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So I just got an email from a friend I thought I was really close with. I met her when we were flying from Basic Training to school in California, and I spent a bunch of my year there getting to know her, I thought, pretty well. We are the same age, same taste in music, and we think similarly. I left Cali before her, but she caught up with me in TX, and then I left to do my thing, before she left to do hers.
Some back-and-forth over the year we've been separated, but nothing to let me know she was even thinking about GETTING MARRIED!! In like 15 days! She isn't even old enough to legally drink yet! The worst part is that I knew this was going to happen. I have this theory about women deciding when it's time for them to be married, and I had a feeling she had. I was right.
Marriage seems to happen a lot faster in the military because of that whole having to leave places a lot. But I'm not ready for my contemporaries to get married! When I started class in CA about 5% of the kids were married. Since that, Nov03, I think the percentage of those same people is more like 75-80%. That's insane! And I'm not exaggerating!
I guess the bottom line is that I feel sort of "behind the times." I don't feel like I have the present capacity to sustain a relationship at all, and all my friends are getting married?! I keep thinking about how young I am and how much more I need to mature, and all of my friends are starting families! Does anyone empathize/understand what I'm talking about?
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Barracks... housing allowance to buy your own place... barracks... own home... barracks... own property... barracks... own place...
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I know exactly what you mean. There are very few of my childhood friends around who are not married and busy propogating.
However I have come to the conclusion I need to live my life not thiers. If you marry just because it seems to be that fad at twenty you could get yourself into hot water. On the other hand it might be the best thing you ever did.
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More then anything, it's made me feel old. We should still all be playing dodgeball, rather then getting married and having kids.
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aspectre, I left the barracks August of last year. Living on a cramped Army Post with limited AF space has its perks. So being single with no roots living alone and still recieving a housing allowance seems to me to beat out getting married for money. I know a couple of people that did that. They're divorced now.
calaban - you ever find yourself wondering how your friends came to the place where they are, and the differences between you? It's odd.
Heffaji, my shop plays dodgeball at least 3 times a month for PT, if you're ever in GA, you're invited. We tried to put "having kids" on the PT schedule, but our flight commander shot it down.
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