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Ok, as some of you may know, and here's an FYI for the rest of you, Raia and I broke up this past Wednesday. It was a mutual thing, and I think we both came away in pretty good shape.
Now, I have this friend (ok, ex-girlfriend who I’m still kind of stuck on) who started talking to me out of the blue for the first time since we ended our 13 month long romance, not more than 3 hours after Raia and I broke up. This friend wants to just be "casually dating, so I could probably still see other people too, but since I’m still just a little scared from the first time around, I’m not sure if dating would be a good idea. The ex doesn't want to go to prom this year. Now I have another friend who is just a friend (ok, a flirtatious friend, but that’s it) who I’m taking to prom but have no real romantic interest in, Now there is this other friend who I know wants to date me, but is too shy to say anything, I wouldn't mind dating her though. But I f I date her, then she wouldn't like the idea of me dating the ex-girlfriend at the same time and she'd want to go to prom with me and I don't want to leave my other friend dateless. And at the same time, I really think if I give the ex a second chance, it may work out this time.
So, which one of you intelligent people thinks you can figure this one out, Because I’ve already put this question to a few friends and they just gave me blank stares. Oh, and if you know any of the above people, unless you are one of them. Don’t tell them.
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You and the ex broke up for a reason, right? Try to remember what that reason is before you think any more about this situation.
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Make sure your own life is sorted out before throwing another female monkey wrench into it. It's been what, three days?
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I am sorry, though, that you and Raia broke up. I told her you were a major catch (from all she told me about you) and a major hottie (from the pic she sent me), but she says it was for the best.
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it's been three dyas since we finally decided that it was over, but we've both seen it coming for a while.
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It was for the best, and i agree, i am quite a catch, but i wouldn't want to start bragging about.
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I don't think the flirtatious friend should be left without a date, she might have your hexed egg come back on you Posts: 5362 | Registered: Apr 2004
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Ya Raia, it kinda puts how good you are into perspective when you see how high in demand i am. (((Raia)))*kisses top of head* ha, i will win the PDA aurguement. Posts: 1094 | Registered: Mar 2004
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tell me about the pda arguement and I'll think about it. also get on IM, I need you to look at some links.
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I'm being forbidden to get on AIM for a little while, until I finish this essay... but I have to be connected for something else, so Hatrack, um... *looks innocent*
And um, Stryker dear, yes you DID deserve that!!! Don't pull a Captain Jack Sparrow on me...
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He did deserve it. He deserves much more for some of his plans. Do you really think that the "teen murder at prom" would be a good headline?
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well, i don't know what your hearing, but Raia is far from jealous, and i do believe that she is assisting in this "drama".
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For some one who claims to not be interested in having any one set you up, you seem very interested in others dating habits. And I didn't contest the mutual part because I’m quite secure in that fact. Oh, and just for the record, you can take that reading comment and shove it where the sun don't shine.
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quote:For some one who claims to not be interested in having any one set you up, you seem very interested in others dating habits. And I didn't contest the mutual part because I’m quite secure in that fact. Oh, and just for the record, you can take that reading comment and shove it where the sun don't shine.
Others? I see no others except you and Raia. And Raia happens to be a good friend of mine, so I hear a lot about what happens in her life.
You might wanna check with her about the mutuality issue.
And as for the last part, there's really no need to answer such vulgarity.
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You don't ditch a friend for prom, especially not this close. You asked her, or at least agreed to go with her, you stick to it. No matter how your dating life turns out, at least don't be rude to your friends.
quote:Now there is this other friend who I know wants to date me, but is too shy to say anything, I wouldn't mind dating her though.
That ain't exactly a ringing endorsement, ya know? If she likes you enough that you know about it even though she's shy, and you just "wouldn't mind" dating her, the level of "liking" is probably pretty uneven here. I've never found that to be a good thing, starting a relationship.
I'm also not a huge fan of dating exes again, but in this case, it might be your best decision. It sounds like you're looking for something casual, and she certainly is, and you two could have some fun together. Plus you already know her pretty well, probably, so you know what you're getting into. And at your age, chances are pretty good that it won't last anyway. If your last break-up with this person was friendly enough that you'd consider going out with her again, maybe your next one will be, too, and that's always nice. (I'm not trying to be cynical here, I'm just talking about going away to school, etc., tends to end things pretty well.)
Finally, regardless of if your breakup was mutual or not, and if you're both okay or not, it's still pretty tacky for you to post about this here. Even if she had dumped you, it's not the classiest thing you could do. She introduced you to this place, even if she's fine with you starting dating other people right away it's not polite to rub her nose in it. (No offense intended, Raia, just a figure of speech.)
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quote: Others? I see no others except you and Raia.
Well it appears that you’re interested in derrell's love life as well.
quote: Derrell: 1) The thread doesn't need a bump after 3 minutes from the previous post, which also happened to be your post. 2) If you're so desperate to go on a date, hookup, whateva, asking someone out works a lot better than waiting for someone to set you up with someone else.
I've check on the "mutuality issues", and no I didn't just ask her, I asked her best friend, and I am correct in the mutual part.
And if you think that was vulgar, you’re more than welcome to IM me so I can un-edit my thoughts for you.
Now either stay out of these threads or be nice, cause I don't take too kindly to what I see as personal attacks. On my self or anybody else.
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Thanks ElJay, i think i have to agree with you on almost all points. but in this situation, i don't think it is the tackiest thing i culd have done.
I hope Calvin Maker is taking notes on how to criticize.
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quote:-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Others? I see no others except you and Raia. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Well it appears that you’re interested in derrell's love life as well.
quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Derrell: 1) The thread doesn't need a bump after 3 minutes from the previous post, which also happened to be your post. 2) If you're so desperate to go on a date, hookup, whateva, asking someone out works a lot better than waiting for someone to set you up with someone else. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
I've check on the "mutuality issues", and no I didn't just ask her, I asked her best friend, and I am correct in the mutual part.
And if you think that was vulgar, you’re more than welcome to IM me so I can un-edit my thoughts for you.
Now either stay out of these threads or be nice, cause I don't take too kindly to what I see as personal attacks. On my self or anybody else.
JT Stryker
There's a key difference in being "interested" in Derrell's love life (or lack thereof), and simply telling him that asking a girl out would probably get him faster results than waiting for someone on hatrack to possibly set him up with someone else.
I asked Raia herself about the mutuality aspect. Once again, you might want to check with her about that, rather then her best friend.
That said, I'm stepping out of this stupid, high schoolish battle because I grow tired of you getting irrationally angry when someone calls you on your crap.
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Ralphie, I think he had already done that for several years and wanted to start the maturity thing early. But maybe it would work, just not on prom night.
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quote: Ralphie, I think he had already done that for several years and wanted to start the maturity thing early. But maybe it would work, just not on prom night.
Yes i did, and it won't work on prom night i'll be too busy drooling over all the girls (my date included) Posts: 1094 | Registered: Mar 2004
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And I agree it's not the tackiest thing you could have done. By a long shot. Believe me, I have a great imagination, and I could come up with all sorts of things that would be way tackier. Ask my sister. But do you want to do something that is even the 1/2 tackiest thing you could do? How about 1/10? Where do you draw the line? Personally, I try to be tacky only on purpose, and only when it stands no chance of hurting someone. Then it can be fun.
Speaking of, Calvin: As a girl, if I had told a male friend that I was less than thrilled with the way a relationship with someone else had just ended, and he went getting all belligerant in a public forum to the gentleman in question, I wouldn't be too happy about that, either. I can't, of course, speak for Raia, but maybe she doesn't want to tell JT exactly how she feels? Ever heard of the term "saving face?" Just something to think about.
A decade or so gives you all sorts of perspective on HS, I do love passing out unsolicited advice!
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well I think he has probably given up on all three, but he might enjoy the spellchecking a little longer
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drool, but there are some pretty scary girls at our school who might not be worth drooling over. Does anyone in this thread have any dress ideas?
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I know it couldn't hurt Raia, i mean she is the one who just set me up with my prom date. And the only thing on here that has hurt her, is a certain some ones mission to convience everyone that I was dumped, which i assure you all it was mutual and i'd rather not hurt Raia any more by standing by my pride.
And ElJay, We always love unsolicited advice, even if this advice was solicited for, but thats just a minor detail. Right?
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I think Raia set us up because she had been working on setting me up, you were available, and she knew that we at least know how to be civil occasionally.
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well, since i spent half my life on tour with rock bands (my dad is a roady) i think that i've had more than my fair share of living.
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sure stryker that really makes the thread a lot more exciting. Maybe you should tell ralphie some of your experiences.
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Beverly you really don't want to be in high school, its over rated, give me first grade any day, oh wait I guess I sort of am in first grade
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Noah, this isn't any of your business dude.
Back the funk off.
If Raia has a problem with this thread, she certainly isn't showing it. They seem quite supportive of eachother.
And Raia is a big girl, and she can speak for herself. If she doesn't think the break-up was mutual, and wants to tell hatrack otherwise, that is her decision to make.
You posting it just makes you look like a jerk.
I repeat, this is none of your damn business.
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