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Crying during pregnancy is due partially to shifting hormones, partially to growing up, and partially to connecting with the life inside you and to the greater world. It is becoming something more than you once were.
The crying doesn't stop, not completely. It comes and goes at the oddest of moments. Even now that my child is 5, I find myself getting weepy for inexplicable reasons. Granted, it's not as often as when I was completely hormonal.
My advice is to take these weepy times to learn how to be okay with tears. There are many goddesses and female saints who are weepers, and perhaps you can look to their stories for strength and wisdom.
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Um, I actually cried less during pregnancy. I was excited and happy, and actually a lot less mood-swingy than I was before. It hung around after the first baby, and throughout the second pregnancy. After baby #2 came... that's another story.
Some of it may be hormonal, but don't dissmiss all you wife's worries and fears as "those crazy pregnancy hormones". Chances are, if something is bothering her, it will do her good to talk about it. But then, I'm not talking about crying at McDonald's commercials, here. Posts: 9293 | Registered: Aug 2000
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You know, after reading your post in the primping thread, Olivet, I was wonder how on earth you remember what you wearing to your last visit to the doctor. Or, for that matter, why you bother who wore what where when. I suppose, it's a matter of interest and not a matter of choice.
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Actually, it's because of a memory condition I have. My brain is full of useless details, organiozed non-linearly (usually by free-association). I'm not really eidetic anymore, at least I don't think so. Through illness, injury and training I have managed to prune mostof the crap out of my memory banks. But, thanks for noticing.
It's like the exact opposite of everyone i know. Instead of being able to remember important or emotional things in preter-natural detail, I remember the mundane things. Actually, the more emotional I happen to be at any given moment, the less likely I am to remember stuff. Up until the last few years, I never forgot anything. I did, however, hopelessly confuse and compound similar events and 'snapshots' from my memory bank. It's not like in the movies, at least not for me. It's actually a lot closer to a handicap than some weird super-power.
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What you wear is a lot more important for girls than guys, in general, too. Some book title I saw once and laughed at (I have no idea what the book was actually about or if it was good) went something like "Life, Love, Death, and What I Wore".
I remember apologizing to one friend who waited patiently for me while I changed clothes about five times. Each time he said, "yes, you look great!" and I said, "no, but wait" and went back to put on something different. I yelled from the other room, "I can picture you growing old out there" but he said he understood, that it was the curse of the double X.
I don't know if this is cultural or what but what girls look like matters a whole lot more than for guys. I know when my brothers were teenagers and going on dates they would take a long time to get ready too, and want their hair to look right and stuff. So it's not only a girl thing. But it's true that girls tend to stress a lot more about having the right thing to wear and so they are more likely to remember what they wore to this or that event. Like to any given day at work I would have no idea what I wore but to a party or something like that, sure, I will totally remember what I wore.
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