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What do you suggest the title be changed to?
The way to a man's heart is through his stomach. The way to a woman's heart is through the appropriate application of fabric softener.
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The title isn't explicit, no, but the mental image it conjures (for me) is, and it's just not one I care to have when I open hatrack. If it said "How to please a woman every night" I'd have no problem with it, and I think the joke would be the same.
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quote:Originally posted by ElJay: The title isn't explicit, no, but the mental image it conjures (for me) is, and it's just not one I care to have when I open hatrack.
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I'd like the thread title to be changed, too. "Little fingers" makes me think of small, underdeveloped hands. He also doesn't state (in the title) that it's his wife--it's ambiguous. It could be "How these little fingers please a *different* woman every night"
I'm also tired of the idea that it's rare for men to do laundry/dishes/vacuuming. It was the opposite in the house I grew up in.
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I could see if the title evoked the images that, from their report, I suspect it is for some people, that they'd want it changed. Honestly, it was a pretty lame joke to begin with.
I don't think that it violates the TOS, but I'd like it changed too.
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Perhaps, to those who find some problem with the thread, you should cease posting in it. I believe that your concerns were well heard, but to constantly voice them after every other post only serves to keep the "offending" thread in a most prominent position on the page. If you're are only posting to campaign for a thread title change I urge you to reconsider. There is no honor in badgering a fellow Hatracker over an issue of not policy, but preference. Merely a suggestion.
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You may not realize, Trent, but Dan_Raven is the person who started this thread, under an alternate handle. So the posts on this page, at least, are part of a dialog with the opening poster about what would be a more acceptable thread title.
As for your wider point, if the people who objected didn't respond to the comments their objections raised, it would basically be conceeding the thread to the people responding saying that they don't think the title needs to be changed. So while yes, each post keeps the thread at the top of the page, expecting people not to respond to people answering them on a discussion board is more than a little silly.
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quote:Originally posted by MrSquicky: I'm just the tiniest bit discomfitted by the title. Not really in the "I care about this at all" manner, but more in the "This just doesn't seem to fit here" manner. Just for the record.
Yeah, I agree. I wouldn't post it just because it's out of place.
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quote:Originally posted by ElJay: You may not realize, Trent, but Dan_Raven is the person who started this thread, under an alternate handle. So the posts on this page, at least, are part of a dialog with the opening poster about what would be a more acceptable thread title.
CAn I just say I don't like the alter-ego business? Why doesn't Dan just post as Dan so the nOObs don't get confused?
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I don't get the small hands thing. Between that and the general Hatrack vibe, it's a really weird thread title here. Save that for GC.
However, I must point out that it shouldn't matter if it's with a different woman every night, as long as it's all consensual. And, um, safe (I guess).
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The title has been changed. I hope it fits.
Lots of questions need to be answered, so here goes:
1) The title was changed because people asked. I was not ordered to change it, forced to change it, or in any way manipulated into changing it. Some people call that "self censorship". They are right, and I fully support self censorship.
2) Why so long? I would have changed it sooner, but I have issues with my user-name and password. Basically, I am stuck at Dan_raven at work and Darth Mauve at home. I can't edit titles from work on threads I started as Mauve.
3) Why the two names? Someone hacked into the email account I used for my account here. I had Papa move it to a new account. This meant a new password. I logged in at one computer with the new password. When I tried at my home computer it didn't work. Instead of bothering Papa about this, I switched to an alt with an easy password for my home computer.
4)The joke is Cliche'd. True. But the cliche' rings true no matter how much work you do around the house. Men who do more work around the home make their women happier, and there is always more work to do.
5)My fingers are far from small. Its a visual that adds a tiny bit of humor to the joke.
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quote:Originally posted by ElJay: You may not realize, Trent, but Dan_Raven is the person who started this thread, under an alternate handle. So the posts on this page, at least, are part of a dialog with the opening poster about what would be a more acceptable thread title.
CAn I just say I don't like the alter-ego business? Why doesn't Dan just post as Dan so the nOObs don't get confused?
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*shrug* Okie dokie, when the majority of the population disagrees with you on something like this the majority is right
And I had no clue Dan and Darth Mauve were one and the same... Learn something new every day I guess.
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quote:No, the majority wins. This was not an issue of right and wrong, but of personal preference.
Well in the context of my argument they are. It's a matter of personal preference, but my argument was that the majority of Hatrack was probably fine with the title. I have just been proved wrong.
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I just wish we could get back to the original purpose of the thread, at least for me, which is that everyday kindnesses are sexy.
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I just wish we could get back to the original purpose of the thread, at least for me, which is that everyday kindnesses are sexy.
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My husband will mention sometimes that one of the nicest things I ever did for him was make him a sandwich.
He came home one day to pick up something and head out again on a job he was doing. It was lunchtime, I was feeding the kids, so I just naturally made him a sandwich and took it out to his truck to give it to him before he left. I overheard him telling someone else how great it was, because I didn't even ask - I just knew he was probably not going to get a chance to eat and cared enough to take the time to make him something.
A little thing - I mean, it was lunchtime I was feeding the kids anyway - but it was something that said "Hey, I'm thinking about you, and I care enough about you to want to do something for you even without asking you."
Those little things say that you are putting the other person's needs above you own, and they are a mark of a relationship with commitment.
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I don't necessarily think a man helping around the house or doing laundry is especially a "kindness". He lives there and wears clothes too. I think it's more about him showing that he's aware of things that need to be done and does them without being asked (cuz nobody asks me to clean or cook or do laundry, you know).
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quote:Originally posted by maui babe: I don't necessarily think a man helping around the house or doing laundry is especially a "kindness". He lives there and wears clothes too.
So what? His wife's doing laundry, cooking, etc. are kindnesses too. And while sometimes it's hard to see what can so easily feel like drudgery in that way, that doesn't make it any less true.
Someone I know made the point a bit differently. He said, "My wife is a wonderful woman! Every day she provides food, housing, and clean clothing for 10 orphans! Isn't that wonderful?" The audience agreed that it was. Then he corrected himself: "Actually, they're not orphans. They're our children. Why do people not think that is just as wonderful?"
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quote:Originally posted by rivka: Someone I know made the point a bit differently. He said, "My wife is a wonderful woman! Every day she provides food, housing, and clean clothing for 10 orphans! Isn't that wonderful?" The audience agreed that it was. Then he corrected himself: "Actually, they're not orphans. They're our children. Why do people not think that is just as wonderful?"
Wonderfulness aside, I think most people would say that parents have an obligation to provide food, housing, and clean clothing to their children, while providing for orphans is seen as being above and beyond the call of duty.
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Eh. My kids have big, cute eyes just by virtue of being my husband's kids. They're also skinny. They'd make good stage orphans.
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Oh, is THAT why I think my kids are so cute? It's the bones jutting out?
All my kids are on the lean side, but my oldest boy is especially bad. If he took off his shirt and crouched by a gutter he'd be a poster child for Atmit.
And I am NOT naturally a lean person. I wonder if strangers think I steal my kids' food.
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