I'm assuming most of you are familiar with the sensation of connecting with a person you've just met. You haven't really spent enough time together to really get to know one another, but nonetheless there's the feeling that you fit together ('clicking' together like two pieces of a jigsaw puzzle). Sometimes it's described as chemistry.
Admittedly, I don't have this feeling very often when it comes to people. But I do encounter a similar sensation with regard to other things. Like stumbling across a book and picking it up just because you're intrigued by the title alone. Or buying a CD by a musician you've never heard of and having it turn out be one of the best purchases you've made recently.
Being a rather insecure person, I tend to ratify such gut feelings by looking for reasons why I should like the person or object in question. The more reasons I find, the easier it becomes to act upon the feeling. But I'd like to evolve to a state where, once in a while, I can just act upon such instincts without analysing them, since thinking gets in the way of action and I have been known to let good things pass me by, because I wasn't sure whether I could trust my feelings.
I'd like to hear some of your views on this phenomenon. Or perhaps just some examples of your own; times when you felt that something was right, even though you couldn't really explain why.
-Estelmo
Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
There's no shame in this, Eduardo; there's actually been a lot of research lately that indicates that the "gut feelings" of people experienced in a given field are frequently more accurate than their considered opinions, and become more accurate as the situation becomes more complex. It's possible that our instincts work as subconscious filters which are more effective when there's a lot of noise cluttering up our perceptions.