There is this girl that a friend of mine liked, she lived in Toronto, he lives in west island, and went to see her.
However, she never recipricated the feelings he had for her and one day she firmly told him no. I don't know the exact words but it emotially crushed my friend.
And he spent alot fo time moping around, getting depressed, dragging me and other friends along with him as we all tried our best to cheer him up but he wasn't cheering up, he was probly playing games even more.
Then...
He found this girl on World of Warcraft who lives in Chicago. They exchanged pictures, talked some, found soem chemistry with each other and then she dumped her boyfriend for my friend because her old boyfriend wasn't appreciating her or something along those lines, (her boyfriend was also in WoW and say all this happen lol).
And she also wants to meet my friend and I suspect some bam chuka bam wam will go on.
So thus at every oppurtunity I get, whenever he doesn't suspect it.
I have said and will continue to say:
"I told you so"
why? Because I told him he would find someone better and appreciates him, and look at him now, he found a gamer chick.
I told you so.
[ March 12, 2006, 09:52 PM: Message edited by: Blayne Bradley ]
Posted by TL (Member # 8124) on :
Good Christ.
Posted by Swampjedi (Member # 7374) on :
Misplaced blog or journal entry?
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
TL: All I can say is: "?"
Swamp jedi: Hatrack is my blog and i don't know how to use a blog. Blogs are scary.
Posted by GaalDornick (Member # 8880) on :
"and then she dumped her girlfriend for my friend because her old boyfriend wasn't appreciating her"
I'm confused. Did she dump her girlfriend or boyfriend? Or both?
edit: "Hatrack is my blog"
That could be a problem.
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
boyfriend, crazy typos.
Posted by Swampjedi (Member # 7374) on :
Eek, Blayne. That's [your claim that Hatrack is your blog] a bit to posessive for me.
Gosh, starLisa was right, even if she was harsh about it. At least I think is was starLisa.
Edited for clarity.
Posted by Lupus (Member # 6516) on :
anetdot=anecdote?
On a more serious note...don't you find it a bit odd that a girl would dump her boyfriend for someone she met on WoW.
Posted by kwsni (Member # 1831) on :
Blayne, seriously. Most of us just don't care about a lot of this stuff. Hatrack is NOT a blog. If you MUST post random things like this, at least confine it to one thread, ok?
You can get a blog for free, you know.
Ni!
Posted by Theaca (Member # 8325) on :
Pretty please, Blayne, consider it. Hey, link us to the blog and maybe we'll read it when we're in the mood for blog reading. When we come to Hatrack, however, oftentimes we don't really want to read random blogs.
Plus, in your very own blog you can misspell words as often as you like and SAY whatever you like and you won't get poked fun at. Anetdot. *snort*
Posted by Reticulum (Member # 8776) on :
I think you guys are being a bit biased here. This was a simple post, and a funny story. Yes, it did have some spelling/grammar mistakes, but I think you guys are doing this just because it is Blayne. Were Tante, or KetchupQ to do this would you have reacted in the same way? My bet is no, and that you would have laughed at the story, and said Hatrack being their blog is fine.
Just my humble opinion. Try to be a bit more respectful. Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
quote:Were Tante, or KetchupQ to do this would you have reacted in the same way?
Well, I AM the most beloved of all Hatrackers. Posted by MrSquicky (Member # 1802) on :
Put me down for a "Get a blog" vote, although I have to admit that I'm impressed by Ret's perceptiveness.
Posted by Theaca (Member # 8325) on :
quote:Originally posted by Blayne Bradley: Hatrack is my blog
I agree, if he hadn't said that I wouldn't be making any comments. I'd have the same reaction if anyone said it and showed signs of meaning it.
Posted by kwsni (Member # 1831) on :
Reticulum: The only reason I said anything is because Blayne has said that he will try to improve, and fit in better in the forum. How is he to know what fits and what doesn't if we don't tell him?
Ni!
Posted by Reticulum (Member # 8776) on :
That is my point, were Tante to say that, would you have said the smae thing? I think it would have gone something like this:
"Tante, I am honored that you trust and respect us so much, as to tell us about your personal life. Thank you."
I really think you guys are being unfair.
Posted by 0range7Penguin (Member # 7337) on :
Personally I agree with the response to this thread. That was one of the bloggeist topics to a thread i have ever seen. Most bloggier threads arent bloggs because they end with a question or statement that is an actual topic starter. This didn't it was just an anecdote and nothing more.
Posted by kwsni (Member # 1831) on :
I would have said nothing, actually. Don't put words in my mouth.
Ni!
Posted by Mr.Funny (Member # 4467) on :
Perhaps, Reticulum. However, if Tante started posting things like this all the time, people would react much in the same way as they are reacting to Blayne now. The issue is not so much the person as that this particular person has shown a remarkable unwillingness to attempt to respond to the suggestions given by other members. He posts inane things like this over and over and over and over.
One bloggy-ish post isn't the issue. When it happens all the time, and the person even admits that "Hatrack is my blog", then it becomes a problem. Aside from Blayne trying to draw attention to himself, this thread provides absolutely no basis for discussion (as is the case with most of the topics he starts).
Posted by Reticulum (Member # 8776) on :
Well, Mr. Funny, that was the most unfunny post I have ever read. Though I must say you are right. I must say you are correct in every aspect. Thank you for youe input. What you said, WOULD most likely happen.
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
I tell Hatrack about a lot of things that happen to me and my family on a regular basis....but ANYONE claiming it is their own personal blog is off base.
If I made that comment I would not be suprised if most of Hatrack wondered why.
Blogs are personal spaces maintained by (and for) one user for the purpose of venting and/or sharing things that matter to them. Hatrack can, at times, resemble one, but for the most part it is more like a group of people discussing many different topics all at once.
Blayne, a blog WOULD be more appropreate, to be honest.
I know all of this stuff matters grealy to you, but to most of us really just don't care. We don't care because ever day it is more of the same. We don't need, or want, a blow by blow of every day because it dilutes the overall concern about your posts. Even if we were to help solve some of these issues we know you would be abck with 10 more in the next week.
Look back and notice that I have not joined in on slamming you in other posts, but someone needs to clarify this for you....
The biggest reason so many people on Hatrack dislike these type of topics from you is that we are starting to feel like it is your blog as well, and we were here long before you were, so we resent you treating it like you own private blogging grounds.
On another note, Tante has shared some things with us, some of them very personal, but she contributes in many other ways, investing both time and effort into other peoples threads as well, so it more than balances out IMO.
Even if I do wonder at times if she is a bot.
Kwea
Posted by KarlEd (Member # 571) on :
quote:and I suspect some bam chuka bam wam will go on.
I don't know why, exactly, but I find this euphemism more offensive than if he'd just said the "f" word. Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
I was being humorfull. And the thread isn't about ME its about a friend sheesh.
So, does any of you have any similar stories that any of would like to share?
Posted by Anna (Member # 2582) on :
Anyway, my advice would be to go here , to follow the steps and create a LJ.
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
bookmarked hmwk to do this mornin' folks.
Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
I have no idea how I got dragged in to this discussion, and why it is set up as Tante vs. Blayne. I have affection for Blayne, and although we have very different styles, he does too contribute to the discussions on Hatrack. Who do you think is the main apologist for Communist China? Who do you think keeps us updated on the dismal state of EA Games? Blayne, that's who. And, like I said, we have different styles, and different interests, too, apparently, since I don't really care to discuss video games or Communist China. But I can not agree that Blayne only posts here to talk about himself.
I didn't find this thread to be offensive or out of line until it started being a dogpile on Blayne. He wanted to share a sweet story about how even the nerdiest among us can find love and romance. This is a nice and positive message. The way you are all hanging him out to dry over it is turning my stomach.
"Hatrack is my blog" was indeed an unfortunate statement. It made me wince, too. I suspect that Blayne would be more likely to recant and reconsider that sentiment if it were politely pointed out to him that Hatrack is not intended to be anyone's blog.
Some of us have developed a nasty habit of kicking Blayne. And maybe you think that the bullying is OK because "everyone" is doing it, or because Blayne always takes the abuse with poise and maturity. But I do not think that it is OK.
And that's all I have to say about that.
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
I kinda already said "Hatrack is my blog" was meant jokingly.
THERE! That's the word I was looking for! woot.
Lol, I find it funny that 1603 posts can all be attributed to either subject. ^-^
Posted by prolixshore (Member # 4496) on :
There really seems to be no point in attempting to help Blayne fit in at Hatrack. I think this is because Blayne has yet to understand what Hatrack really is to most of us.
--ApostleRadio
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
Blayne,
I'm curious about your friend and this woman. Are they going to meet? How are they arranging a safe meeting process? Have they talked on the phone yet?
Are you cautioning your friend at all?
Posted by Anna (Member # 2582) on :
Tante, I hope you didn't take my intervention as bullying, because it was not my intention... I just meant to tell him that he could create a blog and bring hatrackers to read it instead of proclaiming Hatrack is his blog.
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
Yes indeed, she wants to meet him for a few days, but unfortunately until he gets his own place he won't get much privacy. They have talked on the phone per se they talked over Teamspeak, phones are obsolete.
And no I am NOT cautioning him I'm encouraging him, because he was nearly suicidal(sp?) a month ago, I prefer he gets to have some happiness in his life and I am not going to be the one to deny him that over the "possibility" that this might turn out badly.
Any relationship is a gamble, some work some don't, I'm putting my money that it works or at least breaks even.
Let the dice fly high!
Apostle I've been around since 2004, 2 whole years I think I fit right in.
PS: I cautioned him against going all Anakin Skywalker like with the first girl, he didn't listen and it turned out badly, I'm not risking it again.
Posted by El JT de Spang (Member # 7742) on :
quote:And the thread isn't about ME its about a friend sheesh.
No when not a single one of the 9200 registered members but you knows the person you're talking about. This, as most of your threads are, is strictly about you.
I'd have the same reaction if someone else started this thread. The only difference would be if it were someone else I'd probably give them the benefit of the doubt. You're way past that stage. You know that you're gonna get a response like this, yet you continue to start 2-4 self centered threads a week.
ps - Just because you've been here for two years doesn't mean you fit in.
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
Okay, so in HOW many threads have been started on the exact same premise: person A talking about person B and the vast majority not knowing the person discussed yet still did not offer critisism of bloginess of any kind? I can think of 5.
Posted by Theaca (Member # 8325) on :
It's the frequency of occurrence that people are complaining about. Think of it like the kid who cried wolf. Use these posts sparingly and you won't hear complaints.
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
So...what are the "rules" for meeting someone face-to-face under these circumstances.
Re: teamspeak and phones being obsolete...thanks for making me feel more of a codger than I already did. Although, in my defense, I have used Skype and was thinking more in the generic sense of "have they communicated in any other way besides typing words into a text-based medium?"
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
Yes, talking voice to voice. As for face to face I think my friend has a webcam.
Well as for the rules well.... he hasn't exactly told me anything of substance other than "I can't have her come to my grandmother's", and was wondering if a friend of ours was planning on an apartment soonish.
Which is why I had the euphanism before, from what he told me, she's... very open. I don't think I should say more on whats she's like I've never met/spoke to her so I really can't say more then the second hand info I currently possess.
Tell you what man, come visit "novasearch.net" sometime on ts, password I'll provide via email if your interested.
Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
Your friend is going to be mugged and left for dead by a 43-year-old man dressed like Peter Pan.
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
Only after I get him to leave a will leaving me his Chair and his computer...
WAIT!
YES!
He said "get my Rach and you'll get my chair" yes! He found someone better so he has to give me his chair when he dies yes! Btw, I hate my current chair.
Btw, this is somewhat in jest.
Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
Blayne, you just had a red Swingline stapler moment.
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
quote:A Swingline product was featured in the 1999 cult-classic film Office Space wherein one employee complains repeatedly that his red Swingline stapler was stolen. At the time, Swingline had no red staplers, but in 2004 they released a limited edition series as a result of customer interest.
??? someone call the joke translator.
Posted by Primal Curve (Member # 3587) on :
Tom,
Someone's gotta take up that banner.
Posted by 0range7Penguin (Member # 7337) on :
Stop the Madness... Posted by prolixshore (Member # 4496) on :
Blayne, you're killing me, honestly. It wouldn't matter if you had been around from the days when this board didn't exist, you still aren't fitting in. Time has nothing to do with it.
Don't you think that if you fit in people wouldn't constantly criticize the existence of every thread you create? Give me a break.
--ApostleRadio
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
And they're an equal amount of people who defend me, the personal opinions of 3-5 people does not determine who is "in" and who is "out" or is there a committee on "UnHatracker" Behavior that I have to go infront of to prove otherwise?
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
Blayne, you're spamming the board. Stop starting a thread every fifteen minutes.
Posted by prolixshore (Member # 4496) on :
Blayne, I don't really feel like getting into an argument over how many people like you vs how many people are annoyed by you for two reasons. 1) Neither one of us have a real idea of what those numbers would be and 2) popularity contests are for children.
The fact of the matter is that many, if not most, of your threads start or end with a number (more than 3 or 5) of board members giving you advice on how you can better meet the general standards of what a thread should be. Despite these efforts, you constantly ignore these people and their advice. This leads to more threads where you receive the same advice over again.
I can't find a version of reality where that scenario equals "fitting in".
--ApostleRadio
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
that is just stupid, I could name several threads where no one gave advice on my posting style. Obviously not "every thread" just the ones that annoy the same people and this is indeed off topic.
Posted by Xavier (Member # 405) on :
And consider this Blayne, for every person trying to help you, there are at least five of us who are annoyed with you, but who do not post anything.
Instead of staying silent like I usually do, I will try to give you some advice.
1) Keep all blog-like posts to one thread. Others have suggested it, and it would be really easy to do. Call it something like "Blayne Bradley's Blog" and just modify the title every time you update it. So for instance, this would be your thread title: "Blayne Bradley's Blog! (Updated: 03/20/06)".
I don't dislike you, and I often do read what you have to say, but having six of your threads on the first page is UNACCEPTABLE to me. Really, it is.
2) If you feel the need to make a thread, and you already have a couple threads on the first page, DON'T. We have thousands, yes THOUSANDS of posters on hatrack. You do not deserve, nor should you want, to take up over twenty percent of hatrack's thread real-estate.
3) Start listening to other's advice. Just because others are defending you, it does not mean you are fitting in just fine here. You are not. Hatrack is a very welcoming place for the most part, and we are generally very nice people. For so many to speak up and try and curb your posting means that there...is...a...problem.
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
And how many threads have I made that are blog like in my grand total?
Currently I'm annoyed because a perfectly reasonable thread got hijacked. Please people I know you all are trying to help me but please I would prefer to be emailed in this case.
Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
quote:And how many threads have I made that are blog like in my grand total?
That's actually a worst-case total for you, Blayne. Because while I'd estimate that less than half of your POSTS are completely selfish, well over two-thirds of your threads seem that way to me.
Posted by Ophelia (Member # 653) on :
What Xavier said, plus:
4) Dismissing people's concerns as "just stupid" is not a way to win over those of us who are fairly indifferent towards you.
Posted by TL (Member # 8124) on :
I wasn't involved in whatever controversy already previously existed about this. I just read the first post of the thread and thought to myself, what the crap -- why would somebody start a thread about this? This is meaningless. And I'd just read his, "I won!" thread and thought the same thing. And it sort of ticked me off -- what a waste of my time!
Usually when people post personal anecdotes or stories that don't effect the rest of us, it's in the context of asking for advice, or updating a situation we already knew about, or expressing some kind of anguish.
(I've been there, and done that.)
These threads....
It's like; the other day I was watching Artie Lange's dvd "It's the Whiskey Talking," and in the middle of doing his standup act, some chick shouts something to him. He goes, "What?"
The chick goes, "It's my friend's birthday today."
He goes, "Oh, wow, who gives a @&^#$?"
That's kind of what this is like.
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
Tante, I wasn't setting my comments up and a you vs him sorta thing, I am sorry if it looked like I was.
And I wasn't really dogpiling on Blayne, either, or at least I wasn't trying to.
HE brought you up, and KQ, as two examples of people who would not be picked on if they made up this sort of thread, I was trying to explain why it would have been different and why most people would have wanted to hear what you had to say...or Tom, or KQ, or Icky.....
Sorry if it looked like anything other than what I intended.
Blayne, a blog would work well I think, it is better suited to the every day types of threads you have been starting, and since it is your own blog rather than a message board anyone who would complain about that style of posting would be in the wrong.
One more thing, this story could have been paraphrased and it would have seemed a little less like a blog entry. Everyone has their own posting style, of course, but part of the reason I personally lose interst in some of your stories is you do a blow by blow description of conversations.
Hope this helps, and that you don't feel like I was picking on you again. Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
Actually I didn't bring her up, someone else did.
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
I'm really surprised at the reaction Blayne is receiving here.
Under normal circumstances, when people don't care for an initial post, they go off discussing whatever they want to in an ever-widening circle that started near the original thread's topic.
For example, this thread could've been about WoW, women who play online games, meeting women over the internet, the drama of young men who get hurt in love, and so on.
There's lots of great potential topics there.
Instead, this has become about a person's ability to start a topic in a way that others find interesting enough.
I think people find it frustrating because of their own compulsion to open every thread. That's really not Blayne's problem, is it? I mean, if he cluttered up the place with all 50 threads on the first page, it's possible to just go to page 2...
It's not as easy, or convenient, sure...but if enough people skipped his threads/posts, the silence would probably be more effective than the discussion of his "style."
And Blayne, you really could pick up the quality of your posts' content a notch, now couldn't you? Part of what I think people are trying to convey is that not everything you feel like posting is really worth posting. Sure, it's subjective, but when you have this many people telling you the same thing, perhaps that's an indication of some sort of truth.
Are you perhaps suffering from hypergraphia? Do you feel compelled to write?
Seriously.
If that's the case, perhaps a blog would be a sufficient outlet until you find a way to get the compulsion under some measure of control.
Or, conversely, if your utterances here are TRULY the best you want to offer this community, then we may need to come to terms with that in some fashion more productive than dogpiling whenever you post something people think is worth less than we hope for.
Honestly, this is just an internet bulletin board, but people do take it seriously enough to be bothered by someone who appears to not care as much as the average member does. It's as if you are telling them "I want you to react to me, but I don't care what you really think."
The fact that people are willing to be THIS flippin' rude to you is an indication of how much you frustrated them. Too bad they let you get to them, but also, too bad if you don't make more of an effort.
Ultimately, too bad for all of us because the goal positive interaction with you is the desired end state, and this is NOT getting us anywhere nearer that goal.
Posted by pH (Member # 1350) on :
You could always get a Livejournal.
Livejournals are terribly simple.
-pH
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
You are right, it was Reticulum . . . my mistake. Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
quote: don't you find it a bit odd that a girl would dump her boyfriend for someone she met on WoW.
Not at all. I know of someone who recently dumped her husband to hook up with someone she met on WoW. And she is middle-aged. It's sad.
Posted by Architraz Warden (Member # 4285) on :
I wasn't going to voice any of my opinions on this until one of the almost unspoken Rule of Hatrack Threads was broken.
DoC's Rule #2 of Hatrack Threads: Having two of your threads on the front page is a sign of healthy invovlement. Three or four could be a fluke do to an interest in specific topics. Any more than that warrants something being said.
When I logged in this morning, 6 of the threads on page one have been started by the same person. And they've posted on them all today, so it isn't like someone is trying to make it look like they're trying to overwhelm the board.
Pretty much, I'll agree with kwsni, ApostleRadio, and Xavier; these threads do indeed read like blog entires. If the peceived image is that Hatrack is anything like a blog, how do we take immediate steps to stop that? Discussions and blogs really don't make for the best pair. Ever.
And yes, I would have posted this regarless of who it was concerning.
Feyd Baron, DoC
Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
Not all of them were started on the same day. 2 tops.
Posted by El JT de Spang (Member # 7742) on :
Immaterial.
Posted by 0range7Penguin (Member # 7337) on :
What I find most upsetting blayne is that instead of going "ok i will take these things into account and through a respect of those involved in the hatrack society" you are going "but this person likes it, and i didnt do that many, and, if it had been this person, and but but but." THis is one of the most long lasting "hey you stop that" threads that has actually stayed on track that ive ever seen here. That is a sign of how upsetting people are finding your behaviour. I mean its still been civil because its hatrack but this is very close to being about as upset as it can get. Dont you want to feel apart of the atmosphere? I mean i doesnt the feelings in this thread mean anything too you? I think you should apologize not neccessarily for the topic but you reaction to what has been an honost problem prosented to you in a civil way by a great many hatrackers. They have even given you advice on how to constructively fix the problem. For the betterment of hatrack please apologize and take what was said here into account when creating new topics. Thank you. -0range7Penguin
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
I don't think apologies are ever warranted for "wasting my time." Changing behavior goes a lot further than any apology could.
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
Listen...nothing Blayne has said or done is wrong in and of itself. It's the VOLUME of it that is distressful. Daily entries in a blog are fine, but this is a message board.
He knows this now, so lets back off and see if knowing that makes a difference. Posted by Blayne Bradley (Member # 8565) on :
I still would've prefered an email.
Posted by El JT de Spang (Member # 7742) on :
It's obvious that our preferences don't matter to you, so why should yours matter to us?
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Though I must say you are right. I must say you are correct in every aspect. Thank you for youe input. ![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
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