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I can't stand it when people lead you to believe something, and then, *WHAM*, the ugly truth hits you in the face.
It seems that more and more bullcrap hits me every few weeks or so. I look at myself every now and then, and I see myself becoming a much more bitter, cynical, and closed-off-to-the-world person inside.
And frankly, it makes me happy, in a sick, twisted kind of way. Because it means the next punch in the face will be a little easier to get over.
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Sorry Cal, but after a long night out, Frisco's response had me rolling. Hope things look better after some sleep.
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Actually I found his comment to be quite accurate.
No, I didn't find my dad's easter bunny costume, but metaphorically it amount to the same thing. You remain oblivious, in a fairytale world, and then the truth smacks you in the face.
And I grow stronger every time this kind of crap happens (which it is happening very often, recently). Just "stronger" happens to be more bitter and closed off, because it seems to be the only way to protect myself from getting hurt in the future, as is constantly happening.
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The thing is, don't let whatever's happening keep you from taking chances in the future.
Let it make you strong enough to deal with the consequences of taking the risk, but don't let it scare you away from taking the next one.
Take it from someone who's getting his heart stomped on a second time by the same girl. It's totally worth it.
"Dance like no one is watching. Sing like no one is listening. Love like you've never been hurt and live like it's heaven on Earth." --Mark Twain
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Frisco's right. If the lesson you take home from this stuff is to build a wall, you're just setting yourself up for even more pain later.
Learn from your mistakes, sure. But bitterness is a sign that you've learned the wrong thing. Go back over it in a few days, months, etc. and see if you can't find a more positive message amidst all the cr@p.
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quote:And I grow stronger every time this kind of crap happens (which it is happening very often, recently). Just "stronger" happens to be more bitter and closed off, because it seems to be the only way to protect myself from getting hurt in the future, as is constantly happening.
You'd call that stronger?
That'd be like me saying I'm getting better at basketball by playing fewer games. After all, I lose less often that way....
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Awww... Not to get all bitter when you're still so young. I've found that being bitter and closed off will never lead to more happiness - it only guarantees unhappiness - whereas staying optomistic and loving may sometimes lead to unhappiness, but will almost certainly also lead to happiness.
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Oh sweetie. *hug* That's because you put your heart out there. On the other hand, if you never do, if you never let go of the side of swimming pool, then there's no way to swim at all. Love doesn't work if you fall with your fingers crossed.
I know exactly how you feel... It gets easier every time, but that doesn't make it any better... Someday I'd like to have hope and actually have it pay off, that way I could take down a few of the bricks in this wall I'm building.
I think the only thing you can do is realize that you're doing it... That way you can tell yourself when you're becoming bitter, that way you can try to stop it.
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Actually, this isn't a "love" issue. Yes, I had feelings for this person, but I didn't even want them to go anywhere, considering im leaving for college soon. I just thought our friendship was more than just superficial bullcrap, but I found out I was wrong.
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Hey Noah, put yourself on the line for love when ever you can, my last relationship was a 13 month long argument, but now I’m with one of the best girls out there and I wouldn't trade anything for her, but I would never have started dating her, if I let that b**** I dated last scare me out of dating all together. Hang in there, and it'll all work out, and if it doesn't, well there always is a plane to somewhere in near the equator where they don't speak English (maybe those girls would be easier to get along with)
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Let your disappointments inform your future choices/actions. Sometimes you can avoid something altogether. Sometimes you can't. If you get burned at the stove, but have to cook, you learn how to use an oven mitt.
If I had to read between the lines of your posts, I might suggest you may not understand the other party. Everyone has a wall-building reaction. You are the person leaving, no? Someone else might be self-protecting. something to consider.
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This can make you a stronger person, Noah, but stronger doesn't equal jaded and closed off. That's an easy trap to fall into, but it's a trap nonetheless.
quote:"Dance like no one is watching. Sing like no one is listening. Love like you've never been hurt and live like it's heaven on Earth." --Mark Twain
Frisco, are you *sure* that's Twain? I've heard that quote before, but it seems pretty out of character for Twain, and it certainly isn't advice that he followed in his own life. Was it something he wrote in an essay, or was it something a character of his said in a novel or short story? I'll google for it later, but I don't have time right this second.
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I think it's from an essay that has wrongly been attributed to Twain (you know, one of those flash-popular anonymous things that streaks across the cultural radar every now and then).
*grin Yup, a bit of a different twist from "The Stranger," eh?
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*grin* Kind of like how Man of La Mancha portrayed Don Quixote's quest and delusions as something to be admired. I always thought Cervantes would stand on his head in frustration if he ever knew.
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