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You wouldn't have tracked it down if you didn't want to. I'm pretty sure I could find my father's contact info in less than 10 minutes, but I haven't tried.
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Sticky sticky. I honestly can't tell you the right answer...only you know that. However, I'd say from observation that if you took the time to track down her phone number that there are some things that you feel you need to say to her.
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The problem with the address idea is that then you've placed the ball in her court, and if you are emotionally invested in her calling you, it'll be agonizing if she doesn't, or if she takes her time about doing so.
I'd sit down and think through why I wanted to talk to her, and try to figure out how I'd handle it if she were unplesant. From that, I'd decide whether or not to call her.
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If you are going to call her, write down an outline of what you want to say. This makes talking to people easier, I have found. Even if I don't use the outline, thinking about it beforehand makes it go more smoothly for me, and I don't end up saying things I regret later (usually).
Whatever you decide, I wish you peace on this.
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No matter what happens, what she does is to her credit or her culpa. Either way, you are not solely responsible for how it turns out.
As a side note, someone apologized to me a week and a half ago and I actually mentally comtemplated tossing my cup of soy milk at him. However, after a week, the irritation dissapeared and I couldn't even remember why I was upset. And now everything's fine. I guess the moral of that story is that you can't always tell how it went until well after the fact.
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Do you think it would be possible to get the address of her workplace and send her a letter marked personal? That way if you have some things to say, you can say them without worrying about her responses in the middle of what you need to say. I do feel for you. I haven't had contact w/ my mother for 2 years, and now Father's Day is coming up which is yet another bad holiday for me. I've met my dad only one time. He promised to keep in contact and never did. *stops pitying self* Anyway, the letter thing was just an idea.
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In my defense, the last time I had talked to him (three months ago - holy crap, three months ago!), he stormed off in a huff. The desire to toss the soy milk was because of this statement.
"I feel like there's a distance between us. Why is that?"
Well honey, you think maybe it's because you stormed off in a huff and refused to look at me for a month?Posts: 26077 | Registered: Mar 2000
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If you're worried about her contacting you again after you call her, just use your Sprint cell phone before you get the new one. Even if she has caller id, you'll be ditching the phone anyway.
Sorry, I couldn't resist blending the two threads together into a bit of string.
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