quote:I don't understand something though, how can wanting to be a woman if you are a man be a sin?
Well, I'd argue it's a sin, and I'd love to take up space explaining why, but it's immaterial. Every relationship is populated by sinners. I don't think anyone is concerned because of it's religious implications, we're concerned because of the added difficulty that it puts on the relationship.
I was young once, before I was a bitter conservative ideologue and religious zealot, and I remember approaching every relationship like it was the last, and thinking that I'd feel so bad if I didn't find a right person for me. It passes. And you should eventually find the right person. Don't be too quick to jump into this.
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If I were in the analogous situation (a man attracted to a woman who wants to be a man), I'd probably go out with her without making any long-term commitments. When she became sufficiently masculine to be unattractive to me, I'd probably let her go (having dropped some hints before this that I would do so).
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I think just the fact that she wasn't comfortable in her own gender would be enough reason for me not to date her. But I like things to be reasonably simple.
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I'll try my best to carry things out accordingly, I don't think I am making a mistake. I agree with the last two comments to some degree, but at the same time...as I said...its about the person.
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*this happens to be a line from the person that you are all talking about*
Freindship is important, and I personally have always believed that it takes time to grow into love. The most important thing to me at this moment is to honestly not hurt AoD, because maybe she is falling a little too fast and no one can stop her from that. Still that doesn't mean she is wrong to fall like that. What I tell her now is to be patient as I said not too long ago. I agree with you all for warning her about the drama, because believe me there is a lot. As for my sanity let me put it this way, I've been doing this for two long years now, I know who I am and have learned to never compromise that for anyone, the best I could do is keep them from being hurt by it.
So to Miss AoD, you are beautiful, and very sweet and I'll be honest I do care for you, but I worry that you'd be unhappy. Be patient, smile, and remember reguardless if its me or someone you really deserve any relationship comes with understanding and compromise. You're 18 hon, and I think you're bound for something amazing.
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quote: Freindship is important, and I personally have always believed that it takes time to grow into love. The most important thing to me at this moment is to honestly not hurt AoD, because maybe she is falling a little too fast and no one can stop her from that.
Dude, let me translate for you: "I'm flattered, Altariel, but you should really start looking for the exit."
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It does seem like he's trying to let you down nicely. Plus for him as a person, but probably not the optimum indicator for crunchy relationship goodness.
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It's alright Kwea. After all is said and done, I still think that he may have feelings for me, he just doesn't want to get me involved into anything so complicated. I thought about what my family expected for me to look for in a man, and after such thoughts, I know that none of those expectations are what I want for myself. In other words, no matter who I am with, my family will always have some objection because what I want is completely different from what they want for me.
EDIT: Whoa! Time for a landmark already?
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I don't think anyone is concerned because of it's religious implications, we're concerned because of the added difficulty that it puts on the relationship.
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