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My sister is on her way to the hospital with her boyfriend and our mother. She almost lost the baby two weeks ago, and this morning she started bleeding again. She's cramping bad enough that she's crying and doubled over in pain. This isn't good, folks. Not good at all...
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Sorry to hear that. Your family will be in my prayers.
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No word yet. Been doing research on the internet to occupy myself. Not encouraging. I want to go down there, to hug her...but I can't. Hubby's not home and kids are sleeping...and they have school tomorrow.
I hope I don't have to tell them they won't be getting a new cousin after all.
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ER doc did some kind of test to get a "pregnancy number" which will tell them if she's already lost the baby or not. I assume this is an hcg test. It has to be redone in 24-48 hours so the numbers can be compared.
Mom said she's losing blood, clots, and "fatty tissue" that looks like the curds in tapioca pudding.
Also, the doc said that if her cervix was closed, the baby would still be in there. If it was wide open, miscarriage would be imminent. Her cervix is open, but not very much. He's not sure what that means.
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Two weeks ago, this "pregnancy number" was 10,000. Last night it was 18,000. Doc says that puts her at 6-8 weeks pregnant, and she IS still pregnant. The cramping has stopped, the bleeding is tapering off, and she has an appointment for another blood test and an ultrasound tomorrow to make sure the fetus is still viable. Pray for her. As inadvisable as it may seem, she really wants this baby.
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Boon, I'm sorry I didn't see this thread sooner. I'll add my thoughts and prayers to the others. I hope you have been able to go be with your sister.
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(((boon))) Prayers for your sister. Miscarriages are hard You say this is #3? I am wondering about either -the health of her cervix -the length of her luteal phase.
maybe not something she wants to think about NOW, but if she wants to research in the future.
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Not going down there after all. She doesn't want to see Thomas, who I would *have* to bring with me. I want to see her, to hug her...but I don't want to cause her any more pain than what she's already going through.
I didn't even know about the previous miscarriages until she almost lost this one. The first two were caused by abuse from her ex-husband. The doctor thinks she may have scar tissue that's causing problems now. At any rate, there will be no niece or nephew in the near future.
I feel rather guilty. Here I am, with three healthy, beautiful children, never any threat or worry about losing them...and my sister may never be able to carry her own baby. I am indescribably sad for her. I know what she's missing.
My advice to her, should she ask for it, would be to use contraceptives until she can get thorough testing to see exactly what's causing this and if anything can be done to fix it.
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(((Boon and Sister))) I can kind of relate, my sister hasn't been able to conceive. We used to joke a lot about her adopting one of my kids but that has kind of fallen off ever since she really started trying.
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So sorry for you and your sister. Your advice sounds very reasonable...if there is scar tissue there is probably something that can be done that will improve her chances.
You have nothing to feel guilty about, you didn't cause this. Your children are a blessing, and I know you are sad your sister cannot experience the same blessings you have, don't let that translate into guilt.
(((Boon and sister)))
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She had a D&C to remove "leftover tissue". She's back at home now, and resting. Mom says she's holding up well...of course, Mom and I are bawling, hysterical wrecks.
Even when there is no reason to suspect scarring, using contraceptives for at least a month or two after a miscarriage is a good idea. Otherwise -- at least, this is what my OB-GYN told me -- it's very common to have one miscarriage after another, and end up with permanent scarring.
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