Mother-In-Law: Dan, help me. Me: Sure. What can I do. Mother-In-Law (Widowed about 2 years ago from my wife's step father): How do I tell your wife that I've got a man in my life. Me: Uh. Mother-In-Law: He's a really good Christian man, and he's XX years old (about 5 years older than me).
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I agree with Bob, although the MIL needs to tell her, not you. Otherwise it looks like there's a reason to be "ashamed," which might make her see one where there isn't.
The age difference shouldn't be mentioned at all. That makes it an issue when it doesn't need to be.
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Dan you're married at 15? Talk about precocious.
I would just tell her to say what she told you, he's a good Christian and they love each other. If they're living together, the Christian part might be a tougher sell.
Does she expect your wife to get upset for some reason, other than an age difference?
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Seriously, my mom was a widow for many years and she was so worried about telling my brother and I WHENEVER she had a man in her life. At first, I'm sure, it was because we were still teenagers and not very tactful -- her first b.f. was a complete jerk, though.
When she met her new flame, however, we were both overjoyed. He's a wonderful person and they enjoy the same things.
It's a great thing to watch and enjoy and he's become a special part of all our family gatherings, as my mom has become part of their family get-togethers too.
You aren't losing a MIL, you're gaining a...
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Actually there is no problem. We are both very supportive of her. It was just a hilarious way to start the morning.
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I don't know but when my Gran was with someone, it was great to have a functional grandpa again! Then they split up .
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When my mom was first dating after her divorce, she told me about this "gentleman" she went on some dates with, and that she kissed him goodnight. The only thing is, she kept referring to him as Brother Schmidt. I thought that was pretty funny, and said, "It's OK, Mom. If you kiss him, you don't have to refer to him as Brother Schmidt anymore."
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Still, a week before the wedding the groom should be doing something constructive, or at least looking like it.
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I think it's great!!! I do remember when my father in law let slip that he had a lady friend (5 years after my mother in law died), I* was happy for him but Brian could not deal with it.
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The only reason I can think of that his relative youth would be an issue is if he was your wife's high school flame or something. Or does she have siblings older than this guy? It's not necessarily wrong, I can just see someone thinking that's weird.
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I'll be the voice of doom on this one - keep an eye on this guy. Age is nothing but a number, but there's always a possibility this guy isn't interested in your mother-in-law as much as her bank account.
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My dad was engaged four months after my mother died. Considering my fury and his reaction to being disrespected, it is probably lucky for both of us I was hundreds of miles away and in touch only by snail mail.
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Actually that was a very serious issue with my Grand-Mother-In-Law and her last husband. This family is well on guard. Ahh the soap operas that are our lives.
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