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pdblake
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I haven't written anything in a while anyway, but I think it may be good long while before I'm in a frame of mind to now.

I had to identify my youngest daughter's body last night and would just like you all to read this blog post to see what a wonderful girl we lost.

http://vegblogs.co.uk/urbanescape/2012/08/27/some-really-bad-news/

Sorry to dump this on you all, but I just needed to put my feelings into words and I know this is the one place that will be appreciated.

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Crystal Stevens
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Oh my. This is so sad. My heart cries with you, my friend. May your heart find comfort to know that God picked the most beautiful flower in His garden to grace His house in Heaven.

Don't be a stranger, though I'm sure we'll all understand if you feel the need for silence. We're here if you just happen to have a need to talk about it. We all grieve in our own ways.

<<one big heartfelt hug>>

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My thoughts are with you and your family. I can't even imagine.
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MAP
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I am so sorry. I hope that you and your family can find the peace you need to get through this. My prayers are with you.
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Cried for you. I can't imagine the heartache. My thoughts are with you.
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Oh, I am so sorry. I can't even imagine the grief and loss. Please know we're thinking of you and I, for one, will be praying for peace and strength for you and your family.
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Osiris
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What a horrible tragedy. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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History
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Ha'makom yenahem etkhem betokh she'ar avelei Tziyonvi'Yerushalayim

No words can suffice, even among writers.
My and my family's love and condolences to you and yours.
May her loving memory bring you comfort.
May her loving memory inspire you to acts of lovingkindness.
May G-d keep her in peace and joy until you are reunited.

Thank you for sharing how special Jessica was.

Respectfully,
Dr. Bob

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pdblake
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Thanks guys. I will reply properly eventually, but I'm not in a fit state of mind at the moment.

Thanks.

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I am speechless. My thoughts are with you.

Moje saučešće, my friend.

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Natej11
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All my prayers are with you in this time.
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Meredith
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There are no words. I'm so sorry is totally inadequate. Long distance virtual hugs.
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My thoughts are with you.
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Kathleen Dalton Woodbury
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This is awful. I'm so sorry, pdblake. Please know we care. What a terrible loss to you and your family and to the world.
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genevive42
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So sorry. My prayers are with you.
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Only a fellow parent can begin to imagine the agony you must be feeling. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
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axeminister
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14. Damn.

I lost my sister when she was 12. No good-byes, no long illness, just - gone. There was no answer to my question, why?

I know I'm an ocean away, but please let me know if there's anything I can do.

You have my e-mail, and I have a really good international calling plan if you ever want to talk.

The offer stands. Anytime.

Dustin

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I'm so very sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Robert Nowall
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<<stunned silence>>
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Nick T
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My deepest condolences. Dustin's offer is mine too.
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Also not sure what to say that doesn't sound insufficient for the magnitude of the tragedy.

I am sorry, though, and God bless.

todd

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My condolences.
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I can't even imagine. God bless you and your family.
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I am so sorry. I can't even fathom knowing what to say at this point. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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I'm so, so sorry.
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Oh dear, my heart goes out to you, and your whole family. I haven't the words to express... anything going through my head. Nothing suffices. *hugs*

-Julie

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LDWriter2
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Oh man, Bad News indeed.

My condolences
I'm not sure what else to say but I don't blame you for wanting to say something.

Prayers of peace your way.

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Prayers for you and your family.
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Robert Nowall
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I believe this is a link to a BBC story about this:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-humber-19391167

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How awful. Like others, I'm speechless. Thank you for sharing that post with us. I'm so sorry.
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I lost my father a few years ago in a similar way. My heart is breaking for you and your family. All my thoughts and prayers.... Just make it through one day at a time.
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No words can compensate
Or adequately describe
Except to connect
And grieve
With you

Our hearts are with you and your family. We will keep you in our prayers.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something I could do to make it better. She and your family are in my prayers.
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I'm sorry to read about this. This has touched me profoundly. As a father of four (my only daughter being 12), I feel what can only be echoes of your pain, my friend. They have such spirit at that age, are so emotional, passionate, turbulent, beautiful and sure. What you and your wife must have been through! What you must be going through now! No parent should have to feel the pain of outliving their children, especially one so young, just starting to discover what life can be. Time is a cruel mistress, who never metes out enough for love of this purity. I pray you work through this, that your family bonds together that much tighter, and that you can find some small peace--some respite from this horror--and return to your passion.

My email is always open for you.

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My deepest condolences. I can't even imagine -- I wouldn't want to imagine.

My prayers are with you and your family in this difficult time. May God give you comfort and peace.

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Hi all. Thanks for all the kind words and the emails. I am about, lurking mostly, I just don't much feel like talking at the moment.

I've done some writing, the hardest things I've ever had to. The first was a tribute to Jess for the press over here. The second was what I'm going to say at her funeral on Monday.

I'll be back. I just don't know when. I'm not in a good place at the moment, but thanks for all the support, you'll never know just how much it means.

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Kathleen Dalton Woodbury
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pdblake, please know that if you ever do need to talk about this, you can do it here.

We are listening.

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Grumpy old guy
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The one time when words seem so inadequate. I'm a father, but I can only guess at your pain. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but in time, writing may be therapeutic. I was in a terrible personal space not so long ago, and writing honestly about my feelings was the only thing that saved me.
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LDWriter2
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pd. I don't blame you for not wanting to post, or write. Talk about painful writing.

However there have been many Pro writers who have found that writing helps in this situation. Some have even included deceased loved ones in stories or novels they are writing.


Your choice of course but be ----hmmm can't think of anything here that fits so just be and let that be enough for now. Sometimes that is all we can do.

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