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Posted by Paul Goldner (Member # 1910) on :

On another thread you said

"Of note, there is a clear connection between children knowing the anatomically correct names for body parts and a significant decrease in child sexual abuse. This has held for longitudinal as well as cross-sectional studies, supporting a claim of causation over mere correlation."

Do you have links or citations for this? My girlfriend and I have talked about what to call body parts with children, and she doesn't like the idea of using anatomically correct names. If what you're saying is true, I think I'd like to be able to point to facts with her before bringing it up again.

Posted by ClaudiaTherese (Member # 923) on :

Sure. There is a follow-up post in that thread with a link to lay information with more links. Do you need more than that? If you do, what level of detail, publication, etc. are you looking for?

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Edited to add: I think there is a lot to be said for being calm and matter-of-fact about sexual issues. Age-appropriate, but not as if this is a special/secret/terrible-or-magical part of life that can't be discussed with one's parents like any other part of life.

It's the secret, dirty/unspeakable, too-important, or too-embarrassing that makes it easy to prey on kids. They are shamed into not telling their parents, often.

Posted by Paul Goldner (Member # 1910) on :

Thanks, CT. I missed it! Not that being blind is odd for me [Smile]

Posted by ClaudiaTherese (Member # 923) on :

Links, e.g.,
Child Protection: Serious Business
Parents for Megan's Law
Private Parts: What to call them
Kentucky's Health & Human Services Child Abuse Prevention Month tips (see bottom)
Child Care Aware's Following Simple Rules May Prevent Child Abuse

There are specific studies, but people who are not science-n-stats-oriented types usually don't seem to find them as useful as lay sites. They would take some time to find. If you need them, I will go looking.

Posted by ClaudiaTherese (Member # 923) on :

No worries! [Smile]

This is great: Iowa's Preventing Child Sexual Abuse

There are some good articles linked on how to talk to children about sexual abuse without being overly frightening or inappropriate.

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Edited to add: Also good stuff on normal child development, risk factors, training -- a great warehouse of information. Nicely done, Iowa!

Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :

There's a cost, though. Because there's always the possibility your daughter will run into the room while you're hosting a small party and announce "Daddy, this toilet paper really hurts my vagina!"

Posted by Javert (Member # 3076) on :

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Originally posted by TomDavidson:
There's a cost, though. Because there's always the possibility your daughter will run into the room while you're hosting a small party and announce "Daddy, this toilet paper really hurts my vagina!"

If I'm at a party where this happens and the crowd doesn't burst into laughter, that's not a party I want to be at. [ROFL]

Posted by Scott R (Member # 567) on :

It's the volume, not the words, that are the main concern there.

In my experience, anyway.

Posted by Samprimary (Member # 8561) on :

quote:
Originally posted by TomDavidson:
There's a cost, though. Because there's always the possibility your daughter will run into the room while you're hosting a small party and announce "Daddy, this toilet paper really hurts my vagina!"

my daughter ladies and gentlemen she's here all week