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It doesn't sound normal to me, either, although my aunt says some specialists are like that.
It's not like the appointment is completely vital and I must have it right now. But it would be good to get it done ASAP, and the sooner the appt. gets made, the freer a schedule I have to fit it into.
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Theaca, that will work. Thanks! I don't know why I didn't think of that... Pregnant brain, I guess. *sigh* The office is closed on Mon. (Martin Luther King Jr. Day.) A message has been left-- I guess they'll get it Tue.
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Well, had my second ultrasound today. Again I measured at 6 weeks, but this time the tech had an even harder time trying to find anything resembling a heartbeat. It was a huge letdown for me, even though I'd been trying not to get my hopes up too high.
They sent me for bloodwork to compare my HCG levels with the ones from last week. Apparently my levels were on par for someone 4-5 weeks pregnant. My doctor also wants me to get blood drawn on Wednesday and Friday, and she'll compare all the levels next week, and she wants me to have another ultrasound then.
I can't help being really depressed. I got home from the appointment and slept for three hours. I just kind of shut down. I'm glad hubbie was home today.
It's really hard to be in limbo. If I knew for sure I was miscarrying I could prepare for that, but this not knowing bit is really throwing me for a loop. Even if I'm not miscarrying, I'm not experiencing a normal pregnancy. I'm not sure what that will mean, but the doctor sounded a little worried when she was asking me to get the blood tests. Posts: 180 | Registered: Jun 2005
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I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks last spring. It was heartbreaking thinking the miscarriage was coming but not knowing for sure. It was almost a relief when the blood started to flow in earnest.
I wish you the best. I also had bleeding early on in this pregnancy, and now I am holding a sweet newborn in my lap. You just never know.
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Limbo is hard, because you don't know whether to mourn or celebrate. You just exist and sometimes, that's the hardest thing to do.
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Of course that's fine, KQ. I have a very strong personal relationship with the Lord and I don't care who knows it. Prayer is great.
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R. Ann, I've been where you are - I lost 2 of the triplets we conceived and there were periods where we didn't know if I was losing them or not. It's truly horrible not knowing either way. I'm sorry you're going through that. You'll be in my prayers.
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Thank you everyone. The doctor called with the results of Monday's tests. HCG levels are supposed to double every 48 hours at this stage of the pregnancy. They've gone up, but not enough. They haven't even doubled once in almost a week. I'll still do more tests tomorrow and Friday, and another ultrasound on Monday, but I have a feeling that a miscarriage is the most likely outcome at this point.
I know that God has a plan for my life, and I'm going to rest in Him no matter what, I know He'll take care of me.
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I've been married for almost 3 years,and we were thinking of a baby,we were pretty excited,until i read the pregnacy thread,i started crying and we're not having a baby anymore,at least not for now.I am terrified of pregnancy,i am in really good shape,i run 4 miles in 38 minutes,i don't want strecht marks,but i want a baby too,thank goodness my husband is amazing and understands my fears,please someone tell me that is isn't so bad!
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Valentina, it's okay to be scared. Heck, I'm scared, and this is my second time doing it! But can I tell you something else? It's worth it.
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Keep in mind that when we post in this thread it's to complain about the worst parts and to ask about weird symptoms. The gaps between posts are the parts where we're fine and enjoying being pregnant.
Stretch marks do stink, but you're not guaranteed to get them, especially on your first pregnancy. And from what I've heard, they fade.
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(((R. Ann))) I still have you in my prayers. I'm so sorry this is so hard.
Did anyone have trouble gaining weight? I'm 17 weeks and weighed in this morning at 113 -the exact weight that I started at. Everything I've read says I should be gaining a pound a week at this point. I'd be thrilled if I could put on a pound period.
My doctor doesn't seem to be too worried. I eat really healthy and he says the baby will just take it from me, but I'm still worried.
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pepperuda, my first pregnancy I lost 5 lbs. in the first trimester, then didn't put anything on for the first half of the second. Around about 24 weeks, I finally started gaining-- and had hit the goal gain (I gained 21 lbs.) by the end of the pregnancy. (And had an 8 lb., 2 oz. child.) If your baby is not growing, your doctor will know it-- that's why he measures your fundus. But really, it's okay to not gain weight. Just keep eating what you're eating, and drink plenty of water, and it'll be fine.
For what it's worth, this time, I've had no problems gaining weight after the morning sickness went away. To the point where I kind of wish I had. I had a net gain of 0 in the first trimester, but since then, I'm afraid I'm going a little ahead of schedule. :blushes:
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Valentina, I was terrified too! Let me tell you, it is much more "worth it" than you can even imagine until you do it. People like to complain to get sympathy, which is important. But what sometimes goes unsaid is that even though I loved my parents and my sister, even though I was married and loved my husband more than anyone in my life, I had never KNOWN what love could be like until I held my first son in my arms.
Okay, ladies, time to list a few good things about being pregnant! My favorites:
1. You get to eat a lot and everybody excuses you because you're "eating for two".
2. Finally: cleavage!
3. I loved all the attention with everybody suddenly caring how I was doing all the time.
4. Suddenly there's something to talk to strangers about ... you know, the ones you meet in the elevator or grocery store line, and stand there in awkward silence? Well, suddenly there's something visible that you have in common and can talk about!
5. You get to join the "mommy club". (There really is a club, I didn't even know about it until I joined!)
6. Best of all: feeling that little person moving inside and knowing that I (with the help of hubby, and God) was creating a new life.
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Amen to everything JennaDean said (except for the loving your baby the moment you hold him/her because I'm pregnant with my first and don't know that feeling yet).
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I'm starting to get really annoyed with number 2. But then, I started out rather large to begin with.
And you know, I think motherhood starts before you give birth. It's when you know you're pregnant and realize that you would make any sacrifice for that little life, even before it's born, even before you know it's a life, more like the hope or potential of one... That's when you're a mother.
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Oh, I'm loving #2. *grins* Actually, I'm loving #4 and #6 a lot too.
And no, I'm not having any trouble gaining weight. I did find out, though, that my best friend's sister gained 40 lbs. in her pregnancy. She was every bit as tiny as I was pre-pregnancy (in fact, we were very similar in size), and her doctor actually recommended that she gain that much. So I feel better knowing I've already gained almost 30 and have 10.5 weeks still to go.
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Thanks for all the people that answer, i feel a lot better now! i'm just laughin at myself now for being so silly.I'm sure when i have a baby it will be great!! THANKS SO MUCH Posts: 10 | Registered: Jan 2006
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quote:Originally posted by pepperuda: Did anyone have trouble gaining weight? I'm 17 weeks and weighed in this morning at 113 -the exact weight that I started at. Everything I've read says I should be gaining a pound a week at this point. I'd be thrilled if I could put on a pound period.
My doctor doesn't seem to be too worried. I eat really healthy and he says the baby will just take it from me, but I'm still worried.
My general thinking would be that if your doc isn't worried, you probably don't need to be.
I lost weight until 16 weeks with my first, and until 20 with my second. They were both perfectly healthy. I only lost weight until about the 14th week with my third . . . and she ended up 1.5 pounds bigger than the larger of her sibs. Yikes!
Valentina, pregnancy IS scary. And awesome (in the literal sense) and wonderful and intense and miserable and blissful . . . often all at the same time! But I've done it three times (four if you count the very early miscarriage), and I hope to some day do it again. Posts: 32919 | Registered: Mar 2003
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Valentina, I would highly recommend going for it. I have never experienced more intense emotions in my life than those connected with my daughter. I love motherhood and don't regret one instant. I don't even mind the complications I had, since the end result was okay. Obviously I'm not enjoying the miscarriage, but I'm still optimistic about the future and looking forward to trying again.
It's SOOOOO worth it.
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Edit: I will have a baby one day - Tony and I have discussed this and thought about my job / his job etc etc. But I want a baby *now*. My hormones are up to no good. I even had a dream that I had triplets last night.
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We are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of "starting a family." "We're taking a survey," she says half-joking. "Do you think I should have a baby?" It will change your life," I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral. I know," she says, "no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations."
But that is not what I meant at all. I look at my daughter, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes. I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will forever be vulnerable.
I consider warning her that she will never again read a newspaper without asking, "What if that had been MY child?" That every plane crash, every house fire will haunt her. That when she sees pictures of starving children she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die.
I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive level of a bear protecting her cub. That an urgent call of "Mom!" will cause her to drop a soufflé or her best crystal without a moment’s hesitation. I feel that I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might arrange for childcare, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting and she will think of her baby's sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure her baby is all right. I want my daughter to know that every day decisions will no longer be routine. That a five year old boy's desire to go to the men's room rather than the women's at McDonald's will become a major dilemma. That right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester may be lurking in that restroom. However decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess herself constantly as a mother.
Looking at my attractive daughter, I want to assure her that eventually she may shed the pounds of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself. That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. That she would give up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years, not to accomplish her own dreams, but to watch her child accomplish theirs.
I want her to know that a caesarean scar or shiny stretch marks will become badges of honor.
My daughter's relationship with her husband will change, but not in the way she thinks. I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his child. I think she should know that she will fall in love with him again for reasons she would now find very unromantic.
I wish my daughter could sense the bond she will feel with women throughout history who have tried to stop war, prejudice and drunk driving. I hope she will understand why I can think rationally about most issues, but become temporarily insane when I discuss the threat of nuclear war to my children's future. I want to describe to my daughter the exhilaration of seeing your child learn to ride a bike. I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog or cat for the first time. I want her to taste the joy that is so real it actually hurts.
My daughter' s quizzical look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes. "You'll never regret it," I finally say. Then I reached across the table, squeezed my daughter's hand and offered a silent prayer for her, and for me and for all the mere mortal women who stumble their way into this most wonderful of callings.
Please share this with a Mom that you know or all of your girlfriends who may someday be Moms.
And all of the men you love...they have mothers too.
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quote:My daughter's relationship with her husband will change, but not in the way she thinks. I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his child. I think she should know that she will fall in love with him again for reasons she would now find very unromantic.
Oh, so true. I know I have had moments, sick or tired or just being lazy, when I'm laying on the couch or in bed and watching or listening to Jeff getting Emma ready, getting her out of her crib, changing her diaper, feeding her breakfast, playfully convincing her to EAT the food, not THROW it, without scolding, getting her dressed, picking her up, making sure there are diapers and wipes in the diaper bag and a toy in her hand, saying, "Tell mommy bye-bye" and watching her grin as she blows kisses to me and says, "Bye!", happy to go anywhere with Abba, and knowing that he'll buckle her into her car seat correctly and be a more careful driver than even his careful norm because she's in the car, and not mind that it takes twice as long to do his errands, and even listen to HER music for the fifteen-hundredth time in the car, and I'm just so in love with them both, him more than I ever thought I would be even on our wedding day, her more than I ever knew I could be.
Okay, that was a paragraph of a sentence. Note to self: do not post about gushy things first thing in the morning.
Well, we get to go see Bridget this morning. (Of course, Jeff is still holding out on the small, small chance that we will find out that Bridget is actually James and my doctor was wrong on my early ultrasound. )
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The doctor who did the ultrasound bumped my due date up a few days-- April 25, as opposed to April 29. Which puts me at 26 weeks, not 25.
He uses the new-fangled really cool high-res "4-D" machines, so we have an excellent picture of Bridget. (It's definitely Bridget, not James; the labia were quite visible. No questions there.) Everything is healthy, heart is working fine, spine is good, organ development is good, weight is good (about 2 lbs. right now), and no birth defects or problems with the placenta, umbilical, uterus, or cervix are apparent. (Of course, the cord is apparently around her neck, but I kind of expected that. At least it's not around her ankle yet.)
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My appointment was not so excellent, if only because it involved me getting a RHOGAM shot in my butt cheek. But the every-two-weeks appointments have started, which means I'm nearing the end of the pregnancy and the beginning of my life as a mommy proper.
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Shots. Ick. But yay for pregnancy drawing to a close! May you not be too sick of it by the time it's over...
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Naw, you have to be a certain amount of "sick of it", in order to really want to go through labor. Posts: 1522 | Registered: Nov 2005
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I said too sick of it. I was at the point where I played tag with my husband and made myself ill eating a whole bag full of real black licorice (couldn't look at it for a year) and drank vile cumin tea trying to make the baby come by the time my doctor gave in and induced me.
Of course, I had been having real contractions for two weeks. And I knew that she was more overdue than they said. (They finally admitted it when she was born.)
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That is the neatest ultrasound I've ever seen! So it's Bridget Niamh? How do you say the middle name? Gorgeous little girl.
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Neeve or Nee-iv. To hear someone who actually speaks gaelic pronounce it, go to babynamesofireland.com.
And thank you on the beautifuls. I think she will look a tiny bit more like Jeff than Ems does. But it's a bit early to tell yet. I can tell you that they have several prominent features in common; we were in the car and I looked back at Emma sleeping, and down at the picture, and they were very similar.
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I wonder if I could get by using Gaelic names for a Welsh Terrier puppy, not that I will be getting one for several years.
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pepperuda, I lost a baby at 5 weeks. 2 months later I was pregnant again, and right now there is a sqiggly wiggly 3 month old on my lap. I understand being nervous, though.
Rachel, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I'm thinking of you. *hugs*
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Those things are BIG. We used to go to the Irish Fair when I was little, and they had a Wolfhound show. I swear I could have ridden some of those dogs, and I was 8 or 9!
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We were considering a second dog a while back and Tony fell in love with an Irish Wolfhound at the pound. It was incredibly gentle - but I had to veto.
I decided our little cottage couldn't handle a kelpie *and* an Irish Wolfhound!
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