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Hi everybody, welcome to my venting thread.
I’m a mere 20 years old, as many of you know. And my wish is to go through one year where nobody close to me dies.
Is that too much to ask?!?
2003, 27 year old cousin died leaving a few week old child and a wife of a year. 2002, Good friend attempts suicide, fails. Other good friend attempts suicide and succeeds. 2001, Shannon died of cancer. My best friend. 2000, Watched two people burn to death in car accident. Knew them from highschool (I was in the car too). Didn’t know them “very” well, but…. 1999, Ala died, my Father’s best friend’s wife. Also closer to our family then most relatives. 1998, my Father’s best friend died (of cancer too). He used to come over every day. He took care of us, petted us, etc. Closer to our family then most of our relatives. 1997, a good friend of my Mothers who was also my jk teacher died of cancer. 1996, my Mother (45) and my Grandmother both died within a few months of each other. 1995, Great Uncle died from diebetes. 1994, Cousin died at age of 20. 1993, Great Aunt died from some disease I couldn’t pronounce at the time. 1992, Teacher commited suicide. 1991, Great Grandfather died at age of 104. Etc.
My older brother (23) was just hit by a car on his motorcycle. He's in the CCU. I recieved word of this by an email from my little brother.
I don't know how he is doing. I have no way of finding out. I'm in Columbus Ohio, he's somewhere in Ontario. Nobody is at my father's house. Everybodies cell phones are off (which I take to mean they are all in the hospital, since you can't have your cell phone on in hospitals). I can't remember my father's pager number. My little brother's email was rushed and says nothing about where he is. I don't even know what city, so I can't go around calling hospitals.
And so... it's worrying time for me. And venting about how unfair life can be.
Please, those who are willing, pray for my older brother.
I hope everything works out all right. Your brother and family are in my thoughts. All these modern conveniences we have for portable communication and what we wouldn't give for a good old fashioned payphone. Of course, time and peace of mind to actually make the call would do well, too.
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I can't begin to understand how this feels, Jaids. But for what it's worth, my thoughts are with you.
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Oh, Jaiden!!!! This is terrible!!!! <<<<<<<<<<<<<Jaids>>>>>>>>>>>>>> <Praying for Paul and the whole family>
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Oh my goodness, Jaiden, I am so so sorry... I know this is cold comfort, but I really really wish I could do something to help, I honestly do. (((((((((((((((((((((((Jaiden))))))))))))))))))))))))
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I know my reply is already old, but as I'm just reading it it's still immediate, and I'm sitting here at my computer crying for a complete stranger -- I can't help but want to take away the anguish I'm sure you must feel but which I can't comprehend. And then of all the silly ways to try to ease your burden, what comes to mind is the passage in The Worthing Saga where they raise the question, If you had the power to take away all of another person's suffering, would you, and should you? I can't take away your pain, but I would share it with you.
I don't know how he is "for sure". I've talked to my cousin (he was the only one around) and apparently his right side was fairly effectively crushed. His leg, arm, ribs, etc. are broken, his lung was punctured, "and other things I couldn't pronounce or remember".
My cousin's description basically went "he's a meatball. An unidentifiable meatball"
Last I heard he was in surgery. He's still in critical condition.
But, he is alive.
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I'm sorry both for your brother and your family, and for you, Jaiden I'm glad he is alive, however. I wish I could help or alleviate it in some way-let us know if we could. God be with you.
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Jaids!!! ::huggles tightly:: I can't believe and am so very sorry that I was gone for this. Please let us know how you and your brother are doing when you can - I'll be praying for you both and the rest of your family in the meantime. ::hugs tighter::
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Jaiden, you are absolutely in my prayers, sometimes like just comes and takes the proverbial dump on you, and the best I've ever come up with is Dylan's, "Keep on, Keep'in on, like a bird that flew," it's not much but sometimes it's the best one can do. You get a big hug from me too.
I understand what your going through, my December 2002-November 2003 was an absolute horror show:
December 13th-One of my best friend's mother dies, early in the week, I found out on my birthday. Of all the parents of my friends, she was my favorite, a fun loving, good humored, open minded wonderful Peruvian woman.
December: Close family friend dies of cancer.
June: Great Godmother dies.
June: Closest Family friend, and my parents best friend committs suicide.
July: Grandmother dies, the matriarch of all matriarchs.
August: Great Uncle committs suicide.
September: Best friends father is struck and killed by a distracted driver while riding his bike cross country.
November: Former Baseball Coach, and brother in law of my Godfather dies.
November: Grandfather dies after quickly falling badly ill.
Why is life like this? I have no idea, but my prayers are with you, your family and friends and my hopes that all this horror and awfulness can depart not to return for a very, very long time. May these pains be assuaged, and your heart soothed by the memories one can treasure, but not be overwhelmed by.
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Thank you everybody. It's been a long bit for me.
Much to my relief, (and everybody elses), my older brother is doing decently
He woke up from his coma, is apparently not noticibly brain damaged (as opposed to not-noticiably?). His right leg was quite crushed and he will have to relearn to walk... if he can. But knowing him, I fully expect him to be fully mobile within a few months Oh, and his right arm is mainly metal.
My father apparently has modified the house for him to be able to use a wheel chair in it... which, to those of you who know/have heard of my father is very very very impressive.
Please everybody wear helmets! This is apparently the item the saved my brother's life
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That's so great! I hope his recovery continues as smoothly and fully as possible. (((((Jaiden&brother&family)))))
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That's good news. I'm so glad - I am sending your brother, you, and family/friends healing strength, hope and perserverance.
Hang in there. I had a friend that reviewed the last decade's worth of awful happenings in my life, and suggested it was time to bring in all the praying folks I knew - that there had been enough bad things and that positive, healing things should be asked for to come my way - if that makes any sense . . . rather than praying for help after the fact, asking for it to just not happen . . .
There's no "golden light" graemlin, or I'd wrap your name in it.
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Jaiden, it's so wonderful that your brother's brain is okay. I hope the rest of his body recovers quickly. I'm glad he was wearing a helmet. Good for him.
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I'm glad to hear that he pulled through. Best of wishes that he regains good mobility and adapts to his physical setback with vigor and good humor.
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Wonderful news! I'm glad to hear things took such a surprising, good turn for you and yours, Jaiden Posts: 17164 | Registered: Jun 2001
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