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My cousin and her fiance are talking on the phone, and they are having an argument.
Apparently when they went to buy their wedding rings, my cousin left her wallet in the car, so he paid the jewler for both rings, and she paid him back when they got in the car.
He told her father that he paid for both the rings.
They are fighting over who technically paid for the ring. what do you think?
They are also discussing dinner. My cousin paid for dinner, and he tried to pay her back, but she said it was her treat and refused. He says he paid, but she gave him a $20 dollar gift.
Who paid for dinner?
And who can get the happy couple to shut up?
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Well, I know when money matters in my relationship, it's usually because he has a Real Job and I don't, and sometimes he forgets that that means that I also don't have a Real Paycheck.
But I'm wondering if it's an issue with her dad as to who paid for the rings or something. Or are they keeping score? Because if they're keeping score, that would be bad.
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Then maybe you can get the happy couple to shut up by telling them that it's annoying and not cute when they bicker like that.
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They don't shut up till they get answers. I told them my cousin paid on both counts. And then I told them to get a life. And I offered to pay for them to elope if they did so immediately.
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When people are annoying me I go into babysitter/teacher mode. It's pretty hilarious to watch from the outside. I even do it with my parents.
"Stop that! Everyone be quiet. This is not productive. You may speak to each other when you are capable to being civil. Until, then shut up. If you can't avoid talking to each other than go to separate rooms."
And - everyone always listens . . . at HOA meetings too . . . and random people in the the grocery store . . . I think it's the tone of voice. I'm like Susan in the Discworld series. I'm 23 and 5'1" and weigh 117lbs, so I'm not imposing physically.
So my advice is to send them to their rooms until they can behave like sensible adults.
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quote:Originally posted by Samarkand: When people are annoying me I go into babysitter/teacher mode. It's pretty hilarious to watch from the outside. I even do it with my parents.
"Stop that! Everyone be quiet. This is not productive. You may speak to each other when you are capable to being civil. Until, then shut up. If you can't avoid talking to each other than go to separate rooms."
And - everyone always listens . . . at HOA meetings too . . . and random people in the the grocery store . . . I think it's the tone of voice. I'm like Susan in the Discworld series. I'm 23 and 5'1" and weigh 117lbs, so I'm not imposing physically.
So my advice is to send them to their rooms until they can behave like sensible adults.
That's hilarious. I most definately will have to use that one when they start up again, which will be in about 5 minutes, give or take.
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quote:Originally posted by Nellie Bly: They just like to argue, for arguments sake. They think its funny to argue about stupid things.
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As someone who used to be in a relationship sort of like this, I would say that is a Really Bad Sign. However, as it is not your relationship, I simply recommend that you absolutely refuse to get involved in their arguments, NO MATTER WHAT.
You are a sphinx. You have no opinion.
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Their arguments are completely non-serious. They argue about things like cheese and poop. I'm not kidding. THey laugh while they argue, because it's not really arguing. It's like a game, and when they ask for someones oppinion, they're just trying to include you in their games. It's like an adult version of Red Rover. Now I'm always up for a good argument over the color of American cheese (More yellow than orange) but rings and chinese food are just not my thing.
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Maybe this is just a ridiculous argument but there are signs that this couple may be in for some serious marital stress over money.
A lot of guys, even those with fairly liberal views of gender roles, have a deep seated idea that they need to support their wife and family. Letting the woman pay makes them feel inadequate and less manly.
At the same time, a lot of women like to pay for things that men always paid for a generation ago. It's empowering to be able to take care of yourself and others.
The problem is that those two attitudes are more or less incompatible.
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