Hatrack River Forum: A giggle for the SAHPs (and others)

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Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :

On Bedrest

Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :

[ROFL]

Posted by whiskysunrise (Member # 6819) on :

Very funny!!! [ROFL]

Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :

[ROFL]

Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :

[Frown]

That's a little too true to be [ROFL]

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[ December 01, 2004, 02:33 AM: Message edited by: ketchupqueen ]

Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :

*hug*

Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :

Ouch! [Frown]

[Edit: this a big reason why I can't be a mom right now. I just couldn't deal with it. (Actually, I'm pretty sure I'd end up curled in the corner in a fetal position.) All you strong and resilient SAHPs have big armfuls of admiration from this corner!]

[ December 01, 2004, 09:42 AM: Message edited by: Sara Sasse ]

Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :

quote:
Actually, I'm pretty sure I'd end up curled in the corner in a fetal position.

This is a legitimate coping technique. I've used it myself on more than one occasion.

Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :

rivka [Kiss]

Posted by mr_porteiro_head (Member # 4644) on :

I can't figure out what SAHP is. Please enlighten this thickie.

Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :

Stay At Home Parent

Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :

[Big Grin]

Posted by Amka (Member # 690) on :

When I had toddlers and was pregnant, I always laughed when they said "Don't pick up anything over 15 pounds."

Other than the early part of my pregnancy, this is like the coolest pregnancy ever. All of my kids are in school. I have one old enough to babysit. I'm thoroughly experienced, and well rested from having wee little ones.

On to a serious thing. Our suburban/urban mentality I think is one of the things that has made parenting harder and more stressful than it used to be. We move away from our families, and so don't have any local backup. Many of our communities are so loosely knit that we don't feel comfortable relying on neighbors in those kinds of circumstances when we really need help, and don't expect to help our neighbors much when they need help.

This is most true in areas that I think need that togetherness the most: apartment complexes. Full of poor to low middle income, these are the ones living in areas of high turn over and sometimes high crime. They are the ones having children too. I know, because that is exactly where we were when our children were young. The thing that made a difference for us was our church community. But most of the people I knew didn't have that.

It DOES take a village, and we've lost that to a large degree.

Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :

*is taking around Christmas cards and plates of cookies with an invitation to the creche exhibit at church, her phone number, and an offer of friendship and help whenever it is needed to everyone in her apartment building tonight*

Posted by AvidReader (Member # 6007) on :

:applauds ketchupqueen:

Posted by dread pirate romany (Member # 6869) on :

This really is so true....I always laugh when people tell me to hire a mother's helper. With what money?
Or the other day when I picked up Andrew (26 lbs) and B. said, "You shouldn't be picking him up anymore". UM, sure honey. Whatever.And where were you whenh I brought in the groceries last week? Anyway, my midwife says that up to 50 lbs is OK, if proper lifting technique is used.

Amka what you say is so true. We have to do this alone, it stresses us out, when we get impatient or depressed wel, we can get this nice pill but no way to pay for what we really need, a mother's helper, monthly housecleaning, and chance to take a poop by oursleves....
Um, sorry, I'm rambling, but this subject is near and dear to my heart, I will confess that I just yelled at my oldest two for playing around instead of doing their chores, I am a crappy mom these last few days and I need a bloody break and if I get to go to work tonight and take care of someone elses kids without taking along any of my own that will have to suffice for this week.
Uh, sorry again, I need to stop.

Posted by Don Driscoll (Member # 4488) on :

I really wish I had a copy of it scanned in, but when my wife was pregnant with our second, someone gave her a very similar cartoon. It has a doctor advising a woman to stay off of her feet for the rest of her pregnancy along with a pregnant woman walking around on her knees...