Oh my gosh, I nearly just decked a co-worker for flattery.
I suspect he'd had a bad day, since I know a bit about the project he's working on and then he broke one of our nice large glass beakers because he accidentally dropped the part instead of placing it gently. So I suggested he use a large stainless steel 2 gallon beaker instead.
He's genuinely a nice guy. I have to work with him a lot and I never mind. However it was like one thing going right today made him snap. I'm sure my face was beet red. They were all genuine compliments in a way nothing about me being a girl or anything else more about the fact that I'm willing to help other people out and get stuff done when they come to me. My other co-worker the infamous Weightlifter Bob was there too and afer a point he went "You're laying it on so thick I want to gag!" At which point the other guy kind of wound himself down.
Interestingly enough I actually do agree with him for the most part about politics and while possibly a little out of his league at Hatrack he really does think about issues. An intellectual *in the closet* as it were because you can't appear to be intellectual and work where he does.
Anyway I really like the guy and it wasn't squicky, but at the same time he does have a daughter my age, and he just *wouldn't stop*! even if it was due more to the way his day went than anything else.
Yeah that is a good way to look at it Jenny. The problem being that it shook my equillibrium. I don't know why I'm in an introspective mood today, but for some reason I can take sharp criticism much better than genuine compliments, even when the compliments are so thick they've crossed the border into flattery.
And if it was anyone but this particular guy it would have squicked me out. But he was so sincere and like I said it was totally non-sexual and about my competency at my job rather than anything personal.
AJ, I think the patience you showed with this guy proves what an incredible person you are. All of us here know what an intelligent, beautiful woman you are, but this just knocked my socks off. When you recommended that he use the 2-gallon stainless steel beaker, I couldn't help but think "Wow, I would have never thought of that. It's a good thing AJ was there was there to help that guy out."
And you're great with dogs.
And you're seeing a geotech engineer. If that doesn't prove how brainy you are, I don't know what will.
The reason why I said out of his league was actually more of a reference to his computer skills than his brain. But I don't know how he would handle the lightning fast rebuttals that go on here and argument in written words rather than verbal that even some computer literate people can't handle.