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Boris
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Ever come to one of those points in life where everything just kinda makes you feel like staring out a window for a really long time? I'm there right now. I should be doing something right now, but for the first time in about a month, I have nothing to do and no one to do it with. My best friend is in Iraq. The girl I wanted to be dating aparently doesn't want to date me. I don't really have any actual friends that I hang out with, the one I do have has gone home for 2 weeks for medical reasons. I could spend tonight at a LAN party with the guys who work at the computer shop, but that's an hour from now and I don't know if I really want to spend several hours getting my butt kicked in Counter-Strike. Nor do I want to haul my over-powered 40 pound computer over there to play. I've decided one thing about spending my no classes summer in a college town of 20000 people, half of whom are students. It sucks. I don't know where any of these people get together, so I don't know any good places to go just meet people. I start work at Walmart next week (I hope), so that will help, but that's a few days away.

Ugh. I'm tired of being a loner. Sorry if this seems more like a journal entry than a post...I'm bored.

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johnsonweed
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I wish I had something profound to say that would make you feel better. I've been there. Even after 14 years of marriage and two kids, reading your post brings back the sting of those days. Keep busy and keep smiling, yes, smiling. If you smile at enough people some are bound to smile back, maybe even a new best friend! And even if they don't end up becoming your friend, you will feel better for having had someone smile at you.
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ketchupqueen
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It's a college town! There's got to be music or comedy or poetry going on somewhere...

Or there's always the library. Or Hatrack.

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Synesthesia
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Trying being a post-grad.... It really, really sucks...
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Boris
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quote:
Originally posted by ketchupqueen:
It's a college town! There's got to be music or comedy or poetry going on somewhere...

Or there's always the library. Or Hatrack.

It's also Rexburg. Just about everything there is to do around is no fun unless someone does it with you. I'd LOVE to have some culture around here, but there are too many students and not enough people with actual money to spend for that kind of thing.
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Get yourself a hat, a drum and a harmonica. Go down to the town square and place the hat on the ground. play the harmonica and pound the drum.

Don't quit until you have pizza money.

If you have no hat or drum, improvise. No harmonica? Well...you can always just sing.

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quote:
Ever come to one of those points in life where everything just kinda makes you feel like staring out a window for a really long time?
I LJed about something like that yesterday. I hear ya, Boris. [Frown] (((((Boris))))) Chin up, ok? Feel better! We all love you!
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My husband recommends going out to the sand dunes and shooting something...
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Do stuff with your ward Boris. That's a bood place tos tart. Sing in a choir. [Smile] That's the best way I've EVER found to meet people and get a 'hang out' group. Good luck dear. (((Boris)))
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Beren One Hand
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Things will pick up Boris. [Smile]

I'm sure you've probably seen these already, but in case you haven't

http://activities.byui.edu/

http://www.byui.edu/scroll/091702/special8.html

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CROSSFIRE PAINTBALL GAMES: All supplies provided. Call to schedule. 356-9091.

College Date Special. 2 ATVs for 2 hours for $49.99. Valid Monday- Thursday. Call Dune Excursions at 624-4075 or 709-RIDE

Hippotherapy Volunteers Needed! (Therapy on horseback for people with disabilites) Need 30 volunteers to train for Hippo Summer Program through Madison Memorial Hospital. Call A.J. now to register. 390-2525 or 745-9046. Leave a message.
http://www.byui.edu/scroll/Winter2005/classifieds.html


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Hep, Boris ! I send you a [Smile] .
It's the best i can do.

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((((Boris)))). I hope there's a good view from the window, at least.
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Goody Scrivener
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paintball!paintball!paintball! [Big Grin] (dangit, I want a jumping up and down in excitement graemlin...)
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Maybe you can combine the activities. Go horseback riding at the dunes and shoot paintballs at couples riding ATVs. [Smile]
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Steev
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The job will help but only to a certain extent.

The best thing you can do is stop thinking about how crapped out your life has become. When I say stop thinking I mean that when the thought happens, because it will do it involuntarily, don't entertain it. Go out and find some charitable activity instead.

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After of years of being pretty much a loner I definitely know what you’re talking about. Now that I am in my thirties all my friends are married and having kids. It makes it hard to do things with them.

But for some reason now it doesn't bother me to be alone like it used to. I have realized that I am a loner by nature, and that’s OK. I quit putting pressure on myself to have something social going on all the time. Now a Friday night at home alone is not necessarily a bad thing.

Try doing some things you like by yourself. You'll either find it can still be fun alone, or you'll find some other people who like doing the same thing to do it with. It may seem weird at first, but you'll get used to it.

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Will B
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Recommended reading, about expanding social contacts: http://www.dbweb.org/yes.html
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