How do you know if a date was a good date, a bad date, or just so-so 'cause you're nervous and not thinking clearly?
What do people watch for, anyway?
Not the obvious stuff - I'm not talking "safety", "respect", "politeness", etc, cause that was all peachy.
The other intangible things . . . . you know, ideology, political stance, religious leanings . . . all the stuff we discuss here with great delight, but that apparently doesn't figure into daily converstaion in real life . . .
*gasps in horror*
Has Hatcrack ruined me for ever talking to people in a social setting again? Posts: 5609 | Registered: Jan 2003
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If you're questioning it I'd vote for so-so because you're nervous and not thinking clearly. If it was good or bad, you'd know. Posts: 7954 | Registered: Mar 2004
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I'm debating between a variety of answers to that, quid . . .
A) No, I didn't have a date, it's for my sociology term paper. (That'll fly with newbies, but no one whose been here a while.)
B) It's my homework assignment for my therapist. (That may fly with a few more, except mack who would know better.)
C) Affecting great shock and dismay and saying with pathos: "I'm surrounded by casual voyuers . . ."
Yes, I just did. I am feeling fairly noncommittal about it all - we've done some stuff a couple of times before with his child and mine, and that's always fun. This wasn't quite the same - I dunno - I'm jaded anyhow, so my opinion probably isn't real reliable . . .
Quids gave the perfect answer but that's not going to stop me from adding my own comments. Maybe you did enjoy yourself but you are unable to experience that "good date giddiness" because you are worried about the ramifications of taking the relationship to another level?
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Nah - I think I'm still recovering from my broken heart over you!
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Maybe I'm just too old for "good date giddiness" and should be relieved rather than perplexed. That giddiness in my youth made for an awful lot of problems . . .
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Did you have enough fun that you were smiling when he left and are interested in doing it again? If so, that's good.
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No one can be on their ballgame all the time. I've been thinking about how two people who don't have similar political views can get along. It's quite common, actually.
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Oh man - how did I blow it? Was it 'cause I sent the dang DVDs back?
*shakes head mournfully*
So, can a couple be on completely opposite poles of the political spectrum? And yeah, it was okay - we've had more fun going places with the kids, I think - although he did call afetrward to say thanks again and let me know that he enjoyed spending the time and is looking forward to spending more time -
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quote:Has Hatcrack ruined me for ever talking to people in a social setting again?
Ai! I know what you mean. But if Hatrack-type discourse is something you enjoy, perhaps you should be looking for a date who wants to do things like that. And in that case, being on the opposite poles of the spectrum might be more useful, as long as neither of you actively hates the other side.
Also, I don't think giddiness is necessarily an indicator of a good date. If you had fun, and didn't feel like you had to put on a show, then I would call it good (sez me, who's been on maybe three dates).
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A first date (and I say this from my vast experience, having had (thus far) precisely one first date) is a bit early to really be deciding "good" or not, I think. (Actually, the fact that I came back from my first date quite giddily happy was probably a very bad thing, now that I think back on it.)
As a very wise person said to me once, the first date isn't supposed to be about whether you want to marry the guy. It's about whether you want to go on a second date. Posts: 32919 | Registered: Mar 2003
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This is what happens when you marry the first guy you date.
Probably also has quite a bit to do with the blind terror that grips me when I contemplate staring to date.
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"Future tripping"? Does that mean worrying about what will happen, especially worst-case scenarios? I do that -- my mom calls it "borrowing trouble."
But yeah, not always the best way to deal with things.
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If you’ve enjoyed each other’s company when doing stuff with your kids, I’d chalk this one up to nervousness and normal “first date” awkwardness.
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