Just wanted to let you all know that my former husband and I have decided we have grown up enough now to live in marital bliss.
Or at least grown up enough to deal in a more mature and kind fashion with each other when the eventual discord occurs.
For those of you Scripture readers, this verse about sums it up: Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12 (NSRV).
quote: Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up the other; but woe to one who is alone and falls and does not have another to help. Again, if two lie together, they keep warm; but how can one keep warm alone? And though one might prevail against another, two will withstand one. A three-fold cord is not quickly broken.
We're getting (re)married this Wednesday evening at 7:30. Wish us well!
[ December 20, 2007, 07:23 PM: Message edited by: Shan ]
Posted by Jhai (Member # 5633) on :
Let me be the first to congratulate you!
(congrats!)
Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
Congratulations. How is Nathan taking this?
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
That's great, Shan. Congratulations, and I wish all three of you the best. Posted by Tante Shvester (Member # 8202) on :
I wish you all the best.
Posted by quidscribis (Member # 5124) on :
Wow. Cool. Um, am I allowed to ask questions? Like, is this coming out of the blue?
Congratulations! May it work out better than you hope and give you all the happiness you deserve. Posted by Javert Hugo (Member # 3980) on :
Yay! I am very happy for you.
Your son must be thrilled.
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
Congratulations!
Posted by suminonA (Member # 8757) on :
I wish you both well
A.
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
quote:Originally posted by rivka: That's great, Shan. Congratulations, and I wish all three of you the best.
I was gonna say,
quote:A three-fold cord is not quickly broken.
Three is better then two, is better then one, is better then zero? When does it stop getting better?
But congratulations, may your union make you both happy!
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
BB *giggling*
I.e., Nathan
Nathan says he wants to be the ring-bearer. He chose the song, "Homeward Bound" by Simon and Garfunkle for us, and is finding a Bible verse to contribute.
He's such a sweet boy.
(Side Note: He also made a delightful Angel Gabriel in the Children's Christmas play yesterday. Everyone kept telling us how angelic he looked. Even with his hand in a cast.)
Posted by DeathofBees (Member # 3862) on :
Best Wishes to you and your (reunited) family, Shan!
The best piece of marriage advice I've received thus far (from The Christ-Centered Marriage by Neil T. Anderson and Charles Mylander, an excellent book): Keep your focus on growing in your own character and meeting your mate's needs, rather than on attempting to change your mate's character and meeting your own needs. It's the attitude Christ would have in any relationship.
Posted by ClaudiaTherese (Member # 923) on :
All good things to you and yours, Shan. Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
Congratulations. We had a re-marriage in our church congregation last year and the kids (two teenagers and a pre-teen) were the wedding party. It was very meaningful for them to show their support for making the family work.
Posted by Uprooted (Member # 8353) on :
Best wishes, Shan!
Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
Good luck, Shan. How long has it been, how long was the first marriage?
Posted by romanylass (Member # 6306) on :
Congrats! I wish you all the best.
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
That's great advice, DoB. I'll check that book out of the library. Thanks!
Nathan's reading from Psalm 139: 1-6, 13-18, dkw. Seeing Nathan's excitement and his desire to participate, I can imagine the family excitement in the family that re-married in your congregation last year. My soon-to-be 14 year old Nathan'll juggle rings. And "DJ" the music before and after. I know why he wants "Homeward Bound" in the service, and while the chorus is beautful, some of the lyrics are not appropriate for the occasion.
Hi quid and pooka! Greg and I lived together for a bit over two years, were married for one, and have been divorced for a bit over 8. But continuing to co-parent, do stuff as a family, and grow up a bit more on individual levels. We all want the adoption finalized for Nathan with Greg, too, who has done the fathering since Nathan was a wee less than two -- so that is an exciting part of this, as well. (I think that sort of answers both querstions.)
I forgot how many details there are to this sort of thing -- no matter how intimate a setting! I have got to find time to do my fingernails!!! After cleaning the bathroom. Posted by anti_maven (Member # 9789) on :
Congratulations Shan. This is a eally nice piece of news. Thanks for sharing!
Posted by JonnyNotSoBravo (Member # 5715) on :
Congratulations, Shan!
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
Oh my gosh! We picked up the rings this evening. They are matching gold bands, with just a wee bit of -- I don't know how to describe it other than this -- pie crust crimping -- around the edges. Very simple and elegant.
Pardon me while I wax feminine . . .
In Christmas spirit, I have a beautiful red silk jumper with a silk red/green blouse. My hair is a growing out reverse bob -- almost shoulder length -- which I will just do up with loose curls. I've also finally learned to use a curling iron with limited success. *grin*
In a little less than 24 hours (I can hear Inigo echoing in my head, "In little less than an hour . . . " ) I will be married!
My house is tidied, and the Christmas decorations are delightful, and all things are on a go!
This has been so very smooth!
*happy sigh*
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
I'm so happy for you.
(I could swear I posted yesterday but teh Interwebnets ate my post, apparently.)
Good luck in the times to come and, well, huzzah!
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
Congratulations.
Posted by Wendybird (Member # 84) on :
Congratulations!!
Posted by ClaudiaTherese (Member # 923) on :
Posted by ludosti (Member # 1772) on :
Congratulations!! I hope that your family will have a wonderful life together!
Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
Good luck. I have a December anniversary in a week and a half.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
*gathers handfuls of rice*
Posted by DeathofBees (Member # 3862) on :
Hey, "Sadie, Sadie, married lady," hope you and the mister are doing well! Nobody accidentally said "no" or dropped the ring or anything?
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
quote:Originally posted by rivka: *gathers handfuls of rice*
You'll choke the birds with that stuff.
*grabs rice, throws it in the cooker*
Posted by Xavier (Member # 405) on :
No you won't.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
This is what happens when I sleep though the alarm. I had that link all ready to go, too! Posted by Qaz (Member # 10298) on :
Let me be the, oh, 25th to congratulate you!
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
The minister says she has never seen a more perfect wedding. We got hitched without a single hitch in the proceedings!
Intimate, sacred, filled with hope. No dropped rings, no missed cues, no rings on the wrong finger, everyone was on time and in good spirits.
The service was beautiful, and so very applicable to Greg and me.
Thanks be!
Edit to add the fun Nathan story:
So, my charming young lad wore his blue button down dress shirt with jeans, Winnie the Pooh and Tigger tie, and dress shoes. He was a perfect gentleman, read his scripture beautifully, and handed the correct rings to the correct put-er-on-er of rings (since they are matching, perhaps not as easy as you might think . . . ) and was perfectly behaved at all times.
As soon as the final blessing was done, he literally kicked off the dress shoes, tossed his tie in the corner, and untucked his shirt before grabbing the bowl of chips and jumping full-length on the couch, a big grin on his face.
[ December 20, 2007, 07:32 PM: Message edited by: Shan ]
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Huzzah! Posted by SenojRetep (Member # 8614) on :
Congratulations, Shan. Wonderful news.
Posted by Miro (Member # 1178) on :
Congratulations. That's awesome. (:
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
quote:Originally posted by Shan: As soon as the final blessing was done, he literally kicked off the dress shoes, tossed his tie in the corner, and untucked his shirt before grabbing the bowl of chips and jumping full-length on the couch, a big grin on his face.
*giggle*
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
Woot! Congratulations!
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
*high five* Congratulations!
Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
I don't think I've ever worn shoes at a wedding reception (or any sort of wedding after party) they come off immeadiatly after the bride and groom walk down the aisle together.
Posted by ClaudiaTherese (Member # 923) on :
Wonderful, Shan!
Posted by Morbo (Member # 5309) on :
Congratulations!
Awww, a Winnie the Pooh tie. That's the cutest tidbit I've heard in awhile.
Posted by vwiggin (Member # 926) on :
Congrats Shan! You deserve all the happiness this world has to offer. Posted by Eduardo St. Elmo (Member # 9566) on :
Congratulations!
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
quote:Originally posted by Morbo: Congratulations!
Awww, a Winnie the Pooh tie. That's the cutest tidbit I've heard in awhile.
Cutesy or odd humor seems to abound in my family. Greg wore his "Three Stooges" tie -- with my complete approval. The other tie was so plain -- and had no red to complement my dress. What's a bride to do? Posted by romanylass (Member # 6306) on :
Posted by Annie (Member # 295) on :
Congratulations! Good choice.
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
Family is so funny. I guess we get to plan a big reception for this summer.
Hmmm. Outdoors BBQ/potluck at one of our wonderful, local waterfront parks, I think. With lots of games and watermelon . . .
Eeeck. Can't think of this now -- must find stocking stuffers . . . .
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
quote:Outdoors BBQ/potluck at one of our wonderful, local waterfront parks, I think. With lots of games and watermelon . . .
That sounds like loads of fun! Can I come? Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
Absolutely! The birth family, family by marriage, and Hatrack family can have one great big reunion! *grin*
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Nice. *makes plans for summer vacation*
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
ShanCon, Summer 2008! Posted by steven (Member # 8099) on :
My birthmom's parents got together again 25 years after getting divorced. That's definitely not something you see everyday.
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
Oh boy! Now the pressure's on!
It'd be lots of fun, though . . . I'd need the collective wisdom of past "con" planners to know how to go about it . . . *grin*
I don't think my husband even has the slightest idea about Hatrack . . . what a great introduction. Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
You could always take Bob & Dana's tack: get a sucker^H^H^H^H^H^H helpful relative to make all Hatrack arrangements. Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
rivka -- you are an amazing woman! *giggle*
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Maybe so. I'm still not volunteering. Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
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Congratulations, and I wish all three of you the best. ![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
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My soon-to-be 14 year old Nathan'll juggle rings. And "DJ" the music before and after. I know why he wants "Homeward Bound" in the service, and while the chorus is beautful, some of the lyrics are not appropriate for the occasion. ![[Angst]](graemlins/angst.gif)
After cleaning the bathroom. ![[Hat]](graemlins/hat.gif)
Congratulations.