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Posted by Trent Destian (Member # 11653) on :
 
My elder sister is to wed in a week. As such I have been requested to read something at the reception. She expressed it to me as such: "Find something generic, something about love, life, or at least something profound that could be relevant at a event like this. Choose something from a book, a movie, a sizable qoute, some monologue that could work."

This isn't a best man speech or a congratulations to the bride and groom. Think of it more as a part of the ceremony, a performance.

Why am I telling you this? Because I humbly call upon my fellow hatrackers to suggest such a passage. Be it literary or cinema (for I know aficionados of both reside here) all suggestions are welcome.

Thank You.
 
Posted by Valentine014 (Member # 5981) on :
 
At my wedding, we used parts of Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward's ceremony:
quote:
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage: The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say 'I love you' at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

 
Posted by Tinros (Member # 8328) on :
 
Here's my vote.

"Mawwage. Mawwage is what bwings us togethew today. Mawwage, that bwessed awwangement, that dweam within a dweam. And wuv, twu wuv, will fowwow you, forevah. So cherish your wuv."

*cough*

All joking aside, What about a Biblical passage? I don't know the religious backgrounds of those involved, but 1 Corinthians 13 tends to be a catch all kind of passage.
 
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Tinros:
Here's my vote.

"Mawwage. Mawwage is what bwings us togethew today. Mawwage, that bwessed awwangement, that dweam within a dweam. And wuv, twu wuv, will fowwow you, forevah. So cherish your wuv."

*shrug* Works for me! After all, it was part of Bob & Dana's ceremony -- should be good enough for anyone else!
[Wink]
 
Posted by Speed (Member # 5162) on :
 
Do your own homework. [Razz]
 
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
 
I had Shakespeare's sonnet 116, which begins, "Let me not to the marriage of true minds/admit impediments" read at my ring ceremony.

It's one of my favorites.

I also had some biblical passages (and some from the Book of Mormon, but she probably wouldn't want those [Wink] ) but I'd have to hunt to find the one I used, I know generally where it was but can't remember the exact citation.
 
Posted by scifibum (Member # 7625) on :
 
Trent, does she want something romantic and inspiring, or something true?
 
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Valentine014:
At my wedding, we used parts of Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward's ceremony:
quote:
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage: The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say 'I love you' at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

I have never read this before, but I have said most of it to my wife since we were married 5 years ago last week, and I love it.
 
Posted by amira tharani (Member # 182) on :
 
I like Khalil Gibran's passage from The Prophet about love, and also the one about marriage. Here's the love one - the last section is one that my friend used at her wedding: http://www.katsandogz.com/onlove.html
And here's the marriage one:
http://www.robinsweb.com/inspiration/prophet.html
 
Posted by Trent Destian (Member # 11653) on :
 
Valentine and kq - wonderful suggestions

Tinros - hilarious, this may be my false start ("Mawwage. Mawwage is what...oh sorry, wrong wedding") My sister would appreciate the reference as she is a freak for Princess Bride.

Speed - What do you think this is?

Also to your question scifibum, I would perfer it bee something along the lines of inspiring. I'm not one for romantic musings and most people there would know that of me. So to recite something overly gushy would be out of character and would come off as false I believe.
 
Posted by lobo (Member # 1761) on :
 
Navajo Wedding Blessing

Now you have lit a fire and that fire should not go out. The two of you now have a fire that represents love, understanding and a philosophy of life. It will give you heat, food, warmth and happiness. The new fire represents a new beginning - a new life and a new family. The fire should keep burning; you should stay together. You have lit the fire for life, until old age separates you.


Said after lighting a candle...
 
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
 
May I suggest finding ones you think she would like and then asking if she has a preference?

I know I would have wanted to approve of whatever was being read if the reader was not sure what to choose. (But that might just be me.)
 


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