Hatrack River Forum: Betrayal ( rant, sorry need to vent! )

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Posted by Correlle_Fyrebrand (Member # 5839) on :

[Wall Bash]

I have been banging my head against, not a wall, but a person--Chris Andrews. Never, and I mean never have I heard of someone losing two friends in a matter of days for stupid reasons.

With that said I will continue.

I have known Chris and have been his friend for four LONG years. Ever since we met, trouble lurked around the corner. Fights and arguements broke out between us often, usually at least once a week. Mostly because Chris never took my feelings or anyone, ANYONE, else's into account. At first, I wouldn't argue in my defense, but that made him assume that I was easy prey. He was a fool. I finally got tired of his stupid games. He soon found that I wasn't so easily ruled into silence. Since then, our beings couldn't be in the same room for long. Recently, (and by recent I mean a few weeks) he had been pissing me nonstop. I finally got tired of him not taking me seriously or respecting my thoughts or feelings and everyone else for that matter. NO WORDS could get through that thick skull of his to make him understand what he was doing. So, I made a promise to myself. If he did it again, I would cut his existance from my life. I wouldn't talk or see him again. In short, if no words could tell him, then I would show him. I would no longer be a prey for him to feed on. AND GUESS WHAT EVERYONE?! He did it. He pulled the last straw. Sitting in the cafeteria, Chris called his ex-girlfriend, Meghann (who he knows is still a very good friend of mine), a ______. I said that I respected his opinion, but to refran from expressing his opinion of my friend in my presence. And he went off. He accused me of not respecting his opinion and that I was stripping him of his freedom of speech. So I just sat there listening to him rant on and on. And then I said, then don't be around me anymore. "Fine," he said. Do say things that you mean, Chris. I meant what I said. Since then, he hasn't existed to me.

THEN...

I come to find tonight that he called Maribeth a ______ because she said something he didn't like. Did talk about it? No. Did he comfront her about it? NO. Did he post his hate about her all over the internet for everyone to read? YES! Not only did he do this to Maribeth, but to his BEST friend/roommate/my boyfriend, Ryan. Oh, and apparently, I'm little "miss perfect". Now I do think of myself perfect, I have faults too as does everyone else. At least I don't blame other's faults for my own depression! I don't think that it is fair to have a problem with someone, especially a friend, and not talk to them about it and then post it to the public! TO me, that's a coward, when you hide behind a website and preach about how it's your friend's fault for being depressed. And when you post it to the entire world, to me that is betrayal. Chris Andrews, betrayed me, Maribeth, and Ryan. Never have I seen anyone betray all the people that are close to them. Chris is no longer someone a call "friend" but someone I call "traitor."

Posted by Lalo (Member # 3772) on :

As charmingly teen-drama-queen as you are, I'm missing the point. So Chris Andrews, whoever he is, thinks two people are bitches. And you're in a self-righteous snit about it. And...

Sure, the guy's a dick for writing the bullshit to begin with, and I have no patience for people like him -- if your story's at all an accurate depiction of what actually happened -- who do the passive-aggressive crap and avoid confrontation in favor of backstabbing.

...yet, aren't you right now libelling the guy on a website so that complete strangers can have bad opinions of Chris? Pot, kettle, black, yadda yadda...

Posted by MaydayDesiax (Member # 5012) on :

Calm down, guys. ((((Cor and Lalo))))

Yeah, Cor's being kind of a hypocrite (sorry sweetie, but Lalo's got a point). I did it too. So we're just as guilty as Chris is.

She's just very frustrated because I was very upset about the things he said, about me and her boyfriend, and because he refuses to listen to us, although we try to talk. We try to talk, but it goes straight through him. She believes that this is a place where she can talk about problems, ask for adivce on what to do and such.

I admit, I was at fault for most of my actions to provoke him. I'm sorry for what I did, and for what I've done to hurt someone who was once a friend.

That's my problem, however. And how I'm dealing with it is differently than how she is. [Dont Know]

People, man. We adjust in different ways.

Posted by kwsni (Member # 1831) on :

So why do you guys even associate with the boy anymore? That seems like the easiest (and most adult) thing to do, just quit being around him.

Ni!

Posted by lcarus (Member # 4395) on :

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Yeah, Cor's being kind of a hypocrite . . .

I just want to clarify for anybody who wanders in that Cor and Corelle_Fyrebrand are not the same person.

[Smile]

Posted by Nick (Member # 4311) on :

Thanks Icarus. I did notice the correlation. [Wink]

Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :

Thanks for the clarification Icarus, but I kinda figured that already. [Wink]

Posted by Arya (Member # 6160) on :

I actually just went through the same thing with a guy I've known for the past 10 years. He was an asshole to all my friends, and I just couldn't take it anymore. It came to the point where I started to actually hate him, and I don't hate anyone. So, I did what I had to, and no matter how much it hurt and I felt I would regret it, I told him I don't want anything to do with him anymore. My problem was that he used to be different... I know the guy he could have become... and what he is now is definitely not what I had expected. He really disapointed me, and sometimes, you just have to let people go.

[ February 08, 2004, 12:33 AM: Message edited by: Arya ]

Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :

:bump:
In the interested of preserving bandwidth, I thought I'd us this thread to vent. My husband took both of the last two doughnuts this morning. I guess I need to look up Bob's thread about marriage worst case scenarios to get my head on straight.

Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :

At least he didn't eat your Chick-Fil-A that you traveled over 100 miles to bring home!

<still bitter> [Big Grin]

Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :

Thanks for helping me put it in perspective, AJ. Though wasn't that an "accident"? I was holding the doughnut box out to him, expecting him to choose which one he wanted. And these were from the Krispy Kreme in Provo (50 miles away). We go by it all the time but it is usually Sunday. True, there is a Krispy Kreme closer, but we never see it. Point is, I haven't had storebought donuts in several months.

Posted by Synesthesia (Member # 4774) on :

What's a Chick fil-a? [Confused]

Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :

Chick fil a is a semi-national chicken sandwhich franchise. The food isn't so spectacular, but AJs original post was about how sometimes we come to love food that isn't inherently lovable. And then our spouse unwittingly eats it, having no appreciation. They don't understand the spiritual depth it takes to love an unlovable thing.

Posted by Jon Boy (Member # 4284) on :

Preserving bandwidth? Is Hatrack running out? Have we posted so much that we've stripped Hatrack of its natural resources?

Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :

I thought it was a joke, but peterh was talking about in on CT's FAQ's. But Hobbes has put my mind at ease.

Posted by peterh (Member # 5208) on :

See my post and Pooka's reply here.

Posted by Shardok (Member # 6247) on :

ARGHHHH!!!!! that felt good. I need a massage now. [Sleep]

Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :

[Angst]

He who ate the last two doughnuts is a massage therapist [Angst]

Posted by Ryuko (Member # 5125) on :

I suggest telling your husband and guilting him into buying you more doughnuts. Either that or you should give him a beating he'll never forget! [Wink]