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There was this girl I like, and I was talking to her for a while slowly getting to know her, she appears to have noticed this one day and said that I shouldn't try so hard to get a girl friend, that one will come to me. Letting me know that she wasn't interested, (in a nice way).
So I said I understood and I'll get over it.
2-3 weeks later I discover she's been dating my best friend. And had visited him in his apartment (I will say no more on that, TMI)
So now I feel slightly hurt and slightly envious, she was attrative, cute, intelligent and now he has the chance to appreciate it.
But neither of them told me about it, so now I feel hurt, I geuss I feel happy for them but I wish I could've been informed as said reason.
*sigh* Now I have once again a time in which to reflect upon myself, to seek thy answers for thy troubled spirit.
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quote:*sigh* Now I have once again a time in which to reflect upon myself, to seek thy answers for thy troubled spirit.
This, right here, is your problem. Blayne, you're far too self-interested for your own good. Your friend and this girl didn't do anything wrong. You're upset because a girl you like didn't like you and is with someone else. This isn't a call for self-reflection and feeling maudlinly self-important. Nor is it a call to go attention whoring on the internet.
Go ask out another girl you think might be interesting. Life's too short to be a tool.
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I disagree! Romantic rejection is always a call to go attention whoring on the internet. But it's better to do it on a dating site, particularly.
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That's it, Enigmatic. You've thwarted my will for the last time. I'm moving you up to Nemesis status. You're now a third-rate Riddler to my third-rate...ummm...Mr. Mxyzptlk? I can only hope you don't know of my secret weakness and thus won't trick me into saying my name in Esperanto while gargling a glass of water. . . . . . Oh...damn.
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Oh goody! Things have been rather dull lately since my arch-enemy moved to Des Moines and has gone incommunicado. It'll be nice to have a nemesis.
--Enigmatic
(So um, how do you say "MrSquicky" in Esperanto, anyway?)
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I don't feel that if my friend knows I have a crush on someone, that someone is therefore off-limits. That seems rather unfair, particularly to the people who keep crushes to themselves for awhile before acting on them.
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C'mon, Niki. If Javie had a friend who knew about you (and naturally subsequently desired you), would he be unfaithful to his friend to continue courting you? Would you be to choose one and not the other? Desire does not possession make.
For example, just look at my self-restraint when I see Squick clearly flirting with Enigmantic. I want to kill the bitch for trying to get squicky with him, but, no, I have self-restraint, I have self-control, I have a sharp weapon and patience to wait, it's just how the game's played, son.
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I interpreted Blayne's melodrama as being partly about being out of the loop. I mean, if the friend cared about him, he'd've known that the friend had a crush and now a girlfriend, right?
I've felt that way-- not so much upset that people I like are pairing off with each other, but that they kept it from me for some unknown reason. Did they think I was too immature to be happy for them? Do they just not care about mentioning it to me? Is it that they're so weird that they're not totally stoked and talking about it to any friendly face that'll listen? Is it that they're actually lying biotches plotting against me? What? Why not just tell me already???
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Ok, I feel better now, both to at least SOME of your support *cough* Squicky */cough*
But I've talked to her and she wasn't dating him when she let me down so thats cool. We're still friends.
She's even nice enough to give me dating advice, which is so sweet. (no sarcasm invovled)
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Might I suggest next time just asking the girl out rather than beating around the bush for so long. Might also want to give a heads up to your friend, "Hey, I'm going to ask such and such out."
Lingering while you get your courage built up often leaves enough time for someone else to get in there. Lingering also gives the intended the idea that you're timid or not that interested -- you end up getting checked off their list pretty quick. Lingering also makes you build it up in your mind to be something much, much, much bigger than the situation is and that always leads to disappointment.
Also, she's got the right to go out with whoever she chooses whenever she wants to pretty much until there's a ring on her finger. Sounds like you'd mentally put that ring on her finger without ever even going on a date. Otherwise, why be so hurt and betrayed?
Until you ask her out officially, you're just some guy she talks to now and then.
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Calmly, people. Teenage self-dramatisation is annoying, but hey, we've all been there. I'm sure none of us would have liked to have our Romantic Dramas in Three Acts poked at, either.
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quote:Calmly, people. Teenage self-dramatisation is annoying, but hey, we've all been there. I'm sure none of us would have liked to have our Romantic Dramas in Three Acts poked at, either.
First: KoM is preaching restraint about poking fun? Woah, dude.
Second: None of us DID like it when we had our romantic melodramas poked at with sticks, knives, nuclear weapons...but it did happen, and now we're making it come full circle. In a way, it's the repeated perpetuation of a cruel cycle, but in a way, having fun poked at it was what helped so many of us realize how trivial it is in the first place.
quote:Lingering while you get your courage built up often leaves enough time for someone else to get in there. Lingering also gives the intended the idea that you're timid or not that interested -- you end up getting checked off their list pretty quick. Lingering also makes you build it up in your mind to be something much, much, much bigger than the situation is and that always leads to disappointment.
quote:So um, how do you say "MrSquicky" in Esperanto, anyway?
That's the worst part. I don't actually know Esperanto, so I have to take people's word for it when they say that I've said my name in it.
*sigh* I didn't want to be a super-villian you know. I wanted to be a dentist. It was my parents who forced me into this life. Now they never shut up about how my baddy-two-shoes brother once took over a large chunk of Belgium for 2 months. I mean, come on, it's freakin' Belgium. I know 7-11s that are harder to knock over.
Recently my mom's been on me about when am I going to kidnap some nice slaves girls and give her some evil grandchildren.
It's not an easy life, being a third-rate super-villian.
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Lalo, I waited for you in that little chapel in Vancouver for four hours and you never showed. So I went on a maple syrup bender. 3 weeks later, I came to to find myself in the middle of an attempt to sneak back into the U.S. while strapped to the side of a moose wearing a Wonder Woman outfit (which of us was wearing it has deliberately been left ambiguous). You wouldn't believe what all manner of ungodly crap I had stuck to me. I fear our love affair, much like my time of not suffering from rampaging diabetes, is over.
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Blayne, The thing you don't realize and that I hope that at some point in your life you will get, is that I'm sincerely trying to help you by not blowing sunshine up your posterior. From where I sit, what you came here looking for and what you actually need are two very different things.
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quote:Calmly, people. Teenage self-dramatisation is annoying, but hey, we've all been there. I'm sure none of us would have liked to have our Romantic Dramas in Three Acts poked at, either.
First: KoM is preaching restraint about poking fun? Woah, dude.
Well, you'll note that I was poking just a touch of fun even while I said that. It's hard to resist such an easy target, to be sure. But more to the point, I don't usually poke fun at religions, which is what I assume you refer to. I poke contempt and disgust. While I'd love to be able to laugh - and it's true that a lot of the rituals are rather silly - the fact remains that these beliefs have a lot of power over people. I laugh at astrology, because publicly proclaiming your belief in the stars as destiny is not required to get elected President of the US. Christianity, well, laughter may be good propaganda, but it's not really funny.
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Enigmatic, do you like wearing women's underwear, or high heals? Does Dana or your mom know about this (I'm guessing Eljay does).
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I have both cameras in your house and time machines. No talent though.
But I've also installed invisible surveillance gnomes. They hide on your lawn, in your living room, and in the kitchen. They can be anything from a lawn gnome, an umbrella holder, or a cookie jar. But they are there, and they are watching.
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I saw it in a dream one night, a dream of kamacon, you had candles in your room, and frisco outside the door.
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rivka- Wait....what? You mean your house isn't the one directly next door to mine?
Edit: The gnomes are invisible anyway. It doesn't matter if you don't have a living room or a cookie jar. You wouldn't see them anyway. Posts: 6026 | Registered: Dec 2004
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Don't give me that face. I can't be held responsible for being given bogus directions from the homeless man on the highway.
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