tortuous waiting for the next one to come out. See, now it's my choice, not Gabaldon's that I do without the next installment.
 


Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
 
I have deliberately bought and read exactly one romance novel in my life, and it was after reading the an anthology of all of Isaac Azimov's science fiction short stories. Over a hundred stories of the same macho men, with exactly three female characters - only one of whom had a name.

But that story was The Ugly Little Boy. And Azimov got it right.

I loved the anthology, but I then felt a serious need for estrogen so pressing I scoured the Romance section in the library. I found a book that was calling to me.

I still have that book somewhere, I think. A reminder that while my favorite author is (at moments) Jack London, it's okay to love the romance.


 


Posted by littlemissattitude (Member # 4514) on :
 
Thank you, Icarus.
 
Posted by enjeeo (Member # 2336) on :
 
leonide

Ahhh...I see. Okay, get you now. @myself

PS...I'm interested to read the one just called Geisha, the book by Liz Dalby, the first Western woman to train as a geisha. Of course this is as a modern geisha, so not quite the same rules apply, but should still be interesting.
 


Posted by porcelain girl (Member # 1080) on :
 
i read your first post, icarus, and came up with this:
maybe the author was trying to show that the little boy physically held onto a symbol of his masculinity while trying to emotionally maintain that idea of "masculinity" as upheld by his society.

but that doesn't excuse what a horrific and astoundingly STUPID job she did.
 


Posted by Kayla (Member # 2403) on :
 
advice for robots, I see what you mean! Okay, their tampering was slightly annoying. Had I been the writer, I might even be miffed! Why did they change your first woman's opening sentence and make it the third woman's?

(I'm convinced that "have it all" means do the man's work and the woman's work. )


 


Posted by Kayla (Member # 2403) on :
 
Icarus, what was the point of the story? Did the fact that the little boy "held on to my dingle, real tight" ever fit into the plot at all? Was it his own quirky weird thing, or was it a societal thing in the villiage without the women? Does he ever outgrow the crying?
 
Posted by Shawn Smyres (Member # 4350) on :
 
After reading through this I figured I had to join in.

Ahem: DINGLE!

That's all.

Shawn "Smears" Smyres
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
afr, I read both and I see what you mean. I wouldn't say, though, that they changed it to make it more PC. Rather, it seems that they added verbiage, and often dumbed it down. (What does that say for their perception of women?) I noticed that a couple of times, they actually changed direct quotes. Is that considered acceptable? I also noticed that in a couple of spots they added details that were not present in your version. Did they work from your notes, call the women back, or just make the stuff up?

My words are pretty important to me. I would share your anger if somebody changed them. Especially if they changed them without ever approaching me about it. It would feel like a slap in the face to me. I assume you wrote this freelance...do you need to submit material to these people again?
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
Kayla, it was his own thing. We never get inside anybody else to find out if anybody else does it. The point of the story was the boy's learning of the truth behind why the women left, which he does not know at the start of the story, and of the suicide of his mother. Realizing that, in leaving to protect themselves and their daughters, they abandoned their sons, and abandoned him, he comes to the conclusion that women are, indeed, bitches.

Porce, that makes sense, and I think you're right. But then it's an example of sabotaging the readability of a story to wedge in a clumsy symbolism, something I abhor in fiction.
 


Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
 
Maybe the author was just yanking your chain.

 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
::coughDINGLEcough::
 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
Jeez, Bob, get it right!
 
Posted by coil (Member # 4571) on :
 
LMAO!
 
Posted by esl (Member # 3143) on :
 
OK, I'm not done reading but guess what! I was reading. I have about a thousand songs and they're playing on shuffle. It just happens to play Jingle Bell Rock.
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
Oh the ironies of the dingle-influenced world....
 
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
 
Kayla, there is no rhyme or reason to the changes. They do it because they can. The whole marketing group lives in terror of them because they do this to every single piece of writing that gets produced. They are micromanagers extraordinaire. They sit through hours-long meetings and go through every single word. I've been in those meetings.

Yeah, the new stuff wasn't dripping with pc like I was ranting about, but it was unreadable and self-justifying. It carried all that empty corporate-speak. Who wants to read that? It's like slogging through a company memo. I'm not saying mine was a spectacular piece, but theirs brought tears to my eyes.

Icarus, their altering of the direct quotes (and tacking on their little explanations) is purely unprofessional. That's all the explanation I can give. Like I said, they do it because they can. That's how they throw their power around.

This isn't freelance. I work for the company's creative department, basically an in-house ad agency. That actually gives me a bit more leverage, because I know everyone who works there and I can help get things running right. I usually don't do work for this division, but the several pieces I've done for them have all wound up like this. Just yesterday, a brochure that we thought we had all wrapped up nicely came back with paragraphs of text added and changes all throughout what I'd already written (and gotten approved by the normal marketing folk). And the contact person who'd until then been so accomodating warned me not to change one word. Literally. I took out some bad typos and added a few commas and left in all the horrible run-on sentences they'd added. And I told the account rep that I wasn't going to sign off on the changes, because I wasn't taking responsibility for the text anymore and I didn't want my name on it.

I could go on. Luckily, I don't work with them very often. But I'm complaining, and the right people do listen to me, and things will change. That brochure was the cement pillar that broke the camel's back.

This isn't a criticism of female execs--merely a criticism of impotent execs. And I actually do enjoy working in the department. This really is the exception, and there's plenty of fine people who handle revisions in a much more professional manner. When I do go freelance, this will doubtlessly be good experience. I need to learn how to handle clients like this.
 


Posted by Olivet (Member # 1104) on :
 
Bump
 
Posted by Lissande (Member # 350) on :
 
*thinks the proper bump phrase for this one should be 'dingle'*
 
Posted by Olivet (Member # 1104) on :
 
Dingle, Bump, Dingle Bump, Dingle Bump Rock...
 
Posted by Kyle Katarn (Member # 3567) on :
 
Is that like paper rock scissors?

Ooh...don't use rock and scissors in a thread obsessed with 'dingles'.
 


Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
 
Dingle is a very useful word.

For example...

Dingle me this, Batman!

If it weren't for bad dingle, I'd have no dingle at all.

Every dingle tells a story.

A dingle's worth a thousand words.

Everytime a bell rings, an angel gets his dingle.

If God had wanted man to fly, He would've given us dingles.

A dingle a day keeps the doctor away.

 


Posted by Cor (Member # 4295) on :
 
A rolling dingle gathers no moss?
 
Posted by asQmh (Member # 4590) on :
 
Maybe the author just had that classic song in mind:

When I was a little bitty boy,
My grandmother bought me a brand new toy.
Silver bells tied on a string,
She told me it was my DINGLEingleing!

**skip to last verse**

For those of you who will not sing,
You must be playin' with your own dingling!

**ahem**

Terribly sorry.

Q.
 


Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
*falls over laughing*
 
Posted by Ralphie (Member # 1565) on :
 
I feel left out on this whole dingle thing. I got here way too late.

Well, to make up for it:

A chain is only as strong as it's weakest dingle.

A dingle earned is a dingle saved.

A dingle in time saves nine.

A dingle's work is never done.

All work and no play makes Jack a dull dingle.

Great dingles think alike.

Necessity is the mother of dingles.

No man is a dingle.

Man does not live by dingles alone.

Never judge a dingle by it's cover.

There's not such thing as a free dingle.

Two dingles are better than one.

You catch more flies with dingles than vinegar.

Youth is wasted on the dingle.

And my favorite:

Two wongs don't make a dingle.
 


Posted by Yozhik (Member # 89) on :
 
The Dingle Acupuncture Clinic

Owie owie owie ow!!!
 


Posted by coil (Member # 4571) on :
 
This poor thread...
 
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
 
quote:
A rolling dingle gathers no moss

quote:
Never judge a dingle by its cover.


And the acupuncture thing. That's just WRONG!!!

LOL

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Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
I can't wait to show Patrick.
 
Posted by Ralphie (Member # 1565) on :
 
Dan is making me post this one:

A dingle in the hand is worth two in the bush.

( )
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
*snort*

poor, poor thread


 


Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
 
To dingle or not to dingle...that is the question.

(btw, Ralphie wins. I wish I'd thought of that.)

 


Posted by pH (Member # 1350) on :
 
*curls up laughing* You guys are making me disturb the quiet library...*snicker*
 
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
 
The diiinnnggggllllleeeee of the ooooppppeeerrrrera, it comes my way . . .

I've been ruined -

I really thought it should have been poppycock
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
OK, I guess I have to stoop to y'all's level...

...and she's buying the dingle to heaven...

everybody's got a horny dingle,
everybody's got a horny dingle,
lay down your money and you won't be single,
everybody's got a ho-ho-ho-orny dingle

Sing us a song you're the dingle man...

A long long time ago
I can still remember how that dingle used to make me smile...

wo, wo wo wo, sweet dingle o'mine...

My blood runs cold,
my memory has just been sold,
my dingle's in a centerfold...
dingle's in a centerfold...

Well I wonder what it's like to be the head dingle...

My dingle it loves me,
and it knows I'm right.
Been talking to dingle,
all my life...

Well they cut all the dingles,
and put 'em in a dingle museum.
And charged all the people, a dollar and a half just to see 'em
Don't it always seem to go
that you don't love what you got 'til it's gone...

Black dingle and that little girl smiled,
Black dingle, in that slow southern style,
A new religion, that'll bring you to your knees,
Black dingle, if you please...

Come to my dingle,
stand inside, wait by the light of the moon.
Come to my dingle,
I'll be there soon.

All that she wants
is another dingle
she's gone tomorrow boy
all that she wants
is another dingle...

I'll have a blue dingle without you...

You've got to get yourself together
you've been stuck on a dingle,
that you can't get off of...

Just Beat It, Beat It, Beat It, Beat It
No One Wants To Be Defeated
Showin' How Funky Strong Is Your Fighter
It Doesn't Matter Who's Wrong Or Right
Just Beat It, Beat It
Just Beat It, Beat It
Just Beat It, Beat It
Just Beat It, Beat It


um, wait...I guess that last one doesn't have the word dingle in it....

[ September 02, 2003, 12:29 AM: Message edited by: Icarus ]
 
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
 
It's the implied dingle.

 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
*holds sides and falls off chair laughing*

HAHAHAHAHAHA
 


Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
Sorry...didn't mean to worsen your pain!


 


Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
Yeah, Ralphie's takes the cake...here are a few more anyway

Absence makes the dingle grow fonder

Dingles speak louder than words.

When you are an anvil, hold you still; when you are a dingle, strike your fill.

You will catch more dingles with a spoonful of honey than with a gallon of vinegar.
(a variation on one of Ralphies)
 


Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
 
Where no dingle has gone before.

*nods to Gene Roddenberry*
 


Posted by Cor (Member # 4295) on :
 
The pen is mightier than the dingle?

The dingle is mightier than the sword?

I think they both work.
 


Posted by coil (Member # 4571) on :
 
Holy hell, Icarus... those are brilliant. XD
 
Posted by asQmh (Member # 4590) on :
 
For Carl:

"There are dingles. Billions and billions of dingles."

Q.
 


Posted by Olivet (Member # 1104) on :
 
See, when I read Cor's, I automatically thought of The Handmaid's Tale, by Margaret Atwood. Not a funny book, except for the "Pen is Envy" thing. LOL


THe Dingle is mighter than the sword?
 


Posted by Ralphie (Member # 1565) on :
 
quote:
My blood runs cold,
my memory has just been sold,
my dingle's in a centerfold...
dingle's in a centerfold...

Jeez, Icarus, that was funny.
 


Posted by zgator (Member # 3833) on :
 
quote:
I'll have a blue dingle without you...
I don't whether I laughed harder at this one or the centerfold one.
 
Posted by Chris Kidd (Member # 2646) on :
 
this whole thing puts a new twist on the term Dingle berry
 
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
 
To keep from being thwapped by Mac again.... the thing is, it was the newbie thread that made me think of this not this thread for some random reason.

Some Victorian-era historical reproduction "Dolly Dingle" paperdolls as http://www.hersmine.com/dolly_dingle.htm
Also to see all of the countries Dolly Dingle visited. http://www.tituscollectibles.com/dolly.html
Dolly Dingle appears to have been a bit hermaphroditic.

A bit about the artist from
www.teachingcomics.org/docs/women.pdf

"...Grace Drayton, is bestknown for creating the Campbell Kids in 1905. Until her death in 1936, Draytonproduced countless comics featuring cute toddlers, all looking like the Campbell Kids,with a confusion of names like Toodles, Toddles, Dolly Drake, Bobby Blake, Dolly Dingle, Dolly Dimples, and Dotty Darling."

What fun Hatrack could have with those names.....

 


Posted by Human (Member # 2985) on :
 
*laughs uncontrollably*

This should be saved for the future dingles of america.
 


Posted by Princess Leianide (Member # 4699) on :
 
LMAO

I missed this, (as in "oh, it went away!...not as in I didn't see it) we should always have it on the first page...and Icarus was "The Dingle(tm)" On GreNME for a spell...

quote:
She walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies;
And all that's best of dark and bright
Meet in her aspect and her eyes:
Thus mellow'd to that tender light
Which heaven to gaudy day denies.

One shade the more, one ray the less,
Had half impair'd the nameless grace
Which waves in every raven tress,
Or softly lightens o'er her face;
Where thoughts serenely sweet express
How pure, how dear their dwelling-place.

And on that cheek, and o'er that brow,
So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,
The smiles that win, the tints that glow,
But tell of days in goodness spent,
A mind at peace with all below,
A dingle whose love is innocent!




 
Posted by Erik Slaine (Member # 5583) on :
 
Pull my dingle! Just gotta bump this, guys. Thanks for bringing it up mac!
[Cool]
[ROFL]
 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
I knew it was just a matter of time.

[Cool]

Think we can get KACard to archive it?

I guess not . . .

[Big Grin]
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
This is one of my favorite threads EVAU!
 
Posted by Ryan Hart (Member # 5513) on :
 
WOMEN ARE IMPOSSIBLE!!!

I've lived by that mantra for years.
 
Posted by ludosti (Member # 1772) on :
 
I must say, reading all these funny lyrics made me wonder why no one thought of the first song that sprung to my mind - Genie in a Bottle....

I'm a dingle in a bottle, baby....

[Evil Laugh]
 
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
Ah. Fond memories, one of the classic threads.

[Big Grin]

[Hail] to Mack, for starting the degeneration of the dingle thread and [Hail] to all the lyricists and publishers of dingle adages.
 
Posted by JaneX (Member # 2026) on :
 
whee! I love this thread! [Big Grin]

Dingle Belle, dingle Belle, dingle all the way...

~Jane~
 
Posted by Storm Saxon (Member # 3101) on :
 
http://www.hersmine.com/Harley/dboy.jpg

If that's not the spitting image of Tom Davidson, then I don't know what is. [Wink]
 
Posted by Storm Saxon (Member # 3101) on :
 
http://www.hersmine.com/Harley/dhawi.jpg

And OMG! Look, it's Ralphie! Wow!

You know, I've heard about synchronicity, but I never thought I'd ever experience it!
 
Posted by Eaquae Legit (Member # 3063) on :
 
I can't believe I missed this thread.

1. No one should use the word "dingle" in writing in a serious way. I may, of course, need to work it in in some comedic sense.

2. Robert Jordan's women make me cringe. All the time.

3. In general, I have no problem with men writing women and vice versa.
 
Posted by Ralphie (Member # 1565) on :
 
I had totally forgotten about this thread.
 
Posted by Xavier (Member # 405) on :
 
Wow, can't believe I missed this one.

Aside from the dingle jokes (since Dan's was the best possible joke, I feel I don't have to go any further), I must take exception to Jordan writing believable women.

Are you kidding! I was going to bring him up as someone who has no concept of women at all. Lets see here:

The wisdom woman is just plain bitchy, and pulls her brade and acts flighty in every chapter!

Every woman thinks of what she is wearing as her primary priority. They all secretly want to wear skanky clothing too, and think about their necklines at the start of every POV.

Three seperate women fall for Rand for no reason beyond him being crazy and powerful. He's not even nice to them, and they hardly even have a conversation before they are "in love" with him!

They all hate men! Every single one of them insult the men in their life every time they think of them. Oddly enough, they even all use the same insults. They all can't stand the man in their life, up until the very moment they "love" him.

If women were really this way, I would consider becoming a homosexual [Wink] . I admit that I like Faile somewhat, but even she is crazy and oddly characterized.

One author who seems to write good women in my opinion is Robin Hobb, but she's a female so I don't know if she counts [Smile] . In particular, Molly was one of the more believable women I've ever read, and part of why that series was so depressing to me was that she reminded me exactly of my ex-girlfried. The men were pretty good too, with Fitz being pretty convincing I thought, even from a first person persective.

George R. R. Martin did a really good job I thought, especially with the Stark women, but also Brienne, the Queen of Thorns, and Cersie Lannister.

As for me, one of the reasons I absolutely cannot write is because I can't write a woman's dialogue. Its like the Sienfeld episode when Jerry and George can't write Elaine into the pilot cause they have no idea what she'd say in any given situation [Big Grin] .
 
Posted by Jenny Gardener (Member # 903) on :
 
Well, I'm joining this discussion late.

I, too, read the same story and had the same reaction. I thought it sucked. It didn't feel real to me at all. I was so peeved that I think I actually cussed and claimed I could write better than that, thank you very much, after I'd finished the story.
 
Posted by Avadaru (Member # 3026) on :
 
Wow.

That's all I have to say about that.

[Big Grin]
 
Posted by James Tiberius Kirk (Member # 2832) on :
 
So this is where the dingle meme came from.
 
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
 
AHEM, dingle, AHEM

Stormy. You came to the party too late. Please look at the February 07, 2003 06:08 PM by ME, and check out the links.

AJ
 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
[Eek!]

Do you guys realize this was at the bottom of the list of topics?!?!

[Eek!]
 
Posted by eslaine (Member # 5433) on :
 
Horrors!
 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
It's that dingle season.
 
Posted by saxon75 (Member # 4589) on :
 
I wonder how many regulars there are who have never even heard the dingle meme before.
 
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
 
That was really funny. I can't imagine having been here when it was actually going on. I would have been rolling.

But oh my god, reading those quotes in the first post... awful.
 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
I laughed so hard my sides hurt and I cried.

Yet with no dingle to pull, I wasn't comforted.

Very sad. [Frown]
 
Posted by Phanto (Member # 5897) on :
 
I had to read the original quote three times. I mentally filled in "dingle" as being a kind of doll or toy or something, so I had to focus really hard to discover the true meaning.

And now, I am inspired to sing:

Dingle, dingle, dingle! Your dingle is dingling dingle dingle dingle!
 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
You know, I went back and reread this . . . it is pure Hatrack comedic gold!

But Ralphie has it wrong:

A dingle in the bush is worth two in the hand.

Definitely!!
 
Posted by Fyfe (Member # 937) on :
 
*laughs helplessly*

This is the silliest thread evar.

Jen
 
Posted by James Tiberius Kirk (Member # 2832) on :
 
hehe. this thread needed to come back [Smile]

--j_k
 
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
 
The dingle thread! I forgot how funny it was . . .
 
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
 
quote:
I wonder how many regulars there are who have never even heard the dingle meme before.
I hadn't. Prior to this bump, it was on the first page about a month before I joined.

I guess this means my posts will be dropping off the forum soon. [Smile]

Dagonee
 
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
 
Okay, I'll burn in heck for this one, but...

<singing>
Just a spoonful of sugar makes the ...

Oh, I just can't...sorry.

LOL
 
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
 
Night of the Living Dingle

Gone With the Dingle

Star Wars: The Dingle Strikes Back

Dr. Strangedingle
 
Posted by Fyfe (Member # 937) on :
 
I've never heard of the dingle meme either, until today.

*crawls under table*

I am ashamed.

Jen
 
Posted by xnera (Member # 187) on :
 
I started laughing as soon as I saw the thread title. Ah, memories! *giggles*
 
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
 
Dingle dingle dingle,
I made it out of clay...
 
Posted by Eaquae Legit (Member # 3063) on :
 
Dawn of the Dingle

Speaker for the Dingle

The Return of the Dingle


I'm gonna stop here.
 
Posted by Ryuko (Member # 5125) on :
 
I was just telling a friend of mine about this thread!!! I was hoping it hadn't fallen off the edge. (hugs thread)
 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
Have you hugged your dingle today?
 
Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :
 
It's 10 o'clock. Do you know where your dingle is?

space opera
 
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
 
No.





Should I?
 
Posted by imogen (Member # 5485) on :
 
I know where my dingle is.

[Big Grin]
 
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
 
[Eek!]

And RRR was worried about things growing near EYES!
 
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
 
Wheeeeere's the meat?!
 
Posted by Vána (Member # 6593) on :
 
It's the dingle thread!!
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
Oh my god.

*hugs thread*

Where have you BEEN? I'm so happy to see you!!!

[Wave]
 
Posted by Phanto (Member # 5897) on :
 
Sheesh. Dingling to dingle.
 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
But leonide, is the dingle happy to see you?
 
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
 
*refrains from making inappropriate pointing comment*

[Monkeys]
 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
Exactly!
 
Posted by CaySedai (Member # 6459) on :
 
I did go back and look at the previous posts, so forgive me if I repeat any:

A Dingle Too Far
Dingle Story
All My Dingles
Dingles of our Lives
 
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
 
Dingle of Darkness
OR
Army of Dingles
 
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
 
The Phantom Dingle
 
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
 
*snort*

That was unexpected.
 
Posted by JaneX (Member # 2026) on :
 
Oh my god! The dingle thread is back! [Big Grin]

~Jane~
 
Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :
 
The Dingles of Wrath

Gone With the Dingle

A Farewell to Dingles

space opera
 
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
 
For Whom the Dingle Tolls

The Old Dingle and the Sea

or

The Old Man and the Dingle

The Dingle Also Rises [Laugh]
 
Posted by mr_porteiro_head (Member # 4644) on :
 
A Dingle for All Seasons
 
Posted by ludosti (Member # 1772) on :
 
The Life of Dingle
or
The Dingle of Pi

Fight Dingle
or Dingle Club

They're both so dingle-icious
 
Posted by TheTick (Member # 2883) on :
 
"Dingle in the morning, dingle in the evening, dingle at suppertime..."

Talk about getting dingled out!
 
Posted by Olivetta (Member # 6456) on :
 
Posted a quiz for determining your penis euphemism, 'cause I thought it might be funny in light of this thread, but it was taken down.

I'm really sorry. I'm taking my dingle and going home.
 
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
 
Is Ron aware of that dingle?
 
Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :
 
A Dingle Grows in Brooklyn

12th Dingle, or As You Dingle It

space opera

I need to stop now...
 
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
 
The Rolling Dingles.

They Might be Dingles.

The Dave Dingles Band.
or
The Dave Matthews Dingle.

The Mamas and the Dingles.

Ladysmith Black Momdingle.

Earth, Wind and Dingle
 
Posted by Fyfe (Member # 937) on :
 
Have we had the thing from Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer yet?

Dingle, dingle, dingle,
I can hear the sleigh-bells ring;
I am old Kris Kringle,
I'm the king of dingling...
 
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
 
Attack of the 50-foot Dingle

ooooh, or

Attack of the 50-Dingle woman!

OR

Dingle of the 50-foot Woman!

All are monstrous!

[ November 18, 2004, 10:32 AM: Message edited by: PSI Teleport ]
 
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
 
A Tale of Two Dingles
Dingle Twist
David Copperdingle
 
Posted by Arthur (Member # 4026) on :
 
One flew over the dingle's nest
The Dingle clause
Mc Dingles
 
Posted by Anna (Member # 2582) on :
 
Stop that ! My side hurts ! Oh, my, how have I been able to miss this thread ? You know, dingle is a funny word even for a Frenchie !
 
Posted by quidscribis (Member # 5124) on :
 
I wasn't around when this thread emerged into being. I'm glad it was resurrected. Because I have dingle envy. [Wall Bash]
 
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
 
*bump* for Noemon.

*glare*
 
Posted by Teshi (Member # 5024) on :
 
I can't believe this thread hasn't been bumped for two years.
 
Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :
 
Oh! I could have sworn that Olivet started this thread! Sorry Joe.
 
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
 
I can't believe it's still alive. I remember wondering if the dingling would ever stop. Whole, unrelated threads had little elves dancing through them shouting "dingleberries for all" and just plain ole "dingle" over and over and over again . . .

*ptsd sets in*

[Big Grin]
 
Posted by Uprooted (Member # 8353) on :
 
Sorry for responding 2 years after this was posted, but I wasn't here then (what does it say about me that I just read this entire thread?):

quote:
Originally posted by advice for robots:
The Dingle Also Rises [Laugh]

If I recall the protagonist's dilemma in The Sun Also Rises correctly, that line is doubly disturbing!! [Eek!]
 
Posted by quidscribis (Member # 5124) on :
 
I didn't realize this was the dingle thread until I opened it...

Where's that brain acid? [Razz]
 
Posted by Shigosei (Member # 3831) on :
 
The dingle thread!

To dingle or not to dingle...
 
Posted by Gecko (Member # 8160) on :
 
Women writing men is often times worse.

Ever read anything by Ann Rice? All of her male characters are women with penises
 
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by quidscribis:
I didn't realize this was the dingle thread until I opened it...


What's really sad is I knew IMMEDIATELY upon seeing it which thread it was.

*sigh*

welcome back to the front page dingle thread. We've missed you.
 


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