I'm borrowing this idea from another forum (that borrowed it from another forum, et cetera). It's a very simple game but I think it's well worth playing. (Having said that, I will not be participating, but I think given my circumstances that's justified. My life is simply too unstable to handle dating and I don't have the emotional energy for it anyway, even if I was presently interested in dating, which I'm not. Those of you who know what's been going on for the last month or so will, I think, be willing to concede this point. However, I will gladly be the scorekeeper. )
All you have to do is this: the next time you meet someone you'd like to date, ask the person out. If they say "no," then you increment your rejection counter and move on to the next person you'd like to date (after a suitable sulking period, if you wish). First person to six rejections wins. The best part about the game is that it's impossible to lose, because not only do you win if you get to six rejections, you also win when someone says yes, because then you've got yourself a hot date.
So. Having loosely scanned the romance-related threads this week, it looks like a couple of people already have at least one. Why don't we call Valentine's Day the start date and go from there?
Posted by msquared (Member # 4484) on :
I am married.
Can I play?
msquared
Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
Exactly what I was thinking, msquared. Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Well, I think we first need to define what qualifies as a "date" -- because I've had this particular conversation before....
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Pfffft. And I got my last rejection a week before Valentine's Day.
I ain't playing. Posted by TheHumanTarget (Member # 7129) on :
I'm married too. Can I play with msquared? Posted by Jay (Member # 5786) on :
Ok, went to Wal-Mart. Got turned down by all the cashiers. I win.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
ElJay -- I find it impossible to believe anyone would tell you no ...........
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
If married people want to play, I'll count their scores -- however, I accept no responsibility for any ensuing divorces.
ElJay, would you rather I counted rejections from January 1st? Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
If you did, twink, I'd be at two. But don't change it for me, because I'm still not playing. Not in the mood for this kind of game. Posted by fugu13 (Member # 2859) on :
If I recall correctly, part of the point of this game is to encourage people to get off their duff and ask people out by providing an incentive (getting six rejections).
And Jay, another part of the point (though obviously not enforced) is to ask out people you'd want to say yes.
You know, we really should just start a Hatrack Velvet Room .
Posted by Lady Jane (Member # 7249) on :
I honestly don't know six guys I'd be willing to go on a date with here in Dallas.
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
I just hope lots of people play.
A clarification: To have your rejection counter incremented, you have to post at least a little bit about the circumstances of each rejection. And I, as referee, have to buy your story. Posted by Jay (Member # 5786) on :
Who said I didn’t want any of them to say yes!
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
fugu gets it. Edit: Though I would say, dude, that getting people to get off their duff by providing incentive is the entire point, not just part of it. (Alternatively, you know, I could always just subscribe at Ars and get VR posting access. )
quote:I honestly don't know six guys I'd be willing to go on a date with here in Dallas.
So meet more. That's part of the point.
[ February 17, 2005, 01:57 PM: Message edited by: twinky ]
Posted by TheHumanTarget (Member # 7129) on :
I changed my mind. I don't want to play, and it's for the same reason that I don't sport fish. I just don't understand the catch and release mentality. Why catch it if you can't eat it... Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Who said anything about catch and release? If you wind up in a relationship, then you shouldn't be complaining about not getting to six rejections. Posted by Lady Jane (Member # 7249) on :
Okay, I'd like to play, but I have an issue.
I don't like asking out. It isn't because of anything sexist, and I've certainly done it before. There is a little bit of fear of rejection, but there's something larger than that.
There is only one scenario that would provide a positive result, based on experience: He likes me, would like to ask me out, is planning on it, and just hasn't gotten around to it yet.
If he doesn't like me, he'll say no or go out of obligation. Neither is good.
If he does like me, he'll ask me out himself. If he's too shy or can't work up the courage to ask me out, then I'm stating my personal preference that I'd rather not date him. I like confidence, and to my own surprise, I kind of like macho. I like being pampered. I don't want to have to ask him out, because that just means that for the rest of eternity, I'll have to start things - think of stuff to do, places to go, whatever. If something is going to happen, I'll have to make it happen, and I don't want that. I HATE that.
Obviously this is an issue. I'm okay with that. I'm fine with compromising on a dozen different things, but I've learned from experience that I can't on that. I just hate it.
So, long story short, there's only one good scenario: He likes me, intends to ask me out, but hasn't found a good moment or caught me alone quite yet. What are the chances of that happening?
Posted by fugu13 (Member # 2859) on :
Katie, think of it as the guy being someone who just hasn't realized he wants to go out with you yet, for whatever reason (maybe he's been very busy recently, for instance) .
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
quote: I honestly don't know six guys I'd be willing to go on a date with here in Dallas.
Funny you should say that. When I lived in Texas I felt exactly the same way.
So I had to import Porter.
[ February 17, 2005, 02:07 PM: Message edited by: beverly ]
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
quote:I like confidence, and to my own surprise, I kind of like macho. I like being pampered. I don't want to have to ask him out, because that just means that for the rest of eternity, I'll have to start things - think of stuff to do, places to go, whatever. If something is going to happen, I'll have to make it happen, and I don't want that. I HATE that.
Clearly you and I can never date.
Is there no middle ground between "he likes you" and "he doesn't like you?" I mean, what if he hasn't made up his mind yet because he barely knows you? Then you go on a date and find out if you like each other. That's sort of the point, isn't it?
Posted by Lady Jane (Member # 7249) on :
Twinky: Nonono, you like music, you like things, you're articulate and passionate about things. It's not the same - you wouldn't make me think of things to all the time, right? I can just imagine me coming up with, um, quilt shows and stake road shows. You'd come up with an alternative plan, right?
Bev: I had a somewhat salacious comment here, then decided it was weird. Sorry.
[ February 17, 2005, 02:12 PM: Message edited by: Lady Jane ]
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
Over my dead body.
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
LJ, can you accept asking people you don't know very well out in a getting to know you sense rather than in a date sense? For instance, how about if you meet someone new, chit chat a bit, and then say "Hey I had a really great time talking to you, how about we get together sometime?" and give him your number. That way it puts it into his head that you're intereted, and he can call you and ask you out if he wants to. You count it as a no if he never calls, because you put yourself out there and took the risk.
I'm talking about doing this with people who you don't know well enough already that they would have considered asking you out, much less have decided one way or the other if they liked you yet.
An aside: Although others have been nick-naming you kat to avoid confusion, I think I should get to call you LJ. It rather amuses me to look like I'm addressing myself, even though I can't be because I never refer to myself as LJ. (Not that I mind when other people do, it's just not how I think of myself.)
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
Kat, don't worry, I took the comment as humorous, and my reply was meant as playful. It is hard for intent to come across in writing. Posted by TheHumanTarget (Member # 7129) on :
Twinky...it would have to be catch and release for me. I don't think my wife wants any trophies umm....mounted...in our house...<<<SORRY...I couldn't help it...>>>>
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
I think I just don't like Texan guys. Either that or I am extremely picky. It may be the second.
Posted by Lady Jane (Member # 7249) on :
Sorry Bev. There's a hussy inside of me that I usually keep better hidden.
LJ , I think I could do that. Twink, would that count towards the six? I'd be willing to do that.
[ February 17, 2005, 03:40 PM: Message edited by: Lady Jane ]
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Maybe I should move to Dallas if and when I find myself more interested in dating. Plus I'd even be a foreigner there!
quote:Nonono, you like music, you like things, you're articulate and passionate about things. It's not the same - you wouldn't make me think of things to all the time, right? I can just imagine me coming up with, um, quilt shows and stake road shows. You'd come up with an alternative plan, right?
Of course I would. I'm just attracted to the same things you are (which is to say, confidence and stuff), and I don't like making all of the decisions.
And yes, that sort of thing will count. Posted by Shigosei (Member # 3831) on :
quote:So I had to import Porter.
Edit: forgot the smiley!
[ February 17, 2005, 02:30 PM: Message edited by: Shigosei ]
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
I STILL say we need to define "date"
I often go out to lunch or supper with friends -- some of the opposite sex and eligible. And often I have invited them.
But they aren't DATES because we aren't talking romantically-inclined I'd-like-to-have-a-relationship-with-you-beyond-friendship types of outings.
Farmgirl
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
Nobody should move to Dallas just to date the guys. They're much cuter elsewhere.
(My husband grew up in Dallas, for those who don't know.)
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
Hey Judy, wanna go out sometime?
Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
quote:Hey Judy, wanna go out sometime?
Not if you can't spell my name right. Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
quote:But they aren't DATES because we aren't talking romantically-inclined I'd-like-to-have-a-relationship-with-you-beyond-friendship types of outings.
Change that to "I'd like to find out if I want to have a relationship with you," and that can be the requirement for the game.
Posted by AntiCool (Member # 7386) on :
quote:I think I just don't like Texan guys. Either that or I am extremely picky. It may be the second.
Hmm. I have lived more of my life in Texas than in any other place.
Should I be worried?
[ February 17, 2005, 02:53 PM: Message edited by: AntiCool ]
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
Dangit. I spelled it right last time.
I actually went back and forth in my mind before posting, wondering. I think I'll purposely alternate spellings each time, like with Sara/Sarah.
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
No, that *would* be paranoid after what I have already said. Posted by Jim-Me (Member # 6426) on :
So...as a Dallas guy, can I claim KQ, LJ, and Beverly as rejections out of the gate?
Double Edit: Never mind, Farmgirl, I misread...
[ February 17, 2005, 03:41 PM: Message edited by: Jim-Me ]
Posted by Paul Goldner (Member # 1910) on :
Rejected by Danielle. Sigh.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Do online rejections count? And do the details have to be posted? Or can they be privately emailed to you, twinky?
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
It depends, and no, the details don't necessarily have to be posted if that makes you uncomfortable. I don't like the idea of counting online rejections, though, because part of the point of online dating sites is to remove the need for people to do the things that the Six Rejections game tries to get them to do.
My, that was a cumbersome sentence. Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Of course the judge's ruling is final, but may I offer up an argument on rivka's behalf?
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Absolutely. That was by no means a ruling, more of an "I'll mull it over and listen to what people say, but here's what I think."
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Cool. Two points, then.
rivka is just now re-entering the dating scene after a divorce. She hasn't had a first date since she was, I think she said, 18. As such, I think that she should get credit for baby steps. She posted a thread about registering for the online dating thing in the last month while you were mostly incogneto, and it was really a big deal, and a brave move for her.
Also, her dating pool is severely limited by her desire to date someone within her same religious group. I believe she said the eligible pool in her area is pretty small. It would be very difficult for her to find the requisit number of rejections without resorting to online dating.
That being said, I'm not sure she should be able to count just anything as a rejection... I don't know how her dating sites work, so I'm unclear on how it should be judged. She definitely needs to be the one putting herself out there... I guess you have to make the call on that based on the situation, I just think that rejections stemming from on-line sites should count for her as long as she was the one making the overture. In spirit, it's probably as hard for her as it would be for me to walk up to a guy in a bar and ask him out.
Or, well, harder. Posted by Teshi (Member # 5024) on :
quote: I honestly don't know six guys I'd be willing to go on a date with here in Dallas.
I honestly don't know six guys I'd be willing to go on a date with.
Does that mean I'm too picky? Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
quote:I guess you have to make the call on that based on the situation, I just think that rejections stemming from on-line sites should count for her as long as she was the one making the overture.
But... but... the slippery slope!
Seriously, though, I can probably deal with that. In any case, anyone who wants to play but doesn't want to post even a brief one-liner (like Paul's above, for instance, which since I'm passingly familiar with his circumstances is more than enough for me to award him a point) can feel free to email me. I'll start tallying points, and can even post running totals if people want me to.
quote:Does that mean I'm too picky?
Possibly.
(It depends on the guys you know. )
Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
See, I read this and the competetive part of me says, "Hey! A contest I could totally win!" Then the rest of me says, "But, dude man, you've been single for the past few years because of a genuine disinterest. Sure there've been some cool girls, but really, who has the time? The inclination? Besides, if she says no you'll ruin your 100% record "
And, really, it's all about keeping that record.
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Are you going to be in Waterloo this summer? Because I can promise you that this summer is going to be EPIC.
Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
BUDDA BAM!!!
I defend on the 12th and then I'm done. Hell, I don't really have any finals, though I have to get something together for publication before the end of April. Shouldn't be too had. Since my lease doesn't end until the end of August I plan on farting around and living of my miserly horde of cash. I'll probably get some silly job that helps put the day in too.
In short. Bring on the EPIC! (no girls allowed)
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Dude. This is going to be awesome. And this time you won't even have to clean up my vomit! Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
So we have Paul, Boris, and rivka all tied at one apiece. We're off to a rip-roarin' start! Posted by Lady Jane (Member # 7249) on :
I asked, but did not get a rejection. It was for a second date, so I'm not sure if that counts, but I don't think I want it to go anywhere. Can I still play?
[ February 18, 2005, 11:13 AM: Message edited by: Lady Jane ]
Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
If you dump the guy, Katie, it doesn't count.
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
She can't count that, but if she keeps asking guys out she can keep playing until she finds on she does want it to go somewhere with, though. I think that's what she was asking... it's not like she got disqualified 'cause someone said yes.
But are there penalty points? Posted by fiazko (Member # 5812) on :
I want to play. But--
1) I'm too chicken to ask anyone out. 2) All the guys I know are either too young, too old or taken, except for one... 3) ...and that's a delicate situation (i.e. I'm too chicken).
Posted by Paul Goldner (Member # 1910) on :
I want to know the rules for online dating sites.
Posted by Intelligence3 (Member # 6944) on :
This game scares me.
If history is any guide*, I could easily get to six in a row, but the problem is I meet someone I would like to date about once a year. And each one raises the bar for the next, since I only want to date spectacular women.
I've tried lowering my standards. Didn't work well.
*This data reflects past performance and is in no way a guaranteed indicator of future results.
[ February 18, 2005, 01:23 PM: Message edited by: Intelligence3 ]
Posted by Kama (Member # 3022) on :
I'm not gonna play. I mean - which guy could possibly reject me?
Posted by Lady Jane (Member # 7249) on :
I just realized that this game will most likely cause me to break Kat's Rule of Life #6:Do not discuss love life or lack thereof on Hatrack.
Then again, maybe it's time. If I date someone y'all know, though, it's back in force.
Posted by Intelligence3 (Member # 6944) on :
That would be a terrible thing to do to someone. I mean, if you couldn't BRAG that you were dating Kat...
Posted by Kama (Member # 3022) on :
well, actually, the guy could brag, but kat couldn't talk about him.
Posted by Lady Jane (Member # 7249) on :
You're very sweet.
Added: I think. Depending on what the last half of the sentence was going to be.
[ February 18, 2005, 02:24 PM: Message edited by: Lady Jane ]
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Here's what I'm thinking for online dating sites: they count if it's your only reasonable option.
A possible alternative rule is: they count if it's your only reasonable option, to a maximum of five points.
quote:I'm too chicken to ask anyone out.
fiazko, the whole point of the game is to overcome the chicken complex. So. Ask him!
Katie, of course you can still play. Getting a "yes" does not disqualify you.
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
But what about penalty points?
Posted by Intelligence3 (Member # 6944) on :
quote: Added: I think. Depending on what the last half of the sentence was going to be.
Doh! I was hoping that would pass unnoticed.
The sentiment was intended to be sweet and a little funny. Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
quote:See, I read this and the competetive part of me says, "Hey! A contest I could totally win!" Then the rest of me says, "But, dude man, you've been single for the past few years because of a genuine disinterest. Sure there've been some cool girls, but really, who has the time? The inclination? Besides, if she says no you'll ruin your 100% record "
And, really, it's all about keeping that record.
Pish. I had a ten year no dating streak going when Bob asked me out.
Posted by Intelligence3 (Member # 6944) on :
That's because Bob is the only guy cool enough to have a chance.
Posted by Teshi (Member # 5024) on :
I have an nearly nineteen year no-dating streak.
...wait...
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
That almost makes sense... if it wasn't for the Posted by Jim-Me (Member # 6426) on :
I invited someone to come see me play tonight and she declined... am I on the leader board now?
Posted by Lady Jane (Member # 7249) on :
That's not a date.
Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
Woah there. The streak is that I've never been *turned down*, not that I havne't gone out on dates. Just thought I'd clear that up lest someone think I was less of a man.
Posted by Jim-Me (Member # 6426) on :
ah! cruelly hampered by narrow limitations which prevent me from exploiting my inherent Dallas Male advantage in this contest!
*goes off to try again*
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
It's not much of a streak if you measure it the *right* way, which is absolute number of attempts, rather than taking a time basis.
Just thought I'd, um, throw that one out there.
Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
Curse you and your game of numbers! *shakes fist*
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
It isn't too late to join the game. And I imagine it won't be too late to join the game when you're done with finals, either...
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
I keep reading the title of this as "Sex rejections"....
[ February 19, 2005, 11:38 PM: Message edited by: Kwea ]
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Posted by Shigosei (Member # 3831) on :
I'm assuming it's not legal to tell the person you're asking out that you're playing to see who can get to six rejections first?
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
I'm trying to decide if that would (in most cases) make you more or less likely to rack up a point.
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
*bump*
You people are supposed to be entertaining me! Ask more people out. Posted by HRE (Member # 6263) on :
I'm in. I need the social life. Tomorrow I will pursue my first rejection!
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Yay!
Posted by Teshi (Member # 5024) on :
quote: That almost makes sense... if it wasn't for the
I'm almost nineteen years old. No date. But mainly because I don't try (hence the ) I think.
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
So you're in the same boat as Shigosei, then. *nods*
After discovering today that every single one of my immediate co-workers is either married or in a live-in relationship, and that everyone who isn't after a couple of years here typically leaves for somewhere else, I have resolved to remain single indefinitely. This has the added benefit of not changing my existing plans. Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
Heh, you're only broadcasting that because the unattainable is so desirable.
Heck, *I'm* starting to want you.
...
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Come down this weekend, then. Bring flowers. Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
Have the tables turned? Is this a BtL booty call? Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Sure. I'm ready. Bring it on. Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
Oh, it's already been broughtED!
(Incidentally, this means you're at -1 in the six rejections game. Sorry).
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Posted by Teshi (Member # 5024) on :
O.o
Posted by Lady Jane (Member # 7249) on :
Hmm...went on said date, everything was fine, NO chemistry, no connection, but not boring, so all in all, a positive experience that will not be repeated.
And...I'm out. There's no one else around here I'm even close to wanting. If I am to play, I need ideas.
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
quote:Heh, you're only broadcasting that because the unattainable is so desirable.
In all seriousness, I was broadcasting it because I was pretty disturbed by it. If there's really so little to do around here that the only thing people can find to occupy themselves is marriage, I'm going to have a long couple of years. Time to dust off the ol' resume, I guess... not that it really had time to get dusty.
It's like people come here, and within a couple of years they're either married and buying a house to settle down or they're leaving. I may not even last the three years I need to get my P. Eng.
---------
Katie, do you limit your dating pool exclusively to fellow Mormons?
Posted by Teshi (Member # 5024) on :
quote: Woah there. The streak is that I've never been *turned down*, not that I havne't gone out on dates. Just thought I'd clear that up lest someone think I was less of a man.
This almost makes me want to start a conspiracy among askees of wherever you are to crush your pride a little.
Edit: I've decided this sounds really mean-spirited. I'm not trying to be mean-spirited. I'm just joking.
[ March 15, 2005, 01:48 PM: Message edited by: Teshi ]
Posted by Lady Jane (Member # 7249) on :
Twinky...well...it kind of depends what the point is. Just for fun, no problem, that sounds wonderful. Anything serious, though, and him being LDS is actually very important to me, so it doesn't seem quite honest to date anyone without saying that in the beginning.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
That makes two.
Details available to twinky by email, if requested. All I'm saying here is it was online, but not via a dating site.
Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Sorry to hear that, rivka, although it does mean you're winning. Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
That puts rivka at two. And "not via a dating site" is a step in the right direction, rivka! Good stuff!
So, do we have updates from anyone else? Paul? Boris? Katie? I hear Jim's happily out of contention...
Also, BtL, go back and look at your post at the bottom of page one. Now try to tell me that it wasn't a dirty rotten lie. You lying liar.
Posted by El JT de Spang (Member # 7742) on :
This game's too political.
Posted by Jim-Me (Member # 6426) on :
Whoa! I totally forgot about this..
I *did* manage to put together three rejections before my currently pleasant situation emerged... and I suppose it could change anytime, but for the moment I will be watching from the sidelines, yes. Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Posted by fiazko (Member # 5812) on :
quote:Originally posted by fiazko: I want to play. But--
1) I'm too chicken to ask anyone out. 2) All the guys I know are either too young, too old or taken, except for one... 3) ...and that's a delicate situation (i.e. I'm too chicken).
I am wondering who I was thinking of when I originally posted this. Obviously, that situation didn't go anywhere. The really amusing thing is that I am currently in a very similar state. (I'm still to chicken to ask anyone out. )
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Harumph! The whole point of the game is to get you to not be chicken anymore!
In all seriousness, asking someone out is not a huge deal, and if you did it more often, you'd realize that... which is why I started the game. Posted by fiazko (Member # 5812) on :
We, twinky, there is also still the severe lack of prospects as well as countless other lame excuses I can come up with. Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
Psh, every word of that is true. You've just got your timeline mixed up.
That I'm 100%, of course, goes without saying. I owe it all to good scouting reports Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
quote:Originally posted by fiazko: We, twinky, there is also still the severe lack of prospects as well as countless other lame excuses I can come up with.
Some part of you must want to play the game, otherwise you wouldn't keep coming back to this thread. I totally don't buy this "severe lack of prospects" crap, either.
quote:Originally posted by BtL: Psh, every word of that is true. You've just got your timeline mixed up.
o_O
For certain definitions of "single," I suppose. But then, that's like saying "zero times anything is zero... except for very large values of zero."
quote:Originally posted by BtL: That I'm 100%, of course, goes without saying. I owe it all to good scouting reports
You misspelled "I owe it all to being too much of a pansy to pursue anything."
You do have to admit that you exhibit a tendency to be the pursued rather than the pursuer.
Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
quote:For certain definitions of "single," I suppose. But then, that's like saying "zero times anything is zero... except for very large values of zero."
I comfort myself in knowing that if she were asked if we were dating she'd be equally confused of how to answer the question
quote:You do have to admit that you exhibit a tendency to be the pursued rather than the pursuer.
What the heck did you think I meant by "good scouting reports"!? Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Some girls: "Are you guys single?"
BtL: "None of us are."
I rest my case. Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
Out of interest, did this thread wind up producing any actual relationships? Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
I don't think so. Heck I don't think it ended up producing any dates, just a bunch of people saying they were too chicken to ask people out or there weren't any prospects around. Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Tom:
Only if you count Jim's, I think. He didn't update the thread, but he certainly embodies the spirit in which it was intended. Also, rivka is actively looking and I think that's great.
It seems to me, though, that that wasn't the question you were actually asking.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
I do not qualify to play this game. I am, quite happily, watching from the sidelines.
I am currently torn between running around telling Hatrack everything and the stringent bounds of Kat's Rule of Life. *amused* I think the rule of life is winning, but I still like the idea of this game. Posted by ElJay (Member # 6358) on :
Hey kat. . . your rule of life doesn't specify you can't spill over at sakeriver, does it? Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
*Edited to be a good person, sorry no more post*
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
quote:Originally posted by twinky: Also, rivka is actively looking and I think that's great.
Mm. Glad someone does. *mildly depressed about there actually being anyone out there who will say yes (at least that I want to )*
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
I re-read this thread today. From what ElJay posted on the first page, you've only been actively looking for most of this year. With a potential dating pool as small as yours, I think it's much too soon to be getting discouraged. Far from it! I think you should be pleased with your progress. Posted by Sterling (Member # 8096) on :
quote:The best part about the game is that it's impossible to lose, because not only do you win if you get to six rejections, you also win when someone says yes, because then you've got yourself a hot date.
quote:If married people want to play, I'll count their scores -- however, I accept no responsibility for any ensuing divorces.
I think these two statements are contradictory...
Posted by fiazko (Member # 5812) on :
quote: Some part of you must want to play the game, otherwise you wouldn't keep coming back to this thread.
*leaves thread in a huff*
Yes, I want to play. I said as much, but my chickenness is too strong.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Hmph. I'm chicken too. If I can play, so can you. Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Indeed.
Chickenness is no excuse.
Posted by fiazko (Member # 5812) on :
Ok then, how about "I don't have time"?
Like I said, I've got an entire stash of lame excuses.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
I believe I would win the lame excuses game. Posted by fiazko (Member # 5812) on :
I don't know, rivka. You're already winning this one. Can you do both? Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
It will be difficult. But I will have to grit my teeth and try.
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Lame excuses are, well, lame.
Posted by fiazko (Member # 5812) on :
And yet, we wonder why I'm dateless. Hmmm...
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
rivka, I think it's still a great idea. It's not a race, but you're keeping the possibility open. So that's perfect.
To stop being coy about the above, I am dating Matt, who met me in New York for this past weekend.
[ November 02, 2005, 04:18 PM: Message edited by: katharina ]
Posted by Avery Good Schreibner (Member # 8772) on :
I would love to play but, geesh, the cards are stacked. I mean, I always get those polite yes-but's. So, I think I'm being rejected even though they say yes. Then when we do meet up, like met you at such-and-such a place, it's "Hi! Great to see you again! Oh! man. Look at the time. Gotta run. Hey, let's meet again!" Then, it's back to those cash-and-carry dates.
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Nonono, you like music, you like things, you're articulate and passionate about things. It's not the same - you wouldn't make me think of things to all the time, right? I can just imagine me coming up with, um, quilt shows and stake road shows. You'd come up with an alternative plan, right?![[Frown]](frown.gif)
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