My grandma recently moved in with my Uncle and my Aunt-in-law. She has severe allergies to all dogs and cats, but this didn't prevent my Aunt from insisting on buying a dog. They give the dog free reign of the house, so my grandmother only comes out of her room to eat, and even then she needs to wear a mask to do so.
Does this legally qualify as abuse? And what can I do? I want to raise up a storm, but if I get in a fight with my Uncle how is that going to improve my grandmother's standard of living?
Posted by Jhai (Member # 5633) on :
Does your grandma want to move?
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
It's probably worth seeking some kind of unofficial resolution first, assuming you don't think there's immediate danger. One possibility would be to have a doctor present the actual diagnosis and a statement of the risks. A lot of people without allergies don't realize how debilitating this could be. In other words, this could be ignorance, not malice. It's worth giving them a chance to do the right thing after being educated about the situation. Others are probably better situated to give you advice on how to approach that.
Posted by kmbboots (Member # 8576) on :
Does your granda have other possibilities for a place to live?
Posted by EmpSquared (Member # 10890) on :
Jhai- She talks to me about it all the time, and I can hear it in her voice that she's frustrated, but she would never say a word against her own son (my Uncle.)
Dag-there isn't immediate danger, and of course I'd like to seek unofficial resolution first. I just want to know the angles. Thanks.
kmbboots- Basically, my grandpa died, and my mom moved her into our house with myself and my dad. I moved about 1000 miles away and my mom passed away, so then it was only my grandmother and my dad. My grandmother moved in with my Uncle because my dad worked a lot and she was lonely- now she can't really leave her room and the family she lives with is neglecting her.
Posted by scifibum (Member # 7625) on :
Does she have the option of moving to a retirement home? Maybe that would be better than the current situation.
Posted by Elmer's Glue (Member # 9313) on :
No way that's abuse. It's their house right? She isn't being forced to live there.
Posted by scholarette (Member # 11540) on :
If they had the dog before she moved in, I would say suck it up. But if they bought the dog after making the committment to house her, then they were in the wrong.
ETA: They should restrict the dog's access to the house either way.
[ October 30, 2008, 10:46 PM: Message edited by: scholarette ]
Posted by Elmer's Glue (Member # 9313) on :
They were in the wrong, but it's hardly abuse.
She moves out. They get rid of the dog. Allergy medicine. Shave the dog. Dog lives in the garage or outside. She wears scuba gear.