I am working on addressing my wedding invitations. It is a formal wedding and the invitations are fairly formal. Paul has an Uncle that has a long term gay partner. I am wondering how you would prefer this to be written on the invitation. Would Mr. Rob X and Mr. John Y be appropriate? Would this be how you would want to be addressed? I can't think of how else to do it. I definetly don't want to use and guest but I don't want to unintentionally insult someone. I am not close with the Uncle so asking would be difficult and Paul's parents just said do whatever I wanted.
Posted by Valentine014 (Member # 5981) on :
Miss Manners Posted by Papa Moose (Member # 1992) on :
Mr. Rob X and Mr. John Y is the format we used for our wedding invitations, and nobody told us they were insulted.
--Pop
Posted by Valentine014 (Member # 5981) on :
The Wedding Channel say to write them on seperate lines with no titles. I don't think I like that. Everyone on their list gets a title or honorific except the gay couple?
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
Assuming this is an uncle Paul is in contact with, why not ask him what he prefers?
Posted by Kristen (Member # 9200) on :
I worked in a stationery store and the key is that they are not married so don't worry about writing Mr and Mr. Paul [same last name]
With single couples, straight or gay, the format is: Mr. Paul X and Mr. John Y
On the inner envelope, if you are using them, you write: Paul and John.
If you have any further questions, feel free to ask! I should put that summer to good use.
Posted by theresa51282 (Member # 8037) on :
Thanks for the advice. I think I am going to go with my original inclination of Mr. John X and Mr. Tom Y. I would get Paul to ask for me but that could take eons. Wedding tasks are never very high on his priority list.
Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
That's the format I used on graduation announcements, I think it may have been on seperate lines, but there was deffinatly an "and" between them.
Posted by KarlEd (Member # 571) on :
As half of one of Hatrack's resident gay couples, I think "Mr. John X and Mr. Tom Y" would be fine. Also, "John and Paul" on the inner envelope, if there is one. (As Kristen said, ) Neither Chris, nor I would be insulted (unless you happened to send them to us, seeing as neither of us is named John or Tom, X or Y. )
Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
Like Mr. Karl and Chris Ed (I know Ed isn't your last name, but it works for the purpose)?
Posted by imogen (Member # 5485) on :
quote: As half of one of Hatrack's resident gay couples, I think "Mr. John X and Mr. Tom Y" would be fine. Also, "John and Paul" on the inner envelope, if there is one.
Except then it would seem they are inviting a trio.
Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
and Paul is her fiance Posted by Dragon (Member # 3670) on :
bryerchic, I feel like "Mr. Karl and Chris Ed" implies they're married by giving them the same last name...
Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
Oh I do, that's just what I thought Karl said, and I was checking.
Posted by El JT de Spang (Member # 7742) on :
quote:Oh I do, that's just what I thought Karl said, and I was checking.
But that's not what he said. He said
quote:I think "Mr. John X and Mr. Tom Y" would be fine.
That's pretty clear.
Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
quote:(unless you happened to send them to us, seeing as neither of us is named John or Tom, X or Y. )
I was going by this part, and was already not thinking, I know I was wrong now. I had left on spring break mentally.
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) Neither Chris, nor I would be insulted (unless you happened to send them to us, seeing as neither of us is named John or Tom, X or Y. ![[Wink]](wink.gif)
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