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Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Oh my gosh.

I just was reading the morning news on internet and found this:
Van crash kills 7 Utah students and realized that one of those students is the son of a very very close friend of mine.

I'm just shaking with grief for him. I need to call my friend in Utah, but have no idea what I should say, or even for sure how to get ahold of him.

This is just absolutely horrible. His son meant everything to him.....


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[ September 27, 2005, 10:39 AM: Message edited by: Farmgirl ]
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
I am sorry, Farmgirl.

Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :
Man, that poor guy. Do you have a phone number for him? If so, I'd recommend calling him, letting him know that you saw the news, and telling him how sorry you are.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
I have his number. I'm not sure if he is out at the farm, or in Logan at his in-town house. I'm assuming Logan. And I'm assuming other family will be there.

I'm waiting. I have to keep reminding myself they are an hour earlier than us here. Utah State webcam shows that it is still dark out there.

Gives me time to compose myself and try to think of what I'm going to say...


(and I hope other Utahans from here will help me find out service information, so I can send flowers, etc.)
Posted by Troubadour (Member # 83) on :
So sorry, Farmgirl, my thoughts are with you and your friend.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Oh man. Can I start my day over? I just called Utah and talked to my friend about his son's death. It was a heartbreaking call.

As soon as I got off that call, I got a call from my mom, crying. Her favorite and closest cousin just had a massive heart attack last night and died.

This is going to be a very long day...

Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
[Frown] *hug* I'm so sorry.
Posted by Stan the man (Member # 6249) on :
Posted by whiskysunrise (Member # 6819) on :
Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :

So sorry, Farmgirl. [Frown]
Posted by Diosmel Duda (Member # 2180) on :
Farmgirl, my thoughts are with you. I wish I could be with you, but I probably wouldn't know what to say to help you get through this. At least I could give you a hug or something.
Posted by Narnia (Member # 1071) on :
What a terrible crash. [Frown] That makes me feel terrible. I'm sorry for your friend Farmgirl, I'll be keeping all of those families in my prayers, including your mom. (((Farmgirl)))
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Thank you

It is just hard on me because I don't think I'm very good at comforting people. I really want to , and all, but I never know how to best comfort. It isn't my gift.

And here two people very close to me both need comfort and need me to be "strong" for them, and I just know there really isn't anything I can do to make things better....

Posted by ? (Member # 2319) on :
I'm attending USU right now. My roommate knew 3 or 4 of the kids who died. It's been really hard on him.

? [Cry]
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
(((hugs))) ~~sympathy~~ I'm sorry. [Frown]
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Give your roommate a hug from me, ? . (Man, it's hard to use your username in a sentence without it looking like punctuation.)

I imagine it will be hard on all of USU for awhile -- that is a huge loss.

Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
That sucks. Hugs all 'round.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Another one of the students originally on the "injured" list has died.

The Leader has also updated their information.

Posted by Olivet (Member # 1104) on :
I'm so sorry.
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
I don't mean to be rude here, or insensitive.

But please, everyone, buckle up!
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
That is so shocking for you to have both of those happen in one day.

Farmgirl, I think it is a common thing for the one *not* directly hurt in a tragedy to feel incompetent at comforting. I think you are able to do far more for them than you realize. I'm sure your friend appreciated your call--that you were watching, aware, and took the time out to make the call. You can't take their pain away, but taking the time to let them cry on your shoulder means a lot, I'm sure.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Thank you (and KQ - I agree!)

Also, from what I could find on the University web site, the instructor/driver who was killed, age 45, has six children. They have all lost a dad.

So there are lots of people to pray for today.

Posted by Megan (Member # 5290) on :

I know what you mean about being comforting; I don't feel like I do a good job comforting people, either. I think bev has the right of it, though; just making sure the person that you're comforting doesn't feel alone is a big thing.
Posted by Father Time (Member # 7985) on :
Farmgirl and everyone who feels pain or greif at this tragic loss--all of our prayers are with you and all the familes and friends.

I appreciate your compassion and share a father, my son means the entire world to me and if I lost him I don't think I would ever heal.

Son, wherever you are right now---I love you with every breath I take.
Posted by School4ever (Member # 5575) on :
I spent time last night trying to find the wife of one of the accident victems to tell her her husband was in the hospital. I am just glad that he is still alive. They have only been married 38 days.
Posted by plaid (Member # 2393) on :
Condolences to all

[Frown] [Frown]
Posted by MyrddinFyre (Member # 2576) on :
Oh man, my class of 15 takes fieldtrips like that in those vans all the time. Hugs and good thoughts for everyone [Frown]
Posted by ? (Member # 2319) on :
Well, it turns out one of the kids who died was from Payson, UT. He lived down the street from one of my other roommates.

Supposedly quite a few people were going to the vigil tonight. Sadly I couldn't make it, but I imagine tomorrow on campus won't be to joyful.

Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
School4ever -- how are the two survivors doing? Are they still very critical, or do you think they will survive?

Link to all the information on USU web site
Posted by whiskysunrise (Member # 6819) on :
Farmgirl, a lot of times it helps the other person just to know that you are there. You are probably doing more than you know.
Posted by School4ever (Member # 5575) on :
They are still critical. The one I don't know has woken up. The person I do know is in really bad shape, but at this point they think he will survive.
Posted by romanylass (Member # 6306) on :
Oh no. I am so so sorry.

It is just hard on me because I don't think I'm very good at comforting people. I really want to , and all, but I never know how to best comfort. It isn't my gift.

Just calling is good comforting. So many people will be afraid to do just that out of discomfort or fear of "saying the wrong thing". And keep calling or dropping notes in the months to come, it will help.

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