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So, at some point in every person's life, they decide some things just aren't worth fighting about (struggling for, crying over . . . yadda, yadda)-- what point is that for you?
And which issues do you decide that with, and how many times do you have to revisit that point before you really let go for good?
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It's generally some sort of cost/benefit analysis. "How much will it cost me to to win this?" and "How much will it cost me if I lose this?" If it costs more to win, then winning is losing.
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I have given up on getting my school to reverse their decision on my medical withdrawal. It doesn't appear as if it's going to happen, and since they failed me when I left and won't allow me to convert those F's to withdrawals, I'm pretty much done with the idea of going to school.
Doesn't seem like I was meant to get my degree after all.
And it really doesn't bother me much, I had come to that conclusion once before and let my family talk me into continuning even though my heart wasn't in it.
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I usually throw in the towel when the rest of the heavy stuff is in on the other side, making sure to balance the washer as best I can by throwing the towel in on the other side, and rearranging it as necessary.
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I finally gave up on my first real relationship after crying over it for one month straight. I'd never wish that on anyone.
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quote:Originally posted by ketchupqueen: I usually throw in the towel when the rest of the heavy stuff is in on the other side, making sure to balance the washer as best I can by throwing the towel in on the other side, and rearranging it as necessary.
*giggles*
*checks the washing machine and readjusts*
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Is that what you're supposed to do when the machine starts making loud noises and starts jumping around the laundry room?
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As a towel is a very important item, according to the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, I keep one with me at all times. I never throw it anywhere unless it will save my life.
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I think it has to hurt more than it feels good to continue whatever it is. From then on, when tempted to revisit the same crossroads, that pain memory outweighs the temptation. Usually.
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I just threw in the towel on the gluten free thing. When I cut out wheat, Livvie started breaking out.
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Maybe I spoke to soon. My aunt, who works at the university decided to name herself my advocate and find out what in the blazes they were looking for.
She was told that while I did provide medical documentation that I did indeed have surgery and was indeed diagnosed with cancer, that alone was not sufficient. I also had to have documentation on physican's letterhead that stated that I was unable to attend classes.
Because, I guess, tons of people have major abdominal surgery, get diagnosed with cancer, begin chemotherapy, and are able to complete academic terms. Yeah, must happen all the time.
At any rate, we have one more shot - getting my doctor to jump through their hoops and write the letter they're asking for. If we can get that in before the deadline (the end of February) then they say they will "re-visit" my case. Though they stress it's no guarantee that I'll be exempt.
So maybe the towel isn't completely thrown in...but it's hanging on by a thread or two.
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Good for you, Belle! I hope it works out. And even if it doesn't, don't give up on school just because of some misbegotten administrators' decision.
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Morbo, even I do go back (which I know I should never rule out) it won't be for a while. I can't go until I'm done with chemo, and next fall my husband will be attending school again. I might take one or two classes, just to keep from having to go through the whole registration process again. But, we'll be focusing on him finishing up his degree first.
I'm going to focus on my writing for a while instead. But yes, I know it's best to try and get this settled, because it really is unfair for them to deny me the exception just because I didn't send in the right type of documentation. Now that I know exactly what they want, I'm sure my doc won't have a problem providing it for them.
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