There is a pregnancy thread already on Hatrack so I thought there should be a wedding thread too. Is anyone else planning on getting married in the near future? What are your plans?
I am getting married on May 28th of this year. I am getting really excited. Today I tried on my dress with all of the accessories for the first time. It was loads of fun. I am having a midsized wedding, about 100 guests in the town my fiance and I went to college in. I could go on and on about the details but I'll see if this thread takes off first Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
Our anniversary is Tuesday . . . perhaps I should start an anniversary thread, for those of us who've already had those milestones . . . Posted by CaySedai (Member # 6459) on :
Icarus: your anniversary is Jan. 10? That's my birthday! (No, I'm not starting a birthday thread.)
Posted by imogen (Member # 5485) on :
My first anniversay is 2 weeks and 2 days away. Posted by desta (Member # 8777) on :
The anniversary of our relationship beginning is in a couple months (March 23, to be exact), with a wedding planned in 2008. That will give us both time to get our finances in order, save up for it, and get situated before-hand.
Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
Mazel Tov, Theresa!
Posted by KarlEd (Member # 571) on :
I plan on getting married within a year after it is made legal in PA or in two or more of the states that border PA.
Presuming, of course, that Chris says "yes".
Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
Mazel Tov, Karl! Let us know when you set a date!
Posted by Katarain (Member # 6659) on :
Well, we're already married, but we eloped. We're going to have a renewal of vows ceremony, hopefully on or around our 3rd anniversary.
So is that close enough to take part in the thread? Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
I'd send you to my wife and my's wedding photos, but we have somewhere around 800, I think. Too many shutterbugs on her side of the family
-Bok
Posted by Ben (Member # 6117) on :
Ophelia and I are marrying on June 10.
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
Congratulations to all those with anniversaries. Staying happily married is an even bigger accomplisment than tying the knot.
Martha, I just looked at your pictures. I especially loved your food pictures. You managed fun and appropriately fancy all at once. Did you make your own cake? I have never seen one like that. It is so cute!
Congrats on the upcoming marriage Ben!
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Wow! A real FRUIT cake, some make-your-own drinks, and a juggler! Looks like it was a great wedding, martha! (and you are beautiful!)
Farmgirl
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
Our anniversary is on the 8th, Sunday.
My birthday is the 9th, Monday.
And I've got to talk to lindsay and ben. o_O
Posted by martha (Member # 141) on :
We designed the cake, which my aunt made (she used to make cakes for a living; now she's a computer programmer like everyone else). One layer was orange flavored, the other lemon. Between layers was pistachio marzipan, and then buttercream frosting with those beautiful fresh fruit slices for decoration. It was delicious.
My brother (Mike on Hatrack) is a circus performer -- juggler, acrobat, and clown. Our mom runs the Providence Circus School, so she brought a bunch of her circus toys (juggling and balancing stuff) for everyone to play with.
We also had puzzles: a crossword that Kyle wrote, a double-crostic from my grandmother, a cryptic crossword from some friends. And there were games, though mostly people were having too much fun with the circus toys. And talking, which of course was the whole point. That day should've gone on three or four hours longer, so we could do all the schmoozing we wanted to.
Oh, we did this really cool thing that everyone oughta do at their wedding: we had all our married guests lend us photos of them at their own weddings, and we displayed all these photos together, along with photos of our grandparents' weddings and our own baby pictures. That way, nobody was captive for an embarrassing slideshow -- and for the older photos, people got to guess "whose wedding is that a picture of?"
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hijack the thread. Carry on with your regularly schedule programming!
Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
April 8 is my big date. But its the honeymoon I'm really looking forward to. Private villa in the Carribean, with a private swimming pool.
Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
quote:Originally posted by theresa51282: Congratulations to all those with anniversaries. Staying happily married is an even bigger accomplisment than tying the knot.
I had my 19th wedding anniversary last week. The traditional anniversary gift for 20 years is China. We didn't see 19 years listed, so we just improvised. My husband gave me the flu. I gave him chicken soup.
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Be-en...
Be-en...
Are we invited to your wedding? [/whine]
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
quote:My husband gave me the flu. I gave him chicken soup.
Don't you hate it when you give someone a nice gift and all they thought to get was a lousy one? Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
KQ -- just 2 more posts and you'll be at 11111!
That's a lot of ones.
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Eh. It'll be special when I get to 55555. Because, you know, that's five fives.
Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
<-- high five!
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Don't say that around the Princess, or you'll be busy for two hours!
Posted by Sopwith (Member # 4640) on :
As one of those weird twists of life, I'm a certified bridal consultant. Got a question? Need some advice? Fire away!
Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
quote:Originally posted by ketchupqueen: Don't say that around the Princess, or you'll be busy for two hours!
Oh DO show her how to click on the "high five" (AKA "wave") graemlin. We can have a KP High Five thread!
Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
My wedding advice to my friends who are getting worked up about the wedding arrangements is this: Your wedding day is the least important day of your marriage. It is what you do with the rest of your marriage that is important. Your long term success and marital happiness has absolutely no relationship to the color of the bridesmaids dresses, the floral centerpieces, or the catering.
So, calm down.
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
quote:Oh DO show her how to click on the "high five" (AKA "wave") graemlin. We can have a KP High Five thread!
Oh, no. Oh, no! I'm not going to start that up! She already tries!
quote:So, calm down.
Betcha get a lot of dirty looks. Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Tante -- I agree!
And don't spend so much on your wedding that you start out your marriage in debt. It just makes things that much harder...
FG
Posted by Sopwith (Member # 4640) on :
MY advice to grooms: The wedding is 80% the bride's, 15% her mothers and about 5% yours. Relax, learn to say "Yes, dear" with feeling and enjoy.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Sopwith - LOL
My son (who is 20) will ocassionally say things like "that would be cool for a wedding" or "I want that at my wedding someday" and I just smile sweetly and say, "It won't be up to you, dear."
FG
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
I don't like "Calm down." Just because it isn't the most important part doesn't mean that they shouldn't care about it. It's the equivelent of "Shut up and sit down." If I wasn't upset before, I am now. Don't tell me how to feel.
Posted by Ophelia (Member # 653) on :
quote: MY advice to grooms: The wedding is 80% the bride's, 15% her mothers and about 5% yours. Relax, learn to say "Yes, dear" with feeling and enjoy.
That's bullcrap. Why make the girl make all of the decisions? If the guy has an idea of what he wants, he should be free to suggest it, and if she has any respect for him at all, she should at least think about it. Unless it's completely tacky or out of their budget, there's no reason the groom can't have the wedding of his dreams.
And luckily, my mother wants nothing to do with my wedding except for being an attendee. I think she also made one song suggestion, so I guess we'll play that for her. But she gets that it's not the wedding that's important; it's the marriage, and could care less what we do for one day (as long as it doesn't break the bank). Ben's mom is putting up the majority of funding, and also lives closer, and also cares about ceremony, so she is more involved.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
I don't understand what is offensive about saying "Calm Down" as in "don't stress yourself out about it". How is caring whether or not a person is overly stressed somehow taken as an offense?
FG
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Because they're overly stressed. And that makes you take offense at stuff like that!
Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
quote:Originally posted by ketchupqueen: Betcha get a lot of dirty looks.
No. More like relief.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
I don't like it because it's telling me how to feel. I much prefer "It'll be okay, honey. Everyone will be looking at you anyway." to "Stop freaking out. What you care about doesn't matter."
"Calm down." is saying they shouldn't feel how they feel. I don't like it.
Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
quote: MY advice to grooms: The wedding is 80% the bride's, 15% her mothers and about 5% yours. Relax, learn to say "Yes, dear" with feeling and enjoy.
I do my very best to counter this kind of advice in premarital counseling.
Posted by Ophelia (Member # 653) on :
Good for you, Dana!
Marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship. It should start that way, too.
Posted by R. Ann Dryden (Member # 8186) on :
My hubbie was as excited as me about our wedding. Well, almost. He kept this huge accordion folder full of magazine clippings and pages from the Internet and quotes on flower prices and stuff. He was far more organized than I was, so we both had a lot of fun.
Considering that he is an actual bonafide Scotsman who grew up in Glasgow, I didn't mind his insistance on having real kilts ordered from Scotland for the wedding, and on being led out by a piper. In fact, it was his Scottish pastor that married us.
So all in all, he was involved every bit as much as I was in every decision. We acted as a team then, as now.
Five years later (our anniversary is February 17th) and one + children (just found out I'm pregnant again) we still act as a team much of the time.
Love is a choice you make every morning, and it's great when there is emotional attachment as well, but the tough choices on the days when the feelings are gone, are what help those feelings to return.
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
I wish I could get Paul to have more input into the wedding. He mostly does the smile and nod. He is much more interested in planning the honeymoon. All his male relatives told him to avoid planning the wedding because the women will just take over anyways so I have gotten nowhere with convincing him I really do want his opinion.
Martha, we are doing a photo table too. Ours has wedding pictures that actually go all the way back to my great great grandparents. Its really neat to see how weddings have changed through the generation. We also have this archway thing that we are putting pictures of us growing up on and then ending with our engagement photo. I had a lot of fun looking at Paul's old pictures and seeing him as a baby.
We have our premarital counseling weekend next weekend. I am a little nervous because I don't really know the pastor that well. I go to church in a different town from the one we are getting married in. I guess I want to make a good impression but I also realize the point is to be honest so it is a bit of a balancing act I guess.
I don't think I am at all stressed about the wedding. Just excited. Plus it will be the first time we will have lived together so I am really excited to be able to see Paul everyday.
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
quote:I just smile sweetly and say, "It won't be up to you, dear."
See, I can picture FG saying that and the image alone makes me giggle.
Posted by divaesefani (Member # 3763) on :
My husband suggested that we have soup for our reception, so all the ladies made soup and it was wonderful. He doesn't remember coming up with that idea, though. We actually didn't really pay for anything, since one of my best friends parents did my cake and my group photos as our gift and my sister did our wedding shots, my boss did the flowers and my hair/makeup, our moms and grandmas did the food, etc. I think it was probably the cheapest wedding ever!
The other thing we did that was just divine was to get married with just family and close close friends in attendance, and then 3 weeks later we had the reception. It took all the stress out of my wedding day, and besides, I got to wear my dress again and have a different hair style! I would suggest it to anyone (as would my husband. He loved doing it that way).
Good luck with all the plans, everyone!
Posted by Sopwith (Member # 4640) on :
Okay, some folks took what I said a bit too sternly. The advice is meant as a semi-joke and an ice breaker. But it also does have a ring of truth in it.
Also, it is just about the wedding itself, not the marriage. The marriage is something that I wouldn't joke about.
But let's look at the typical, traditional wedding. It's a big day for the groom, this is the biggest commitment of his life and the first step in hopefully a long and joyous journey. For most men, however, they don't start thinking about the wedding ceremony until pretty much they give the engagement ring. Many don't think much about it until a day or two before it happens.
For the bride, many times, this is something she's thought about, off and on, for a good portion of her life. As a young girl she's thought many times of the colors she wants, or the music, or any of the thousands of details that go into the event. She may know exactly what she wants her wedding cake to look like, what the invitations should say, etc...
Of course, these are generalizations, but ones taken from being involved in a couple of hundred plannings of weddings.
You'll notice the mother of the bride has a big stake in this, too. What I have seen so often is that in the planning, the bride's mother is often her most trusted advisor. She will rely on her Mom greatly at times and sometimes they will butt heads a bit over the process. In some cases, it is because the Bride's mom wants her daughter to have the wedding she didn't have. Sometimes it is just because she wants to dictate a social event for her friends and family. The bride's mom also traditionally has the purse strings of the event in hand. And that can be a powerful thing and one that can become a hurtful thing to the bride.
My advice there, usually given in front of the bride, groom and in-laws is said with a smile and a laugh but it is also cautionary. It is said to remind them of who's big day it most likely is. A fairy tale wedding may be the goal, but it should be the bride who chooses which tale will be told.
The groom should have input, and it is a wonderful thing when he is involved, both in making decisions and being a supporter for his wife to be. The bride will be going through a ton of work on this all the while juggling school or her job and a social calendar, plus her family and husband to be. That's a lot on anyone's shoulders and any help that the groom can give is great. As long as it doesn't run counter to the bride's wishes too often.
The high stresses of planning a big wedding can lead any couple to an argument or two. Especially when their wishes for the event don't coincide. In such cases, my advice hopefully gently reminds the groom that deferring to his bride's wishes can be a very good idea. That doesn't mean he should be a doormat, but that when he notices that she has set her feet in concrete over an issue, he should step back and politely concede. Some of the minor issues aren't worth disrupting their future harmony over.
And it also, sadly, won't become a bone of contention later on if she had to give up something she had really wanted (re: Bride's mom and the wedding she didn't have...).
But then again, what do I know? Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
quote:Originally posted by mackillian: Our anniversary is on the 8th, Sunday.
My birthday is the 9th, Monday.
A year already? Wow, time flies when it's someone else's life.
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
I was asking Paul this evening about my flower choices. His response "But what do they do?" Boys Posted by whiskysunrise (Member # 6819) on :
theresa, I would make a suggestion that some time in the begining of May you and Paul take a day to go somewhere just the two of you. Don't talk about the wedding. The two of you just spend the day together away from wedding planning. You will be surprised at how great you feel without the stress of the wedding.
Posted by hansenj (Member # 4034) on :
theresa- I'm getting married on May 5 this year to a wonderful man named Paul. We have some things in common. Though it seems you are more organized than me. I'll probably come to this thread with a question or two (or twenty-three)in the upcoming months. Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
This thread makes me feel warm and fuzzy.
Congratulations to all!
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
We spent our anniversary snowboarding today. Nathan is..um...beat up. It was his first time.
He DOES, however, want to go again.
Sucker. Posted by martha (Member # 141) on :
Sopwith, when my parents got married, my mom's mother told them that they should plan it and she would pay for it. So when Kyle and I got engaged, my parents said that we should plan it and they would pay for it. What wound up happening is that we planned a lot, with a lot of help from my parents (they found the site, which was wonderful), and we paid for everything we could get our hands on... My parents did grab the bills for catering and the site before we saw them, so they paid the lion's share, but we bought our clothes (I made my dress) and organized the photos (which cost about $1200) and the sound equipment rental (we had an iBook be our DJ, which worked great) and the party favors. I like to think ours was a fairly cheap wedding, but I guess it came to over $10,000.
Mackillian, we got married on my birthday. Kyle was thrilled with this, because now he only has to remember one date. Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
It does appear we have a lot in common. That was the weekend I originally wanted to have the wedding but it turns out it is the last weekend of grad school for Paul so it was out. Where is your wedding? Indoors or outdoors? Spring weddings are really pretty in my opinion. I am doing mine indoors because I am a worrywart and the weather would drive me insane with worries.
I like the suggestion to spend a day doing non wedding stuff together. We do tend to drift to talking about the wedding most evenings. But we have all the big stuff done so it is possible for us to spend chunks of time taking a break from the planning. I actually put it aside over the holidays and just enjoyed the time with my family. Next week the future inlaws are visiting me to look at wedding stuff. It should be fun times.
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
martha, NICE. we got married the day before my birthday. so close, so easy.
for BOTH of us.
about wedding costs: as a photographer, I hate charging as much as I do. but as a professional, you can't charge rock-bottom prices, 'cause then folks might think your actual work is cheap.
Or something. The whole thing is so freaking complicated.
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
What do you think is about right to pay for a photographer? I am waffling between two. I like one better but he costs about $200 more than the other one. The lower photographer is at $1600. Would you consider reducing your rate by 200 if someone asked? Just curious.
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
I need more info
What sort of services, etc, are different between the two photographers?
What makes you like one photographer over the other?
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
I just like the photos of the more expensive photographer better. The services are actually pretty similar. It is 8 hours of photography. I get digital copies of all of the photos and joint copyright ownership. Both provide similar sized wedding boods I believe one is 27 pages and the other one is in the thirty page range. I would have to pay for any printing of individual prints that I wanted. I don't plan to do that very much so that price is not as important to me
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
quote: I don't like "Calm down." Just because it isn't the most important part doesn't mean that they shouldn't care about it. It's the equivelent of "Shut up and sit down." If I wasn't upset before, I am now. Don't tell me how to feel.
I hear you on this Kat, I also have an aversion to being told how to feel, or to having my emotions dictated. But, I do think there is some wisdom in this philosophy.
On my wedding day, I planned on putting my cake table in the middle of the room, because there was a pretty archway behind that area and I wanted a nice backdrop for the pictures.
Less than an hour before the ceremony, my grandmother swooped into the reception hall and re-arranged everything, so the cake table was instead in an area with a door behind it. Her reasoning was that it was now angled so it was the first thing the guests saw when they entered. I had to walk through the reception hall to get to the sanctuary where the ceremony was and just about fell to pieces when I saw what had happened, and it was too late to move it.
A dear family friend who was the wedding director took me by both arms and looked me straight in the eyes and said "Adrian, God willing you will have fifty years or more with this man you're marrying. I've been married for more than 30 years and I promise you, where the cake table is will not be important. What matters is the man upstairs waiting for you and the life together God is granting you. Stop it."
It helped. It helped a lot. And she was absolutely, completely right. So there is wisdom in "Calm down." It may feel offensive and hurtful to you now, but perhaps at your wedding you'll come to understand the truth behind it. The one day really doesn't matter, compared to the whole. Relax and enjoy it, brides. And keep your eyes on what really matters.
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
theresa, go with your gut. if you can spend the money on the photographer you prefer, do it. however, bringing up the $200 price issue with your favored photographer would be okay. He might be willing to match the price of the competing photographer, especially since you really do like his (or her) work better.
belle, Even reading that, I can hear your heart drop.
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
Paul and I did our premarital counseling this weekend. It was actually quite enjoyable. Most of the things we had already talked about quite a bit but it was nice to feel confident that a lot of the major issues had been discussed. We also got to plan the ceremony itself with the Pastor and organist. It was awesome being able to hear the music that would be played at the wedding while sitting in the church. It really made me realize how happy I am to be getting married.
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
My cousin is getting married in March, in Flagstaff. We just got Emma a warm dress ($6.50! I love Once Upon a Child!) that is just perfect-- because she didn't have anything appropriate for a wedding that was warm enough for Flagstaff in March. And closer to time, when we know what size she'll be, my aunt is going to buy her cute boots to match-- probably these. (The dress is all-over peachish-pink roses with hints of burgundy, with green leaves, green buttons on the bodice, pleats, and green collar and cuffs on the long sleeves.) I'm excited, and not just about Emma's outfit! It's nice to have more married people under the age of 55 in the family to talk to, you know?
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
That outfit sounds adorable! You'll have to post pictures of her all dressed up after the wedding. I am sure she would look too cute Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
Make sure your intended doesn't talk about math when you're trying to fall asleep. That's what happened to me last night. Nathan started talking about calculus.
Me. "Shut up." Him. "You really hate math, don't you?" Me. "Yes, I do." Him. "Do you hate all math?" Me. "Well, geometry and I got along just fine." Him. "The first step is always a given." Me. "However, we did not get along well enough to sleep together. Shut up."
>_<
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
I went for my first dress fitting today. It was so fun. I don't think I am ever going to want to take my dress off. I am also starting to get all of my RSVPs back. So far I have 33 yes and 0 no. I just thought I would share. It is getting so exciting with only about 8 weeks to go.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
How early should you send out invites? We only have about three and a half months to go, and I haven't even priced invitations, much less mailed them out. I haven't even done the guest list all the way yet.
Oh, crap.
On the upside, we got a photographer.
Posted by ludosti (Member # 1772) on :
I'm not sure what the etiquiette people say about invitations, but imo your invitations should be going out no later that 2 months prior (to give people time to plan, especially if there's some travel involved for your guests). So you should probably firm up the guest list in the next 2 weeks so you can get your invitations ordered (or otherwise taken care of) and sent off in a reasonable amount of time.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
O_O
In the next two weeks? As in, by the end of the month?
I'm running out of time.
Posted by amira tharani (Member # 182) on :
Rob and I are getting married in March next year, so we're right at the start of all the organisation stuff. My mum is already into details, like what we're going to wear (white or red? Indian or Western?) and I had to say to her at least 3 times today "we haven't thought about that yet." We are taking things fairly slowly, as we have just over a year, but still... maybe we should be making some decisions now?
Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
Saturday night is it for me. Talk about a year flying by fast.
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
Katharina, my wedding etiquette books say to send them out 4 to six weeks in advance and 6 to 8 weeks if it is a holiday weekend or weekday wedding. However, I have tons of out of town guests and am on a holiday weekend so I sent mine out about 10 weeks in advance. I don't know how many guests you are having. I sent out 77 invitations and it probably took me about 20 hours to address, seal and send them all. I would recommend looking on ebay for invitations. They have lots at really reasonable prices. I loved mine. If you want, I'll see if I can find the name of the person who I bought mine from.
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
Wow, how exciting Stephan! I can't imagine how excited I'll be within a week of my wedding. I am sure everything will go just beautifully!! Let us know how it goes. I love wedding stories.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
Matt's family is humongous, and my dad is completely thrilled and wants to throw a party. We are sending out a lot of invitiations.
Oh, goodness, I need to get moving on this.
Maybe that will be the first thing I do in D.C.
Posted by ludosti (Member # 1772) on :
Yeah you should get moving on the invitations. Kat I would say give yourself a 2 week deadline to have your guest list complete. From there, how you're doing the invitations (having them printed, making them yourself, buying premade invitations and printing them yourself, etc) will dictate what your next deadline you give yourself should be (perhaps 2 weeks to get the invitations done and then another 1-2 weeks to get them addressed and mailed). If you're anything like me (which you may not be but what the heck) definitely give yourself deadlines to meet so you don't put them off.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
I was going to design them myself and find someone who would print them. I know, generally, what they will look like, and I have most of the graphics done already. I have not, however, done it yet.
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
Sounds like that might be a bit time consuming. There are often waits at the printer as well. I would at least call around and see when they could do the printing for you and approximate costs. I have seen some that are outrageously expensive IMO.
Posted by whiskysunrise (Member # 6819) on :
I don't really think that you need to send them out quite that early. I know a lot of people that if get them to early they forget about it because they have had them so long that they think they have plenty of time.
I think that sending them out 4 weeks from when you were getting married would work. The 6-8 weeks I would think that it would be easier for people to forget.
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
I'm getting married in 10 days. I can hardly stand the excitement! Almost everything is done. I am finishing up on the last of the decorations on Tuesday and on Monday I have final meetings with all my vendors. Thursday, our families are arriving to start setting everything up with us. Saturday is the rehearsal and Sunday the wedding. I am seriously geeked and just had to get that out.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
I'm having a mini-crisis. The hotels I originally gave to people I did without reserving rooms. I know - bad idea - I was in a hurry - no excuse.
They are all full. There's a huge convention that weekend in SLC, and almost everything is booked.
However, my dad, bless his heart, offered to help and I took him up on it. He found the following that's within walking distance. It's a big relief.
HamptonInn 425 S 300 West Salt Lake City 801-741-1110 Ask for the Pilkington-Bowman Wedding
Posted by Ben (Member # 6117) on :
Our Wedding is 4 Saturdays from now. Egad! We think we have all the bases covered but we still have some financial transactions that need to take place. But otherwise, I guess we are ready. Dude! I'm gonna be a husband!
We have been getting tons of goods in the mail. I am realizing how generous people get when it comes to weddings. It's actually quite humbling also to see what people are coming out of the woodwork to be at my wedding. Some people you send invites just to be polite and keep them informed about your life shock you by RSVPing and telling you they will be coming.
[ May 18, 2006, 03:18 PM: Message edited by: Ben ]
Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
Mine went very well last month. The night just flew by.
I just got asked to sing in another wedding, a month from now.
I like doing it, but that's smack in the middle of a very busy month for me.
Posted by Stan the man (Member # 6249) on :
Wedding is about a year away. We haven't really set a date yet. It'll be in NY. This works out fine because my family is a little better off than hers. Mine can afford to fly in. We are not only looking at hotels in area, but also at where some can put up campers and such. Ours won't be as expensive as my sister's wedding. Echo already has a dress that is paid for (she was supposed to marry someone else a few years ago. Thak god it didn't go through). An' the flowers are at her Aunt's house (plastic, good).
Other than that we haven't really planned anything else besides where it will be. No rush.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Nice photos, Stephan
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
We're planning on staying with Jeff's uncle in Salt Lake, so we're probably not going to make reservations at the hotel, Katie. But don't worry, we're planning on coming. Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
I love the photos. Congratulations. What was your best moment?
Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
2 favorite moments:
We decided to incorporate an old Jewish tratition of having the bride circle me 7 times. Its supposed to ward off evil spirits and loose women and the such. The look on her face as she suddenly realized how silly she looked was priceless. Especially her maid of honor (known for not knowing how to whisper) started counting for her.
The other was how fond of my grandmother my groomsmen were. They discovered she had a weekness for scotch, and kept her glass fell filled at the reception. My best man (not knowing much about proper alcohol usage) got her last glass and didn't think to have any ice or water added. My aunt had to all but carry her to the car.
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Oh, goodness, that makes me glad there was no alcohol served at our wedding; my grandma has a weakness for liquor, herself...
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
Those are both great stories. It makes me even more excited for my own.
Posted by Kristen (Member # 9200) on :
Great pictures and stories. Congratulations everyone.
I am going to a great wedding this summer: the reception will be held on the 96th floor of the Hancock building!
Posted by Katarain (Member # 6659) on :
I am planning our wedding blessing for this September. It will be on our third anniversary. (We eloped, so this will be our very first celebration of any sort for getting married.) I think Wedding Blessing is what we're going to call the ceremony--unless I think of something better. It's basically a renewal of vows ceremony, followed by a reception/party.
I am planning on wearing a medieval/renaissance style dress, but I haven't found it yet. My one attendent, my best friend, is going to wear one, too. She might even make hers.
I'm not really doing a renaissance theme, though. I'm just using what I like wherever it comes from. I have a LOT of planning to do, still.
I have a very strict budget, so I'll be making everything I can, and being as creative as I can. My priorities center around the whole thing being simple, beautiful, and there being really good food at the reception.
It's exciting to finally be doing this...
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
If you need any help with the planning, let me know. I have spent a year sifting through tons of sites for reasonably costed wedding stuff so even if it isn't my taste I might know about where to find it.
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
Ben. You can stop worrying. Tickets are secured. Posted by Katarain (Member # 6659) on :
I think I've found a dress. It was this pattern that first caught my eye, although I didn't like the sleeves. McCall's 4997
I also didn't want to wear a white dress, as I'm really into being able to wear it to a faire later.
Then there's this dress, that is very similar, and it even manages to make the sleeves look good.
(I was having trouble linking directly to the page with the dress, but the Huntress is the one that she uses for her front page, so that works.)
It also happens to be her most popular dress, and in those colors. Which makes me like it a little less, heh... but I can choose my own colors, and it is pretty affordable. The seamstress also has a great reputation at a wedding board I'm at.
Decisions... Decisions...
Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
That's a lovely dress.
Posted by hansenj (Member # 4034) on :
Mine is seven weeks from yesterday!
I finally ordered the announcements today, and they'll be done in a week and a half. Things are happening, and it's great.
It's so cool to see how everyone is at a different stage in planning. I'm probably a bit behind considering the wedding is in 7 weeks, but I'm feeling ok about it, because a lot has been done. I have my first bridal shower next weekend when I go home for Memorial Day! (My sisters are planning one for here in Utah sometime in June.)
Speaking of the Utah bridal shower...any of you Utah Jatraqueras wanna come? I can get you on the invite list. Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
I got back from my wedding on Sunday. It was a really beautiful wedding. I loved every minute of it. I have had a few moments where I was a little sad that it was all over but then I look at Paul sitting next to me and am happy that we are finally married. He has been so sweet to me. I got a cold on the honeymoon and he has been extra doting and attentive.
The honeymoon was a lot of fun. We went to Chicago. We had a lot of plans but spent the first two days simply recovering at a really nice bed and breakfast. It was great to sleep in and watch movies and not have anywhere to be. We both needed that. We got to see the musical Wicked. It was really cool. I loved the set design. On our last day, we went to Six Flags and had a great time just being goofy and silly together. In a weird way, it was one of the more romantic parts of the whole occasion.
The wedding itself was everything I wanted it to be. The men almost forgot to put on their boutineers but my Dad saved the day at the last second and got the flowers to them. Other than that their were no major mishaps. It was super hot out and the church had not air conditioning so at one point during the sermon we ended up sitting down on the steps but it actually made for some of my favorite pictures.
The reception was a blast. I got to dance a ton and spent a fair amount of time with the guests. I especially had a great time with my mom who I have never seen happier. It was just really fun. I am not sure if this is true for others but the reception was not exactly this romantic evening that I had anticipated. It was much more celebratory and more of a party atmosphere. I laughed and danced and had a great time and there was plenty of time for romance afterwords.
Good luck to everyone with weddings still to come. I hope you have as wonderful or a time as I did.
Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
Congrats!
Posted by BandoCommando (Member # 7746) on :
I'm getting married on August 23rd to my 'high school sweetheart.' Wedding plans are coming along. We just ordered the invitations, secured the photographer, and are now looking into flowers. Cake, dress, venue, etc. have long since been taken care of.
Looking forward with MUCH anticipation!
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
Enjoy the lead up to the wedding. The few days before the wedding with my family and friends around were some of the best times of the whole process.
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