Or at least I will be if there are no complications. It feels so ethereal. Mrs. BB has had late periods many times, often as late as three weeks even. Every time it happens she thinks she is pregnant, and every time I tell her to stop jumping the gun.
Well this last time I said the same thing, but about two days ago I was sitting at the computer doing work and I just knew she was pregnant. Didn't have a voice from heaven or anything, I just felt the thought burrowing into my consciousness. I thought that perhaps I was just speculating on things, but I know the thought was there. Well Mrs. BB decided to buy a pregnancy test without talking to me about it and sure enough the hormones are there. We're going to have Mrs. BB see an OBGYN this week.
I have no idea how this is going to work, we've got to get insurance, and babies are expensive, and we can't have a baby in our apartment complex. But before I kill the magic with my worrying, right now, in this moment, I feel very peaceful, even excited about this development.
Mrs. BB was on birth control, and this wasn't the optimal time as far as I could tell, but I don't feel like this was an accident.
I've often wondered what I'd feel like on the day I found out I was going to be a father, it feels alot like how I imagined it, peaceful, serene, happy, yet almost as if there was a pane of glass between me and that future, I can see it, but I'm not there.
I'll never forget this day, not for the rest of my life.
[ January 12, 2010, 10:46 AM: Message edited by: BlackBlade ]
Posted by Lyrhawn (Member # 7039) on :
Congratulations!
Baby BlackBlade is going to be one lucky kid to have a dad like you! Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
Awesome!
Posted by Godric (Member # 4587) on :
Congrats! We had Audrey in a similar situation (no insurance, not optimal living arrangements). It was a tough 9 months, but everything worked out and she was worth it all.
Best wishes!
Posted by daventor (Member # 11981) on :
Congratulations!
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Posted by Armoth (Member # 4752) on :
GRATS!
Posted by Fractal Fraggle (Member # 9803) on :
Congratulations!
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
That is so thrilling... I'm so happy you get to experience that! Congratulations to you and Mrs. BB!
Posted by scholarette (Member # 11540) on :
For the insurance, I don't know how much you guys make, but check into medicaid/Chip programs.
Congrats on the great news!
Posted by Alcon (Member # 6645) on :
Congratulations!! Posted by The Rabbit (Member # 671) on :
Congratulations! Your announcement makes our conversation last week on the subject seem quite ironic.
Posted by kmbboots (Member # 8576) on :
Congratulations, BB.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
Congratulations!
Posted by Tatiana (Member # 6776) on :
What great news! Congratulations!
Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :
Congratulations, BlackBlade. Good luck to both of you.
Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
quote:we can't have a baby in our apartment complex
*blink* Why not?
Posted by Strider (Member # 1807) on :
I saw this thread last night before I went to bed, and then proceeded to have a dream where Blackblade, fugu, and I all lived on the same block and were all having babies at the same time. It was weird.
Congrats BB!
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
You can do it, BB. When I had my son I was living in a one-bedroom apartment that was less than 500 sq. ft. The crib was kept in the living room. I don't think our son suffered any irreparable damage.
Congratulations!
Posted by The Rabbit (Member # 671) on :
quote:Originally posted by TomDavidson:
quote:we can't have a baby in our apartment complex
*blink* Why not?
Lots of apartment complexes won't allow children. Such rules have been declared illegal in most places, but that hasn't stopped them. I suspect BB and family could take the apartment complex to court over it and likely win, but usually its just easier to move. That's why the rules persist despite numerous court rulings against them.
Posted by scholarette (Member # 11540) on :
When I was in apartments, there were rules about the number of people allowed in the apartment (2 people per room) so we could not have had a kid in that apartment.
Posted by fugu13 (Member # 2859) on :
Those rules almost always have exceptions for infants, and often for any family members.
Posted by Christine (Member # 8594) on :
YAYYYYYYYY!
I know the timing may not be perfect but it's still very exciting news. I wish you all the best.
quote:Originally posted by BlackBlade: I have no idea how this is going to work, we've got to get insurance, and babies are expensive, and we can't have a baby in our apartment complex. But before I kill the magic with my worrying, right now, in this moment, I feel very peaceful, even excited about this development.
I didn't find babies to be all that expensive. You end up getting a lot of gifts, not to mention hand-me-downs, and you can fill in the gaps by shopping second hand. Freecycle and Craig's list are usually swimming with baby stuff.
Anyway, I'm sure it's too soon to think about that but don't get too worried about cash flow. I bet the parents around here can give you hundreds of money saving tips.
Posted by Traceria (Member # 11820) on :
How very exciting!!! Congratulations! I hope the path is smooth!
If it's not the apartment complex that has a stipulation, I had friends who were living in the husbands' parents' basement for the first year of their daughter's life and all three survived.
If Mrs. BB is as high quality as you, I agree that Baby BB is going to have some great parents! Posted by Lisa (Member # 8384) on :
Congrats!
Posted by Jon Boy (Member # 4284) on :
Congratulations and good luck!
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
Thanks so much for the outpouring of congratulatory remarks! I can't get this development out of my mind for more than a minute right now.
scholarette: Already looking into CHIP and Medicare, we'll figure something out.
Rabbit: I was thinking the exact same thing. I thought back on our conversation and my expressed concern and immediately thought, well that certainly puts a lid on the issue.
Tom: From what I understand in the zoning codes it says that only two adults, and an infant younger than two years of age can live in the apartments. So technically speaking we could be good for another two years, but it does seem like it's one of those things where they try to get you to leave before two years is up. I've never seen any couples at this complex with infants.
rivka: Wipe that grin off your face, you and I both know it was obvious this was going to happen, and soon.
Strider: Do you have any history of premonition? Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
quote:Originally posted by BlackBlade: rivka: Wipe that grin off your face, you and I both know it was obvious this was going to happen, and soon.
*nod*
Kids are contagious.
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
Hooray! Best of luck with the upcoming pregnancy.
Posted by scifibum (Member # 7625) on :
I'm very happy for you, BlackBlade.
Posted by Hank (Member # 8916) on :
That's wonderful, and what a great description of how you feel. A lot of my friends just had/will soon have their first babies and I've never heard a better explanation.
Posted by Orincoro (Member # 8854) on :
quote:Originally posted by Belle: Hooray! Best of luck with the upcoming pregnancy.
Really the current pregnancy, no? Congrats BB, I'm looking forward to calling your infant wrong on Hatrack in a scant 15 years or so. You wait- he/she will be totally wrong when it comes to debating with me.
Posted by Uprooted (Member # 8353) on :
Aww, BB, I'm so excited for you -- big grin on my face.
Posted by rollainm (Member # 8318) on :
Congrats!
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
True, it is a current pregnancy. How about "Best wishes for a happy, healthy pregnancy."
I'm tired...I've been trying to bash in minds all day.
Posted by SenojRetep (Member # 8614) on :
Congratulations!
Posted by Wendybird (Member # 84) on :
Congratulations!!!
Posted by Dobbie (Member # 3881) on :
Can I be the godfather?
Posted by Dobbie (Member # 3881) on :
Sorry, that last post should have been in the Mafia thread.
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
quote:Originally posted by Orincoro:
quote:Originally posted by Belle: Hooray! Best of luck with the upcoming pregnancy.
Really the current pregnancy, no? Congrats BB, I'm looking forward to calling your infant wrong on Hatrack in a scant 15 years or so. You wait- he/she will be totally wrong when it comes to debating with me.
Well no doubt when she/he is around 15 years of age they will be wrong about just about everything.
Posted by steven (Member # 8099) on :
Congrats and good luck.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
quote:Originally posted by BlackBlade: Well no doubt when she/he is around 15 years of age they will be wrong about just about everything.
I thought you barely met my daughter?
Posted by Sterling (Member # 8096) on :
Congratulations, BlackBlade.
Posted by AchillesHeel (Member # 11736) on :
Glad to see that your taking it so bravely, Id probably take my a note from my father and run away screaming. Third generation bastard and counting.
But honestly, congratulations and good luck.
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
quote:Originally posted by rivka:
quote:Originally posted by BlackBlade: Well no doubt when she/he is around 15 years of age they will be wrong about just about everything.
I thought you barely met my daughter?
You're right, and hence my prejudice stands. Maybe next time you can dazzle me with her intellectual prowess. Heck, try convincing her that there is nothing cooler than to post on a forum that her mother frequents. Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
*laugh*
WHY would I want to do that?
Posted by Shigosei (Member # 3831) on :
quote:Originally posted by rivka:
quote:Originally posted by BlackBlade: rivka: Wipe that grin off your face, you and I both know it was obvious this was going to happen, and soon.
*nod*
Kids are contagious.
I hear they can be sexually transmitted.
Posted by BelladonnaOrchid (Member # 188) on :
quote:Originally posted by Shigosei:
quote:Originally posted by rivka:
quote:Originally posted by BlackBlade: rivka: Wipe that grin off your face, you and I both know it was obvious this was going to happen, and soon.
*nod*
Kids are contagious.
I hear they can be sexually transmitted.
I love that.
Also, congratulations, Blackblade!
Posted by Uprooted (Member # 8353) on :
quote:Originally posted by BlackBlade: Well no doubt when she/he is around 15 years of age they will be wrong about just about everything.
I'm pretty sure when your child is around 15 that YOU will be wrong about just about everything.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
When did YOU meet my daughter?
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
quote:Originally posted by Shigosei:
quote:Originally posted by rivka:
quote:Originally posted by BlackBlade: rivka: Wipe that grin off your face, you and I both know it was obvious this was going to happen, and soon.
*nod*
Kids are contagious.
I hear they can be sexually transmitted.
Kids also have a 100% mortality rate.
Posted by Uprooted (Member # 8353) on :
rivka, I think I've BEEN your daughter.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
O_o
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
My mama says insanity's hereditary. You get it from your kids.
Grats!
Posted by Uprooted (Member # 8353) on :
quote:Originally posted by rivka: O_o
Would it be better if I said I'd been that kid who knew how wrong her mother was about everything?
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
It would make me double-check my age a tad less. Posted by DDDaysh (Member # 9499) on :
Congrats BB!
Try not to stress too much. I'm not sure what state you're in, but many states have good pregnancy medicaid programs. If that doesn't work, there are tons of free/low cost clinics for prenatal care - I hear they're a pain because you wait forever, but they do exist! Also, alot of hospitals will give you a big discount if you pay upfront before the baby is born, so if nothing else works out start calling around!
Also, alot of kids are born at times that are "not the best". Even though I was trying to get pregnant with my son, it didn't take me long to realize I'd picked an EXTREMELY bad time! It was my first year of teaching, I was making almost nothing, my (now ex) was out of work, and my step-daughter had just had a tumor removed, had major medical bills, and still needed tons of therapy! Inopportune didn't even begin to describe it, but somehow life went on.
Now he's 5, and there isn't a day in the world when I wish he wasn't here - even on the days when I think I want to skin him alive!
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Congratulations, BB and Mrs. BB. I know an unexpected pregnancy can be hard to come to terms with while you're worrying about how things are going to work out (I've been there!) But they will work out. They will. And when things start to fall into place much of the anxiety will fade. (The medical coverage was a big one for me too.)
And e-mail me if you need a car seat, or any advice about it. Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
quote:Originally posted by ketchupqueen: Congratulations, BB and Mrs. BB. I know an unexpected pregnancy can be hard to come to terms with while you're worrying about how things are going to work out (I've been there!) But they will work out. They will. And when things start to fall into place much of the anxiety will fade. (The medical coverage was a big one for me too.)
And e-mail me if you need a car seat, or any advice about it.
Ha! I may take you up on that. Do you have extra car seats? Or did you mean you know a fantastic place to get em?
Posted by Mucus (Member # 9735) on :
Huh.
I didn't really expect this, thought it would be someone older
But yes, definite congratulations are in order.
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
quote:Originally posted by Mucus: Huh.
I didn't really expect this, thought it would be someone older
But yes, definite congratulations are in order.
Thanks. I'll be 28 when the 小輩比 makes his/her appearance. Which reminds me, I need to decide if I'm going to give them Chinese names in addition to their English ones. Hmmmm!
Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
Just give them Chinese-sounding English names, and you're good to go.
Posted by Mucus (Member # 9735) on :
Well, you do have a middle name to work with too. I guess it would just be 1/3 rather than 2/3.
Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
You know, you can even assign multiple middle names, but then one of them has to be a Catholic saint (or Jesus).
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
quote:Originally posted by TomDavidson: You know, you can even assign multiple middle names, but then one of them has to be a Catholic saint (or Jesus).
*checks nephews' middle names* *re-checks*
Nope.
Posted by scifibum (Member # 7625) on :
quote:Originally posted by rivka:
quote:Originally posted by TomDavidson: You know, you can even assign multiple middle names, but then one of them has to be a Catholic saint (or Jesus).
*checks nephews' middle names* *re-checks*
Nope.
Your nephews are BlackBlade's kids?
Posted by scholarette (Member # 11540) on :
My daughter has an English name as the first name and her middle name is Chinese (and I use the first syllable of that when I refer to her online). It works pretty well, except that she does not look the least bit Chinese and so people often look confused at the middle name. And to make it worse, she has decided the Chinese name is her preferred name. When people call her by her English names, she says no, I'm Bin Bin!!! At school, at tumbling, at church, everywhere, she goes by the Chinese name. Which was not what we were prepared for. So, if you give your child a chinese name, be sure you are ok with them going by it.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
quote:Originally posted by scifibum: Your nephews are BlackBlade's kids?
My nephews have middle names that do not follow Tom's theory.
Posted by Mucus (Member # 9735) on :
quote:Originally posted by scholarette: So, if you give your child a chinese name, be sure you are ok with them going by it.
Hmmm, so no naming them BlackBlade in Chinese Posted by scifibum (Member # 7625) on :
quote:Originally posted by rivka:
quote:Originally posted by scifibum: Your nephews are BlackBlade's kids?
My nephews have middle names that do not follow Tom's theory.
But he wasn't saying what your nephews' middle names had to be.
(I realize this is probably not that funny, but I thought maybe since you responded to a joke as if it was a serious assertion, it'd be funny to be hyper literal about the whole thing.)
*pounds last scrap of funny until it stops wriggling*
Posted by paigereader (Member # 2274) on :
congrats BB, Mrs.BB and Baby BB!
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
quote:Originally posted by BlackBlade:
quote:Originally posted by ketchupqueen: Congratulations, BB and Mrs. BB. I know an unexpected pregnancy can be hard to come to terms with while you're worrying about how things are going to work out (I've been there!) But they will work out. They will. And when things start to fall into place much of the anxiety will fade. (The medical coverage was a big one for me too.)
And e-mail me if you need a car seat, or any advice about it.
Ha! I may take you up on that. Do you have extra car seats? Or did you mean you know a fantastic place to get em?
Well, a little of both. But, you probably wouldn't be able to use what I have, and it would be a pain to ship to you.
I do have resources in your area to get you a car seat if you can't afford one, though. Let me know if you need help with that. And I am happy to go through the basics, dos/don'ts of buying, and shopping resources to help you get the best deal if you can afford one.
Posted by MattP (Member # 10495) on :
Congrats! You'll also want to look into WIC - it'll provide free/healthy food while your wife is pregnant and while you have an infant which will put a few more dollars back in your pocket.
RE: Medicare, I've got a sister-in-law that has had a couple children on Medicare and is currently pregnant again. If you need any info from someone who's experienced working with Medicare in Utah, let me know. As I understand it they do a "snapshot" of your income at the time you apply and then it sticks for the rest of the pregnancy regardless of what happens with your income level so if you don't quite qualify for Medicare you may be able to reduce your hours to temporarily lower your income to the qualification level.
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Medicaid is what will cover a pregnancy, not Medicare, and yes, you only have to qualify once during a pregnancy. (Qualifying income is higher for pregnant woment and children than the general population.) You'll have to re-qualify (or qualify for CHIP) if you want the baby to continue coverage after 1 year of age, though.
Posted by MattP (Member # 10495) on :
Oops, right. Medicaid.
Posted by kmbboots (Member # 8576) on :
I dunno, woman are having babies later and later. Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
*giggles* I have a feeling that pregnancy and childbirth may not be covered benefits under Medicare. (Well, maybe for the disabled. Take that back.)
Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
I got my* AARP card while I was pregnant with Charles. I was going to ask the L&D nurses if they had an AARP discount, but I forgot.
*technically it's a spouse card, as Bob is 13 years older than I am. And they send them out early, he didn't actually turn 50 until after Charles was born.
****
Congrats, BB.
Posted by Xann. (Member # 11482) on :
quote:Originally posted by Mucus:
quote:Originally posted by scholarette: So, if you give your child a chinese name, be sure you are ok with them going by it.
Hmmm, so no naming them BlackBlade in Chinese
Are you kidding? Blackblade would be an awesome middle name! Or just Blade! but then you have to watch out for vampires....
Also congrats BB Must have missed the thread in my last weeks lurking.
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
I don't think Hei Dao (BlackBlade) or Hei Jian (BlackSword) work well as middle names. But 岳黑刀 actually sounds kinda cool. For those wondering how to pronounce it, say the words literally how they would be read normally.
You e (lower case e sound) hey dow.
or Yue4 Hei1 Dao4
Posted by Uprooted (Member # 8353) on :
So, how's Mrs. BB feeling?
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
quote:Originally posted by Uprooted: So, how's Mrs. BB feeling?
I felt like an evil task master making her leave the house and go to work today. Her morning sickness isn't the worst I've seen, but it's definitely there. She also gets alot of cramps and hot flashes. The other girls at work hate her for running the ceiling fan.
There was one day I couldn't pick her up from work and she had to walk home, she ended up vomiting twice on the 45 minute walk back and people driving by in cars jeered at her.
But besides that, she's very excited and doing lots of reading up on baby stuff. It's hard for her to adjust her diet so suddenly but she's letting me boss her around on that too.
I'll try to have her post her thoughts in this thread sometime today. Maybe if she posts once it'll be like drugs and she'll stick around to post more on hatrack. Posted by Orincoro (Member # 8854) on :
quote:Originally posted by BlackBlade:
quote:Originally posted by Mucus: Huh.
I didn't really expect this, thought it would be someone older
But yes, definite congratulations are in order.
Thanks. I'll be 28 when the 小輩比 makes his/her appearance. Which reminds me, I need to decide if I'm going to give them Chinese names in addition to their English ones. Hmmmm!
I thought you were white- is your wife Chinese, and are you still living in Asia?
I have always been a fan of choosing the Chinese name first, then finding a sound-alike analog in the Anglophone vocabulary. For instance, Jing-mei becomes Jill. A few of my Korean friends in college just took the middle road and used the first letter sound of their names and used those as monickers, ie: Tae-hun becomes "T," or "Tee."
I'm not a fan of the totally unrelated and overly 1950's Asian people names that are totally different from the Chinese name, which is why all Asian female friends in college (school was half Asian) were named Carol, Megan, or Jenny.
One cool way to go would be to pick a Chinese name first, then take the literal translation and try to find a European language analog name. I have had fun doing this with my own name in different countries I've visited, since my name is from Welsh Gaelic, and has a literal meaning in English ("gray" or "sacred").
I think the best way is just to find an elegant solution, with some name that can be applied in either sinophone or anglophone situations. There are plenty of Chinese names that Americans are now pretty familiar with, and which are not very foreign, or you could just hybridize a Chinese name for American purposes.
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
Orincoro: We're both white, but I grew up in Asia, and I got a Chinese name when I started taking Chinese classes in elementary school.
---- Turns out we make too much money to qualify for medicade. I guess the cutoff income is $2,030 a month between me and my wife. We probably make closer to $2,500, which is really frustrating. We could probably still qualify for CHIP but that's for children not for unborn babies so I've got to look at other options. Darn darn darn...
Posted by scholarette (Member # 11540) on :
Move to Texas. Our income eligibility is 185% of the poverty line, so you would qualify for medicaid here. Also, keep in mind that you only have to have your income qualify for one month of the pregnancy. So if you work hourly and drop a bunch of those hours so that your pay for your sample month is below, you can qualify and stay on until the baby is born, after which the baby will be able to qualify for Chip. Also, I believe WIC is 185% as well, so you might as well get that- free milk is good.
Posted by DDDaysh (Member # 9499) on :
The disabled get medicaid too - not medicare (or at least the ones who qualify for SSI do).
Medicaid is a funky system, but if you have to work it, go ahead and do so! I had to with my son for a while when my ex left. I could get insurance through my dad, but my son would have been uninsured since my ex wouldn't keep up his insurance. I was subbing at the time, but technically that didn't count as income against medicaid because it wasn't "guaranteed and regular income". So, technically, if you're working for a company that only promises you a certain number of hours, any overtime you work doesn't count against you for medicaid.
Also, I sort of cheated when his 6 month renewal came up. I'd just found a permanent job (but one that didn't offer benefits) but wasn't due to start it until the next week. So, technically, when I filled out the second set of paperwork, I was still unemployed. Yeah, it's a cheat, but I've paid taxes my entire working life and I needed it at that point, so I don't feel bad about it!
I'm not sure what you and Mrs. BB do. However, if there's any way you could get by without one of your incomes for a month, having her quit might not be such a bad idea if you think she can find another job again after that. Of course, if she's making decent money it might not be economically feasible to do that.
The cut off for WIC income is actually quite a bit higher than the medicaid income cut off - so apply for that right away! They've added some additional language in there about being "nutritionally at risk" but I'm pretty sure that a pregnant woman without insurance won't be hard pressed to prove she is. WIC doesn't provide a large variety of food, but every penny you can save for diapers and baby clothes is well worth it! Besides, if you end up having to formula feed (or choosing to formula feed) WIC can be a God sent!
I'm not sure where you live, but look around for community resources and don't be ashamed to use them when/if you find them. Good Luck!
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Did you go in and speak to a caseworker? Usually pregnant women qualify at the same, higher income level as babies under a year. If not, there may be a low-cost state insurance plan (we have one in CA, not sure about UT) for those who are uninsured but don't qualify for Medicaid-- and the caseworker would be able to refer you. I'll do some searching later if you want.
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Hmmm. Looks like you're right on the income limits-- but there may be other options. They give a number to call for information on other programs you may qualify for: 1-800-826-9662
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
So we had the 20 week ultrasound yesterday, and it turns out our baby has man parts. Top marks on the tri-screen test, no holes in the heart or spine that could be seen. We managed to enroll in medicade, so we are doing OK financially as far as the baby is concerned.
Tiffany is over the morning sickness, and feeling really good these days. There's so many things going on in our lives frankly it's scary. We've got another doctor's appointment today with her nurse midwife, (The clinic she wants to deliver at doesn't do the ultrasounds) and she hopes it will be more of the same of what was discussed yesterday.
We've started talking about circumcision, I'll probably ask her to read one of the threads here, as that really helped me to realize there are considerations that should be headed. I myself am circumcised, and Tiffany by default, was planning on circumcision, but now we aren't so sure.
But fortunately we can scratch girl's names for now, and start thinking about boys. I feel fairly strongly that we want to have a German middle name, if not a first name, as that is Tiffany's heritage, (she's slightly more than half German) but out of all those German names out there, the only one she likes is Tristan. I know it's ridiculously early to be settling on names as the boy may pop out, and defy all our ideas.
I'm also leery of naming my children with names that start with the letter T, as my name is Taylor, Mrs. BB is Tiffany. No offense to people who like systems like that, but it just doesn't settle in the right place for me. But time may bear me out to be a liar.
In anycase, I'm thrilled it's a boy, of course I would have been just as thrilled with a girl. Half of Tiffany's pregnancy is over and that's pretty awesome, she's done great so far.
Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
Congrats. If you're looking at the middle name, then having it start with a T shouldn't be a problem, no?
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
quote:Originally posted by dkw: Congrats. If you're looking at the middle name, then having it start with a T shouldn't be a problem, no?
No I imagine not. The only consideration then would be does the name come off the tongue well.
[ January 12, 2010, 11:30 AM: Message edited by: BlackBlade ]
Posted by Mucus (Member # 9735) on :
What is your name? My name is James Tiberius Kirk!
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
quote:Originally posted by Mucus: What is your name? My name is James Tiberius Kirk!
You might find it interesting that when I told my father his response was, "So this is the "precious heir," (he said it in Chinese) that carries the family name. We better give him a girls name when he's born so death can't find him, and then when he's two years of age we will give him his true name."
Apparently the latter superstition is still current in Japan as well.
Posted by Mucus (Member # 9735) on :
Narn too, IIRC
Too old fashioned for my parents though, although they did do that thing where they present the kid with various items and what the kid takes is supposed to mean something about their future.
Posted by scholarette (Member # 11540) on :
My husband had a baby name, which they still call him a variant of, but they did give him his legal name at birth.
For my daughter's name, I think us giving her a Chinese name (selected by the fortune teller) was more then they expected. Of course, they are constantly shocked at my willingness to go along with Chinese traditions. Which is why my Chinese in laws love me. Posted by James Tiberius Kirk (Member # 2832) on :
Congratulations, BB.
--j_k
Posted by scifibum (Member # 7625) on :
Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
Best wishes, BB.
I have a chinese middle name but no one could ever tell me what it was supposed to mean, including my father.
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
quote:Originally posted by pooka: Best wishes, BB.
I have a chinese middle name but no one could ever tell me what it was supposed to mean, including my father.
Care to give me a shot?
我可不試試看嗎？
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Congratulations! Do you have a car seat picked out yet?
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