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Quite frankly my life sucks. Mostly because of the absence of one word in my life, Amore. Could any of you wise hatrackers let me partake of a bit of thy wisdom? I.E. a little advice for the poor child at the keyboard.
-Rhaegar The Fool
[ November 17, 2003, 01:51 PM: Message edited by: Rhaegar The Fool ]
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Love youself first. Confidence is a very attractive trait. But of course, don't over do it, that's just ugly.
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Understood Fugu, Its kindof weird, Raia just down the street, pluck full of it, and us well we mope, the one good thing I have to say about it is that I have really honed my brooding skills.
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I'm sure some chicks dig the melancholy brooding type. You just need to market yourself as a fixer-upper of sorts. Of course, that'll lower your market value. But beggars can't be choosers.
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Rhaegar, fugu, you can get some loving for 14.99 on amazon.com...
Oh, and as for kat:
quote:Love youself first. Confidence is a very attractive trait. But of course, don't over do it, that's just ugly.
Hey, I love myself early and often, and I look oh-so-good.
And I have the foobonics pictures to prove it.
Drats, now I've done gone made this an onanism thread!
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As for serious advice, well, I lucked into a wonderful relationship, so I don't know. I think it always helps to be more open-minded, and to take stock of your likes/dislikes and think which ones are really indifference, and which ones are of fingernails-on-the-chalkboard variety.
-Bok
EDIT: On a related note, I couldn't find Miserableness, but maybe a $17 purchase at Amazon is close enough?
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You know, the Jon Boy bachelor thread seemed to really work. He's married and all, now. Just thought I'd throw that out there, though I think you are over estimating how much love changes everything. Truly, the only thing it changes is how much time you have to brood. You're just as miserable, you just don't have the time to think about it. Posts: 9871 | Registered: Aug 2001
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No, blacwolve, I don't think it is... I was wondering that too...
quote: Understood Fugu, Its kindof weird, Raia just down the street, pluck full of it, and us well we mope, the one good thing I have to say about it is that I have really honed my brooding skills.
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Basically... it's different for everyone so don't push it one way or the other. Personally, I'm a huge fan of the "friends first, 'amore' later" idea but that's just me. I think it just helps you because there's no real sense of pressure so you get to see someone at their best and their worst, and then decide if this is really someone you'd be interested in romantically. Like I said, though, that's just me. Best wishes to you.
Raia, honey, perk up. At least it's not a few thousand miles. ::is positively ecstatic because the few thousand miles are, supposedly, gone in two months::
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I guess this might be a little insensitive, but I just can't hear the word "amore" without thinking of that sketch from The State where the Italian boys are talking about the monkeys doin' it.
As for love... Well, this won't mean much now, and believe me I've been there, but the best way to find real love is not to look for it so hard. Just concentrate on being happy, and love will come on its own, in its own time.
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Blackwolve, are you thinking that I am talking of the squealer? Because that would be a no, because I am talking of the absence of a sombody, so I couldn't be talking about a somebody.
-Rhaegar The Fool
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So it's no one in particular? In that case, don't worry. Somewhere out there, the person who would be perfect for you is going through the experiences she'll need for that job, just as you are going through the experiences you'll need to be perfect for her. And when you're both ready, you'll meet.
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As much as I like that worldview in many ways, blacwolve, I can't help but also attribute to it a whole bunch of psychological problems with humanity.
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Cheer up Rhaegar. It's not as bad as actually having a crush on someone for a long time. Especially when that someone is your best friend, and going out with your other best friend....
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Have you been single for a very long time and want to settle down now? Are you young and uncertain about your ability to attract a mate? Do you feel you have a strong unit of filial love, or do you feel that missing in your life, too?
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while I won't answer for Rhaegar as to the nature of his ache, I will say that Rhaegar is younger than me (I'm 20).
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quote: Except, always, always be honest. Otherwise, it isn't actually love.
Women love this advice because it just means they get to corner the market on the whole lying thing, leaving you powerless against them and their boobies.
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rhaegar, been there, done that. and i'm not going to give you the "you've got time" speech. a hard lesson i had to learn (just recently, and i'm above the age 20 mark) is that i don't need a significant other to make me complete. once i figured out why i thought i did (i was conditioned to believe so), i realized that it's a load. yeah, i'd like that special someone, but now i don't look for him in every guy i meet. i'm much more comfortable being myself, and maybe once i get over my other issues, that will make me more attractive. point is, you are you and you are ok. don't worry about trying to find love. just live life. embrace your friends and your hobbies. it's kind of like winning the lottery. it'd be nice, but don't let it consume you. and i'm pretty sure love has better odds than winning the lottery. Posts: 1090 | Registered: Oct 2003
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quote:Women love this advice because it just means they get to corner the market on the whole lying thing, leaving you powerless against them and their boobies.
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Rhaegar...I have a wonderful girlfriend, whom I deeply love. We're dating for almost 2 years. It may sound strange, but we met each other on the net, posting on an Anime Forum. Her house is a 10 minutes drive from mine, but we probably would never met if it wasn't for internet.
What I mean is...if it's meant to happend, it will. To chase, I guess, is making the whole thing more difficult.
You seems to be a smart and funny guy. Odds are (I guess) things will improve. One thing people already told you: always, always be true to yourself. Posts: 1785 | Registered: Oct 2003
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quote:You know, the Jon Boy bachelor thread seemed to really work. He's married and all, now. Just thought I'd throw that out there, though I think you are over estimating how much love changes everything. Truly, the only thing it changes is how much time you have to brood. You're just as miserable, you just don't have the time to think about it.
Actually, I'm quite happy. All of my brooding is school-related.
Rhaegar, here's my advice for you: hang in there for a few more years. You're not going to find real love while you're still in high school. It's a painful, hormonal time, but eventually it goes away.
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Oh the precious thought this thread died a while ago. We is very happy nows a days. Cause we haves the precious.
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