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This is the only place that I knew to turn because I don't feel that I can talk to my closeset friends about it, because its about them, and my moms answer completely hurt my feelings. I just need a little bit of support, and someone to help me figure out what to do.I am sure most will think this is sill y.. but it means a lot to me.
As most of you know I will be a senior next year. Three years ago I tried out for my highschool colorguard and I was possibly the worst ever, but I ended up making alternate. The person ahead of me quit so I got to be a full time guardy.Since then it has almost become my life. I love it.
Next year we have only three people who have been in colorguard before trying out, and we are all extremely close. SO we decided that we didn't want to get feelings hurt and since we all worked good together we would ask if this year it could be 3 captains instead of one.
I just got back from that little meeeting. My band director decided that wasn't a good idea.. so next year we are having ONE captain ( and to assistants? )
These people are my two best friends and I want this more than anything. I have SO many things that I want to do. SO many plans.
One person that I am suppose to be competing against ( lets call her Cynthia )is a year younger than me and will probably be Valedictorian of her class. She is a perfectionist and is really good.
The other is amazingly good but doesn't speak up for herself -- she even admits she wouldnt make a good captin.
I don't want to get my hopes up but Idon't want to decide I won't make it and not make it because of that. I want this so bad. I don't think my mom thinks I will make it because she says "Cynthia" is good at everything and can juggle a million things at once, but I was extremely stressed with school so I obviously can't.
But I know I would make a good captain.
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Last year I wanted to be head Yearbook Editor. However, a younger student wanted it more than I did, so our advisor gave it to him. I was disappointed, especially because as the only senior, I thought it was my right. However, it's really not all that bad. We both ended up calling ourselves head Editors and we both have the same sorts of work. Regardless of what your instructor decides, I'm sure you'll be able to work something out between the three of you. You are, as you said, close to them. Have you tried discussing other possibilities with them?
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Captain is a leadership postition and shouldn't aways be about the best but who the leader would be. I certainly wasn't the best cellist in orchestra but I got credit two years for being section leader (as did the first chair).
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The point in having one captain and two "assistants" was to have one person in charge, over all. But to have people help out.. The problem is BOTH of the other people have jobs. Cythia is an over achiever. She has never tried out for anything and NOT made it. She has never NOT got what she wanted. If she was told she couldn't make captain till next year.. she would throw a fit!! - and so would her parents
I have been thinking about that though. It almost isn't fair, it is our last year.
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One good thing to keep in perspective is that a few years from now, it won't matter who was captain and who wasn't. Have fun with it, learn, meet new friends, etc.
The experiences you have will end up being much more important than any titles.
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Your mom brought up that you might be stressed by school already. Between senior activities and touring and applying to college, it can be a tough year. Being captain would be something great to put on those applications, but speaking from experience, alot of my friends when we were back in high school dropped their officer and leadership positions in order to focus on AP tests and college applications/auditions. Course, there's always those who need that special job that they love to keep them sane throughout the chaos.
So maybe you should sit down and think about the responsibility you would be taking on as a captain and a senior student. If you don't give it serious consideration, you're doing yourself and your teammates a diservice.
I think breyer is right about the leadership. Perhaps during this remaining school year the colorguard can have trial-captain runs. Let each person interested in the position lead a practice or two (or whatever.) That way you all can make a decision based on the real facts of each person's captaining skills.
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Your specific situation doesn't really lend itself to advice. It's more of a "Wish me luck!" type deal.
That said, I'm going to give you advice . Take whatever course of action leads to the least regret. Which is to say, think it through, and then act decisively. Maybe that means a one-on-one conference with the band director in which you make your case, maybe behind your friends back. Maybe that means really asking the over-achiever girl to let you have it, telling her how much it means to you and hoping she'll understand. Maybe it means letting the chips fall where they may, it's not worth risking friendships or whatever. The bottom line is to find out what you're willing to risk and go with it.
I wish you the best!
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quote:Originally posted by Kacie_lala33: Cythia is an over achiever. She has never tried out for anything and NOT made it. She has never NOT got what she wanted. If she was told she couldn't make captain till next year.. she would throw a fit!! - and so would her parents
Okay, personally I think this is all the more reason for Cynthia to NOT be captain. Girl's gotta learn to handle disappointment.
I don't really have any advice on what to do, so I'll just wish you luck!!
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Yeah, good luck. My advice is to try as hard as you can to get the position, but at the same time -- decide now, inside yourself, that if you don't get the position, you will provide whoever does with as much friendship and positive support as you can. Don't let jealousies and disappointments destroy your friendships.
And of course I know that goes without saying -- but sometimes it helps to decide ahead of time that you will really support whoever gets it and be happy for them.
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Oh, and make sure that this isn't one of those insane cheerleeder stories where someone's mom hires a criminal to beat up the competition. If the overachiever has crazy parents, let her win.
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. Take whatever course of action leads to the least regret. Which is to say, think it through, and then act decisively. Maybe that means a one-on-one conference with the band director in which you make your case, maybe behind your friends back. Maybe that means really asking the over-achiever girl to let you have it, telling her how much it means to you and hoping she'll understand. Maybe it means letting the chips fall where they may, it's not worth risking friendships or whatever. The bottom line is to find out what you're willing to risk and go with it.
