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Originally posted by Chreese Sroup:
Please answer at least one, if not both. If you are answering both, please give objective answers.

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Hehe, objective answers for a subjective thing? Good luck finding them. And since I'm not a woman, I'll back out of the thread.
 

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Posted by Teshi (Member # 5024) on :
 
Can you add an option along the lines of musical talent being a bonus (and thus like extra points) but not a necessity? Because that's my answer.
 

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Posted by Chreese Sroup (Member # 8248) on :
 

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Originally posted by Corwin:
Hehe, objective answers for a subjective thing? Good luck finding them. And since I'm not a woman, I'll back out of the thread.

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"Uninfluenced by emotions or personal prejudices: an objective critic. See Synonyms at fair"
 

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Posted by Brinestone (Member # 5755) on :
 
I think guys who are musically talented are fun, but musical talent is in no way a deal breaker for me. There are so many more important things to look for in a person than whether they can play piano or guitar or sing.

So 1c for me.
 

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Posted by kmbboots (Member # 8576) on :
 
I'm with Teshi. Answering question one I would say, "B". Having musical talent is great (there is a lot of joy in making music with loved ones)but not essential. For me, though, being able to appreciate music is pretty essential. Plus, most men don't find me attractive until they hear me sing anyway.
 

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Posted by seespot (Member # 7388) on :
 
1. c

I did marry a musician. My husband studied vocal performance and sang in a few operas. However, because it was his major and profession, he didn't sing "for fun." In some ways I would rather him not be quite so musically talented. If he had been more like me, we probably would have sung together more than once. As things stand, singing that duet put some strain on the marriage.
 

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Posted by Coccinelle (Member # 5832) on :
 
2c
Musical talent is a way to get my attention, but by no means the reason for any relationship There are so many things that matter more.
 

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Posted by El JT de Spang (Member # 7742) on :
 

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However, because it was his major and profession, he didn't sing "for fun."

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I've heard similar stories from several people who are friends with 'professional' musicians (by which I mean opera/theater professional, not rock band professional, although it can happen with both) who are very particular about the environment in which they sing.

They like everything to be just so, and that's a little weird to me. I consider myself a musician, and since I do get paid for it I guess you could call me a professional, but I love to sing. And to perform. Anytime I'm at someone else's house and I see a guitar or piano, I can't walk past it without playing. I'll sing anywhere, for anyone.

My brother and uncle are also guitar players and singers, and for several Christmases we had a little family jam session type thing where the three of us would play and sing for everyone else. My aunt, who was classically trained and big into musical theater for years always refused to sing with us. I never got that.
 

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Posted by pH (Member # 1350) on :
 
1. c.

I'm musically talented, and I don't care. Actually, it's kind of nice if a guy can play the clarinet or the piano or something. It's nice if a guy knows about music, but if he's in a band, it's likely to cause more problems than anything else. Actually, being in a band is rather likely to keep you out of a relationship with me.

Of course, I also get embarassed when a guy performs music for me. The one time I did have a relationship with a guy in a band, I told him that if I was at his performances or practices, he was under no circumstaces allowed to focus on me while performing.

I'm weird, I guess.

-pH
 

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Posted by Sartorius (Member # 7696) on :
 
1b

It's not so much that I LOOK for musical ability, but I tend to be attracted to it.
 

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Posted by Narnia (Member # 1071) on :
 
Same with me Sartorius. I'm going to say 1. b-c on that because it is attractive to me and it tends to make me more attractive to the guy...because it's my profession and I talk about it a lot.

But, I have dated guys who were NOT musically talented and instead admired my talent with great gusto. That's nice too actually.
 

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Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
 
I'm a music student, so I like to think I'm musically talented.

I prefer dating someone who is musically talented, but it's absolutely not a necessity. Just a bonus. Actually, I haven't dated a single singer yet, and that's what I find most attractive in a guy. So! I guess that tells you something.
 

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Posted by Melissa Dedinová (Member # 7890) on :
 
Musical ability is at the top of my list of nonessential but nice qualities in a mate. If I could give my husband a gift he doesn't have, it would be that. One more talent, however, would probably give him off the charts levels of manly perfection and he would cease to exist. And I like him existing, really. If he didn't read, though, I wouldn't have considered him for a minute. I'm ok with being the one to sing our kids to sleep at night.
 

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Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
 
Musical ability isn't about sealing the deal, it's about getting them to read your resume in the first place. Music is to the human what the croaking is to the bullfrog, or the sweet song of the cicada. Like poetry, music is all about the seduction.

Really though, we can't all wear short skirts and shove kleenex down our shirts. Men who want to be noticed have to work for it
 

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Posted by Melissa Dedinová (Member # 7890) on :
 
BtL - That's how my husband got me. Doesn't work for you? *surprise*
 

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Posted by Allegra (Member # 6773) on :
 
I am a music major and I am either 1a or 1b. I would hate to say that I would not be with someone because of their lack of tallent or interest, but I do not know if I could be with someone who did not understand wny I love Bach. Music is such a huge part of my life and it would be nice to have my significant other share it with me.
 

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Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
 
Actually, now that I think about it, women go all doe-eyed over a kilt. So maybe the skirt thing works afterall.

Maybe... maybe we're not so different after all...
 

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Posted by Melissa Dedinová (Member # 7890) on :
 
Maybe you're not using enough kleenex?
 

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Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
 
Socks, honey, socks.
 

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Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
 
Allegra, that means we truly can't be together, because I really don't get your love for Bach. Oh well, I like boys anyway.


I'm not sure whether or not I'm musically talented (I played cello for 8 years), but it's deffinatly a bonus if a guy is musically talented, or at least if he has similar intrests to me, which basically means he has studied quite a bit of music. All of the guys I've had serious crushes on (so George Weasley doesn't count), have either been musicians, or interested in music in other ways.


If he looks good in a skirt, probably a bonus too, but i'm a bit picky on my plaid tartans.
 

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Posted by Melissa Dedinová (Member # 7890) on :
 
To tell the truth, we mostly just insulted each other in witty ways until we realized we were perfect for each other.

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That, and the socks. (Always coordinate with the shoes and pants, you understand.)

(aside: what the heck is the phlegm on the end of my name? if this keeps on i'm going to have to find my lissande password again)
 

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Posted by Shanna (Member # 7900) on :
 
In high school, choir and vocal training were a big part of my life. I didn't do well with guys who couldn't appreciate sophisticated music or my dedication to it.

I've since quit and I find I don't care so much anymore. My boyfriend is very talented at the guitar and does alot of writing in a classic and technical way. If anything, sometimes I feel silly because my tastes are not nearly as sophisticated any more and my musical theory knowledge is out of practice.

I don't go ga-ga over musicians. I'm attracted to passionate people, but it doesn't matter to me if its musics or sports to academics, as long as its something.
 

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Posted by Tatiana (Member # 6776) on :
 
I have to go with Lissa, (before she got all weird on me, I mean.) I find it attractive, and often feel a deep connection through shared music, but it's not a requirement. The gestalt of the person, of who they are, is what attracts me. Music can be one captivating component of that gestalt, but it doesn't have to be.

Though skirts and kleenex would certainly catch my eye.
 

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Posted by Melissa Dedinová (Member # 7890) on :
 
I'm hurt, Tatiana. Hurt, I tell you.

Though on a serious note, skirts/kilts = not sexy. I love bagpipes (when WELL played), and a Scottish accent can be attractive (though personally I prefer a very slight, sexy Slovak accent), but however great the personality of a guy in a kilt, I can't think of him romantically. Though I know other girls feel otherwise. Weirdos.

Catch your eye, sure, but so would a pacifier and security blanket, and I don't think we want THAT, do we? Do we?
 

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Posted by quidscribis (Member # 5124) on :
 
I can't sing worth beans. In church when I was very young, I was asked to mouth only, please. Okay, bad thing to do to a kid, but does fairly demonstrate how badly I do not sing. I'm better now in that I can acceptly sing along (with hymns I know) with a congregation, but I'll never be choir worthy or solo worthy. But even then, I don't sing the tunes, I only sort of somewhat almost kind of approach them. It's the best I can do.

Fahim is worse than me. He's hilarious. He sounds like a moose in heat with no rhythm or sense of timing. And he belts out songs at the top of his voice with obvious joy and verve. He has a blast. And I love it!

Because of the way he makes an absolute fool of himself with his singing, it's left me to feel much freer about making a fool out of my singing. So we're both out of town sounding like, I don't know, a Klingon opera, and having a blast doing it.

And for the record, Fahim in a sarong is sexy.
 

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Posted by Evie3217 (Member # 5426) on :
 

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Can you add an option along the lines of musical talent being a bonus (and thus like extra points) but not a necessity? Because that's my answer.

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