Do you see food as an important part to maintaining a relationship? If so then why or why not?
This a (hopefully) really a seriously serious thread, I was hoping that everyone here on Hatrack would do this as I am attempting to convince my partner to eat.
If you choose to be really really really serious in your responses then you would be a great help.
(I may or may not babysit this thread. Word of the day: serious)
Edited as a result of good advice for robots
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
Rule #1: You don't announce a dobie in the thread title.
Posted by Amanecer (Member # 4068) on :
Posted by airmanfour (Member # 6111) on :
No smiles, this is serious.
Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
Its why I never liked skinny girls, they don't eat enough. I need someone to share one of my favorite past times.
Posted by airmanfour (Member # 6111) on :
Thank you for the seriousness of your response. Seriously.
Posted by Teshi (Member # 5024) on :
quote:Its why I never liked skinny girls, they don't eat enough
This is a myth. Many skinny people eat a lot (A LOT), they just also exercise/eat healthily.
Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
I am being serious. Food is something that EVERYONE needs and enjoys 2-5 times a day. If your partner doesn't share your tastes and habits it can spell failure. Especially if one partner is out to change the other's tastes and habits.
Posted by airmanfour (Member # 6111) on :
*taking notes*
Posted by cheiros do ender (Member # 8849) on :
I have a really skinny girlfriend. When her nails get really white is the only time I can ever make her eat large meals. We both have very small stomachs, but I tend to eat like a pig; whenever I get the chance, whilst she always shows control until meal time, so I really can't complain to her.
Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
quote:Originally posted by Teshi:
quote:Its why I never liked skinny girls, they don't eat enough
This is a myth. Many skinny people eat a lot (A LOT), they just also exercise/eat healthily.
There is a difference between skinny and fit in my opinion. Fashion models are skinny, professional women's volleyball players are fit.
Posted by cheiros do ender (Member # 8849) on :
quote:Fashion models are skinny
I'm now taking bets on whether that starts up a debate (I promise not to start it myself, even though I'm really tempted to).
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
quote:quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Its why I never liked skinny girls, they don't eat enough --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
This is a myth. Many skinny people eat a lot (A LOT), they just also exercise/eat healthily.
And some of them just have hyper metabolisms, and eat and eat and eat and still don't gain weight, whether they exercise or not. *is married to one and the child of another and the mother of another*
Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
quote:Originally posted by ketchupqueen:
quote:quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Its why I never liked skinny girls, they don't eat enough --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
This is a myth. Many skinny people eat a lot (A LOT), they just also exercise/eat healthily.
And some of them just have hyper metabolisms, and eat and eat and eat and still don't gain weight, whether they exercise or not. *is married to one and the child of another and the mother of another*
Is it true that it eventually catches up to those types of people?
Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
quote:Originally posted by cheiros do ender:
quote:Fashion models are skinny
I'm now taking bets on whether that starts up a debate (I promise not to start it myself, even though I'm really tempted to).
Have you sat through 5 minutes of Americas Next Top Model? 99% of them look like they could pass for those hanging skeleton's in a biology or anatomy class room.
Posted by cheiros do ender (Member # 8849) on :
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[ February 09, 2006, 01:27 PM: Message edited by: cheiros do ender ]
Posted by airmanfour (Member # 6111) on :
Seriously guys, we're focusing on relationships and eating, not whether the people in them are healthy or not. Seriously.
Posted by cheiros do ender (Member # 8849) on :
You don't seem very serious for a guy that says serious as often as you.
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
quote:Is it true that it eventually catches up to those types of people?
Depends. My husband's uncle is also one, and ended up with dangerously high cholesterol and putting on weight when he hit 40, changed his diet and exercise, and is now skinny again but still has to watch his cholesterol.
My dad, OTOH, is past 50, has a little more of a tummy bulge, but as a doctor has always eaten pretty heart-healthy and is into hiking and such, with no family history of really bad cholesterol or blood pressure, so he's still considered "skinny" by most people and is healthy, heart-wise.
My husband eats what I cook him (much healthier than what he grew up on and what his bachelor uncle ate), is a little too fond of high-fat, high-cholesterol foods but has me to help him moderate his eating habits, and enjoys sports and stuff much more than my dad ever did. So he's got chances somewhere in between his uncle and my dad, in my estimation. Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
Saw this in the advise columns this morning in the Washington Post, I think it applies:
Dear Carolyn:
My boyfriend and I have been together two years and I have made very clear what I need from him before living together or marriage. I am a very active person, and he is not. I am not willing to compromise. He promised he would change, but doesn't seem to be making much progress. I know that for people to change they have to want to, and he says he does, but how much time am I supposed to give him?
As much as he should give you to back off and love him. He is who he is. Stay or go.
Posted by cheiros do ender (Member # 8849) on :
This coming from a guy with an email account at beer.com?
Posted by airmanfour (Member # 6111) on :
That. Is. Scarey.
Posted by cheiros do ender (Member # 8849) on :
Airman, are you in the Reserves or full-time Airforce?
Posted by Princess Leah (Member # 6026) on :
quote: The competitors on Americas Next Top Model are retarded and need putting down.
A little offensive, cheiros.
Posted by Evie3217 (Member # 5426) on :
quote:Originally posted by Stephan:
quote:Originally posted by ketchupqueen:
quote:quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Its why I never liked skinny girls, they don't eat enough --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
This is a myth. Many skinny people eat a lot (A LOT), they just also exercise/eat healthily.
And some of them just have hyper metabolisms, and eat and eat and eat and still don't gain weight, whether they exercise or not. *is married to one and the child of another and the mother of another*
Is it true that it eventually catches up to those types of people?
This is turning into the world's largest quoted quote.
quote: My husband eats what I cook him
I thought this said "my husband eats WHEN I cook him. I was a little confused.
And yes, seriously, I think that eating affects a relationship. I need someone who will not only eat when I eat, but also has the same rate of eating that I do. I hate sitting around waiting for someone to finish their meal.
Posted by Reticulum (Member # 8776) on :
Didn't advent create a post like this? Are YOU Advent?
Posted by cheiros do ender (Member # 8849) on :
quote:Originally posted by Princess Leah:
quote: The competitors on Americas Next Top Model are retarded and need putting down.
A little offensive, cheiros.
Oh, I wasn't being serious. I only saw three of them so I'm not in a position to judge. I know that.
Posted by Verily the Younger (Member # 6705) on :
That's not why it's offensive.
Posted by airmanfour (Member # 6111) on :
Full time. We call it active duty, I was "born" active, the Reserves have to be activated. 3 and a half years to go. Why do you ask?
Edited to ask why
Posted by pH (Member # 1350) on :
quote:Oh, I wasn't being serious. I only saw three of them so I'm not in a position to judge.
This is a very serious thread. You should be serious at all times.
I think that the act of eating isn't as important as the enjoyment of the food. You can eat junk food all the time, but it won't be as satisfying as a few good meals. Food texture is very important to me.
-pH
Posted by airmanfour (Member # 6111) on :
To me as well. I feel rice is an example of bland food gone good, texture-wise, while the opposite would be that damnable tofu. I cringe at the thought.
Posted by jennabean (Member # 8590) on :
My body responds very noticeably to food. I can't eat things like McDonald's and a plate lunch from Loco Moco (sorry, can't think of a non-Hawaii reference) without feeling really, really sick. I like tofu I don't really notice texture... I think proportions are the most important. For example, if I have an egg over easy on a piece of toast, I would like the egg to last so that I can eat a piece of egg with every piece of toast. I am not going to eat toast without egg or egg without toast (although the latter is NEVER the case.) This is very important to me. I throw away parts of sandwiches where the meat has run out or the part of an eclair where there is no more cream filling.
Posted by airmanfour (Member # 6111) on :
I can't eat piggy products without feeling a little sick. Maybe I expect to be smote. Or, maybe the piggy grease, plus texture is too much for even my cast-iron tummy.
Posted by cheiros do ender (Member # 8849) on :
I'm planning to join the Navy Reserve here in Australia next year. I wanna going to ask if it's worth leaving all your friends and families for, well, for me it's going to be about 5-7 weeks a year.
Posted by pH (Member # 1350) on :
You need to learn to be open-minded about different meats. Only then can you have a satisfying food experience.
-pH
Posted by airmanfour (Member # 6111) on :
It depends. I used to go away to summer camp that long when I was still in high school. It was strange then, but I got used to it really fast, and it made this, being gone 50ish weeks out of the year simple. Also things to be considered, I am single and petless and pretty young, so I didn't have much to leave behind. As I say, it depends, but I really cant see you doing wrong by the Navy Reserves. I was once briefed by an Australian Army (?) guy, and he was really relaxed and cool, so my experiences with your armed forces are pretty positive. I hope yours will be too.
Posted by Stephan (Member # 7549) on :
quote:Originally posted by cheiros do ender: This coming from a guy with an email account at beer.com?
Beer good.
Actually I'm more of a wine drinker, beer.com had the only web mail that my job's network didn't have blocked.
Posted by Lissande (Member # 350) on :
I think the most important thing is for both partners to think more about the enjoyment of the other and making sure to eat the kinds of foods that please their partner. This sort of nurturing, caring food environment will, IMO, lead to a long and culinarily satisfying relationship, if carried out equally in other aspects of the relationship.
Posted by Lissande (Member # 350) on :
And pH is right, it can't be fast food or grilled cheese sandwiches for every meal. Sometimes I want something that takes time to thoroughly prepare and enjoy!
edit: like tonight. delicious roast beef cooking right now.
Posted by Advent 115 (Member # 8914) on :
quote:Originally posted by airmanfour: Do you see food as an important part to maintaining a relationship? If so then why or why not?
This a (hopefully) really a seriously serious thread, I was hoping that everyone here on Hatrack would do this as I am attempting to convince my partner to eat.
If you choose to be really really really serious in your responses then you would be a great help.
(I may or may not babysit this thread. Word of the day: serious)
Edited as a result of good advice for robots
This is such a strange dobie of my thread .......
Posted by jennabean (Member # 8590) on :
I think it is an okay dobie. I have a friend who dates around a lot and all of her boyfriends always ask me "Does she ever eat?" or tell me to "Make her eat!" It's kind of an issue for her, I'm not sure why. She's also a vegetarian and a lot of guys she dates try to make her eat meat or get me to convince her to try some. I have no idea why it is such a big deal. Maybe that's because I eat like there's no tomorrow and have no trouble keeping up with the guys. I've even been given the nickname "Hoover" by my family. Like... the vacuum.
Posted by Advent 115 (Member # 8914) on :
Oh come on.
The wording at the begining of this thread has had only slight modifications from my thread.
If he had meant it too be serious, he would have not have copied me.
[ February 09, 2006, 06:55 PM: Message edited by: Advent 115 ]
Posted by airmanfour (Member # 6111) on :
Advent- Your last sentence makes no sense. Seriously.
Jennabean- I am glad that you eat on par with menfolk, that is something to be admired in this day and age. I really do worry about girls that are too skinny. Skinniness has been given the stigma that it can most easily be accomplished through not eating, the fact that some people can burn huge amounts of calories by breathing is overshadowed by this. And then there are those that just don't eat. Makes me sad.
Posted by Pinky (Member # 9161) on :
What I really didn't like about my last boyfriend's habits, was, that he was able to spoil every meal with his comments on the food, on the way I cook, on the spices... I relish to eat and I'm a devoted hobbycook, so it wasn't fun to be critised by someone who's nutrition depends on cheese sandwiches and Pizza. It DID matter after a while... It's such a big part of our daily life.
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I don't really notice texture... I think proportions are the most important. For example, if I have an egg over easy on a piece of toast, I would like the egg to last so that I can eat a piece of egg with every piece of toast. I am not going to eat toast without egg or egg without toast (although the latter is NEVER the case.) This is very important to me. I throw away parts of sandwiches where the meat has run out or the part of an eclair where there is no more cream filling.
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