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My sister-in-law suffered a miscarriage and a still birth at five months. She went on to have three beautiful, healthy children. This is a rough time for all of you. My condolences for now and my hope for the future.
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They can be very, very hard. I hope her BF is being good backup for her. Take care of yourselves.
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My younger sister had a miscarriage two years ago. I was so upset that I had to leave work really early the next day, so I could go home and mourn. I am so sorry for your loss, and hope that your sister has the same happy ending mine did (my beautiful neice turns one this month).
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I'm very, very concerned about her. I talked to her a little while ago, and she seemed fine. Then, about twenty minutes into our conversation (about something totally unrelated) she started sobbing. She said that was the first time she'd cried because she didn't feel like she could with our mom and her boyfriend.
I suggested that she call our doctor (yes, I referred her to my new awesome doctor when she first told me she was pregnant) and that I'd go with her. I think she needs to talk to a grief counsellor (sp?) or therapist or something. I help all I can, but I feel out of my depth on this one. I can't even imagine how she must be feeling right now.
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I suspect she's still in shock and feels both a guilty for the grief she thinks she caused her mom and boyfriend as well as her own feelings of loss, culpability and responsibility. Never mind the idea she's less of a woman because she can't conceive.
I highly recommend she talk to someone because the emotional issues are so complex and convulted in a case like this, she's more likely to lose her way and not find her way to better peace of mind.
I remember when my sister lost her 18 week old baby--had to go to the hospital to give birth. Couldn't keep the body because it was a few weeks short of being considered a "stillbirth".
The pain, the emptiness.... I would never wish that on anyone.
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