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Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
Okay, you know SOMETHING hasn't gone right for you this holiday season. Here is a place to rant and rave about it.

My turn:

I ordered a lot of gifts this year because my end of semester was extremely stressful (still is, I still don't have a grade posted in one of my labs!). Everything was wonderful, and smooth. Except....one place I ordered from I ordered four items. Two arrived the very next day, even though I hadn't paid extra for express shipping. In that box, there was a packing slip that said the other two items were shipping directly from the manufacturer and would be arriving separately. This was Dec. 10th.

Okay, no problem. Dec. 12th, a third item arrived. I opened the box, checked the condition, everything great, wrapped it put it under the tree. Now the 4th item was the big one - the one I really needed to have in my hands Christmas Eve night when the kids went to bed....you know how it is. But, because the other packages arrived so quickly and all, I was reassured that it would arrive in time and all would be well. Cue this morning, the 23rd, no 4th item. Time to call customer service. (yes, I should have called before now..I was giving them the benefit of the doubt that it was just taking a little longer than the others, plus I've been distracted)

Jane the customer service rep is very friendly and helpful...up until she tells me that the item has already been delivered. Uhh..no it hasn't. Yes, it has, she assures me, check in the bushes of your front porch or something. Are you kidding?

After two more phone calls back and forth Jane finally says, but wait - if you have item #3, you have item #4, they were in the same box. No they weren't. Yes, they were - just make sure you've opened it from both ends.

Okay...so I unwrap item #3, take apart the box...no item #4. But I did discover under a flap of cardboard a packing slip I had not noticed earlier. A packing slip which says items 3 and 4 were in that box. Only they weren't.

Jane says, yes they were, somebody probably moved it and you just need to check with everyone in the house. Uhhh...no, I don't think so. Call UPS back, I suggested, and check on the weight of the package - that should tell you that item #4 was not in the package. Plus, I could send you a digital photo of the box if you like, which would assure you item #4 would not fit in said box with item #3.

Oh....says Jane...well...maybe we could ship you another one. How about overnight? I ask. Well...Jane hesitates...then Belle gets a bit testy and says Hey, this is not my fault...someone in your warehouse screwed up, just ship it overnight and everybody is happy.

You're right, Jane says. Overnight it is.

Now, I wait and see if the package indeed arrives tomorrow.

*sigh*

yes, yes, I know - I should have checked the packing slip long before now, but I didn't see it the first time I opened the box (I had to untape the cardboard and lay it flat to find it, actually) and I assumed the packing slip in the first package which noted "Shipping separately" on items 3 and 4 was the only one. Mistake on my part, I get it. And I was nice, I never raised my voice or used bad language, I just wanted the situation fixed, and it now (hopefully) is.

Ugh. So, what's been going on with you that's made your blood pressure rise?
 
Posted by Rappin' Ronnie Reagan (Member # 5626) on :
 
I hope you get it tomorrow! I hate when customer service people assume the problem is on your end even after you explain that it isn't.

All of my Christmas shopping has gone pretty well. I'm expecting two packages from Amazon.com tomorrow, and I had to pay $150 more than I expected for a TV for my mom because Walmart was sold out of the brand I intended to get, but other than that I've had no problems. And today I get to spend hours assembling the baskets of various foodstuffs my mom is giving people.
 
Posted by Jhai (Member # 5633) on :
 
This weekend I realized that, while their parents would probably appreciate not getting more "stuff" that they don't need nor have room for, my young niece (4) and nephew (2.5) would not appreciate the really cute clothing that I had purchased - I would be that Aunt. So I tried to find this really great board game for young children - which is also, surprisingly, fun for adults - and finally ended up ordering it via Amazon when it became clear that no one locally had it.

Today Amazon told me it wouldn't be arriving before Christmas, despite my paying for two-day shipping. [Frown]
 
Posted by kmbboots (Member # 8576) on :
 
I have found that magazine subscriptions are a very good last minute gift for nieces and nephews.

I established early on that I was the Book Aunt.
 
Posted by mr_porteiro_head (Member # 4644) on :
 
My holiday frustrations have included lack of power, water, phone, and internet, and those causing me to be unable to finish work on a Christmas present that I'm making.
 
Posted by Orincoro (Member # 8854) on :
 
My holiday frustration is having no money, and having every person I know ask me if I'm going home or doing anything for the holidays, and I have to be like... yeah I'm gonna spend 2 grand flying to California for a week after only being here two months. Makes total sense!

I'm not doing ANYTHING for the holidays. I will sleep through Christmas, and good riddance to that.
 
Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Orincoro:
I'm not doing ANYTHING for the holidays. I will sleep through Christmas, and good riddance to that.

You forgot to say "Bah! Humbug!".
 
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
 
Ooh, here we go. So, my cousin decided that we (the cousins) should all give my 78-year-old grandmother a digital photo frame with an SD card full of pics of the grandkids. Great idea, right? Except, for some reason, they thought it would be necessary to physically mail the card to each and every one of the nine cousins so we could all put our pics on. I suggested that we all email our pics to the final cousin, Miranda, who lives in the same town as Grandma. No, that apparently was not a good idea, even though we all have internet and I could see no problem with it. So Katie in Michigan, the one who came up with the plan, buys it and mails it to Heather in Montana, along with an actual Christmas card for us each to sign. Heather calls me and says, "I'm sending the card and SD card to you. Go to Rikki's house and you guys can put your pics on together, because Rikki might need help figuring it out. (Even though Rikki lives almost two hours away and would have easily been able to figure out EMAILING the pictures. Argh. Bear in mind that none of the cousins are my siblings, so my opinion has very little weight in the way things get done.)

I wait two weeks. No card(s). I call Heather, she says she mailed it, it should be there. A few more days go by, and I'm panicked. I call Miranda about a hundred times, but, get this, she hasn't been answering my calls because my area code is 817, so she thinks I'm a telemarketer. (Because, you know, it starts with 8.) She also, apparently, does not EVER check her voice mails. Okay, I know, she's essentially a single mom who goes to college, student teaches, and works. She's busy. I get it.

At this point, Heather and I have no plan but to buy a new SD card and have everyone email their pictures to Heather. ("But what about the Christmas card?" Heather asks. I suggest we either all buy separate cards, or even write small notes and send them to Miranda, and she can glue them into one card, patchwork style. I believe Heather's exact words were, "Well, that's not a good idea." Thanks. Thanks a lot.)

Three days later, the old SD card shows back up at Heather's, noting that the address was wrong. We checked it and double-checked it, and it was fine. I know Heather wasn't trying to cover up the fact that she forgot to send it, because she's very reliable with time-sensitive stuff and loves to get out of the house. The post office is, like, her favorite place. Sicko.

So after waffling back and forth for over a week about what we're going to do, and how can we all get our pictures to Miranda, I suggest that Heather send the SD card to Mir and we can all email our pics to her. NOW, suddenly, my idea is brilliant. You know, less than a week before Christmas. Heather overnights the SD card to Mir (total cost, almost $17) and now we're emailing her our pics! Why didn't someone think of this before? But, there will be no community Christmas card. Sorry, Gram.

URGH.
 
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
 
Suddenly, I'm kind of glad to be Jewish...

(((all of you)))
 
Posted by Mucus (Member # 9735) on :
 
Who mails an actual SD card around? That just blows my mind. But then, even faxes seem like an odd anachronism to me, so *shrug*
 
Posted by scifibum (Member # 7625) on :
 
"Who mails an actual SD card around? That just blows my mind. But then, even faxes seem like an odd anachronism to me, so *shrug* "

Tell me about it. I am dealing with a mortgage broker who asked me to return some signed forms ASAP. Now, I'd love to just fax it to them, since they are set up for that. But, I don't have a land line, and didn't have a data cable for my cell phone handy to use it as a fax modem. So, I think I'll just scan in the pages, save them as a PDF, and email them as an attachment. Simple, right?

No. I encrypt the zip files because after all the scanned forms have a lot of personal identification information in them. And, it turns out that some email server along the way discards encrypted attachments. I assume because they aren't penetrable to virus scans or something.

So, I think, cleverly, why not host the PDF files on Google Docs? Then share the files with the recipient. She might have to sign up with Google, but heck, I had to do that on the Fannie Mae site to download the forms in the first place. Tit for tat. And I don't send around confidential information as an unsecured email attachment (not that I think Google Docs is particularly secure, but I figured it was better than leaving copies of the file on every mail server between here and there). But the lady can't figure out how to sign up and download the files.

At this point I give up, and sign up for Venali fax service so I can fax over the Internet.

But it turns out that Venali requires me to send the PDF as an unencrypted attachment via email.

I'm now bald in patches, but managed to spend $10 in order to deliver these documents to the broker's fax machine. I wish I'd swung by Kinkos, or made the 30 minute drive to their office.

This isn't specifically related to Christmas, but it did happen in the last three days. [Smile]
 
Posted by EmpSquared (Member # 10890) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Raia:
Suddenly, I'm kind of glad to be Jewish...

(((all of you)))

Ha, the connotation is great. Was it just kind of a hassle before?
 
Posted by Orincoro (Member # 8854) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Raia:
Suddenly, I'm kind of glad to be Jewish...

(((all of you)))

:sigh: Lucky.
 
Posted by Nighthawk (Member # 4176) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Raia:
Suddenly, I'm kind of glad to be Jewish...

(((all of you)))

Is it too late to switch? Drat!!!
 
Posted by pfresh85 (Member # 8085) on :
 
I had a small, negative experience with Christmas shopping online this year, but it was nowhere near as bad as yours. I ordered a gift for my fiance on amazon.com. The box (which was overly large for what was in it) came a few days later. I opened it, and inside instead of what I ordered, there was an animal-version of Monopoly.

I called, they first insisted that I was wrong (particularly since the shipping slip inside the box did list the things I ordered), and then finally said that I was right. Unfortunately they said they don't have that product anymore and haven't for some time (to which I wanted to ask "then why is it still listed on your site as available to ship within 24 hours?"). They did agree to refund my money once I sent the animal Monopoly back to them. They paid the postage, but I did have to go through the hassle of waiting in line to turn the package in at the post office (as the box was way too big to fit in the little drop off thing).

After that, I ordered the product from Barnes and Noble, had the shipment delayed by a week, and then finally the gift actually got to my house. I was relieved to see it as I was worried that even after going through a second store that I wouldn't get it before Christmas.
 
Posted by ambyr (Member # 7616) on :
 
Every year, my grandma sends me a box of cookies for Chanukah. This is a good thing; I like my grandma's cookies.

However.

Every year, she packs them the exact same way: she takes an old shoebox, dumps the cookies in there, tapes it shut, and mails it.

No tin. No ziplock bag. No padding to keep them from rattling around. And frankly, not a whole lot of tape.

And so every year I get a box dripping crumbs from its untaped corners like Hansel and Gretel on steroids. If I'm lucky, I happen to be home on the day the box arrives, and I can at least report that the crumbs were tasty. If I'm not lucky. . .well, one year I got home from a weekend away to find a box that had been sitting out in the rain for two days. Opening that box of moldy, water-logged cookies to excavate the enclosed card was not one of my more pleasant holiday experiences. And I didn't even have the consolation of tasty crumbs.

I love you, grandma, but one year you're getting packing lessons for a present.
 
Posted by Darth_Mauve (Member # 4709) on :
 
It could be worse. One year we shipped some Stuffed Olives to my Mother-in-law. The container cracked open en-route.

My Mother-in-law is now no longer allowed to receive packages at her mailbox under threat of a very upset mailman.
 
Posted by King of Men (Member # 6684) on :
 
I deal with these problems by the simple expedient of training people to expect their gifts sometime in March. "Oh, that's just KoM," they say. "He's always thinking about Important Things, but he does remember us eventually."
 
Posted by scholarette (Member # 11540) on :
 
Last year, we were going crazy. So, we announced that we are too poor and too busy to come home for Christmas this year. Instead of having every minute of our time being fought over between my husband's two divorced parents, my parents, my siblings, his siblings and our friends, we have enjoyed sitting around the house, decorating OUR tree the way we want to and tomorrow we are making the cookies we like. We also said Christmas was about children, so no one over 18 is getting anything. With only two nephews, this is much easier.
 
Posted by DDDaysh (Member # 9499) on :
 
Hey Jhai! I'm with you on the frustration thing. I specifically ordered some things from Snapfish because they promised they'd be here by Christmas. Yet, here we are and no package. GRR!
 
Posted by Sean Monahan (Member # 9334) on :
 
Nothing has gone wrong, but I must rant about commercialism. I love the xmas season, but each year as it gets closer, I dread the television commercials. In particular, I can't stand seeing Santa Claus in tv commercials. It's such a cheapening of a season that is very meaningful to me. I make every effort to either mute, change channel, or turn it off when I see Santa Claus in a commercial.

The other day I saw a commercial from a local bail bondsman. He was dressed as Santa Claus, and he was break-dancing (and he is *not* a break-dancer), and he was talking about how it's now the season to bail your loved ones out of jail.
 
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
Well, we cut way back this year, because times are tight...and the kids are getting way, way less than normal. Yet, I've made a point since I finished finals to spend a lot of time doing traditional type things with them like baking and decorating cookies - we even packaged some up and gave them away as presents. The kids have *loved* it, and I know that's the type of thing they will remember. We also decorated way more than usual - not buying anything new, just dragging out every single decoration we had stored away, which happened to be a lot more than I remembered!

I'm trying to make Christmas much more about family and a lot less about stuff. I think it's working so far. It's partly the economics of it, and also the fact that I don't want Christmas to become a holiday about acquiring more material things.

I took my husband's holiday pay and spent less than half of it this year - the rest went to help pay bills. Next year, even though we'll be in much better financial shape because I won't have tuition to pay and will have a job (I hope!) we would be able to spend the entire amount, but I think I'm going to budget the same amount as this year. The rest can go to charity, and I will let the kids help our family choose a worthy cause. There is no reason to spend more than what I've spent this year.

I was afraid cutting our budget way down this year would ruin our holiday, but I've found that the money is not that important after all. I've done a lot of things with my kids and we've had a blast and there are still some nice gifts under the tree - maybe not as many as usual, but plenty. We have enough as it is. And believe me, with so many of our friends really suffering this year because they've lost jobs or lost businesses, I'm thankful for what we have.
 
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by scifibum:
I'm now bald in patches, but managed to spend $10 in order to deliver these documents to the broker's fax machine. I wish I'd swung by Kinkos, or made the 30 minute drive to their office.

So I probably shouldn't mention that it's quite easy to intercept fax machines (except for the few out there that encrypt data, mostly in government offices)? I'm not legally allowed to fax anything with a student SSN on it, for instance. And it astounds me what things people are perfectly happy to fax me (or email me, for that matter), even if I warn them. They're allowed to ignore FERPA (and my warnings), so it's not a legal issue in that direction.
 
Posted by scifibum (Member # 7625) on :
 
Well, good to mention it. I hope my fax wasn't intercepted. I was trying to be careful but my frustration won out. [Frown]
 
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
 
It is actually, according to various authorities on the subject, slightly safer to email something than to fax it.

Exactly who determined this and using what assumptions, I have never actually found out. [Dont Know]

And to be clear, I have faxed things with my SSN in urgent situations. I'm not going to get anyone but myself in trouble doing that. [Wink]
 
Posted by Nighthawk (Member # 4176) on :
 
quote:
I'm not legally allowed to fax anything with a student SSN on it, for instance. And it astounds me what things people are perfectly happy to fax me (or email me, for that matter), even if I warn them.
I use to work for the ADVERTISING AGENCY for Citibank. You can't imagine how many times people have blindly emailed us account numbers, credit card numbers, personal info, PIN numbers, etc... etc... And usually they don't send it to anyone specific; people send account numbers to "webmaster@..." or "info@...".


Back on topic: after speaking with all our relatives and doing the math, I have determined that my son's going to need in excess of 36 batteries for Christmas. And that will probably last him a week.
 
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
 
I am not so much upset about the holidays per se as that everything always seems to go wrong while we're trying to "do" Christmas and stuff... For instance, we just got back from Pediatric Urgent Care, Emma has a UTI... On the plus side, she can now swallow a capsule. Yay. No more forcing liquid meds down her or coaxing her to eat all of the opened capsule/crushed tab mixed in with applesauce...

There go my present-wrapping plans.
 
Posted by Orincoro (Member # 8854) on :
 
That was the source of my ongoing holiday angst and dislike. There was a lot of pressure on the family (not sure from where) to *do Christmas*. It only made things worse when of course, my family couldn't get along on Christmas any more than any other day of the year.
 
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Nighthawk:
You can't imagine

Sadly, I can. [Razz]

And back on topic: Third night of Chanukah, my kids are not with me tonight, and I'm still at work. [Razz]
 
Posted by AvidReader (Member # 6007) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by scholarette:

Last year, we were going crazy. So, we announced that we are too poor and too busy to come home for Christmas this year.

I've been threatening to get a room at a resort next year and anyone who wants to see us is welcome to come visit. Let's face it, after you grow up Christmas is just a hassle, and without the payoff of kids to enjoy it, it just seems silly.

Did everyone get a day of their own to see us? Was it the right day or was there still something to whine about? Did one of the other parents get a better day?

It's like babysitting four-year-olds.
 
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
 
quote:
So I probably shouldn't mention that it's quite easy to intercept fax machines (except for the few out there that encrypt data, mostly in government offices)?
How new is this information? I worked for a staffing agency doing interviews and we faxed potential employees' criminal background checks all the time. But, then, that agency wasn't all that concerned about protecting the employees, so...
 
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
 
I was told it is just as true as ever at training I went to less than a year ago. But your guess is as good as mine.

And really, most people have no idea how easy it is to access their old emails either, so . . .
 
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
 
Well, item #4 arrived! Came today, in perfect condition....everything is good. I am happy. [Smile]
 
Posted by Lostinspace (Member # 11633) on :
 
The phone call came yesterday....Credit Fraud. My credit card has been frozen. So much for the last minute gifts I had planned to get. Hope the wife will understand that plans were changed due to someone else deciding to use my credit card. Funny how it happened shortly after I used it for the first time in 6 months.
 
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
 
That's great, Belle! Good for Jane! [Wink]
 
Posted by Samprimary (Member # 8561) on :
 
Shopping at world market is like hell! It's such a trivial rant but it's the best I have. We went out and got some gluten-free stuff for our elderly neighbor and we're going to surprise her with pasta, cookies, and coconut macaroons. Merry christmas everybody.
 
Posted by Teshi (Member # 5024) on :
 
I find it weird that so many adults consider Christmas to be hell, or that there's little for adults to enjoy. Somebody goofed!

If Christmas is so terrible for adults, I think that people should set limits in their family on what Christmas is and what it is not. If you're only going to travel days to see people every second or third year, fair enough (there are other days in the year to travel). If you're only going to spend $30/person, fair enough. If you're not going to decorate any more than a tree, fair enough.

If Christmas is horrible for everyone but young children, you're doing something grievously wrong.

And that makes me sad [Frown] .
 
Posted by Mucus (Member # 9735) on :
 
On a different note, I've been out and about bargain hunting for Boxing Day and boxing week sales. At least, in Canada on a personal level, between the crowds and the decidedly unimpressive discounting it appears that reports of the economy's demise have been somewhat overstated.

(At least compared to childhood memories of recessions past, which may or may not be distorted due to the effects of age)

The best I've done is finding an overlooked $5 from a Chinese New Years red pocket from many years ago ... while doing some holiday-inspired junking/donating/cleaning in my room.
 
Posted by ClaudiaTherese (Member # 923) on :
 
I almost had a holiday mini-crisis, but then I remembered one can make confectioner's (aka "powdered") sugar in a coffee grinder.
 
Posted by Orincoro (Member # 8854) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Teshi:

If Christmas is horrible for everyone but young children, you're doing something grievously wrong.

And that makes me sad [Frown] .

It's no one's fault but the editorial "you?" Perhaps Christmas as a concept is inherently flawed.
 
Posted by Mucus (Member # 9735) on :
 
Dubious, since you can reduce Christmas to nothing more than a statutory holiday and a few weeks to avoid the shopping malls.
In other words, Christmas can be what you make of it.

[ December 28, 2008, 02:15 AM: Message edited by: Mucus ]
 
Posted by Lyrhawn (Member # 7039) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by pfresh85:
I had a small, negative experience with Christmas shopping online this year, but it was nowhere near as bad as yours. I ordered a gift for my fiance on amazon.com. The box (which was overly large for what was in it) came a few days later. I opened it, and inside instead of what I ordered, there was an animal-version of Monopoly.

I called, they first insisted that I was wrong (particularly since the shipping slip inside the box did list the things I ordered), and then finally said that I was right. Unfortunately they said they don't have that product anymore and haven't for some time (to which I wanted to ask "then why is it still listed on your site as available to ship within 24 hours?"). They did agree to refund my money once I sent the animal Monopoly back to them. They paid the postage, but I did have to go through the hassle of waiting in line to turn the package in at the post office (as the box was way too big to fit in the little drop off thing).

After that, I ordered the product from Barnes and Noble, had the shipment delayed by a week, and then finally the gift actually got to my house. I was relieved to see it as I was worried that even after going through a second store that I wouldn't get it before Christmas.

I've never personally had a problem with Amazon sending the wrong item, and I'd never heard it happen to anyone else until my mom a few months ago ordered a case for her new GPS. Instead of sending her the case they sent her...a brand new GPS. So my mom, with two GPS units in hand and no case, and more honesty than most would have displayed I think, called them to ask about sending it back. They INSISTED that she was mistaken, and that she in fact had the case. So she opened the box and sure enough, new GPS, same make but different model from the one she actually bought.

Long story short(er), they tried to make her jump through a bunch of hoops and she eventually decided it wasn't worth the effort they were demanding of her and she just kept it, ordered another case, and finally got it. I think after a certain amount of time spent trying to help someone or something that refuses to admit they were wrong and make you worker harder to help THEM, you're sort of released from the moral obligation to do so.

Anyway, sorry for intruding on the thread, I had really no complaints this year. I hope everything worked out for everyone in the end.

Edit to add: Well actually, I had no problems with Christmas, but New Years Eve is shaping up to be a bit of a nightmare. None of my friends are really good at planning things that involve calling more than one person, so it either falls on me or my best friend to organize gatherings. I happened to have the most space this year, so I started inviting people over. Generally when I think of my group of friends, it's the same group I hung out with in high school, but my circle of friends has expanded a bit since then, and not everyone is as friendly with each other as I am.

So as of now, I've invited my ex-girlfriend, who I'm really good friends with still, and another of her ex-boyfriends, who is a cool guy that everyone likes, except half the people coming don't really like my ex-girlfriend (we all went ot high school with her), and one of them HATES her. And I invited another friend I haven't seen in months because she's become something of a recluse, and she's actually coming, except some people are a little bitter about the fact that she's given us the shaft for the last year. So I have a few days left to get things together for this party, which includes just shy of a dozen people that I like, but who contain within them competing emnities and what not that might ruin the night.

So do I uninvite some of them? I really, really don't want to, but I'm afraid some people either just might not come at all, or might cause some sort of scene at the party. I had hoped that we could all act like adults and at least PRETEND to like each other. But with each passing day I'm less comforted by that idea. I think I'm just going to call everyone individually and tell them the guest list and see their reaction. It'll be best if they all have a head's up, and maybe that way I can convince them all to come and play nice. It's either that or I put them all in separate rooms of the house and I just roam from room to room.

Ugh. Next year I'm going to Texas for New Years.
 
Posted by Juxtapose (Member # 8837) on :
 
Food poisoning. 24th-26th.
 
Posted by scifibum (Member # 7625) on :
 
quote:
So as of now, I've invited my ex-girlfriend, who I'm really good friends with still, and another of her ex-boyfriends, who is a cool guy that everyone likes, except half the people coming don't really like my ex-girlfriend (we all went ot high school with her), and one of them HATES her. And I invited another friend I haven't seen in months because she's become something of a recluse, and she's actually coming, except some people are a little bitter about the fact that she's given us the shaft for the last year. So I have a few days left to get things together for this party, which includes just shy of a dozen people that I like, but who contain within them competing emnities and what not that might ruin the night.

So do I uninvite some of them? I really, really don't want to, but I'm afraid some people either just might not come at all, or might cause some sort of scene at the party. I had hoped that we could all act like adults and at least PRETEND to like each other. But with each passing day I'm less comforted by that idea. I think I'm just going to call everyone individually and tell them the guest list and see their reaction. It'll be best if they all have a head's up, and maybe that way I can convince them all to come and play nice. It's either that or I put them all in separate rooms of the house and I just roam from room to room.

It's stuff like this that makes me feel better about never having an active social life. I would be paralyzed by such concerns, so it's better for me to remain oblivious to them.
 
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
 
quote:
And really, most people have no idea how easy it is to access their old emails either, so . . .
I wish someone would show ME how to access my old emails. I lost all of the love letters my husband sent me back when we were first dating when that account was deleted for inactivity. I was very sad. [Frown] It seems like I printed several of them up a long time ago, but I haven't run across them and I've moved several times. I think those things may be lost forever.
 
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
 
I didn't say I knew how to do it! [Wink] I've lost emails I'd like to get back too.

Murphy's law would dictate those are the ones even an expert couldn't get at though.
 
Posted by Lyrhawn (Member # 7039) on :
 
quote:
It's stuff like this that makes me feel better about never having an active social life. I would be paralyzed by such concerns, so it's better for me to remain oblivious to them.
Luckily the situation seems to have sorted itself out a bit. My ex-girlfriend isn't coming to later, and the friend that hates her is coming early and then leaving early, so they might miss each other like ships in the night, and the best thing is that they aren't avoiding each other, they just have either plans, so I don't have to worry about that. So I'm not really worried about personality disputes now.

The only thing I'm worried about is one of my friends says he is bringing a keg, and almost no one in my group of friends really drinks beer. I mostly drink rum slush on NYE, which is a delicious holiday drink I make every year, and a little champagne, and everyone else is bringing wacky drinks of varying kinds since almost no one can agree on a universal drink. So now I have to spend most of tomorrow trying to get ahold of my friend to convince him he might be better off with a six pack.
 
Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :
 
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Originally posted by Lyrhawn:
So now I have to spend most of tomorrow trying to get ahold of my friend to convince him he might be better off with a six pack.

Well, you don't have to; it's not like you have a responsibility to massively inconvenience yourself in order to stop him from moderately inconveniencing himself. I'd probably just leave him a voicemail suggesting that he not bring the keg, and let that be the end of it.

[ December 31, 2008, 12:12 PM: Message edited by: Noemon ]
 
Posted by Lyrhawn (Member # 7039) on :
 
True, I didn't HAVE to, but it just seemed like the nice thing to do. I did get ahold of him, and it was a good thing I did, since everyone ended up bringing something in sort of a pot luck alcohol arrangement.

It ended up being a lot of fun. Everyone had a good time, we played some cards, some Guitar Hero, and some telephone pictionary, which is always good for a laugh. The only downside was that my rum slush didn't freeze in time. Hope everyone else had a great New Years too!
 
Posted by Ginol_Enam (Member # 7070) on :
 
My holiday summary:

Worked all Thanksgiving night.
Worked pretty much all Christmas Eve.
Worked most of Christmas Day.
Worked New Year's Eve.


Whoo!
 
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
 
Dec. 24, 25, 31 and January 1 are all regular work days for me.
 


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