Going to school would mean getting a school loan while still paying the mortgage. Actually, I have to refinance since my house needs about 50,000 in repairs! Meanwhile, I would also probably have kids during that time. My husband and I are childless right now, but times a ticking!
Any one have any career change stories they could share?
that being said, I don't think it's crazy at all. 40 is the new 27. you still have 30 years to pratice once you graduate if you want.
I knew someone your age that was in a dead end job and decided to go to school to be a brain surgen, no joshing. Don't really know how that worked out for him, but it seemed to work out while I knew him.
For me, a job's a job and its only point is to fuel the finances of my life. If im getting a decent wage and am happy with my lifestyle and future possibilities in my field, I'm happy enough with what I'm doing; I'll put my extra energy into my life at home.
Devnal, I appreciate your insight. Part of it is I feel stuck in a dead end field that even in the best times doesn't pay well (journalism).
Good luck!
I'd change my career in a second if a viable alternative fell into my lap---there's got to be something more interesting than what I do (and there's got to be better people to work for). But, unless writing pays off in a big way, there's nothing that I'm willing to dump my career for. Practically any other job that'll pay at least as much requires more formal education than I have, and I don't have the spare time to get it and continue in my job. The things I do to live an indulgent lifestyle!
(Your profile lists your occupation as "freelance writer." Do you do anything else to keep body-and-soul together?)
If you don't do it, in four more years you'll still be 40.
Sometimes it helps to ask yourself which you would regret more, doing it or not doing it?
A career change at your age isn't insane, as long as you consider your real potential (especially for happiness) and limits.
The one that was closest to what you are proposing was when I set out to become a teacher. This is a long story, but the short of it was I ended up working a 40 hour a week job, working a second job as a substitute teacher to get experience (8-16 hours a week) and attending school on the weekends. I did this for a year, and I had a 3 year-old at the time, which made this even more challenging.
Unfortunately, when I did get a full-time teaching position it was not what I was expecting. The politics was the worse part of it, but there was also the challenge of having to change classrooms, not getting my own desk, paperwork out the yin-yang, etc. I lasted for two years after being bounced between 3 different schools and grade levels.
My point is: know what you're getting into. Will you have to relocate? Will you have to work a schedule you are unaccustomed to? Are you prepared to deal with euthanasia? What about animal abuse? What about people blaming you if their animal dies? I am not trying to be negative, but if you are going to make such a big change, you need to be prepared to take the bad with the good. I would suggest you talk with your veterinarian.
I do not regret becoming a teacher; I always would have said to myself "What if..." if I hadn't tried. However, I would not go back to doing it, at least not in public schools. It only cost me a year of school and two years of being in the wrong profession. Weigh your costs with the possible benefits and disappointments.
...and I've learned to never jump out of a plane without a parachute.
Refinancing to float money for repairs would only extend your bondage to the loan holders. Given the dollar amount you quote, you might consider unloading the house and returning to a rental rather than doing it.
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Unfortunately, when I did get a full-time teaching position it was not what I was expecting. The politics was the worse part of it, but there was also the challenge of having to change classrooms, not getting my own desk, paperwork out the yin-yang, etc. I lasted for two years after being bounced between 3 different schools and grade levels.My point is: know what you're getting into. Will you have to relocate? Will you have to work a schedule you are unaccustomed to? Are you prepared to deal with euthanasia?
So philo, after the teaching thing didn't pan out what did you do? Also, what subject did you used to teach? I've found that can make a difference.
Not to thread hijack, I'm just curious.
Back to annepin,
I think philo brought up two very important points.
1. Can you take the bad along with the good?
2. You'll always wonder "what if" or "if only" if you dont, but is that enough of a motivating force to want to overcome the obstacles in the way?
Whenever we make any choice of any kind, including choosing to do nothing, we're always giving something up. Which is what we would have done had we not made our choice. In other words to go after your first choice is always at the expense of your second choice. If you go after a job in LA you can't take the job in NY. If you go to University of Memphis this year you can't go to University of Wisconsin. If you get the steak you're giving up getting the lobster. (Unless you really like to eat.)
Imagine you do go after this new idea. Ask yourself what you'd be giving up.
Next imagine you don't chase after this, imagine where you'll be, and ask yourself what you'd be giving up.
After doing that things should, hopefully, become clear one way or the other.
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And have you talked to a local vet? Ask him or her what school was like, and, probably more importantly, what to do after you get the diploma. Do you start your own business? Go into it with someone else? Become specialized, i.e. dealing only with cats or dogs or cows or whatever?
For a few years I loved the fulfillment of working in a field that made use of my brain. But I wound up in a job where I don't feel like I'm making a difference in the world. In that respect, I suspect you have a better choice before you. Funny that you feel stuck in a dead-end job, because so do I, and I have what I thought was my dream job! I've always been glass-half-empty (no matter where you go, there you are).
Eh, I'd probably make the same choices. My husband likes the arrangement just fine. He has more patience with our son. And I was fortunate enough to be able to return to school for free, without working at the same time. If I'd had to work and go to school at the same time, there's no way I could have done it (or at least enjoyed it and done well). If our son had been born during that time, I would have quit school. A baby is way too demanding and needy to be compatible with school, IMO. But people do it!
One other thought: It is tougher to have a child when you're older. I was 38 when he was born, and the pregnancy was rough. (And the older you are, the higher the risk of birth defects.) I don't have the energy to keep up with him like the younger moms. My parents were older when I was born, and I often felt that they couldn't understand me even more than other families, because of the age gap. Now they're both dead before I reached 45; I feel sad when I think of him having the same experience. (Not to mention how often someone assumes I'm his grandmother!) If there's one thing I wish I had done differently, it'd be to have my son earlier. I wish he could have a sibling, but its just not gonna happen.
No easy answers here; I can pray for you to find guidance, if you like.
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My husband was an accountant and hated it. He came home from work everyday in a bad mood and complained about work. We were both thinking that maybe he just didn't like to work. I told him to try it and he got his programming degree from a college that offers lots of online classes. He worked full time for most of the schooling and just as he finished he got a job in computer programming. I made a huge difference. He no longer hated going to work and actually liked what he did. So for us it was a really good thing, but it didn't add too much financial stress, some school loans and I had to work full time for a year.
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In my experience, people with #1 often have spouses (I know plenty of at-home dads, but more at-home moms, so forgive the gender bias) with the demanding jobs or jobs that have variable and unpredictable and unflexible schedules (e.g., my DH who is gone from home 6A-7:30P and travels completely unpredictably about an average of 1.5 nights/wk - the .5 is when he's home to sleep but unable to help with childcare/household because he's home after the kids are in bed.)
But darn, that's not how I meant to start this message. I meant to start this message by saying my good friend (via fb - I can intro you) just got her vet degree THIS YEAR (I think she just turned 39)! After leaving a career in tech consulting about 6 years ago (1-2 years prereqs, she didn't have the basics she needed for vet school and wanted to get into a certain program, it's very competitive as I'm sure you know, and so did a year or two of prereqs elsewhere first.) I know she's happy in her work, but I imagine the soul-searching was intense.
I also had a friend who left tech consulting at a younger age to go to med school. I have lost touch with him but I know he was really slammed with work for those first years of med school, however he had a good work ethic from a tech job so that I think he had a leg up on the recent college grads he was working with.
Another friend went back to school for her law degree after having her third baby. She just took the bar this summer.
I'd say it's worth considering a career change, however I find the idea of family + vet (or med for that matter) school to be daunting to the point of making me cower. People do it all the time, though, I think it's just me trying to imagine my life in that situation and finding it impossible.
Are there other...perhaps slightly less dramatic career changes you might be able to swing? Or ways to indulge your love of animals via volunteering while pursuing a change in direction (say from journalism to advertising/PR, ghostwriting, technical writing, etc.) My sister fostered dogs for a while. It's a good way to get to be the owner of five dogs, LOL, but she really loved it.
Anyway - I'd be happy to talk your ear off about my own experiences in combining work + family. Even now with school-age kids it's nearly impossible, though I'm trying to put all the pieces together (it's like a gigantic calculus equation!)
Best of luck to you as you start down the road toward reconsidering career options.
You are not crazy. It is never too late to change careers. Wanting a baby soon does complicate things.
Journalism seems like a job that is pretty flexible which would work well with having a baby. It might be worth considering having the baby now, and in two or three years if you still want to be a vet, then go back to school. Two or three years doesn't really make a big difference careerwise, but being in school while caring for a preschooler vs. an infant does.
I am a stay at home mom, but I occasionally teach college just to pad my resume. I taught one semester when my first child was six months, and it was really tough. I could never find time to prepare my lessons while she was awake, so I ended up staying up all night. I taught again when she was 1 and 1/2 and it was so much easier. I could give her a little notebook and pen, and we would scribble notes together. She just had a better attention span and could entertain herself at that age.
But I do want to stress that it is never too late to change careers, and it is worth it if it is something you really love.
I would try to work while in school as much as possible, but the programs are pretty rigorous and inflexible because there is no option to go part time. You have to complete certain course material within the 4 years.
Mrs. Brown, my father was about 20 years older than all my friends' fathers, and I remember it was awkward, too. I worry about birth defects; that's why I think it's unreasonable to think I can have kids _after_ schooling.
Argh! I just don't know.... I don't have to decide today, though, thank goodness. The next step for me is to investigate veterinary practice. It's a required step to applying to schools anyway.
Kayti, I'll try pinging you on FB, maybe this weekend.
Thanks, all, you are great and wise.