My son Stephen is in the ICU. You may remember that he had a heart transplant almost 12 years ago this December. He has been having some trouble breathing and pain in his chest. We took him to the ER and they decided to admit him.
I don't know much else but your prayers are appreciated.
(I am going to put updates here so they are easier to find)
UPDATE 8/30/14 at 1:20 He is not responding as well to treatment as they had hoped. They will be trying a new medication to try to get the heart to start working properly again. It isn't pumping well and this puts his kidneys at risk. He is still very critical. Please continue to pray for us. I am getting really concerned that he may not make it through this.
[ August 30, 2014, 04:27 PM: Message edited by: Wendybird ]
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
(((Wendybird)))
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
hope all is well
Posted by Wendybird (Member # 84) on :
Update: He is on oxygen and meds to stimulate his heart function and showing slight improvement. He is also being monitored closely for urine output and kidney function. Labs weren't good this morning. They are doing a heart biopsy at noon to check for signs of rejection. Continued prayers are appreciated.
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
((Prayers for Stephen and family))
Posted by Samprimary (Member # 8561) on :
oh, i hope everything turns out ok
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
Praying, Wendybird.
Posted by Bella Bee (Member # 7027) on :
Oh, no. I can't pray but I'll be thinking of you and him and hoping he's okay.
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
Said a prayer for you guys right now. Please keep us informed as much as you can.
I know it's silly to say "If there's anything I can do...." but if there IS..don't hesitate to ask.
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
Will keep you in my prayers tonight Wendybird.
Posted by DustinDopps (Member # 12640) on :
I hope all is well. I just prayed.
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
Wendy: Just wanted to say I'll continue to keep you and your family in my prayers. I'm sure everybody here is still behind you.
Posted by Bella Bee (Member # 7027) on :
Yes, this thread keeps coming to my mind. I'm really hoping everything is alright.
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
Same here.
Posted by BlackBlade (Member # 8376) on :
I'm so sorry, Wendy.
Posted by Bella Bee (Member # 7027) on :
Oh no. I'm so sorry.
Posted by Samprimary (Member # 8561) on :
Hi wendy. Take time as soon as you are able to get support and take care of yourself.
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
Oh no. Posted by Wendybird (Member # 84) on :
Thanks BB for posting the link. Its been a month now and it still hurts like it was today. My 12 year old is struggling a lot. I'm getting ready to quit my job and shift to just subbing so I can be home with him after school. He isn't handling being alone very well. I'm struggling too. Finally washed some of his laundry today and folded it. I just can't believe he isn't coming home. When I lost my mom 4 years ago it took my breath away but losing my son has taken the life out of me.
Posted by JanitorBlade (Member # 12343) on :
(((Wendybird)))
I sometimes used to think divorce was worse than death. But reading your experience helps me realize I just don't know what the latter feels like.
I'm so glad your son has you to take care of him.
Posted by AchillesHeel (Member # 11736) on :
Hi Wendy, I know that we don't really know each other very well, but I've spent a lot of my life in cardiology and ICU waiting rooms. Every time I see a hospital I either think of my brother, or try really hard not to. I dont know how it feels to lose a child, I lost my brother who raised me and I that is not the same at all.
I feel for you and everyone who knew your son.
This is a community that has been very good for my mother. I hope it helps. Formomsonly.org
Posted by Samprimary (Member # 8561) on :
Has there been any grief counseling made available to you and your 12 year old?
Posted by James Tiberius Kirk (Member # 2832) on :
I'm so sorry, Wendy.
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
I would not for one second try to pretend I know what you're going through. There is no way I could know.
My heart is broken for you. I am so, so sorry.
Just know there are plenty of people here who may not have ever met you in person, but DO care about you. Again, so very sorry. Posted by Wendybird (Member # 84) on :
Sam - We are meeting with a grief support group once a week. My 12 yo is doing a little better now but I know he is holding back a bit. My best friend lost her husband 4 years ago and she said for her kids they didn't really grieve until after the first year was over.
We're holding up. My last day of work was yesterday which was hard because I love my job and the kids I taught but I am really trying to listen to my instincts and my body both of which are telling me I am pushing too hard and doing too much and have to cut back or risk a hard crash. Hopefully I'll do my sub training on Thurs. so I can start picking up jobs in our district and keep some income coming in. It will give me flexibility to take a day and rest when I need it.
Thanks Belle. This place has gotten me through some tough times and even though I don't post a lot or come by as frequently as I used to it is still part of my community.
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