For about 5 years now I've played the guitar. When I began I was almost 17 years old and a little ignorant about women, (not much has really changed). I started playing because I loved it. I didn't start for the same reason many boys that age start, to impress women. Inevitable though, I began to realize that for some reason, most women are really attracted to a musically gifted man.
As I began to realize this, I was perplexed. Why, I asked myself, would a girl really care about this? I myself am not really bothered whether a girl can play the piano or has any other musical talent. I might be impressed, but I'm not attracted to her any more then I was when I didn't know of the talent.
So my questions are: 1. Are you more attracted to a man who is musically gifted? And, 2. If so, why?
Please help a confused man.
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See, I AM attracted to women with musical talent. But I think people are, in general, attracted to people with talent.
I think there's a secondary attraction, as well, to the confidence necessary to perform in public -- and/or the devil-may-care swagger of a rock star. That's why a man who's a professional violinist will get fewer girls than a professional lead guitarist, although they'll both get more than an accountant, all else being equal.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Why question the why?
Just go with it!
Yes, women love a musical man -- especially if he sings and serenades her.
Why do you think all bands have groupies?
Farmgirl
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
It's content. They have something to talk about, and they are entertaining. Added to the confidence factor, and musicians are adorable.
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
Artists have a renegade sexy allure about them that is hard to describe. To get the best of both worlds though, a woman doesn't want a man who is simply a starving artist. So if you play the guitar as a hobby but actually have a steady job, women are doubly atracted because you've got just enough of the exotic image without the general flakiness that a pure musician normally exhibits, thus making you more desireable.
AJ
Posted by Annie (Member # 295) on :
1. Yes 2. No idea. It may be vestigial rock-star adoration, or it may be that musically talented men are often more sensitive and artsy. For me, I think it's mainly related to my love of music. Someone who plays an instrument and sings is much more likely to be a music lover like me. I have equal admiration for guys who are music connoisseurs. People who never listen to or play music stike me as a bit dull.
Posted by Valentine014 (Member # 5981) on :
Farmgirl has the right idea: if there is even a small chance that the guy will write and sing a song for you, that guy will deserve more attention than his non-musically oriented pal.
Posted by Beren One Hand (Member # 3403) on :
Depending on their instrument, musicians are either good with their hands, or good with their mouths.
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
Posted by Vána (Member # 6593) on :
1. Yes, I am more attracted to men with musical talent.
2. Because I am a musician. So, we then share a common interest. Also, I was more likely to run into musician men than non-musician men. But no, that's not how I met Dan. While he was not involved in the music department at school at all, learning that he did play piano and guitar and could sing a bit (though I wish he was more confident with that) made him that much more interesting to me (even while I was involved with a euphonium player).
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
What she said.
Posted by saxon75 (Member # 4589) on :
I think image has more to do with it than talent. This is based on my observation that a guy in the choir--even a soloist--gets far, far less female attention than a guy who plays the guitar. Even from the women in the choir.
Posted by MaydayDesiax (Member # 5012) on :
Aside from Beren's silly (yet true) remark, girls just like a guy who is musically talented. There's this sort of ancient chilvary about a man who will play an instrument for a woman--or even better, one who requests lessons from one. ::smirks:: It harkens back to mideval ages, where bards would flirt shamelessly with women by singing them love songs. We just get weak-kneed, and just fall all over men with musical talent
[Edit to add:] Saxon, I never really had that problem--in fact, I used to have major crushes on guys who were in choir. For me it's not the fact that they CAN do it, it's the fact that they WILL do it.
That being said, Insanity Plea now refuses to play the instruments he knows how to play (piano and violin) for me.
[ August 30, 2004, 02:29 PM: Message edited by: MaydayDesiax ]
Posted by Synesthesia (Member # 4774) on :
Music is sexy as all hell. Talent is sexy. Men with deep, sweet singing voices are alluring... But mainly, to me, the music is the most attractive thing because I adore music.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
Senior year, this guy (name is lost to history) stood up in front of our class and sang O Holy Night a cappella.
I was in love for MONTHS.
Posted by MaydayDesiax (Member # 5012) on :
Hehe. That's exactally how it would happen with me when I was in choir and band in middle and high school. That and the drummers, although I'd never admit it. There's just something dashing about a drummer...
And actually, the moment I realized that I was totally, completely, and absolutely infatuated with Insanity Plea was when he was playing Raja's The Painting for me at PC. *sighs* And he also played Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring for me once on his violin...
But when I asked him to play for me when I was up, he refused. Something about being out of practice...
[Edit for spelling]
[ August 30, 2004, 02:38 PM: Message edited by: MaydayDesiax ]
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
A musical man is a sensitive man, a man in touch with his inner poet... a man who knows passion.... Or at least, that is the illusion.
Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :
I think there's something attractive about an artist in general, no matter what the media. When you meet someone who writes, paints, plays music, etc. you know that they're interested in beauty and the creation of something new. Much better than football, in my opinion.
space opera
Posted by Scott R (Member # 567) on :
It's been my experience that women love a magic man more than they love a music man.
I got magic hands, see.
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
I'm going to work with the assumption that AJ's answer was the correct one. I like that answer the most. Posted by eslaine (Member # 5433) on :
What about keyboardist's who sound like guitarists?
Or is that just too deceptive?
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
And AJ's answer describes Porter to a T. Posted by eslaine (Member # 5433) on :
Dang guitarists hoggin all the babes! Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
"Frankly, your looks have become a problem! I was supposed to be the lead singer, you were supposed to be the guitarist with mystique! That was the dynamic we agreed on!"
What a great movie.
Edit:
Hey, MD, I didn't know he'd actually learned it! That's awesome! Someone else covering something I wrote... crazy.
[ August 30, 2004, 02:56 PM: Message edited by: twinky ]
Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
1. No 2. I try to understand, I try to understand, I try try try to understand ... but I'm tone deaf.
Give me the magic hands. Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
I think musical men are sexy because playing music requires a certain amount of laying yourself, or your emotions, on the line that men don't ordinarily do.
Posted by Jenny Gardener (Member # 903) on :
1. Yes. Musical talent is wicked sexy.
2. It has something to do with intensity and passion, which seems to be a qualification for anyone who plays/sings well. Also, there's the romantic concept of being serenaded. And the community-building aspect of playing/singing together.
Posted by Carrie (Member # 394) on :
1. Depends on the instrument. While there is something to be said for the looks of the average accordion player, give me the talented hands of a pianist any day... uh... yeah.
2. I've found that it means the guy's a bit smarter than average. It takes more than sheer dumb luck to be musically talented. Dedication, intelligence, and passion. Put all those in a guy and sign me up!
Posted by Megan (Member # 5290) on :
Actually, while I agree that most women seem to find musical talent attractive, for me personally that's not true. Like Vana, I am a musician, but I find that frequently, musician+musician relationships don't work well (or at least, they don't work for me!). I know a LOT of male musicians, and they seem to me to be like any other male population: there are some that are nice and generally good guys, and there are some that are obnoxious and arrogant, and everything in between.
However, my general observation is that when a musical girl and a musical guy get together, the result is usually a tension-filled, drama-filled relationship that ultimately implodes. The successful relationships I've seen have mostly been musician (of either gender) to non-musician. I'm not saying it can't work...I'm just saying it seems to work less often.
*is a musician happily married to a man who is not a musician in any way*
Posted by eslaine (Member # 5433) on :
Dang musical chicks hoggin all the babes! Posted by mr_porteiro_head (Member # 4644) on :
quote: A musical man is a sensitive man, a man in touch with his inner poet... a man who knows passion.... Or at least, that is the illusion.
Either that's false, or I'm the exception that proves the rule.
Posted by Megan (Member # 5290) on :
eslaine...do you mean musical dudes?
Posted by eslaine (Member # 5433) on :
Just babes in general. Posted by dabbler (Member # 6443) on :
I think it's because of the concentration it takes for them while they're playing. It's a nice look.
Posted by Megan (Member # 5290) on :
ah. Well, in that case, I apologize for snagging my particular babe. Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
quote:I began to realize that for some reason, most women are really attracted to a musically gifted man.
I'm not really sure that this trend actually exists. I've certainly never noticed it.
Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
That's because you're looking at your guitar and not the surrounding women.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
It's because you're a real musician, twinky. Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
It's true, the lines of a Strat are... mmmmm.
...but kat, isn't it true that women are attracted to talented and/or successful men in GENERAL, rather than musicians in particular?
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
Successful accountants are boring.
It's true.
Posted by Elizabeth (Member # 5218) on :
Yes, I think musicians are attractive. Not just guitar players, and not just men.
The most attractive musicians, to me, are those who seem to let the music come through them from another place. They are just sort of there, channeling the divine. I do not fel the same way about the more showy musicians. Except Bruce Springsteen.
My son plays guitar. One day, I was watching him playing in the living room, and, though he was eight, and I am his mother, I thought, "This little guy is actually sexy. Oh, no!"
Posted by Elizabeth (Member # 5218) on :
You know, Kat, I also think math and business type guys are wicked sexy. I hear them talk those numbers, and my head kind of starts to spin. Don't ask me why, but that, to me, is sexy.
Male teachers are usually sexy. Lawyers.
Hmm. I think any man doing a job is sexy, I guess, because now I am thinking of firemen in their fire suits, construction workers, bartenders...
Posted by mr_porteiro_head (Member # 4644) on :
Twink -- how often have you heard of a guy attracting a girl with his 1337 math skills?
Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
And yet nobody ever talks about the wicked sexy biochemists. They should mention this at High School job fairs.
"Yes, I'm interested in being a scientist, but I have a question for you. How wicked sexy is it?"
"Sadly, not very."
"Shoot, how about you Mr. Military?"
"You know what they say about men in a uniform!"
"Sold!"
It's genius.
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
Hmmm...
I was math major in college. I owned my own business for 11 years. I'm in law school now. I can play the opening to Paint it Black, Aqualung, and Sunshine of your Love.
Try to control yourself, Liz.
Dagonee
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
Sadly it doesn't work the other way around. If you are a girl with good math skills, and they find out that you can do partial differential equations, most guys turn and run, not walk the other direction.
AJ
Posted by Elizabeth (Member # 5218) on :
Oh, Dag, not the opening bar to Aqualung!
(swoons)
Posted by eslaine (Member # 5433) on :
I think the piano intro John Evan did in Locomotive Breath was much more impressive.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
I actually do think math skills are sexy.
Not just knowing how to do equations, but loving it. When I saw a Beautiful Mind, I was sitting on the couch wrapped up with my mathemetician boyfriend. During the scene where John Nash is writing equations on the window with a grease pencil, this boy leaned forward and I felt his heart start beating faster. It was the funniest and cutest thing I'd ever seen. Loving anything with that kind of passion is very sexy.
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
*dreamy sigh* this thread makes me think about Anthony. He was definitely a sexy musician. He also was and still is my friend. I had a fun time internally with the "friend" vs. " having a crush" bit, but survived.
He was a tenor. I accompanied him, for a couple of semesters on the piano. Connecting at a musical level was always fun. I don't know how I managed not to drool over the keys while watching him though. Sometimes for fun he'd try to trip me up and hold a note too long or not long enough but I would always be able to anticipate it. I don't know what cue I was reading from him to this day, the only other person I've had that sort of musical connection with, despite accompaning many other people is my friend Gwen and we played duets for years and years together.
AJ
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
quote:Successful accountants are boring.
What if a successful accountant also happens to be a talented athlete on the side? Does that make him more desireable?
I dunno, I don't see music as being special in this regard. Maybe it's because I've never dated a musician. Perhaps I should append that to my list of things to do...
quote:Twink -- how often have you heard of a guy attracting a girl with his 1337 math skills?
Well... never, I suppose. I guess music is my only hope, then.
quote:Sadly it doesn't work the other way around. If you are a girl with good math skills, and they find out that you can do partial differential equations, most guys turn and run, not walk the other direction.
It doesn't have to be PDEs, but I really like to be challenged. If I have to work to keep up, I'm interested. There were some women at engineering school with me who were, well, brilliant. But I wasn't allowed to date any of them, even if they had wanted to date me. And they should have wanted to date me! I was a musician in addition to being in engineering school! I can serenade! I can even play classical music, if the woman in question prefers it! See, there goes the whole argument. If musicians were really so magnetic, I would never be single. Posted by Scott R (Member # 567) on :
Isn't the whole plot of the Resident Evil movies centered around sexy biochemists?
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
quote: I had a fun time internally with the "friend" vs. " having a crush" bit, but survived.
*nervous vomiting*
Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
Hey, is this the guy your grandma thought was "the PITS?" The one who wasn't a Christian but whom you liked anyway? Posted by Synesthesia (Member # 4774) on :
mmm. Sexy bio-chemists.
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
*bing* yup Tom, because while he's one of the most devout Catholics I know, Catholics aren't Christians.
(Got a new grandma letter today btw, but its fairly benign)
Twinky were you not allowed to date other engineers at your school? Why couldn't you date a female engineer?
AJ
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
quote:Depending on their instrument, musicians are either good with their hands, or good with their mouths.
Sooooo.... ummmm.... everybody took this as a joke? 'Cause my answer would be quite similar.
Guitar players, in particular, while they are playing, when you (and by "you" here I am referring to "me") watch their hands moving over the guitar you can't really help but think about what those hands would feel like touching you. Especially classical or jazz guitar, and especially they ones who are intense and look like they are really concentrating on the music and the instrument. Same goes for upright bass, some piano players... not so much brass or woodwinds, 'cause the hands pretty much stay in the same place and press keys.
As a former saxaphonist, we always used to argue with the trumpet players about if brass or woodwind players were the better kissers. I never noticed a difference, although my research has not been definitive.
So, yeah, anyway. Musicians are sexy. But frequently not worth the mental anguish. No offense intended to any hatrack muscians, I'm sure you're the exception. Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
I'm not a woman, but I'll share my opinion anyway: I think Beverly, Maureen, and Jenny have it right.
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
*records for future reference*
Posted by Goody Scrivener (Member # 6742) on :
quote:I can play the opening to Paint it Black, Aqualung, and Sunshine of your Love.
No Stairway? Deeeeenied!
Seriously, though, I've always had an attraction for guitarists but never really thought about why that was. Maybe something to do with lithe hands? <eg>
Goody
Posted by Elizabeth (Member # 5218) on :
Please, Goody. My husband has been learning "Stairway to Heaven" for over a year. He is, I might add, NOT sexy when playing it. Not at all. When I mention the possibility that he might learn an easier song, being a total beginner, he just says that he will be the best guitar player in the world when he learns the whole song.
Posted by Goody Scrivener (Member # 6742) on :
quote:Please, Goody. My husband has been learning "Stairway to Heaven" for over a year. He is, I might add, NOT sexy when playing it. Not at all. When I mention the possibility that he might learn an easier song, being a total beginner, he just says that he will be the best guitar player in the world when he learns the whole song.
Actually, I was quoting "Wayne's World", Elizabeth.
I think that particular intro is overrated LOL no matter how complex it may be. And I've got a really negative "thing" about it because my ex spent waaaaaaaaaaaaay too much time trying to learn that <bleeped> song.
Goody
[ August 30, 2004, 09:51 PM: Message edited by: Goody Scrivener ]
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
quote:Twinky were you not allowed to date other engineers at your school? Why couldn't you date a female engineer?
I had a rule about that sort of thing, which I tried to talk myself into breaking a great many times but never quite succeded.
quote:Guitar players, in particular, while they are playing, when you (and by "you" here I am referring to "me") watch their hands moving over the guitar you can't really help but think about what those hands would feel like touching you. Especially classical or jazz guitar, and especially they ones who are intense and look like they are really concentrating on the music and the instrument. Same goes for upright bass, some piano players... not so much brass or woodwinds, 'cause the hands pretty much stay in the same place and press keys.
That's the sexiest thing I've ever read on Hatrack.
(In a good way, don't worry. )
I agree with it, too. I feel the same way about female musicians, especially pianists.
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
quote:No Stairway? Deeeeenied!
Actually, I can play most of the instrumental lead in. Or I could 3 years ago - I'd need a day to pick it back up.
Now if only I could remember how to play "Back in Black."
Of course, I still don't know any song all the way through.
Dagonee
Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
I'd take a dancer over a musician 6 days a week and twice on Sundays. But then, I've always been more fascinated by movement than music.
And Synth is officially on my cool list. I'll send her a "BtL thinks I'm cool! " button and everything. The newsletter is bimonthly. She just needs to remember that biochemist isn't hyphenated.
Edit: And I need to remember how to spell "hyphenated".
[ August 30, 2004, 11:10 PM: Message edited by: Bob the Lawyer ]
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Dancers win too. Good point.
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
quote: That's the sexiest thing I've ever read on Hatrack.
(In a good way, don't worry. )
Thank you. And how could that possibly be taken in a bad way? Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
I don't know, but I like you so I wanted to be sure I wouldn't be misconstrued. Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Ah, okay. No worries.
Posted by Shepherdess (Member # 6115) on :
quote:There's this sort of ancient chilvary about a man who will play an instrument for a woman--or even better, one who requests lessons from one.
I agree with the first part, but I've had guys "request" piano lessons after hearing me play, and I found it to be a real turn off, perhaps because I knew they had no real interest in learning to play. I guess it depends on the situation.
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
I have to say, I spent plenty of time with the musician lads and plenty of time with the recording engineers.
The musicians don't stand a snowball's chance in Hades - those engineers were far more multidimensional and talented in every way that counted . . . (sighs deeply in happy remembrance)
Beren! You shock me! What instrument do you play??? Posted by Mama Squirrel (Member # 4155) on :
I love to sing (and most people believe I do it well). I (at least from college and beyond) believed I would marry (or at least wanted to marry) someone who played guitar. That way we can make music together. Pop and I don't play/sing as often as we both would like.
Because I am a singer music is very emotional for me, and always has been. If I am really depressed I listen to Barry Manilow and it makes me cry. Singing just always lifts my mood. Of course there are those songs that are associated with events in my life that make me nostalgic or make me remember the things I learned from my bad choices. Anyway, I ramble.
Also, I am an accountant (you can ask Pop if I am boring). I am not a natural athlete, but I did run track and cross country in high school. I even made it to the varsity team in cross country. I wish I still ran, but I always need someone to make me do it.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
*vouches* Mama Squirrel is not boring!
. . . then again, we don't generally discuss her job much at Shindas. Posted by Beren One Hand (Member # 3403) on :
Shan, I'm generally too busy with my recording engineer duties to play an instrument. Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
Where is that dang "fluttery eyelashes" smilie . . .
Posted by Jaiden (Member # 2099) on :
I usually hear that about how sexy gymnast are from guys and how sexy dancers are from girls... Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Mmmmmmmm. Everything I said back on this thread has just been triple-reinforced.
And in case I didn't say it clearly enough:
Guitar/piano players are hot.
That is all...
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
No, that is NOT all.
Spill!
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Really, rivka, that was all. I just saw a really great concert tonight, and was surprised at my reaction... that these men and women that I could barely even see, because they were making such fabulous music right there in front of me, and holding the entire room (arena) in the palms of their hands... and I was completely attracted to them. It was just unbelievable.
So, sorry, no juicy gossip for you. Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
quote:not so much brass or woodwinds, 'cause the hands pretty much stay in the same place and press keys.
ELJay, think it through....
I played flute for 11 years, and while I am not very good anymore I can still play better than most of the people I went to college with....not that that is saying much...
Yes, I played flute...this one time, at band camp....
(just thought I'd get it out of the way before someone else did...)
My friends would say that I was gay because I didn't play trumpet of saxaphone like they did..then we would split up into sectional rehersals, and off they would go with 45 other guys and 4 girls total...and it would be me and 32 girls in a room together.
Who was gay again?
Think of it this way...I can double and triple tongue, flutter tongue, and I have very nimble fingers. Also, I can hold my breath for over 2 minutes.
You can keep your string players.
Kwea
[ December 06, 2004, 12:26 AM: Message edited by: Kwea ]
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Ah, but kwea, we are not talking skill, we are talking attraction. I played saxophone for a good decade, most of it on bari sax.... so I assure you, my lung capacity is at least as good as yours, and I appreciate the skills involved. But as far a visceral reaction to watching them play... woodwinds and brass will just never measure up. There isn't the body movement, the caressing of the instrument, and since you are actually blowing into something if you're lucky enough that your face isn't completely distorted you still can't have an expression on your face. Part of the attraction is the passion and concentration observed.
So, I stand by my analysis. Go take your flute-playing rationalizations elsewhere.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
quote: So, sorry, no juicy gossip for you.
Darn! Glad you had fun, though. Posted by keepsmilin (Member # 6607) on :
oh wow I can't handle myself around musical men. they are INCREDIBLY sexy. Something about the way they hold and play a guitar plus for me its always intriguing to see a guy passionate about something and interested in it, I'm always drawn to them. And of course, he may write a song for you...
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Okay, my last boyfriend has written, to date, seven songs about me. All since we broke up. So, um, yeah, I think that part is overrated.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Well, ElJay, actually it probably would have been Very attractive to you that he wrote songs about you -- back when he first met you, or leading up to you getting to know him. It is an attraction.
Then, once we start actually dating these musical men and find out they can be jerks, not all the music in the world can shift our opinions.
Kind of like songbirds in nature. The music (call) brings in the females in. But it would take more than that to keep 'em there....
FG
Posted by Chris Bridges (Member # 1138) on :
Suddenly the guitar I'd already requested for Christmas this year is taking on all sorts of possibilities. Wonder if I can master a few ballads by WenchCon...
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
FG -- The way I would put it is, like everything else, timing is everything. Posted by JenniK (Member # 3939) on :
OK something about musicians ( and I am one) ...they have rhythm! That in itself says alot, but I agree with Eljay that there is something about men who play guitar or piano. I went to college with a guy named Jesse... who transfered to Manhattan School of Music as jazz pianist. I called him "Mister Magic Fingers" (we were nothing more than friends) because of the way his fingers moved when he was playing. I could watch him for hours even if all he was doing was playing scaled. It was very intriguing and, for someone who liked him that way, was probably a major turn on !
I play piano. I play woodwinds, and brass (years in drum corps and elementary band and jazz band), but my main instrument in high school (other than my voice) wasn't just one....I was a percussionist (the guys in the section were referred to as dummers). There is just something about a man that can keep up a good rhythm. They may not have an brain cells that work without external stimulus ( at least the ones I went to school with didn't), but they had great rhythm, and that is extremely important. No matter what anyone says...that's what it comes down to... well, that and the caressing the instrument thing. Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Song written for girl (or song dedicated to girl) != song about girl.
Just sayin', is all.
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
True, twinky. If he calls and sings them to my voice mail, which does that count as?
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
I'd say it doesn't matter, 'cause leaving sappy messages on an ex's voicemail is creepy.
Posted by Ralphie (Member # 1565) on :
quote: It's been my experience that women love a magic man more than they love a music man.
I got magic hands, see.
You only say this kind of crap because you know it makes me all a'flutter.
Also, I'll take a side helping of CyberDan. The Biochemicalist. Or whatever.
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
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Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
quote: Or whatever.
Ahhh, descriminating tases as always, ralphie.... Posted by String (Member # 6435) on :
I love a woman with a beuitifull voice. Sends chills down my spine.
[ December 07, 2004, 04:55 AM: Message edited by: String ]
Posted by raventh1 (Member # 3750) on :
Scott R: I think that it has more to do with being a showman or having showmanship.
I have noticed that while I was learning some Magic, I got plenty more attention from women... And while I was doing magic, I was concentrating on doing magic, and not the women, only because I saw what you said did I even think about it, and now I'm starting to see very similar trends with music, or at least the musical performances I was involved in. My only problem with all of this is, I never can really tell when a woman is interested in me, because whenever I'm doing something (music or magic or anything other than dating) I'm always concentrating on what I'm doing at the moment, and that brings me back to showmanship, I personally don't think I'm the best showman, but I've noticed in retrospect that when I'm not worried about how I look or what people are thinking because I'm concentrating on making something happen at that moment, a couple of different things happen, A: It get's easier to perform / do whatever I'm doing, and B: Unless I'm making sure someone is paying attention to a certain thing (magic usually) I don't think I use the part of my brain I would usually be using, the part I use for analytical thought.
Hmm, Maybe it's that part of my brain that gets me in trouble with women? -hehehe
Posted by ? (Member # 2319) on :
I've borrowed some drums from a friend for the past 3 months. I remembered this thread and was wondering what women thought about drummers?
Do they attract women? I know they got rhythm, but is that enough?
Like I said earlier, I'm not asking these questions to decide whether or not I'll play. I love playing and will do it regardless of the answer. It's just nice to know. It might come in handy sometime.
? Posted by quidscribis (Member # 5124) on :
I used to be a successful accountant. I guess that means I only used to be boring. There's hope for me yet!!!!
Fahim can't sing worth beans. He's off-pitch, not just flat or sharp, but by a note and a third or more. He doesn't know the tunes and couldn't hope to approach them on a windless day. And yet. . . He sings along with everything - what's on the radio, the songs in the Bollywood musicals, everything - and he does it with such gusto and fun that it's a blast!
What makes it even better is that I can sing, uhm, about as passibly well as he can. So he doesn't care that I'm butchering it as badly as him.
The family that squelches music together stays together. My new motto. Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
? -- drummers are probably one of the most popular members of the band, as far as women attraction.
Just think - Ringo Starr. He was always my favorite Beatle.
I personally own a drum set (although I'm female) just because I wanted so badly for my son to learn drums -- that rhythm ability is just so awesome.
I don't know if playing drums alone is enough to attract women, if you are really a jerk the rest of the time. But it certainly won't hurt your love life any to play.
(although many women tend to stereotype drummers as 'wild and free' spirits that won't ever commit, etc. etc.)
Farmgirl
Posted by Megan (Member # 5290) on :
quote: I remembered this thread and was wondering what women thought about drummers?
Do you know how you can tell the stage is level? Drool is coming out of both sides of the drummer's mouth.
Kidding! Sorry! I couldn't resist!
Seriously, as long as you're passionate about it for itself (and not for the chicks it might attract), then it's probably at least a mildly attractive trait.
Posted by kojabu (Member # 8042) on :
I personally have no opinion on drummers, but my friend has this theory that fits in with the rest of the thread. She said that if someone is really into the music, they can project their liking of the music onto the artist themselves.
Posted by Astaril (Member # 7440) on :
See, I think I'm attracted to musicians because they have good rhythm which means they can likely dance (at least mostly) on the beat. Being a dancer and musician myself, it drives me *crazy* dancing with unrhythmical people at ceilidhs or dances or wherever. Drummers would logically seem to be my first choice musicians then, although thinking about it and trying to choose, I think jazz musicians are really the most attractive. Something about that whole improv business, y'know. Hmmmm. So a jazz drummer then, is what I need...
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
I think that a lot of these things reinforce each other. ElJay mentioned the physical reaction (or at least alluded to it) that happens sometimes, but she also referred to the musicians she saw as holding the audience in their hands....which is a confidence thing as well. Showmanship and confidence play a part as well, I think.
In order to be a good musician, good rhythm is key...and rhythm is important to MANY things, dontcha think?
On a less physical plane, there are a lot of things that seem to either be true about most people who play, or appear to be true to most people . Musicians seem to be more in touch with the "touchy feely" side of things, and are confident enough to play in public...even if it happens most in large groups.
Ans a lot of women are interested in music, so that gives the men something to talk about that the women actually like to hear about.
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