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jexx
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I told myself that if I hit 1,000 posts before May (my second hatrackiversary), I would post a landmark post. I conserved posts for a while (sorry everyone) out of Landmark Post Fear, but I finally gave in. This is what I wrote tonight out of sheer desperation:

I Know Who I Am

I have always known who I was.

From the beginning, my parents told me I was wonderful, funny and talented. And so I was. (When you are young and nurtured, you can never believe that your parents would lie) I was a happy kid who believed I could do anything I wanted to do. And so I could. I wrote country western songs, put on plays, sold handmade books out of my red wagon. I read books about Native Americans, and made pemmican in the oven. I read a book about herbs, and made shampoo. I read a book about archaeology, and excavated the backyard. I had a lot of ideas, and the energy to try them out.

Then puberty hit.

(DUN dun DUUUUUUUN!)

I was still loved, I still had ideas, but now I had hormones, and that messed things up for a bit. For a year I was very very hard to live with. Still, during this time, I knew exactly who I was. I was wonderful, funny, talented, and dead sexy. I read a book about sexuality, and knew that the largest human sexual organ was the brain. Since I already knew I had a good brain, the rest was easy. This was perhaps, not the best direction for my thoughts to go in. Luckily, my self-esteem was so high from a charmed childhood; I got into very little trouble with sex. I still made mistakes, but I protected myself (physically and emotionally). I had angst, I had hubris, I had all of the fancy words associated with teenagers; but my short attention span and generally happy mood made these spells bearable for my parents. Well, that’s what they say now, anyway. The whole episode is kind of a hormonally hazy time in my memory.

Time passes, and I know now that I am a writer. I have been told this since I was a child, selling books out of my wagon for a quarter, and so it must be true. I begin college with this thought firmly in mind: I will be a writer, I will live in NYC, and I will own cats. I will not get married, and I will not have children. I have no desire for this, never planned Barbie weddings, or babysat, or had any desire to mother. I nurture my friends, and my fictional persons, and that is enough for me.

And then I met That Man.

He changed who I thought I was. He shook me inside out.

I tried to deny the change, I told him we were Friends With Benefits, I introduced him as “My ex-boyfriend’s best friend” (another long and boring story). And on the night of his boss’s retirement party, I proposed to That Man.

I knew who I was then, and I know who I am now.

I am a writer.

I am a wife.

I am a mother.

And I can change my mind about it whenever I want to.

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Great landmark jexx. Let us know what your mind is up to on a regular basis, okay?

[Smile]

-Bok

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yay for Jexx.

great post [Smile] you sound a lot like me!

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I lub jen. [Big Grin]
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:envies Jexx's childhood:

You've always struck me as a really great person. Thanks for sharing a bit of yourself with us. (((Jexx)))

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Time passes, and I know now that I am a writer. I have been told this since I was a child, selling books out of my wagon for a quarter, and so it must be true.

That is so cute. [Wink]

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Congrats on 1000, jexx!
[The Wave]
Looking forward to many thousand more! [Big Grin]

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A truly inspiring landmark, jexx. Congrats!
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quote:
And I can change my mind about it whenever I want to.
Yes ma'am. Get right on it......wha? Ok...... You don't, but do, but don't. I give up. [Smile]

Glad you are here. I always enjoy your posts. I plan on reading more of them.

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jexx,

are you sure? That last bit seemed a bit contrived, like the unquestioning resolve against questions you cited as the source of difficulties (minor, and well-handled, apparently) you encountered before.

fallow

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jexx, I too am glad to know you !

    [Smile]

Edit: I just remembered you're the one "responsible" for the rebirth of the hug thread ! [Kiss]

[ April 05, 2004, 05:34 AM: Message edited by: Corwin ]

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fallow--

a) I wrote this rather late at night, and mostly to get it out of the way

b) contrived? oh, nice. I'll remember that. [Evil]

c) the whole point in the last ('contrived') sentiment was, that it was my prerogative to change my mind about who I am. As long as I know who I am changing myself into.

(a side note: even though I always know who I am, I don't always *like* who I am, hence the changeability)

And everyone: thank you for your kind words. Have to go to work now, but I'll respond personally later.

((lubs Hatrack))

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Thanks for sharing that with us Jexx. It's all about choosing one's own course in life. [Big Grin]
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Jexx, you are a Dragon. I can only hope my daughter turns out like you! [Hat]
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quote:
And I can change my mind about it whenever I want to.
Damn skippy! Congrats on 1000.

Dagonee

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Eruve Nandiriel
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I used to think you were a guy, until I got to
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And then I met That Man.
[Angst]

Glad that post cleared that up, though. [Wink]
Happy 1000th!
(((((jexx)))))

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very cool stuff [Smile] congrats!
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jexx, you are extremely cool. [Cool] Thank you for sharing this with us.
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Good landmark, jexx.
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Yay! I got a 'right on'!

And lots of compliments!

It's a good Monday.

And now I have *bumped*.

*self-serving grin*

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Congratz Jexx.

I married my ex-girlfriends best friend. That's a long story too.

The secret between a successful life and a ruined one may be in your landmark. You always know who you are, but admit never being sure of who you will be. I've known people who were positive of who they would be, and worked so hard to be that person, that they never got a chance to enjoy being who they are.

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Glad to know you, too. [Smile]

Congratulations and thanks for sharing!

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Jexx,

I was just ribbing. Still... I must say... if not contrived, then maybe a little too tidy to resonate with the truth.

I've found that the more frequently you change yourself the easier it is to know yourself. Or, to put it another way, if you change fast enough, you don't really have to know yourself at all. Honeymoon in perpetuity. Self-love in the fast lane. Sorta side-step the issue, altogether.

<- fallow's spontaneous rough-draft of a landfill post <-self-labeling to fit within the strictures of interpretability

fallow

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quote:
And I can change my mind about it whenever I want to.
AMEN, SISTER!

Thanks for sharing - I love it! I love all the wild and crazy and exploratory things you did and that you were allowed to do and given the freedom to do and that you still do! Keep being you! Forever! We like it that way!

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Well, you seem flexible, and that is a good trait to have.
I liked your post because to me it DIDN'T seem contrived, it just seemed to be very accepting of yourself. You didn't go into a lot of detail, particularily about your "troubles" in the teen years, but that is your perogitive.

You did seem very happy and content with your life even though it waas far from what you had imagined. Good for you.

Kwea

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fallow
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*offers kwea a pretzel*

Good if they aren't too stale.

fallow

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:::eats pretzle::

Thanks!

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OMG!

You bit off my finger?!

*howls in pain*

*does finger-joint disappearing trick*

fallow

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jexx-
I've always enjoyed the rhythm of your words as well as the content. Best wishes in gaining all your goals.

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Well, it did seem a bit stale.....but I was just being polite......

[ROFL]

Kwea

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*waits with mustard-dispenser ready to sqeeze*

"Right. What was with all that rolling about on the sidewalk? If you needed the mustard, it was right here!"

*drops dog and points at condiment dispensing hand*

fallow

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