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Appropos to the cutest kids thread statred by Tatiana, I'd like to air a point of discussion obetween my wife and I:
Are you comfortalble about having you photos online - especially photos of your kids?
I have no problem with it, within limits. I have a Google Picasa account and use it to publish various photos carefullly picked and edited. I don't publish photos of my wife as she she really doesn't feel comfortable with having her image out of her control.
On one hand I can understand this position, but on the other hand I don't see that photos of my holidays will be that interesting to many people, and certainly not a "security risk".
What say you Hatrack?
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I am dealing with that issue at present as well. I don't so much have a problem with, say, Hatrack people looking at pictures of my kids, but we realized recently that my mother, in addition to telling anyone and everyone details of my life, has actually sent emails and things I've written specifically to her on to other people. If it's only to my grandmother, I don't so much object (although certain things in those emails, some written when I was dating my husband, were not really to be passed on), but there are some people that I don't want having any information about me or my children, and I can't think of a way of saying "keep this to yourself, mom" without it being taken wrong. Posts: 2762 | Registered: Sep 1999
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quote:Originally posted by anti_maven: Are you comfortalble about having you photos online - especially photos of your kids?
Photos of myself, which are not easily connected back to me by people who don't already know me (from Hatrack gatherings and the like) I am generally ok with.
Photos of my kids, generally NOT.
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I can't honestly see what the risk is, as long as I don't publish his full name, home address, phone number, or social security number. I have lots of photos of him up on the mother's site I frequent. If anyone could explain to me how someone could look at his photo and use that to hurt him or our family, I would definitely consider taking them down, but I just don't see the harm.
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Well, any picture of you that's at least somewhat attractive has the potential to attract gawkers. Look at what happened to Allison Stokke:
quote:From her computer at home, Stokke tracked the spread of her image with dismay and disbelief. She had dealt with this once before, when a track fan posted a lewd comment and a picture of her on a message board two years earlier. Stokke had contacted the poster through e-mail and, a few days later, the image had disappeared. But what could she do now, when a search for her name in Yahoo! revealed almost 310,000 hits? "It's not like I could e-mail everybody on the Internet," Stokke said.
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That poor girl. I'm curious to see the picture that started it all, but I'd rather not contribute to her dilemma.
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But then, I know from experience how easy it is to find people. My whole theory is, if you're going to be on the internet, go ahead and be on the internet-- because if people want to find you they can. Much better to practice proper safety at home and exercise caution in interactions with others online than spend time worrying about pictures on the internet.
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I feel bad for Allison Stokke. I think people should respect her wishes and take her picture down. I'm pretty shy about having any pictures of me be seen anywhere, and that includes my friends.
I think the way celebrities handle it is they construct a public persona, a sort of character they play, and then they keep the private person apart from that. They go out of character and just relax. Maybe we will all have to do that in the future.
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quote:Originally posted by erosomniac: That poor girl. I'm curious to see the picture that started it all, but I'd rather not contribute to her dilemma.
I don't think looking at the picture really counts as contributing to her dilemma. If you're curious, then go ahead and google it. It should be fairly easy to find.
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I don't have any kids, so I can't weigh in on that side of the issue.
I'm extremely cautious in posting my personal information and photos online. I understand that I can't control how other people use my image, and I don't care about that. There are some people who I'd rather not have any interactions with, and I think taking basic measures to conceal my personal contact information is worthwhile, in regards to this. Yeah, a determined person can track me down, I'm under no illusions, but I'll let them spend the effort. Posts: 1813 | Registered: Apr 2001
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Actually, the "picture that started it all" is a totally innocuous highschool track-meet photo from a "College Stars of the Future" article in SportsIllustrated, or something similar. As far as I know, none of the other photos are anything that a kid would be uncomfortable with finding in their highschool yearbook.
Problem is folks went to the trouble of sleuthing unpublished photos out from social networking sites, and reposting them into sites over which she had no control. And that combined with commentary from mouthbreathing droolers makes things feel a bit too close to being cyberstalked by inappropriately over-aged pervs.
Something similar happened to an LA 14year-old. Some photos go online and the next thing she knows, she's a web celeb with a fashion following and free flights to NYC/etc. Next thing her parents know, she's being paparazzied out nightclubbing with adults. Yep, she's been grounded from privately using the computer.
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Some of the Allison Stokke websites have come down and been replaced by apologies, which is nice. I read about the whole mess a while back, and saw the picture at the time. It is completely understandable from it how it all got started.
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Well, when you make photos PUBLIC, you have to accept that they are just that - PUBLIC.
It is possible to post them on...say Kodak Easyshare, were non-public albums can only be accesses by members. That is limited, but it is still some protection, and your relatives are free to join and view.
You can also use a Yahoo Groups to store password protected or membership protected family photos, and only give the password or allow membership to individuals that you know.
I think social networking websites are the most dangerous in terms of a photo getting out of your control. I've seen lots of video (well, not that many) on YouTube that are essentially 'Hot People of MySpace'.
Individuals have collected photos from the My Spave pages of what they consider Hot people (male and female, young and old ...ok, mostly young), edited them together in a slideshow, and set them to music. Many of the photo while not X-rated, are very revealing.
When you make a photo public, that's part of what you accept. Other people may use this photograph in one form or another.
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Well, I am a kid, and while my parents don't really put restrictions on me, I try to be careful. I think the only site right now where a picture of me is posted along with my full name is Facebook, and I'm very paranoid and don't tend to post many pictures elsewhere. *Clutches camera* My photos!
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quote:Originally posted by BlueWizard: When you make a photo public, that's part of what you accept. Other people may use this photograph in one form or another.
That isn't really the case. It is perfectly possible to make an image (or other content) publicly viewable, but have it licensed in such a way to not permit redistribution. Of course, whether people honor that and how far you are willing to go to enforce your license are different things. However, it simply isn't accurate to say that by putting a photo in a public place you are accepting that people will do whatever they want with it.
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Wow. I saw the "picture that started it all" and all I thought to myself is what an excellent job the photographer did capturing her image.
I didn't find anything in the picture to be leered at (then again, I recognize I'm a heterosexual female) because she is an athlete wearing the uniform of her sport, she is certainly not intentionally being provocative in that outfit. It's what she wears to pole vault in! Like gymnasts wear leotards and swimmers wear swimsuits.
Pictures of my daughter at gymnastic meets get taken by meet photographers and posted on the web. I've never really thought about it as a problem. As for me, I'm not overly concerned about posting photos though I don't do it often.
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I would be completely embarassed if there were any pictures of me posted online, especially if they were in any way lewd, revealing, or socially inappropriate. How horrible to even contemplate.
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I worried about it when my kids were young enough to be potentially recognizable to their birth-parents. Now that they're not, I don't stress about it. I hope for the goodwill--or at least ambivalence--of other people.
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