I remember my date looked like a princess, and I was mesmerized. It was 22 years ago!
Posted by pH (Member # 1350) on :
My date for junior prom ditched me to go dance with a girl he had a crush on.
Sure, we were only going as friends, but it still struck me as rude.
I couldn't get a date to senior prom, and I didn't go.
-pH
Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
Having mono, the rest I've blocked out.
Posted by pfresh85 (Member # 8085) on :
I recall them playing only rap music and me wondering why since it was 98% white kids. I also remember not eating anything because the catered food sucked.
Posted by Shanna (Member # 7900) on :
My dress. I loved my dress.
I try and block out the fact that we had people who showed up in our group without telling everyone, or that the resturant sucked, or that my boyfriend and I were only still together cause he had promised to be my date.
But my dress war freaking amazing.
Posted by Avadaru (Member # 3026) on :
I was floating, it was wonderful. A very happy night, except that I stepped on a nail after ditching my heels at a party. Fyfe and I got ready together before the dance, I felt like a princess, went with a group of my best friends, and had a wonderful time in general.
(This was my senior prom - I also went to prom freshman and junior years...they were great, too. )
Posted by El JT de Spang (Member # 7742) on :
I remember having to leave the party early to take my girlfriend home, then going back to the party to hang with my friends.
And a drunk tramp tried to get us in trouble with the administration by claiming her date (my friend) had spiked her orange juice with vodka, unbeknownst to her. Gimme a break.
Posted by Lyrhawn (Member # 7039) on :
I remember my girlfriend at the time straightened her hair and it flowed down to her thighs, and that was with a quarter of it wrapped up in a fancy hair bun thing. And she looked like some sort of physical manifestation of beauty. Also her dress has sparkly things on it and it got all over everything. There were sparkles in my brother's car (which I borrowed) and the couch in my living room for literally a year and a half after the prom.
Posted by Telperion the Silver (Member # 6074) on :
I went out with a girl. That was odd in itself. I danced. Again, odd for the time. I had a good time. VERY odd. Shame I hadn't met my boyfriend yet, taking him would have been a blast.
Posted by jeniwren (Member # 2002) on :
Both of my proms were disaster, but probably only because I wasn't very mature. Both times I went with boys I didn't want to go with, though both of them were nice. For sr prom, I took my boyfriend, who, being a sophmore, wouldn't have otherwise been able to go. He and I had broken up the week before, but I didn't have the heart to break the date, since he was so obviously looking forward to it. I don't know how he felt about it afterward, but since it was clear I didn't want to be there with him, I doubt he had a very good time. I should ask him sometime...he was really close friends with my brother, and they've recently gotten back in contact. He lives not too far south of me now.
The other boy (for jr. prom) was just kind of awkward, in that he had feelings for me that I didn't reciprocate. We hung out a lot at school, though, so when he asked, I didn't think to say no. It would have been fun if we hadn't had this crush on me, and hadn't insisted on being so obvious about it.
I loved both of the dresses I wore, but loved *buying* the dresses more than anything else. I still remember those adventures. The jr. prom dress we bought on our summer vacation trip to Washington DC. It was something like 90% off, and fit me perfectly -- a real feat for the time, as I was a sub-zero. Eighty lbs and 5'2" made it hard to find clothes that fit. For sr. prom, we found the dress on our vacation to Edinburg. The two girls who fitted me in the little shop giggled madly the whole time and wanted us to talk so they could hear our American accents. One of the girls was not from the city, so her accent was so thick as to be nearly incomprehensible, which was not made any better by the giggling. It was wonderful. Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
Shouting the lyrics of a Nirvana song into the ear of my friend's date who didn't know the lyrics. Not really knowing them myself.
I would say that prom sucked. I haven't tried to go to another formal dance since.
Posted by The Pixiest (Member # 1863) on :
The fact I didn't go cuz I was dating a girl... (on the sly)
Posted by Cali-Angel-Cat (Member # 8799) on :
Ummmmm.....
Getting surprised by my then boyfriend with the last limo in the city.
Then when we went to sit down at our tables, I sat down and, no joke, my dress came off! Thank God for tux jakets and fast thinking friends!
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
I didn't go.
I have been to formal dances since, however, and they were wonderful.
Balls are all about socializing, which means it lives or dies depending on the company you are keeping.
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
I can't stand dances. I hate them. Dances are by extroverts for extroverts. They involve trying to get into somebody's idea of a good song mix while I stand in a circle trying to talk to anyone else through lip-reading. Then the ones with any clue socially suddenly disappear, leaving me usually facing someone's back until I do a slow, embarrassed shuffle toward the door.
Kind of like a bad day on Hatrack, now that I think about it.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
I don't disagree with the "by extroverts, for extroverts" thing.
AFR, what would you do instead of dances? This is a legitimate question, because I need to help plan activities soon for a mixed group(just got made Beehive advisor). (Probably need to start a thread about that.)
Posted by pfresh85 (Member # 8085) on :
I preferred more casual dances myself, rather than formal ones. I think it's because with formal dances everyone usually has dates (and you dance only with your date), but with casual dances you can dance with anyone since no one has dates. So yeah. That's my opinion on it.
Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
I didn't go, either. No guy asked me.
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
Eh, don't put a bunch of Beehives through a dance. Aren't they supposed to wait until they're 14?
You could do something formal, like pairing them off and teaching them some ballroom dance steps, or just basic dance etiquette. But just from having 3 sisters, I never heard any good comments about those kinds of evenings.
Take them on a trip or a hike somewhere where the focus isn't a forced social situation. Let them be themselves.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
I am actually very excited for all of this. I'm also glad that my new bishop trusts me enough to let me near the youth, despite my appalling life example.
Posted by Evie3217 (Member # 5426) on :
I enjoyed my prom, although I went with my ex-boyfriend . We're still good friends and we had a great time. A bunch of my friends all went together and we enjoyed ourselves.
The thing I most remember about prom is spending most of it in a little nook that we found away from the dance floor. They played bad rap most of the time, so we found refuge in this little room.
The best part of the night was the afterprom though. We had big bouncy things and could just spend hours hanging out with friends. Our school locks us in so that we can't drink after prom, so we had to be there until 3 AM. It was a good time though, let me tell you.
Posted by UofUlawguy (Member # 5492) on :
kat, you have an appalling life example? Cool. I wish I had an appalling life example.
Posted by erosomniac (Member # 6834) on :
Heh.
Celaeno, what do YOU remember? -_-
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
My strongest memory of prom is the pre-prom picture taking, because i looked so nice and i never get dressed/made-up and it was such a novelty.
Second to that is the guy i took, a friend from theatre (didn't go to the school) and how i kinda was a bad date because i had a huge crush on a guy at my school and was eyeing him up the whole night. My friend was a dear and a real trooper, though.
Posted by maui babe (Member # 1894) on :
What I remember most is my date falling asleep on the drive home.
Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
quote:Originally posted by Ela: I didn't go, either. No guy asked me.
Aw. No guy asked me, but I wanted to go anyway, so I asked a guy that I was friends with, but was not romantically involved with.
I wanted the "prom experience", and kept getting annoyed when he kept giggling through all the slow dances.
That's what I remember most.
Posted by Lyrhawn (Member # 7039) on :
My best friend asked me to go to her prom with her as friends.
It was my third prom. I maxed out on high school dances at that, that was after 6 homecomings and 3 proms. Oy.
Posted by FIJC (Member # 5505) on :
I had a blast...me and my best friends all were on prom court, and my date that night just happened to be as well. The dress I wore was white and strapless...but by the end of the night, the entire bottom hem was black after I danced all night.
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
I remember not going.
I was still recovering from the worst of my depression, and I also didn't know very many girls, since I went to an all-boys school (Thanks, Dad!). Although my life was actually a good deal better than it had been a couple of years before, I was still that crazy dark depressive kid, social-wise. (This was back before being goth was cool. I would so have had it made fifteen years later.) Overcoming the reputation I built for myself during my depressed stage was simply not possible in high school. I had to wait for a fresh start in college for that.
In college I did go to the Spring Formal with my girlfriend the one opportunity I had. (Sophomore year. Junior year I took off, and senior year I was in a different state from my girlfriend and focused mostly on graduation and graduate schools.) It was absolutely wonderful. A dance is only for extroverts when you are single. When you are attached to someone, then you have nothing to fear, and it can be a wonderful experience.
Posted by MrSquicky (Member # 1802) on :
Icky, Goth was never cool. It's just that uncool kids gravitated to goth at a certain point.
In the interests of making up for all the "I didn't go/I had a bad time" ones, here are my more memorable ones:
My Junior Prom (Jackie): Probably her signing "Keeping Out of Michief Now" at the after-party. Very sultry song that went well with her off the shoulder black dress. I nearly passed out from lack of blood going to my brain.
Her Junior Prom (Tracy): Didn't really know her beforehand. She needed a date, was a dancer (I both love to dance and love dancers), and I was ever a popular rent-a-date. I remember thinking the equivilent of "Sweet mahumba-jumba" when I first saw her in her amazing greenish blue dress. I also remember I was in the midst of ending a relationship at the time, so while nothing "happened", we looked for any excuse to touch each other, especially the next day at the amusement park.
Her Senior Prom (Brooke): Her falling asleep on my chest while the Live (the band) CD played over and over in the background while I couldn't fall asleep. It was all kinds of romantic and stuff, but after the third time through, I really came to hate that CD.
I didn't actually go to my Senior Prom. Neither of the girls I was dating were worth the expense in my opinion.
Her Senior Prom (Jen): Definitely her popping out of her dress during "Jump Around". I and another male friend of hers moved so quickly that I don't think anyone else even noticed it happened.
Posted by Dr Strangelove (Member # 8331) on :
I remember (this was all of a few months ago) playing cards during the crappy music, then teaching my date and the couple we were with how to Cha-Cha ... but as there wasn't the right beat, I had to improvise, so we cha-cha-ed to rap music. And I remember my date (also my really good friend. Not girlfriend) looking absolutely stunning. And me looking not half bad in a tux. Maybe I remember this because the pictures are standing on the headboard of my bed ...
Posted by kojabu (Member # 8042) on :
Mr Squick, that's sad that you came to hate the Live CD. Which one was it?
As for my prom, I remember dancing with my then boyfriend and the pre picture taking at his house.
Posted by Brian J. Hill (Member # 5346) on :
I was a really shy guy in High School when it came to girls. The girl I took to my Senior prom was a really, really good friend of mine. When I met her, she was pregnant, but didn't know it until a few months later. The father wasn't very supportive, so I became the guy she called at night when she needed someone to talk to. As a result, we became very close friends--and I learned a LOT of facts about pregnancy and childbirth that I'd classify as Too Much Information. Anyway, by the time prom came around, her daughter (Madeleine) was 6 months old and breastfeeding. My date left Madeleine with her mother for the night. The most memorable moment was about midnight, in the middle of a nice romantic slow dance, my date turned to me and said:
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"Brian, I've got to get home soon. My boobs are about to pop."
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
quote:In the interests of making up for all the "I didn't go/I had a bad time" ones, . . .
hmm?
It seemed to me like the strong majority of posts were positive. Even in the case of mine, I mentioned going to my Spring formal in college, which was basically a prom for college students, and having a wonderful time.
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
The most memorable thing about my prom was the handful of jiveable songs; only six or eight people of the hundred-plus in attendance knew swing and/or ballroom dancing, and I was one of them -- we'd all taken classes together. I think it was Ricky Martin, Livin' la Vida Loca, of all things, and nobody else was expecting anyone to actually be able to dance to it. We turned heads. It was a blast. Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
quote:Originally posted by Tante Shvester:
quote:Originally posted by Ela: I didn't go, either. No guy asked me.
Aw. No guy asked me, but I wanted to go anyway, so I asked a guy that I was friends with, but was not romantically involved with.
I wanted the "prom experience", and kept getting annoyed when he kept giggling through all the slow dances.
That's what I remember most.
I don't remember that I wanted to go enough that I would have tried to rope a guy I was friends with into going with me, actually. And I probably wasn't brave enough for that in those days, anyway. Posted by Celaeno (Member # 8562) on :
Let's see.
I remember my date pointing out the back of my dress to all of his friends and saying that it's the most scandalous thing he's EVER seen me wear.
Hi, erosomniac.
Posted by Ophelia (Member # 653) on :
Realizing I had locked my keys in the car when we went to Dennys afterwards. Which meant we stayed there all night until I could call my mom to bring the spare key in the morning.
Also at Dennys, our waiter had the nickname Boo Radley but had not read To Kill a Mockingbird. And at 5 in the morning, it became hilarious to just yell "Boooooooooo Radley!"
*thinks*
Actually, almost all of my fun prom memories are from Dennys. I mean, I had fun at the actual prom, but nothing that's stuck with me.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
I have lots of great memories from Denny's.
LawGuy: According to a sister-in-law. I'm cheered that it doesn't seem to be the general opinion, though. Posted by Storm Saxon (Member # 3101) on :
I went to U2's concert for their "Unforgettable Fire" album rather than go to my prom. Posted by Tresopax (Member # 1063) on :
I remember not going, being very pleased with that decision, and wondering why anyone would willingly put themselves through it...
I still feel the same way. Posted by Rico (Member # 7533) on :
Went without a date with all my friends, I felt like it was just one of those American experiences I didn't want to miss. I'm so glad I went:
- Danced with 2 girls who are still very special to me.
- Had a great time mingling with all my friends and acquaintances
- Have a lot of pictures we took at prom which I looked at not too long ago and made me realize how much weight I've actually lost since I started working out... wow.
Good memories Posted by TheHumanTarget (Member # 7129) on :
quote: I went out with a girl. That was odd in itself. I danced. Again, odd for the time. I had a good time. VERY odd. Shame I hadn't met my boyfriend yet, taking him would have been a blast.
Telp, are you a guy or a girl?
Posted by Tstorm (Member # 1871) on :
quote: Telp, are you a guy or a girl?
*chuckles* <-- in a friendly way. For some strange reason, this question brought a smile to my face.
Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
Me too.
Posted by Tstorm (Member # 1871) on :
The entire post is quite confusing, if you don't know Telp here at Hatrack. He is a guy.
Posted by MrSquicky (Member # 1802) on :
kojabu, I don't know the name of the CD. It had ummm..."Shiptown" on it.
Icky, I saw a majority of negative ones and expected things like Tres's
quote:I remember not going, being very pleased with that decision, and wondering why anyone would willingly put themselves through it..
I find that when Hatrack is made up primarily of peopel with the same sort of social background and I try to make it clear that the way they experienced things is not the way everyone experienced them, as too often seems to me to be the assumption.
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
I was forced to go.
But at least my date had wonderful manners-- pulled out my chair, got my dinner for me, was very old-fashioned and romantic.
*sigh* I really didn't want to go.
I enjoyed the Military Balls we had in JROTC much better. Posted by MattB (Member # 1116) on :
My tuxedo had tails. That was cool. And though my date and I were at the dance for two solid hours, I don't think we actually danced once. It was held in the state capitol rotunda, so we spent most of our time wandering around looking at column capitals.
A couple of us waged a campaign that year for the theme to be Unchained Melody, but we were squashed in favor of yet _another_ Peter Cetera song. I can't believe my senior class could look themselves in their collective mirror after voting against the Righteous Brothers.
*shrug* On the whole, it was kind of a ritual; not nearly the most memorable event of my high school experience.
Posted by J T Stryker (Member # 6300) on :
I remember that I was a low down slim bag sophomore year and I ditched my date... The sad thing is, she still speaks to me, it's the girl i ended up with that hasn't said a civil word to me since that spring...
Then Junior year I went with a friend and behaved myself...
I hope to god this year i don't get roped into going again...
Posted by beatnix19 (Member # 5836) on :
hmmm... I went 4 times, I remember that. The 1st time was memerable because my girlfriend had a full size conversion van. That was, um... neat. Very stereotypical prom happenings that night.
But the most memorable moment was my freshman year of college. Yea, I went back. the girl I had been on again-off again for the better part of two years had been stood up two days before prom. I was still crazy about her so I offered to come back. I got my tux from a theater depatment of a local school. I made dinner reseravtions, booked limo and the whole nine yards all on two days notice. Got there and with in five minutes she had left me standing with an old teacher and spent the rest of the night dancing with some choir kid who weighed about 32 lbs soaking wet. I was home that night by 11:30. SUCKED!!!!
Posted by Omega M. (Member # 7924) on :
I went only during my junior year, which was the year for everyone to go. I went with a girl who was SO pretty she was actually only my third choice, after two more average-looking girls that I thought I had a better chance with either said no or proved unreachable by phone. Unfortunately, for various reasons I was too nervous to have a good time and never really talked to the girl again.
Posted by Wendybird (Member # 84) on :
The guy I asked dumped me a few weeks before prom so I ditched him for his friend and regretted not calling my best guy friend to come with me instead. My date and I were friends but the night wasn't anything special. I think that would be about the only thing I'd go back and change if I could go back in time.
Posted by pH (Member # 1350) on :
Oh, yeah. I also went to prom sophomore year because some guy we met at a club had a crush on my best friend, and she wouldn't go alone, so he set me up with one of his friends.
He brought me roses, but he didn't make a huge impression. Perhaps the night was awkward. In fact, it probably was because I had a thing for one of the other friends in that little group, but he refused to speak to me after almost killing me in a rollover car accident.
I had fun with my friend though. But my dress junior year was MUCH nicer than my dress sophomore year. It was two pieces. A long black skirt and a deep red corset top. I think. Maybe I can find a picture around here somewhere.
-pH
Posted by Megan (Member # 5290) on :
Never went. I'm in the same boat as Ela; nobody asked me.
My best friend, though, had a private crusade against prom, and threw a party for all of us nerdlies not going (both junior and senior years). She called it Morp. We dressed in jeans and flannels, had dinner at McDonalds, and watched anime movies.
It was a good time.
The worst part about the prom/morp thing, though, is that it turns out a boy who might've asked me didn't because he thought I felt the same way as my friend about it.
Posted by Brinestone (Member # 5755) on :
I didn't go my junior year and hadn't been asked my senior year either. My good friend had a total crush on this guy, and I told her she should ask him to go to prom with her. We both knew we were dying to get dressed up and go, and I told her I would find someone to ask if she asked him. She said okay.
That night, I called the only guy from church who was my age and asked him to go with me. He said yes. I then called said friend. She had "sort of" asked her guy if he was doing anything Saturday night, and he said he had plans, so she chickened out.
Now I'm stuck going with a guy I hardly know and don't really like, and I don't even have a group to go with. Luckily, I knew he was a nice guy and wouldn't treat me bad, but yeah. More like a family friend than anything else.
Now that I had a date, I frantically went looking for a dress. We shopped and shopped and shopped, and there was NOTHING my size that met my (LDS) modesty requirements. Finally my mom ended up sewing me a dress in a hurry. It ended up okay, but it looked more like a bridesmaid dress than a prom dress.
I did love what the hairdresser did with my hair, though.
We ended up going with a larger group of acquaintences to sort-of friends. When we got there, the table for the group wasn't big enough for all of us. My date and I, along with another couple, ended up in a booth in the corner, far from the main table. The guy in the other couple was LDS too, but he hadn't been to church in a long time. We sort of knew him, but neither of us knew his date at all. Talk was awkward, food was expensive.
We finished dinner before the dance was supposed to start. The guy from the other couple went out to his car to get a smoke. My date and I awkwardly try to find something to talk about while we wait for the dance to start.
At the dance: Another LDS sort-of-friend (let's call him Joe) is there with his date, who is also LDS (let's call her Amy). My date knows Amy better than I do. We say hello and dance one dance. Since neither of us really likes dancing, we go to get drinks and take a walk. We notice Amy abandoned by Joe, who is now dancing with another girl. I'm guessing he wanted to take this other girl to the prom, but his mother probably wouldn't let him.
So we sat at a table and kept Amy company so she wouldn't feel too bad about being abandoned by Joe.
After Prom was awesome, though. That was the one part of the night I enjoyed without hesitation.
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