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I Have a question. Why is it that all the goverment agencys will let dead beat dads, get away with not paying child support. But will Not help the dads who do at all. It is like they are punishing us that do. My wife (1st) and i have two beutiful daughters, That i love very much. And i have been paying child support, of 400 a month two them. I started doing that 6 months, before we even went to court, cause i know they needed it. Now, I am married again, and my wife was trying to get on disability, Which takes 6 months to a year to get aproved for. i needed help, cause i make after the support is taken outta my check, about 250 every two weeks. which with morgage, food, electrisity, gas, ect, ain't anywhere near enough. ASk for help, with food stamps, declined, cause i make too much money, They don't take out the child support. My wife got her disability, but not maedicade, cause i make too much money, cause they don't count child support. Is it my imagaination, or do they almost punish paying like you are supposed too.
Sorry for the yelling, but i had to vent for a sec. This pissed me off... what do you think ?
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I agree that they don't seem to seek out or punish deadbeats enough. The rest of your post I'm more ambivalent about.
I think they should only consider child support to the extent that they consider your other expenses. Say you had all of your children with your present wife: you would still have expenses for all of those children. So if they are giving deductions or considerations for your dependents, then I think they should treat your children from your first marriage similarly (although not quite the same, because presumably half of their expenses are shouldered by your first wife, whereas all of the expenses related to the children of your second marriage are dealt with by you and your current wife). But if they are not giving an allowance for dependents from your current marriage, then there is no reason why they should deduct your child support expenses either.
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The theory is when you have kids, you are responsible for them. When you divorce, your first responsiblity is to the kids from that marriage. And other "family" you have is of secondary concern to the courts. They figure if you choose to have a second family, you better be able to afford them, because one way or another, you're taking care of the first family. At least, that's the way it was explained to me.
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It seems like the government is doing a lousy job of doing what it's supposed to in this situation: facilitate happiness.
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